Drat, where's the ax-in-the-head icon when you need it?

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  • Drat, where's the ax-in-the-head icon when you need it? - Me

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Wow.  Plotzing right next to you.  jeez.

I put up a greenhouse last year, which I love.  It's still being tweaked so I haven't completely maximized its use yet, but all my plants made it through its first winter.  We even planned ahead and my handyman ran electric and water into it, so it's pretty self contained. 

I love growing things, but don't necessarily like to be outside for the growing of them.  Weird, I know.  Plus, the greenhouse lets me stay away from my creepy neighbor who makes passes at me while his ailing/dying wife is inside. 

The other thing that I've started doing to try to cut costs is hanging the clothes out on a line.  I've seen a lot of comments about that lately, too.   I'm really curious to see how much of a difference that makes on the old electric bill.

it's like if you spill the salt, it's bad luck....these are old *wives tales* perpetuated WAY_BACK_WHEN....a.k.a. superstitions for some of them...

don't walk under a ladder

don't let a black cat cross your path

swallow a watermelon pit and you grow a watermelon in tummy

swallow a piece of gum and it stays in your system for 7 years or clogs you up

(Most of them are ridiculous and a waste of time)....I have owned black cat(s), purposefully walked under ladders, spilled salt and think nothing of it, swallowed gum and/or small pits of fruits, and I'M STILL KICKIN.......and getting OLDER THAN DIRT *L*

He did not offer to pay for the car.  When you are in marching band in high school you don't always have the luxury of working. He taught music lessons.  That was enough for spending money not car payments.  He has a scholarship but other than that I pay for everything.

We had a good talk this afternoon.  I told him that there would come a time in the not too distant future when that trip would be allowed.  However, I want a phone call before he leaves and one when he gets there.  I want to know he made it safely.  Honestly, I told him I was not mad about this and I understood that he wanted to see her, but lying is wrong.  End of story.  When I asked him if he was there I wouldn't have been near as upset if he had told me the truth but he kept digging his hole deeper and deeper.

 I don't know what my husband is going to decide to do about the car.  I asked him to consider leaving it.  I told him I don't think my son will do it again.  I told him that it is important that the girlfriend's parents like him and pulling crap like this is not going to endear them to him. 

I put the idea in my husband's mind that maybe he could take a picture of the speedometer when he gets there tonight so that we know the milage.  He is going to talk to him tonight.  If he did that, he will still have local use of his car.  I don't know.  Everyone is pretty upset right now. Me, my husband, my son, his girlfriend, her parents.   

I actually think that maybe he understand where I am coming from.  I reminded him what if I got a phone call saying he was in an accident and severely hurt or worse and I think he is safe at school. 

and it honestly just encouraged me to lie to her.  My kids are younger, so God only knows what I'll do when they are teenagers, as I know that is a very hard time, but your son is in college now, and I think it is reasonable for him to want to drive to see his girlfriend on weekends.  I was always a pretty honest kid with my mom, but losing my car was a big deal, so I did lie to her from time to time, because even though I felt bad lying it didn't feel as bad as losing my car would have!

Is your son maintaining good grades?  If so, I wouldn't worry about his texting or how much he is talking to his girlfriend, because I honestly think that is his business and he will have to learn some hard lessons by messing up - not by having his mom tell him how life is all the time.  Sometimes you have to learn that you can fall and pick yourself back up.  If he is getting really bad grades, however, then of course you should step in because you don't want him messing up that scholarship!  I'm already afraid for when my boys go off to college because I know how much many college kids drink and party and am afraid they will drink too much or something and get hurt, but if your son is just wanting to see his girlfriend then that might actually keep him from partying as much as other college kids.  Are you just worried that he will get hurt on the drive to see her or something?  Does he have a safe car?

I would say just be careful.  If this girlfriend is really nice and he feels like you "messed up" his relationship with her in any way he might try to get back at you by dating a "lesser quality" girl or something.  Good luck to you.  I'm sure this is a difficult situation, but it's great he got a scholarship and is a good kid overall.

I think chances are good we'll find that Billy had a hemorrhage, much like Natasha Richardson.  I just lost an older cousin to this very same syndrome last weekend.  He fell and hit his head, but refused to go the doctor and died two days later. 

Head injuries are nothing to mess around with, even if they seem benign at first.

Sound of the different drummer, so to speak, Just always kept me from being a follower/conformist.  I certainly did it *MY WAY*.....

*singing My Way*....

My son did that a couple of times when he was about 3, and I was telling a guy at work about it.  He said his girlfriend's son did that all the time and actually got brain damage from it, which really freaked me out.  The next time he did it I just got down on my knees right in his face and told him verrrry seriously that he could really hurt himself doing that and let him know it was unacceptable.  He must have sensed something in my tone, because he's never done it since!

It sounds like he just needs to figure out a better way to manage his anger.  Maybe buy a book about how to help kids deal with outbursts or get him a couple of counseling sessions?  Does he ever express what is making him so mad verbally to you so that he can vent?  It sounds like he may just need to get it all out, and instead of doing it in a healthy way he hurts himself, so maybe that anger could just be redirected.

Maybe you could also explain to him that everybody learns new stuff.  Tell him if he doesn't let people teach him he will only be as smart as a 5-year-old his whole life!  Tell him he's smart for a 5-year-old but no one is going to want to hire someone with a kindergarten education!  I don't know if he will understand those exact words, but just try to get the point across to him that even adults learn new things every day and that's what makes us smarter.  Tell him to at least watch the way you do it and consider doing it your way.  Maybe if he knows he has a choice to do it your way or his way he will feel better.  Kids want choices too, I guess.  I don't know for sure, so like I said - I would try to find a book on the subject too or something.  Good luck! Before I had kids I had no idea how smart and sly you have to be to constantly figure them out!

He's manipulating you, Typical ploy to shift the blame onto you and confuse your reality, typical of a guilty man to get angry and shift to the offensive.  Who is HE to tell YOU how to feel?  First he takes control of the money by lying and hiding things from you, then he's trying to control your feelings about being manipulated.  They say a house divided against itself cannot stand.  The big picture is very bad - if its OK to lie to you about this, then what else is coming?  The more of this you accept and continue to put up with, the further he will go.

I left mine because I simply refuse to live this way, and I'm sure many others felt the same.  If you can't trust your partner, why do you want them for a partner?  If he can't respect you enough to be truthful with you, what he is in the relationship for?  Figure out what the root of the problem is - does he need someone in his life to pull one over on to feel good about himself?  If so, why are you willing to be the one?  Can you continue to respect him even though he doesn't respect you?

Its like you're asking us permission to feel the way you do.  Any feeling you have is valid - don't let him convince you otherwise.  If you feel the situation is intolerable, it IS.  Trust your gut and your own feelings - you should know better by now than to trust HIM.

If this she/he can claim to be a man, then when are they going to do the first female organ transplant into a man who wishes to experience the pain of pregnancy without becoming a full blown woman?

Just the reverse of what this she/he did. It would probably take as long to change, but how many real men would think about it if they could make all this money?

Can you imagine the confusion? I think cloning is just as bad. We'll all have to get ourselves stamped somewhere stating we are "original" not a manufactured person.