Dunno, but I guess there are many ways to be an abuser/user, huh? nm
Posted By: NM on 2007-03-08
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Women with restraining orders are killed by their abuser
Don't get a false sense of security. There have been good advances in the past 20 years but it's still a man's world.
Stay in contact with your friends and family and make sure to give a few of them a code word. Something like the sky is blue or I really want chinese food and they will know to call the police if you are in trouble. Do what you need to do to protect yourself. Do not count on the police. I was attacked in my home 2 hours after leaving the courthouse. I even called 911 when I got home because I was scared. They were on their way but he got there faster.
I was young and nieve and had a newborn I was thinking about. I wish someone would have told me not to go home. Please don't be nieve like I was and trust the system and that piece of paper. It's hard to imagine your home isn't safe or that someone is going to be 100x more aggressive then you have ever seen them be.
I would move and change your numbers and make sure if you work outside your home you alert EVERYONE including the receptionist and your boss/manager and security.
thank you so much. (((love your user pic btw)))
huge Nip/Tuck fan here!!!
TranscriptionGear user questions
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former teenage alcohol user
I don't know if this is too "harsh" for your daughter, but have you thought about showing her the results of drinking and/or driving? I drank A LOT in high school, starting around 15 when my mom got sick and continued daily drinking through graduation and then some. Did my fair share of drinking and driving or riding in cars with drivers who drank, thinking that nothing would ever happen. My sister who was 5 years older than me died from drinking and driving when I was 18, and to "show" me and my teenage cousins the consequences, we went with my uncle to see her car that had not been cleaned after the wreck (nasty, and I still see it to this day which is about 18 years later)...she was in a little 4-door car and fell asleep and drove underneath an 18-wheeler. That sight was burned into my brain and I never forgot what drinking and driving could do, that we weren't invincible.
I did hear of a school that was doing "shock presentations" to students, arranging to have 10 or so students missing from classes for the day, then the other students were told that they were killed in accidents from drinking. While that is a bit extreme, I really think that shock works best on teenagers as I always thought I knew best and that nothing would ever happen.
COMPUTER HELP!!! I think I somehow deleted my main user acct
Can anyone help me? My kids got me to set up user accts for them last night. I did. I had an administrator acct. It said I had to make one the administrator acct so I made one with my name on it. Then tonight I logged out of mine to switch users, thinking I could just log back in, but now it is gone!! All gone. I have a very basic user acct with my name on it but none of my files, none of my work software, my e-mail isn't even set up. Where is it all?? Is it gone forever??
I dunno....
it sounds good in a Chicken Soup for the Soul kind of way but it just seems like in real life things never work out like that, especially if the kid is emotionally disturbed.
i dunno about that...
my husband is 37 and he's not humanoid! LOLOLOLOL
I dunno . . . . . . .
I just built a 600 sq ft addition on my house that is essentially a big screened porch. This way the cats can go outside and play and roll in the dirt and dead grass (and then go on the bed, but that's another story) and not roam around the neighborhood and get in fights with the neighbor's cats.
dunno how old you are but I'm pushing 60
BCPs were most definitely available to single women in the USA in the mid to late 1960s. I, myself, was on the pill in NY and Arizona as a single girl and had no trouble whatsoever obtaining BCPs. Planned Parenthood and other clinics were making them available.
The thing about the pill though is the minute you went off it, you got preggers.........immediately!!
I dunno how effective it is but
from what I could see most of those exercises could be done just as well on an exercise ball, and its a lot cheaper too.
I DUNNO, I THINK THERE ARE GROSSER
THINGS TO DO - LIKE TYPE A WHOLE DAY OF ESLs. I THINK I'D RATHER FEED THE SNAKE!
I dunno. Why are women so....sm
Aha! See there? You opened this message all primed and ready to take up arms at some offensive characterization of the entire female gender, didn't you? Admit it! I wouldn't have gotten away with something like that for a minute, would I?
"Men" aren't selfish, sex-crazed, messy, insensitive, or irresponsible...some men (and some women) are. "Women" aren't bitchy, whiney, frigid, clucking, nitpicking, oversensitive, or insecure...some women (and some men) are.
So knock off the male-bashing. It's as ugly, offensive and, frankly, as ignorant as racial or any other form of prejudice and I'm frankly surprised that the rest of you tolerate it.
dunno - ask your md - and study trigeminal
hope you feel better soon!!!! 
dunno-but I do know about seahorses and sarcasm
I dunno - how can I be sure they're really my siblings? : ) nm
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I dunno, in 36 years I hadn't done much ESL
before 9 months ago (unless really severe mumblo-American counts) and I've been able to pick them up fairly easily. But I've had a lot of help; lots of sample reports available (and a lot more that I've saved myself, after they've gone through QA), and QA people who are willing to jump up at a moment's notice and assist. And a QA department that understands that "miracle worker" is far, far above my pay grade. :)
So if the OP really likes MT work and is willing to climb the learning curve within a supportive system (which obviously has not been the case in the present job!) it's absolutely doable. Of course, this is a decision only the OP can make.
Having said that... there are always going to be SOME problem dictators. One of my worst is a native English speaker who is just plain lazy about putting all of the syllables into words, and even putting in all the words he probably wants. Fortunately, I work for a company that understands this very well, and they are willing to "ride" the client about "riding" the dictator in question to clean up his act. Garbage in, garbage out.
dunno what state you're in but NEVER was I fined
Well, I did file quarterly for about 3 years but not one time in over 7 years of paying yearly was I ever fined by the IRS. I don't really think STATEs have anything to do with it so please ignore my subject line *lol*.......Perhaps you owed or something from prior? Perhaps not. I paid in one lump last year an estimated tax upon asking for my first extension ever - and they returned NEARLY all of what I had sent in - I over-guestimated.......by a milestone...
Hmmm - I dunno.... the way the banks ALREADY handle money,
;)
I dunno..Mel looked pretty good in Braveheart!! NM
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They're supposed to be a normal part of aging...yuck! Dunno if a derm doc can zap them or not. nm
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don't know how many ways....
But I just did a consult on a patient that was suspected of having endocarditis and he was not an IV drug user. He had repeated infections with streptococcus viridans and poor oral hygiene. His oral hygiene was stated as a risk factor for endocarditis.
I am sure there are other causes as well.
Yes, you can get it other ways - sm
I have mitral valve prolapse and have to take antibiotics before any dental work or surgery, etc. to prevent endocarditis. However, IV drug abuse is the most common cause, but not the only cause.
Hope this answers your question.
I see it two ways.
I work days and my DH works nights. He sleeps during the day and I can't get in the room during the day. I have to keep my clothes, personal hygiene supplies, etc., in the linen closet so I have access to them. Also we have blankets over the windows blocking out ALL light. I would like an alternative to having the blankets on the windows for one thing.
Secondly I would almost like the second bedroom because I could go to bed when I want. Sometimes I stay up late because he gets up an hour or so after I want to go to bed.
Otherwise I wouldn't want a suite with two beds or two bedrooms.
A few ways to get around this - sm
You can make your appt the first of the day, that helps but no guarantees of course if the doctor makes rounds or if he has a long traffic filled commute, or the first appt after lunch. I find the latter is the best. I go to a dermatologist where the wait in the waiting room was 45-60 minutes; I got really sick of that and moved my appt to the first after lunch, wait time about 10 minutes. The other docs we see are very good, maybe 10-15 minutes, granted they have bad days too but not nearly as bad as those listed below 2-5 hours is just too crazy; I think anything over 30 minutes is out of hand unless there was an emergency. If I was kept waiting consistently at every appt I'd "fire" the doctor and write them a a letter saying why. --Also I would not have paid for the visit co-pay as you did, I would have just left telling them you had had it with waiting and left.
I know it's still a ways off but what do you do?
My husband informed me he will be gone Thanksgiving this year for deer hunting. It will just be my 7-year-old son and I. My parents live 4 hours a way and won't drive down for that holiday and his relatives all scatter to their various in-laws. Anyone else out there go through this? What do you do?
For those that don't go through this, I'd still love to hear what you do for Thanksgiving. I've always wanted a huge family especially for occasions like this!!
this goes both ways!....nm
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That's all well and fine but it goes both ways
Then Christianity and even the mention of God should be kept out of all forms of government, local to federal.
I guess only Muslims can be terrorists. Was McVeigh Muslim? Stop generalizing.
Oh, and what is a mosk?
I'm sure if I was an American Muslim I would be welcome at a mosque.
I'm sure you'd welcome a Muslim with open arms into your congregation.... after he goes through the metal detector.
Okay, I'm done.
In many ways she has changed
Far from perfect but definitely better and being with Nick has definitely helped. Of course, she was just recently holding over Sharon and Brad's head their affair and could go to jail for it, so I guess that is the Phyllis you remember. I have only been watching the show for about 3 years.
There are other ways. Declawing is actually -
an AMPUTATION of the entire distal phalanx in the cat's toes; it isn't just the claw that is removed. It's one of a cat's most sensitive areas. Imagine having your finger and toe-tips amputated, and then having to walk around on them! Some cats go on to have problems afterward with their personalities, or stop using their litter-boxes because it's painful to dig. Even though an indoor cat is SUPPOSED to be indoors, unexpected things can happen: A door accidentally left ajar, a handyman forgets to close it as he dashes out to his truck for an extra tool, unknowing friends or visitors who forget to keep the door closed, or a kitty who is an escape-artist can lead to the cat getting outside. Or, in the midst of a catastrophe, such as a flood, fire, earthquake, etc., the cat could end up outside and on its own for anywhere from hours to months. Their claws are their first line of defense against attackers, and their ability to climb is often their only hope of escape.
What I do with my cat is TRIM all the claws regularly with a nail-clipper. Takes about 5 minutes, and is all she needs. Another, rather STYLISH option is using "Soft Paws". They are little plastic tips (and can come in a rainbow of colors!) that are glued to the tips of the cat's nails. They last until the outer part of the nail finally sheds. That would certainly be worth the time it took to apply.
I once adopted a rescue-kitty that had been declawed in all four feet.
Even though she was a gorgeous, purebred, show-quality chinchilla Persian, she had been in four different shelters, and kept getting returned after being adopted because of major litterbox issues. Former adopters had returned her time and again, and she had been scheduled for euthanasia when she was pulled from the shelter by a rescue organization. I adopted her, even though she was 10 yrs. old, because I knew that otherwise she'd probably spend the rest of her life in a crowded rescue setting.
Her poor little feet were so sensitive that she wouldn't let you touch them, and it took a while to get her using her litter box because didn't like to dig in the litter. Even playing was frustrating for her, as she could rarely successfully catch the toy she was chasing.
Also, depending on what state you live in, declawing may not be legal. I would suggest talking to your vet, or even a local rescue organization or other cat expert, about the different ways you could solve the problem without giving up your cats or mutilating their paws by declawing.
I feel so much for you right now. In some ways SM
our situations were the same. When you are in need of someone you are terribly vulnerable. That is how I was at the time, and this man has helped you learn about your brother, and that, too is hitting close to your heart. We tend to fall for those who rescue us, be kind to us in a hard time, etc. I know the psychologist I saw some years ago was lookin' pretty good to me, too! He was there for me, spoke kindly and told me I was worth so much. It is easy to fall, and I know that. I am afraid for you and I feel we are friends who share this. We are only human, and no one is blaming you. I just know how strong a thing this is, but believe me, and I promise this is the last thing I will post about this. . . It takes even more strength to deal with the hurt. Good luck to you, dear. Please value yourself above all else and do what is right for you.
They could research ways that
regular people could go "green." The list could show the most fuel-efficient cars, how to make and set up rain barrels and how to compost and use organic fertilizers. Then they could offer that article to all their parents' home owners associations to print in newsletters. Some churches might put it on their website or bulletin board. They could probably make and sell rain barrel setups, for that matter, and profits could be donated to charities. You know there is paint that works on plastic now, so they could use the cheapest barrels, which is likely those ugly blue plastic things, and paint them neutral colors that would blend in.
My name is one that can be pronounced two ways (sm)
My name is pronounced two different ways and can also be shortened into a nickname. People call me different things. When I go around my old family members I know what they are going to call me. He has every right to be called whatever he wants on a daily basis, but when around family members who have known you by a certain name all your life, it is very unnatural to them to try to call you something else. It seems very fake and superficial. They love him as a person, it doesn't matter what they call him. He can get by temporarily being called something else. It is no big deal.
I need persausive ways to get my
son and husband into counseling for their anger issues....threatening doesn't work.. I will speak to them about it and they will be "good" for a while but then it comes back eventually. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!!
ps my son is 28-YO and this is a learned trait unfortunately (tried the counseling route when he was 15, husband went to one session with him and refused to go back) pulling out my hair
well of course they have paid for it in other ways.
for the poor. That's a just society. I would gladly pay $6 a gallon for gas if my health care were free and my children were going to college for free. That would be a bargain!
there are MANY ways our government
and I believe there are many people angry about the money spent on this war.
They are both amazing in different ways (sm)
There's room in the world for both of them :-)
frugal ways
I cut my own hair and my children's. I switched to a Trac fone and got rid of cell bills. Food is a huge bill of mine so I try to make every meal stretch further (leftover meals etc). No more fast food or grabbing coffee out. I take out library books instead of buying them. They even have movie rentals for the kids.
A couple of different ways to do it.
The lazy way is simply Fritos with Chili on top, but in the Lone Star, we wouldn't dare think of serving chili without fresh shopped onion and grated chedder on top, heated through really good so that when you stir it up, it melts the cheese. Other garnishes used can be lime juice on the fritos, chopped avocado and cilantro on top of the cheese. If the chili is on the spicy side, some folks put a generous dollop of sour cream on the chili before the onions and cheese.
An alternate method would be to layer Fritos, chili, onion, and cheese twice, ending up with generous cheese in a large casserole dish sprayed with cooking spray (or a 9 x 13 baking dish with one layer) and bake at 350 for 45 minutes to an hour. Let cool for about half an hour so it will set. when prepared this way, it sort of cuts in wedges.
The cole slaw is a good complement for this because it is creamy and helps take the edge off the spices in the chili.
If you imbibe, a tall, really cold longneck beer is an excellent side kick for this dish or dial it up a notch with a pitcher of frozen margaritas.
There are a few ways to disagree. You can
respectfully diagree, and you can be nasty and bash. The latter would be the troll.
boss of the ways
Here's one: When my son was 4 we were on vacation, lost, and I kept telling my husband, Go this way, go that way, etc. My son got frustrated with driving around for so long aimlessly had some ideas of his own, and yelled, "Hey, I am the boss of the ways!" He is 19 now and we still use the phrase.
Ways we save
My husband has a 401K plan and we also have mutual funds. I had a very large retirement plan with my previous employer that we rolled over and invested. We're definitely not touching any of it, but it's nice to know if we got into a huge bind we'd have the money available.
That can work both ways
I quit seeing my grandkids because of my son, their father. They were about to graduate high school. I recently saw the youngest, g'daughter at a place where she was working and tried to explain, no I did not give them up but would not come around my son, too toxic. I gave her my new number and said the road goes both ways. She and her brother both driving. Told her to give me a call. That was about 3 months ago. They live about 15 minutes from here. Did I expect a call, not really. I wish them well.
thyroid manifests in many ways
Thirty years ago, a friend's daughter, 15, was thought to be manic-depressive, having breakdown. She was diagnosed with Graves' and medication made immediate difference. Today she's a happy grandma and still doing well.
you did right, and her bratty immature ways will
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One of the best ways I've found to
avoid holiday stress -- a Christmas Club. The first year, we just did a $500 one - that's $10 a week. Then after that, we decided to go with a $1000 one - just $20 a week. I know it sounds like a lot, but think about how many times you pick up a $5 lunch at McD's or buy something in the grocery store you really don't need. If you pay it out of your check first (or direct deposit right into the club account), you don't even miss it.
Another way to avoid stress (I have 3 kids, so I do get stressed) for me is to have each of my kids write their lists early, usually early November, after they've had a chance to study the JCP Christmas catalog. Then I get on line starting in November to check for the early Black Friday ads. The more stuff I can cross off on Black Friday, the better for all. I have gotten great deals on Black Friday. Yes, it's sometimes stressful to get up and get those deals, but it can be done.
Lastly, I try to emphasize to my kids that it's the spirit of Christmas that's important, creating traditions to pass down. Kids appreciate that more than anything under the tree.
Wrong ways in life.
Why are you "waiting" on someone to marry you. First of all, the guy you have been with for 10 years is not marriage material. He has told you that and you are really wasting your time. The sentence "so and so could take care of me" is sad. Why don't you take care of yourself? Do not WAIT on a person to do what you should. You have 2 feet, stand on them. You need a job, to work and be self sufficient. The days of old are gone when most women stayed home and the men "took care of them." You are wasting your life staying where you are and one day you wake up past your prime and wonder what happened.
Plus there are ways of making that extra day
There may be temp work to be had for 1 day a week (a good way to explore other jobs). Or devote one day a week to starting a small business of your own, such as on eBay, or crafts, or doing odd jobs in the neighborhood.
Another way is to spend the day working on the house. Things there weren't time for with a 5-day workweek, like finishing that deck or BBQ pit in the back yard, or replacing a leaky toilet or faucet, painting, weatherstripping, insulating etc. There are lots of things that can: add value to the house, improve heating/cooling efficiency, etc.
Or, maybe one day a week take a class at the local junior college, trade school, etc. It could pay off in just doing something fun or interesting, or in working towards an unfinished degree, or in learning a new trade altogether.
I do both ways, wash by hand and also
clean out food particles and wash in the dishwasher. I have no reservations about doing that. The only thing I don't like are family plates set on floor and animals eating out of those and reusing. Yuck.
Spiritual in other ways aside from God. Don't attend church.
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Save your money, other ways better spent
NM
karma doesn't have to be tit for tat...it can come in non monentary ways!
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