Dont tell him you know how he feels. You don't. Situation

• Ex-husband harrassing me again, - after 19 years of divorce.
  • He gave up his parental rights; end of story. - nm
  • ex-hubby - Judi
  • Oh boy! I'm really sorry that happened. SM - Thank you.
    • And why; because he provided the - sm
    • Dont tell him you know how he feels. You don't. Situation - completely different from mom's view point. nm
    • My eyes just rolled out of my head and across the flow - Msla MT
      • I agree that forgiveness is overrated - do not enable him by forgiving- no message
    • I appreciate what you are saying, however; - I have spoken calmly to him many times
    • You can never change the spots on a dog. - Spice
      • You are so so so right. - I posted above just to see just how many people go
        • I was not aware this was a test question. SM - Hanna Bull
          • You sound as though you are speaking from - experience.
            • Happily married for over 20 years. - Hanna
              • Maybe you should not judge other people!!! - I have been happily married to my second husband
          • this post is irrelevant; you sound immature - it might come back to bite you.
          • good grief. - Msla MT

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I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy.  Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc.  My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this.  My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful."  I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face).  She also goes about the fat tummy, etc.  I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults.  It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her.  I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family."  Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her.  There is just isn't and easy solution.  If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them.  If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners.  Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.

My husband, who is of very sound mind and no, not any psychiatric problems, got both feet on the ground, has told me to find a neurologist (another physician told him to do this). Hubs drive a truck and he has been telling me the strangest feelings, almost worm-like feeling that sorta snakes down 1 side, he rubs intensely and gets it to stop (I think) and then sometimes can be on the other side. Has anyone ever heard of something similar or have you had yourself. I am making him an appointment today but this is not the ordinary thing I type even though been at this for quite some time with the 4s. Thanks.

that or hearing that Sanjaya is still on AI???!!!

Going to watch AI *live* my time for first time this year!

I hate that now in GA it is state law that they have to have it at age 13.  You know statistically girls have already had sex by that age, which is VERY SAD.  First they said only girls that have not been sexually active and now it is for any girl who wants it.  Very confusing.  I am just so sick about the government stepping in on this.  If my daughters and I feel that they need to have it, then it should be up to us, not some fat guy sitting in an office saying it is better for us.   I think more studies should have been done before they made it a law.  That is all.  Other then that I feel that it is like any other shot... some people dont get flu shots every year... are flu shots bad?  Can they make you sick, yes sometimes, but people should not be forced into a flu shot!