Donate to crisis pregnancy centers.
Posted By: nm on 2007-02-25
In Reply to: Retire and then... - Dreaming
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why not donate it
why not tell them thank you but my son already has one and let them either redraw it or donate it? Or maybe you could donate somewhere like a senior center/nursing home or a place for youths?
Donate the food.
In our area we have "Aid to Friends". Find an organization in your area. They usually provide foil containers for home-cooked food. After dinner, have the family do a service project. Fill the containers and freeze the food to be donated to shut-ins.
Most vets donate services for shelters. I think they
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Peek-a-boo, treats. Buy Pedigree; they donate to shelters.
nm
Midlife crisis
Do you think women have midlife crises just like men do? I have always been a very content person. Content with my life, work, family, etc. I was also someone who never liked change. Now for the past five years or so, I am so discontent with everything (life, job, marriage)! I just feel as if I could scream if nothing fun or exciting enters my life soon! I am so bored and discontent. I don't like it. I have tried to do things differently but nothing seems to help. I just feel like running away and starting fresh somewhere. However, then I think of my children, who are grown, and my one granddaughter, and that I would miss them very, very much. Has anyone else gone through this, or are you going through this. I am 49 years old. Help! Any suggestions! I have even had suicidal thoughts at times, but of course I would never act on them.
It could certainly be a midlife crisis sm
but it could also be depression, especially when you think of suicide. I am not say antidepressants are a cure all, but it could certainly be a start. Hugs to you!
midlife crisis
I believe that women go through midlife crises as well. I am 37. I believe my midlife crisis is because I got married way too early (age 20) and didn't have time to really "explore" my options. I, too, am bored and discontent. I try to stay active in my church and with my family, but I still find myself discontent.
midlife crisis
Have you considered taking antidepressants? I went through a severe depression after I had my first child that went beyond postpartum. I didn't know if I would ever be the same. I was against taking medication, but a friend convinced me to try it. It helped me be more positive and less anxious and to get focused again. I could have kicked myself for not taking it sooner. I would have enjoyed my child so much more. I am a Christian as well. Many Christian groups and churches are against medication for depression and say you should just rely on God. I believe God gave us a brain and He expects us to use it to be the best we can be for Him, ourselves and our loved ones. You may not need to take it for the rest of your life, but if only to help stabilize you so you can focus on making the decisions you need to make and get on with your life. God loves you and wants you to enjoy His blessings. This is not a weakness. You are not alone. I have been where you are and I survived! I still struggle at times, but I know there is help and hope for me, and there is for you, too. Hang in there, and don't be afraid to lean on the people who love you most. They need to know you're struggling if they're going to be able to help you. You'll get through this. I will keep you in my prayers!
Midlife crisis
I'm 32 and I think i'm having a midlife crisis. Any suggestions on how to overcome this? All I want to do is sleep so I won't have to wake up to my normal life.
Is there a Crisis Hotline you can call? sm
I know many times that my docs have recommended Crisis intervention; the programs in this area are hospital-based.
That should be the worst crisis in government!
nm
could be the beginnings of a midlife crisis....mine
Later on, I divorced him (after 12 years), for many reasons, but one was certainly that I wasn't going to put up with possibly 20-30 years of a midlife crisis of his, or any man, that's a given....and today, he's mid 50s and still a mess.....in his head/heart at least...
best of luck....keep an eye out....
You know, your foot pedal crisis made me think...
if that ever happens to you again where you really need a foot pedal, put out an SOS to your fellow MTs. I have a collection of foot pedals that are not for my current platform but in perfect working order. I'd be happy to send one out to an MT in need.
Why I stuck with MT after midlife crisis college degree
Lot of reasons, actually, not the least of which was that I was making some seriously good money as a medical biller at the time--and I hadn't burnt out yet. (I was also doing the transcription for 2 practices locally.) I also had an insane stubborn loyalty to my boss, and didn't want to leave him in the lurch. I got out of billing 2 years ago (well past burnout by then) and came home full time, still doing the transcription for the practice and one other, and still making good money at it.
But one reason I went back to school in the first place was because my boss had been making noises about quitting practice at some point, and he was so good (and I had him so very well-trained) I really couldn't see starting over again with another doctor who might not be so trainable. Not only that, the man is 11 years older than I, and it stood to reason he would retire before I would be ready to, so I would lose him eventually.
Last fall he closed his practice, actually going to work for another practice as an employee, not retiring quite yet, but despite his practically standing on his head on my behalf, the other practice didn't want to hire me. (Their loss.) That was when I had to find my first job with a national. Oh, joy. Welcome to the real world.
But I'll tell you what. There are some positive trade-offs. I don't have kids to stay home with... but I really, REALLY appreciate the mere 15-foot commute (I have a 4-1/2 year old car with still under 30k miles on it), the work wardrobe (pajamas), and best of all, the lack of B.S. and office politics. I get all the human contact I need between church and some other activities I participate in--places I choose to go and people I choose to see, rather than having people I don't get along with forced on me, as in the workplace. (Actually, I got along fine with them. They didn't get along with me. I just wanted them to not make my job harder. Was that too much to ask? Guess so. The last week I worked in the office, I had a sign on my wall that said "Others do not play well with me.")
The money in medical billing was nice, but it was costing me far too much. Meanwhile, I've used some of my info tech skills with a few freelance jobs for friends (website design, database design) but I have discovered that I really, really do NOT want to be responsible for maintaining somebody else's systems.... I also figured out really quickly after my business management classes (and being billing department head) that I am NOT cut out to be a manager. Trouble with management is that you have to . . . manage people. It's like herding cats. No, thank you.
So I haven't completely ruled out doing something else with my life, if I ever figure out what I want to be when I grow up... but for now, despite the massive pay cut I have taken, I am willing to hang in there as an MT because of the positive trade-offs I mentioned above. Plus... I've been doing this for 37 years, and I'm bloody good at it, if I do say so myself. :)
Does that answer the question? Anything else I can expound upon for the hopeful enlightenment of all?
Disclaimer: This has been MY chosen route, and for right now, it's right for ME. Others' mileage may vary. :)
pregnancy
I tend to agree with NM poster below because the very first time I got pregnant I told everyone right away and everyone went nuts with excitement, especially the grandmothers to be. Then about 2 1/2 months into my pregnancy I miscarried and had to explain to everyone, and they had to explain to everyone. It was really depressing. I had what they called a "blighted ovum" which means the division of cells never really went very far. So the next time I got pregnant, I waited until after the three month mark. I later found out most miscarriages occur within the first three months. Good question, by the way. Are you pregnant for the first time?
My MIL did- every other pregnancy - has 2 kids - sm
Had a son, miscarried on preg#2, had another son, miscarried on preg#4 - no clue if there was a specific reason. I also know someone who miscarried 5 x and the 6th time she was able to carry the baby to full-term. In her case it was her pelvic bones, they just were not strong enough to carry a baby and she would not stay in bed (had to have bed rest the whole time in order to carry the baby), either she finally listened to her Dr. after 5 miscarriages or her bones got stronger (she was rather young 18-22 during all this). I have no idea if she has had more kids as we lost touch.
I also had googled a TL with my last pregnancy...
5 years ago to research it and had found that informative site. It scared me into not doing it and glad I didn't. I'm on the Pill and hardly get a period, plus it lowers your chances of getting cervical cancer due to not ovulating. I would say no to doing it. I feel bad for the women who have.
intrauterine pregnancy
isn't this such a silly phrase? it hit me tonight...where else would your pregnancy be? LOL
Pregnancy question.
Hello everyone.
I had a question for all you mothers out there. I'm just around the 8 month mark and i was just wondering if anybody had any good tips about sleeping!  I don't want to spend the $50 or whatever it is for one of those body pillows so i thought i'd see how everyone else who didn't want to spend the money was creative enough to get through the night.
Thanks! 
Another pregnancy question.
I'm 32 weeks and sometimes when i'm sitting perfectly still on the couch or something the baby moves and i can hear a snapping sound, like when you bend down and your knee snaps. It's not quite as loud but it's still there. I was wondering if anyone else heard this?! I'm assuming it's my skin stretching or something because i can't imagine the baby has joints popping! lol it just seemed a little weird and just wondering if anyone else has heard of this.
- Thanks! 
No uterus , no pregnancy I would think???- sm
sounds kind of weird. She sounds like a flake. I'd offer to go with her to her OB and try and get the skinny on that one!
Concerning post below about possible pregnancy...
Guess what! I am pregnant. I took 2 tests today and both turned out positive. I am so happy but I am now worrying about health coverage. I do not have any medical insurance. What kind of coverage can I get when I am already pregnant? Please please any advice is much appreciated. Thanks!!!
Bloating during pregnancy!
I truly hope that one of you have some words of wisdom for me. I'm 7 wks pregnant and my biggest problem is bloating. If I don't eat, I literally get nauseated and want to throw up. When I eat, I feel okay until a few minutes after I eat and then I feel bloated like crazy. I can't hardly wear my jeans for the bloating because it makes me feel miserable. I never had this problem with my first pregnancy. I haven't even gained any weight and so I know I'm not just porking out and getting fat. This is all bloat. ARGH! Please help!!! Any helpful suggestion?
I'm pregnant - 5 weeks along, 1st pregnancy....sm
My husband & I are thrilled that we conceived so quickly, especially with my being 43 and him being 50. We got married in June and started trying then. His 15-year-old daughter and our 6-year-old foster daughter are excited. Next year will be fabulous as we'll be finalizing the adoption of our foster daughter in January and having a baby in June!
Boy - this is so variable. With my first pregnancy, hate to
tell you, I was sick the "whole 9 months", even the day he was born. Every morning at work I had saltine crackers and coke for breakfast(Ugh)as that was the only thing that calmed my stomach down. My two previous pregnancies, I had no morning sickness !
changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy?
I was just wondering if anyone here had any experience with changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy? Or if anyone knows anyone who changed their OB late in pregnancy?
Without going into too many details, my OB was away on a personal emergency this week and her partner was not in the office due to the holiday. I was having some problems this week and I needed an OB on Friday. I called but my OB's office only had a recorded message. There was no answering service. So I stuck it out until Satruday and went to the emergency room at the hospital where I was supposed to be delivering this baby. The Triage Nurse at the hospital was so awful and mean to me that I burst into tears and stormed out of there. She didn't flat out refuse me medical attention, but she gave me such a hard time about being there that she made me feel very uncomfortable, and in so many words she forced me out. She was the nastiest most unprofessional person I have ever dealt with in the healthcare industry. DH agrees.
So now DH and I are totally turned off to that hospital and I don't feel comfortable at all delivering there. Fortunately for us, we have 2 other excellent hopsitals close to our house. The problem is, my OB only delivers out of the hospital where I had this incident. So I was thinking of changing back to my old OB for the end of the pregnancy. He delivered my nephew and my sister said she liked him and had no problems with him. But he has not dealt with me pregnant. I just went to him for 2 annual checkups several years ago, then decided to change over to my current OB because my sisters and friends raved about her.
And it's really been a textbook pregnancy -- no problems with me or the baby. He would just need my records sent to him, and he'd need to know that I will be a scheduled c-section. Really at this point all I need is for someone to go in there and get the baby out for me.
Any advice? Do you think he would refuse my case since I'm 35 weeks already? The whole incident is unfortunate, and I love my OB, but I am so turned off to the hospital that I'd be willing to go with another OB just to be able to deliver out of another hospital where we'll feel comfortable and taken care of.
Very few rapes result in pregnancy. So now what?
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Anyone ever been really heavy and have a healthy pregnancy? sm
Well I am at 325 and pregnant. Yes, I am tall but still that weight is very, very disgusting. I wonder how I got to this place. But I am so worried about my weight affecting the baby. The baby was nto planned - was a complete surprise. A welcome surprise though. But I never thought I would be able to get pregnant while being this heavy. I don't why I thought that but I truly did. I am just wondering if anyone has been really overweight and how it affected your pregnancy. The doctors don't really see any harm in it, or so they say, but I am still a bit worried. Thanks for all input. I am getting the Lap band after I have the baby. I want to be healthy for my family after this and it seems like a reasonable option. Thanks everyone. Have a great Thanksgiving!
I was "only" 65 lbs overweight with 2nd pregnancy...
but I was so horribly ill with 24-hour morning sickness that I walked out of the hospital 12 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I certainly wouldn't recommend that method of weight loss! I was in and out of the hospital the entire time of my pregnancy for dehydration and IVs. Every moment of that pregnancy was a struggle with food; thinking about it, trying to keep it down, worrying about the baby.
In the end, it worked out. He was born 2 weeks early and was 8 lbs, 2 ozs. Within 24 hours I was eating like a horse again, and I was great while nursing for 6 months. But eventually, the glory days of eating and not gaining weight were gone. Now, 17 years after that pregnancy, I'm 80 pounds overweight. Sigh.
I had bleeding for the first four months of my first pregnancy...
and I had a test that said I was not pregnant, so I thought something was seriously wrong with me. My symptoms with the first and the second were nausea and exhaustion, but the exhaustion came well before the nausea. I knew I was pregnant with my second son when I couldn't make it through the day without a nap! Good luck to you and I hope you are!
how much did u gain from swelling in pregnancy?
I am almost 37 weeks along with my first child (girl!). I have gained a third of my pregnancy weight in the last month due to giant man feet and ankles. Yuck! I haven't worn my wedding ring for months-the hands were swollen first, but then came the feet. I had to wear my new found velcro strap sandles to my anniversary dinner this week. I had on a lovely skyblue knit dress with a beautiful blue topaz necklace my husband bought as an anniversary gift, and it was all topped off with my velcro summer sandles. I just had to giggle at myself, but really when no other shoe fits what are you supposed to do?
Does anyone else have some good stories so I know I'm not alone? Thanks.
Rare cases - pregnancy attached to outside
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Does it matter what time of day you take a pregnancy test??/
i've read that morning time is the best, but does it really matter? i'm 37, had a tubal after my second pregnancy six years ago. i'm a week and a half late. i've never been this late before. i figured i'd start with taking a home pregnancy test first. i'm anxious to take it and don't want to wait until tomorrow, but heard morning time was the best time.
thanks
Pregnancy outcome lasts 18+ years, sickness usually
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12-year old girl forced to take pregnancy test due to school rumor
NEVADA CITY, Calif. -- A 12-year-old girl was forced to take a pregnancy test at school in Nevada City, a lawsuit filed in Nevada County Superior Court alleges.
The Pacific Justice Institute, which is representing the girl, said in a news release that Steve Davis, a counselor at Seven Hills Middle School, pulled the girl out of class.
KCRA 3 has decided not to name the girl out of protection for her privacy.
Davis heard rumors that she was pregnant and wanted to know if it was true, the release said.
Though she denied it and told Davis a classmate had spread rumors about her in the past, the counselor got a pregnancy test from the school nurse and told the 12-year-old to give a urine sample, the Pacific Justice Institute said.
The pregnancy test was negative.
According to the news release, the girl was embarrassed and humiliated, and her parents were angry when they found out.
They worked with the Pacific Justice Institute to get an apology from the Nevada City School District, but didn't receive one.
The lawsuit, filed Oct. 29, 2008, seeks damages for violation of the girl's right to privacy and emotional distress.
"There is no merit in the claim," Superintendent Roger Steel said. He directed further questions to the district's attorney.
Reached at home Monday night, Davis said he had no comment on the lawsuit.
I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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