Dr. Phil would say to lock the door.
Posted By: Grin on 2007-05-14
In Reply to: Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm) - Lisa
If they knock, you ask if their hair is on fire. If it's not, then you tell them it can wait.
He's actually talking about interruptions of something else, but I thought of his advice anyway.
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Just now getting up to lock the door?
My husband can be home- doesn' matter- I always keep my doors locked. I see people on TV news who are broken in on, murdered, assulted, raped - they said where they lived didn't think it would happen there?? Happens everywhere.
You either need a door with a lock or - sm
to set up some kind of boobie trap that scares them first (I.e. something popping out at them when they enter the room). A taste of their own medicine would do them good
I double lock the door and have a
security latch as there's been a lot of break-ins at gun point lately. We live in an apt and since I work overnight I've actually had people that thought my door was their door and tried to unlock it...drunk ones, of course.
I've thought about leaving my keys in the car and the windowns down (1999 car with 137,000 miles on it)....JOKING.
lock the door, take a while to answer it, seem preoccupied
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Lock the door and pretend you're not
I am getting up right now to lock my door. Some people have no regard for life anymore. nm
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why do people go door to door to talk about their religion?
arent they settitng themselves up for confrontatoin?
We normally do have the door locked but the garage door was open...
and my husband did ask them to call first and they still didn't listen...they never do...I think they think they don't have to call...
Door to door sock salesman
Okay, so yesterday a little old man shows up at my door. Now let me say that I do not live in a neighborhood, really. I live on a major highway so you actually have to drive into my driveway and you can't really get to the next house without getting back in your car and driving there.
So I open the door and there's this little old man there with pairs of socks in large ziplock bags. He says:
"I'm raising money for a cancer operation to get cancer out of my stomach and I want you to buy these two bags of socks."
I say, "I'm sorry, I don't have any cash in the house, but good luck."
"How can you not have any cash in the house?"
"We use credit cards."
"You can't just use credit cards. Doesn't your husband live with you?"
"He's at work. Good luck, have a nice day."
"Well when he gets home he should have cash on him."
"Nope sorry, we're not interested. Have a good day."
I closed the door and he left.
Odd....very odd. But here's where it gets even more odd.
Today he showed up AGAIN. Only this time he didn't come to the door. He sat in his car in my driveway and beeped his horn. My mail lady does this when we have a package so I opened the door to go out, thinking it was her. The dog scooted out and while I was trying to get him back in I realized it was this man again......BEEPING for me to come to his car to sell the socks, I guess. I was so mad that my dog got loose I looked at him and yelled "WHAT DO YOU WANT??? I don't need any socks today!!!" Picked up the dog and went back in the house and slammed the door. He didn't get a word in edgewise. I'm hoping he won't be back.....I was down right RUDE to this man. I never speak to anyone that way. Hopefully he won't be back. Steve is concerned that he showed up a second time and even more concerned that he wanted me to go to his car this time. He wants me to get a plate number if this man comes back.
I like her far better than Phil.....nm
What would Dr. Phil say?
We teach people how to treat us, so stop telling people to treat you like a doormat. I know this can be very hard to change, but I did it myself a few years ago with my own situation. People were not happy at first, but guess what? They got over it and now I am treated the way I deserve. Life is too short for this stuff! Best of luck to you.
I think it is Dr. Phil who says
that use of sarcasm and lack of respect for ones spouse is the biggest risk factor for divorce.
It sounds like your husband thinks he is a lot smarter and busier than you are, so he's saying you are taking up too much of his time or take too long to say things that he already knows or aren't of any importance.
So he is definitely not your friend and he won't even pretend to respect you. He yells in anger. Your children are witnessing all of this.
(He'd fit right in at Dr. Phil's Man Camp).
Talk to your pastor or other counselor at church and ask them what to do. You need counseling to repair your self-esteem, and he definitely needs Christian counseling, because he is not treating you the way the Bible tells a man to treat his wife.
Punxatawney (?sp) Phil
didn't see his shadow - spring is just around the corner!    
I would think Dr. Phil & Oprah would have
covered these topics. They might even have that sort of information on their websites. Your mother might believe them over these men. Or undoubtedly Reader's Digest. If one of my parents were acting like this I'd seriously think they were getting something like Alzheimers, losing their good judgement.
I don't get to watch Dr. Phil much, but I did --sm
happen to see the same show you are talking about. It was VERY eye opening. I felt so bad for the woman who was involved with this scammer. It is much the same as women who get *involved* with men in prison. All these men want is money and they do not care who they get it from.
Even if the mom has no money, he does not care. His *anger* is just a ploy to make her feel guilty. I can guarantee that he has no son, he is not who he says he is, and he is probably in the middle east somewhere, as I do believe the man on Dr. Phil was in the middle east and tried to pass off his accent as from somewhere else. Please don't be too hard on your mom. She is vulnerable and *love smit*, but she needs to know the truth. Perhaps contact the Dr. Phil show and they may send a tape of that show, or he may have some personal advice for her. Good luck.
Any Dr. Phil fans out there?
He came to our town several weeks ago to help kick of the Toys for Tots campaign. Some of that will be featured on his show today.
You need Dr. Phil, not a bunch of MTs.
Your husband has big problems.
Have you been on Dr. Phil? I swear I saw this on his show.
Stand up for yourself. Stop caterting to this man. Give him a dose of his own medicine. Do for only you and your children, and I mean, cooking, cleaning, etc. And if your family likes him, so what, they dont have to live with him.
anybody looking forward to todays Dr. Phil???
cant wait, mine comes on in 1 hour...central time..
No experience at all with this, just what I saw on a Dr. Phil one time -
He said when you can walk away knowing you have turned over every stone you could and feel that nothing else can be done and you have no regrets whatsoever, you are ready for a divorce.
Not the OP, but I can't stand Oprah or Dr. Phil and
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Dr. Phil had a segment on this yesterday sm
He had a segment how wrong it is to do this to your children. It was his first show he ever did. He said the mom is doing so much better since his show. He is bringing back some of his most favorite shows.
lock windows
I made my fiance nail shut all the windows in the house when I moved in with him until we bought new windows because lo and behold none of his windows locked. While this was probably not smart in case of a fire I would rather be alive to throw something out the window to get out rather than have someone come through the window at night (or day) and do who knows what.
I go out and forget to lock
the door when I come back in, have left the keys in the lock. I hate it when husband sees that.
I always lock my doors
my husband can come home and I never even hear him enter the house. My dogs usually bark at strangers but not at my hubby. If they are in the backyard the bark at leaves falling off trees, so I don't know if they might be barking if I am in danger or not. My son laughs cause I lock our glass stormdoor when it is warm outside and leave the large door open. He says there is no way that little piece of glass is going to stop someone from coming in but I say at least I will hear the glass break. I'm really glad you are okay.
I do know the reason for the zip-lock
The zip-lock bag for socks is to prevent people from gouging a hole in the plastic bag to pull out the sock and look at it (for what reason, I'm not sure) before they buy the bag. Then, of course, they put that one back and take a virgin bag to the register!
Don't lock your car with the clicker!
A police officer friend of mine told me not to lock your car with the clicker - manually push the button down when you get out of the door. Criminals are sitting in parking lots watching people coming and going and have an electronic device that can copy your code and open your vehicle. They can be in your car in seconds and clean it out! They are able to open doors or the trunk.
Please be careful Christmas shopping!
Rural, no still don't lock
doors. When i think of doing it and do, my husband just unlocks when he steps out to smoke and does not re-lock. But i'd say the majority of people here don't lock doors. and some leave keys in their cars too.
I always lock mine. You just never know who
There's been a time or two when I've forgotten to lock it, or worse, left my house/car keys in the front door. (DUMB!) But leaving my keys in the car? NEVER! That's just asking to get it stolen. Even if I'm just filling up at the gas station, I take the keys with me and lock the doors. People sometimes carjack at gas stations, or open the non-driver's side door to grab your purse. (I keep that on the floor out of sight, NOT on the front seat.)
I used to be one of those who didn't lock until --
I lived in the country until about a year ago, very rural less than 2000 total population. Never locked my doors, didn't even carry the key. One day I came home from work to find an ambulance and the state police on my lane. Thinking one of the neighbors up the lane must have had a medical issue, I went about my business -- UNTIL the state police knocked on my door asking me if I'd heard gunshots the night before. I said sure -- I always hear gunshots, even at night. Our neighbors across the road like to camp out and shoot targets into the wee hours. Then he started asking me if I saw any strange cars going up and down my lane. I said sure -- the people above us are always fixing someone's car and they drive like a bat out of he!!. He looked at me again in disbelief. Then he asked if I knew about the double homicide that happened on my lane less than 1/2 mile from my house the night before. I had no idea what he was talking about. Apparently, there was a drug deal gone bad between 2 couples and 1 couple got shot. The other couple left the scene and went a little past my house to a neighbor's house to use their phone. Never thought it could happen in my little hometown USA. After that, I always lock my doors. I'm with these other posters -- I especially lock my doors when I'm home.
When I was a kid, I used to sleep on the porch in the summertime. Now I wouldn't dream of letting my kids do that. My parents never locked the doors during the day, even when we ran errands, unless we weren't planning on coming home that night.
Dr. Phil DID cover this very topic a few months ago...
and there was a guy who supposedly went to Africa and needed all this money to eat, get out of prison, get home to see this woman he was chatting with and told he loved so much. She fell for the whole thing until Dr. Phil exposed the whole story on his show and had other women there who had also fallen for this guy and sent him money. I don't know if you can get a DVD of the show or not, but it might be worth it to try.
votefortheworst.com now is encouraging votes for Phil.
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Eek, can't stand Phil and his googly eyes.
Phil Spector murder trial. Anyone
been watching that on Court TV? Don't you think Phil Spector, with his "new hair do", looks like Pee Wee Herman???? LOL.
They have been off for the past 2 days due to one of the defense lawyers having to go to the hospital. Kind of interesting to watch trials on T.V.
Don't care for Phil or Oprah, never watch them. nm
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Phil Spector did an album many moons ago with SM
the Ronettes, Shirelles and others, in that great Phil Spector way, which is my favorite. All good songs, Frosty the Snowman, Winter Wonderland. Makes me feel happy.
Yes, I know Phil is nuts, but the album (cd) is great.
I always lock the doors/windows too, but
then today I saw this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hr23tpWX8lM&eurl=
Scarier stuff every day.
Zip lock bags and tie a ribbon around them- sm
this way they stay fresh.
We lock our doors, rural here - sm
we do not have much crime here but that may change with people out of work, etc. We have on occasion left doors unlocked when we go out for a while, by accident, and all has been well. We live on a private road though with 13 houses so we all look out for each other and strangers cars driving by (only 1 way in or out), etc. Routinely leave the dining room back door unlocked just because we let the dogs in and out there and forget to lock it when we go out. But one of the first things we did when we moved in was I insisted on key deadbolts on the front door and the door from the garage which opens into our family/great room and our 3 back doors (too many doors on this house--have 4, one is a slider). So we have double locks on those doors, cannot hurt. Everyone I know locks up, foolish not to no matter where you live.
Do you lock your doors at night?
I thought of this question last night while reading. Do you lock your doors at night? Do you ever on purpose leave your car keys in the ignition?
I guess I just assumed everyone locked their doors. I know in the old days people in rural communities didn't all lock their doors, but I figured they do now. But I read a couple of books recently which were set in modern times and they talk about how no one ever locks their doors in their small towns. Do you, or know of anyone, who does not lock the door to their house?
I lock mine all the time
I'm a little paranoid, but then again, I'm a female living alone. You never know. All it takes is one time... I feel better knowing I have a big dog, but now I'm nervous someone might steal him! LOL
If it were me, I would go to Dr. Phil Mcgraw web site and email him. See what he would suggest.
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Agree with you, and what's up with Phil Stacey's eye brows? Creepy! nm
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I'm going to turn out the lights, lock up the house, -
and instead of doing the trick-or-treat thing, am going on a Halloween night costumed inline skate through the streets of S.F. with my skate-buddies. Most likely WE will eat the candy I originally bought! ;)
on your keyboard, make sure SCROLL LOCK
yeah, I lock my doors, but have been told sm
it is not necessary. I just leased a new place I am moving into next week, and she told me she never locks her doors, could barely come up with a door key for the new place for me.
MT, work at home. I am more concerned about locking the doors when I am at home than when I am gone. Not a lot of crime in this area, thank goodness, just don't want to be intruded upon.
Actually, relatives in suburban PA don't lock either and I feel safe there, roo. sm
But i would not feel safe in my own home unlocked, even though I'm in a gated community with tons of outside lights, etc. For some reason I feel safe in someone else's house more than my own.
I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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please do not let the door hit you on your bum
Right next door,
Henry, close to Eagles Landing - we can visit....
Just don't answer the door.
Just don't answer the door.
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