Equal treatment
Posted By: FLMT on 2008-04-01
In Reply to: how old should a boy be before he gets his ears - ALMT
I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced as a girl until I was 12. My mother's reason was that I was too young to take care of them. Since boys mature slower than girls, I think 13 is perfectly reasonable. Also I don't know your son's interests but make sure he understands that some sports will require him to take it out to play.
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We are all equal. You are no better than anyone else, and no one else is any better than you.
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Army does not always equal
Though I completely understand where you're coming from. Hear her out about the complete plan of what she wants to do. She could go as non-combat, right? Be proud of her for making such a mature decision.
IQ does not equal happiness
I've known other brilliant people who indulged in self-destruction. There have been studies that suggest the smarter you are the less happy you are, and there may be some truth in it.
The first reason for this would be people with attitudes like yours, abc. They hold smart people to the highest standards. They don't allow a genius to be human, but they do have weaknesses. Imagine spending your whole life hearing "If you're so smart how could you, why haven't you....". There is enormous pressure put upon them by others to do something great, to perform mental tricks for the amusement of others, to "prove how smart they are". Some become as insecure about it as beauty queens do about their looks - I remember when I was married to my genius, we watched a show about a child prodigy who could play great compositions at the age of 4. This show upset my ex, I could see it made him jealous and insecure, and nervous that he was not as great as everyone assumed him to be. Just like there's always someone richer, thinner, and better looking, there's always someone smarter too.
Another reason would be lonliness. The smarter you are, the less you have in common with the majority of the population. The things that interest you most people can't even understand. I think one purpose Mensa was created was so that they could find people to talk to on their own level. The pitfall there is most of them are so specialized in their own areas of interest they still don't have anything in common - the gifted musician does not want to discuss quantum theories with the scientist, they can understand it, they just aren't interested in it.
In my ex's case, his substance abuse has three factors - First, he's physically handicapped, and his health has always been a problem. He self medicates with substances to escape the misery of being in his body. Second, he's a classic nerd who never had any friends or a social life. He started abusing substances to try to be one of the cool partying folk, to fit in. All of his current friends abuse substances, but he at least has some friends now, that's how he sees it. Third, the pressure to perform has caused him to give up. He was a computer guru before computers were cool. Once computers were mainstreamed to the general populace, and new software was coming out on a daily basis, he could no longer know "it all". When he reached that crossroads, he panicked, gave up and dove into the bottle to hide from his insecurities.
A high IQ is often just as much a curse as a blessing. I am assuming the reason to abuse substance is pretty universal - the desire to escape reality for a while, then it becomes a habit. If a person doesn't have the courage to deal with reality and change their life, they may choose to destroy it instead.
I disagree, more expensive does not always equal better
quality. Especially when it comes to cosmetics.
Instead of buying expensive creams containing cucumber extract, just put a cucumber on your face! Works equally
and even better!
Well, any healthy relationship should be close to equal
My husband works FT and still helps out a lot around the house. I only work PT, so I usually do the cooking, helping our daughter with homework and most of the cleaning. My husband always cleans the kitchen after I cook (and vice versa) though and he cleans the bathrooms. We also alternate doing the laundry. So, I'd say everything evens out to be pretty close to 50/50 in our relationship. We are truly best friends and we treat each other as such, and I would never dream of "serving" my man - that's just a ridiculous statement! I even had that part taken out of our wedding vows! If it becomes a problem where you feel like you're being taken advantage of, then you need to sit down with your husband and let him know that he needs to pull his own weight or you won't be happy. Good luck!
I got it! Tell him 1 more kid will equal a lot more child support after the divorce : )
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To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
It won't be making any difference. I tried a couple of techniques for my adults and very soon I came to realize they found the antidotes for them. If there are 10 sites telling how to monitor your kids, there are 1000 more telling how to escape it. Down the road you will be pushing your kids to visit those sites (full of porn banners & adult materials) and nothing else.
Yes she did, but the treatment she got in
the puppy mill had her literally terrified of people. Ute had to keep her collar and leash on her day and night even when she slep, because the trauma of putting it on a screaming dog that was urinating when you approached her was just too much. This dog was terrified of a human's hands and legs. That tells me a lot. She was not a disciplinary problems, she had no trust. It has taken a very long time, and she is not 100%, but she is well on the way. Ute and Joe are the best. They were determined to give this darling little dog a loving home.
treatment
My husband is diagnosed with these on his nose as well. Don't know where the heck they come from but every once in a while they pop up. They treat him with Keflex every time. My daughter get the sores on her lips and they give her acylovir cream.
Have you tried a hot oil treatment?
That might be a quick help. I'd go to one of those really good salons. I'm impressed with the products they have, not that dryness is my problem.
As an equal partner in this marriage, why is it wrong for me to express my wants? (sm)
You seem to imply that because he wants to live here, I have to whether I like it or not. I have lived here for over 10 years. Why is it wrong for me to want what I want, but okay for him to impose his wants on me?
hiaiball treatment
I have found that a hairball treatment (paste form) works well for this. My short-haired cat doesn't really have hairballs but it helped her to stop vomiting so I assume hair was contributing and maybe it was just not enough to see like our other long haired cats. Any brand works fine. I just buy it at Wal-Mart, K-Mart, whatever. It's only a couple bucks a tube and they love it if you don't force it.
Mother's Day Treatment
I've noticed a lot of women don't teach their kids to honor them on "their" days. It's our job to teach them to gift us. It really is. Just like we need to teach them to wipe their behinds, we need to help them to remember our birthdays, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, whatever is special to us.
If I don't teach my kids to honor my days, I'm teaching them that they're more important, more special than I am. I'm certainly not suggesting extravagance, more like a homemade card or something they make in school, breakfast in bed has been my kids' favorite way to celebrate Mother's Day.
With a 12-year-old you might ask him which "special" days does he enjoy being honored? Then ask which "special" days does he think it appropriate to honor you?
I see no excuse for your husband's treatment of you. I feel like the saying "What we allow we teach" applies here, too. Somehow, from what you said, it sounds like your husband believes you were responsible to keep him on track with his mom for Mother's Day. That shows he at least is aware that he has a responsibility to his mom to honor her on that day.
Not that you asked, but I would suggest that you do nothing and say nothing to him for Father's Day. That might show him how it feels. Or you could take the high road and do as always, and then calmly mention something to the effect of, "Isn't it wonderful to be remembered on your day? Please don't let another of mine go without some of your attention. It felt so bad when you blew me off on Mother's Day that I felt like not honoring you on Father's Day. But of course, I know 2 wrongs don't make a right, do they, honey?"
I hope you get an answer and some treatment nm
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No, to date one can CHOOSE one's treatment.
nobody can force a treatment on you.
The mother has the son's trust, otherwise he would have stayed with the father.
Obviously the father wants to subject the son to this chemo, therefore mother & son ran away.
This boy is going through he** durin this chemo treatment and his mother looks for a less aggressive, accepteable one.
I hope they make it to Mexico...
I doubt your children are happy with that treatment.
At least we hope so.
breast reconstruction/prophylactic treatment
Yes, insurance and/or medicaid pays for reconstruction of any kind. It's a law. They must. If you do not have insurance or are underinsured Medicaid will kick in. Bill Clinton signed this into law in 2000. This is a federal law, also mandating that all insurance companies pay for reconstruction. Also, if you have breast cancer on one side only, as a friend of mine did, insurance paid for bilateral mastectomies, so yes, to answer your question about prophylactic measures at that stage. I think, though that if you have a strong family history of breast cancer, mom, sisters, grandmother, etc., and you haven't been diagnosed, you might have to check with your insurance company about that, as well to find out if being tested for the gene that detects a predisposition for breast cancer.
I hope that helped a little. If you're worried a little, maybe calling the American Cancer Society could give you a little more info. Their web page gave me tons of information.
I'm so sorry that you had to endure that kind of treatment for a week. sm
Since you can't do anything about the way another person thinks, feels, acts, etc. and the only thing you can do anything about is how you think, feel, act, etc., you should first do something to take care of yourself. Take a bath, listen to your favorite music, read something inspirational, whatever makes you feel better. Have you eaten a good, nutritious meal? Do you need to take a nap or go to bed early tonight? Now remember this, you do not need to figure out what to do about this right now or today or even tomorrow...and not only that, but maybe the thing to do is not to do anything, but even that can wait.
Sleepwear during treatment for breast cancer.
A close friend of mine is going for bilateral mastectomy on January 2nd for grade IIa invasive ductal cell carcinoma. I will be doing some caretaking after she get home and am currently shopping for sleepwear for the hospital and postoperative convalescence.. I was wondering if there is anything I should know about the type of sleepwear that is especially appropriate for postoperative mastectomy/chemotherapy patients? I am planning to get natural fiber only but beyond that, I am wondering about the pros and cons of gowns versus PJs versus front-closure robes. Any tips from BC survivors, family, caregivers, etcetera, out there?
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