Don't let the "goodness" be one-sided, give yourself some personal space, AND try to have

• Obeying your husband.. - I screwed up my past relationships by being tooo s
  • If yhour past bf's didn't like Valentine or birthday cards SM - CM
  • Well, any healthy relationship should be close to equal - sm
  • obeying - Michele
  • Don't become a "doormat," and obey should NEVER be in your vocabulary! nm - Uh-uh
  • Wake up! Obey? What is she a dog? - nm
  • Don't let the "goodness" be one-sided, give yourself some personal space, AND try to have - at least 1 activity to do together. nm
    • And there needs to be "respect" on both sides. Neither should be "serving" the other! Yo - you do out of love. nm
      • ...You do for one another out of love and respect, not because you feel you "should" - be doing something. nm Communicate!
  • I have a great marriage, and i will tell you what we do - mg
    • Marriage - Regina Hare
    • y huby and have pretty much the same kind of relationship as you mg - trose

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Best of luck - if ya give him space, he might come a-runnin.....he also might be *gun-shy* at the moment...being only 3 months out....

Prayers comin' your way!! 

My Mom and Dad were out on the town years ago when they first started road block checks.  Well my Dad was driving too slow.  He got pulled over.  DUI charge.  My Mom was drunker than him.  They took him off to court, and told my Mom to drive his truck - go figure.  I believe what you say about your daughter being nice looking and you are probably right. 

I had a police officer pull me over in a nicer neighborhood (in-laws lived there) and ask me what I was doing in this neighborhood after he found my address.  Unfortunately the address I kept at that time had a bad reputation.  I know where you are coming from.  I was so offended.  I was very, very young as well.  I was actually dropping our son off to my in-laws, but didn't feel the need to explain that to the officer.  He was in an unmarked vehicle and said that I went through a stop sign when I may not have braked enough if you know what I mean.  It seems so unfair.  Good luck and call around for quotes, you'll find something.  You may have to pay a little more at first.  I'm not sure why State Farm is so hard on people.    

Is there a way to find your kids on my space?  I want to check up on my son in college without him knowing but I'm not on it myself.

but I didn't want table size tree.  Got it last year and was really amazed at how pretty it turned out. 

against pit bulls in particular.  I think all dogs can be dangerous given different circumstances.  I don't think it is right to single out a particular breed and just take away an animal from its home without just cause.

However, my elderly mother, who suffers from MS, has been plagued by horrible neighbors with many dogs.  They do not keep their dogs in their own yard.  Not only do they tear out my mother's trash, but they use her back yard as their own personal bathroom.  Their one dog bit their own daughter and nothing was done.  They are always barking at us when we are in my mother's yard.  I had one come at me and I picked up a shovel that was thankfully near me to protect myself if the dog continued it advance.  Their little dog frequently gets under my mother's feet and her balance is not good due to her age and medical issues.  We have called the Humane Society and they will do nothing. 

I personally think that people should have a right to shoot any dog on their property that shouldn't be there.  If it weren't for getting in trouble for animal cruelty, I would have shot any or all of the neighbor's dogs in my mom's yard.  A 60-some, widowed woman with health problems has no rights to keep destructive, mean dogs off of her property but hey....don't shoot a dog or you will get fined and maybe even jail time.  Sad when a mut as more rights than my mom.

Any irresponsible owner shouldn't have a dog no matter what breed.  I will get off of my soap box now.  LOL.

How is the economy crisis effecting you?
Your budget, your retirement, your family, your FRIENDS families.

How is it effecting the circle you run with? Do you discuss this with family or friends?

It is effecting my family. The gas thing alone is cutting our budget! My youngest started college and is driving back and forth. I've called my aunt who lives close to the school and asked if he could stay with her a few nights a week to save gas money. The drive for him one way is 1 hour. It has already saved us $$$. The fact that he can't find a job isn't helping either. There are no jobs for young people. Even in fast food!

Food prices have effected what we eat! Have you priced CHEESE lately? A 2 cup packages of shredded cheese cost more than a gallon of milk! Food has gotten outrageous.

We have our primary home and we have a small cabin that we go to on weekends. Our primary home is paid for and has been but we do have a mortgage on our cabin. LUCKILY and by the grace of God, we are in a fixed rate situation but it's still difficult. Did we spread ourselves to thin? Sometimes it is tough but we budget and try to be careful with what we spend. Our payment is nowhere near the $1500 per month mortgages people are talking about - and at that price point with an adjustable RATE - I don't know how people are living.

Also lucky that we do not have credit card debt. I've read where the CC companys are raising limits to increase spending while increasing the payment interest as well? I see more and more credit cards being used at the grocery store.

It's all just very scarey for me.

We have some friends who are building their dream home. They have worked and saved for 15 years. The economy is blessing them in some ways since there are a lot of people looking for work but hurt them in others as the price of materials skyrockets!

Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas?   I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future.  Anycomments or anything about it?   I sure would appreciate it!

mom:  I am in my 40s and grew up back in the old days when discipline for kids in school and at home was okay; however, methods used then are now taboo.  It looks like *traditional* discipline (which I feel was not necessarily always sensible) has been replaced with an either hands-off approach (due to fear of lawsuits, retaliation, etc.) or extreme measures, as described in the above post. This brings to mind the question:  How much more effective are we these days with these approaches? 

I feel for kids these days as well as future generations - looks like they'll have their hands full, if society continues this way.

a lot of the people you hear bragging about their refunds are those on some form of public assistance or single parents who are getting the earned income credit.  Although I think you can get an advance on this, most do not. 

Personally, I like to get around $2000 back for the year.  I know I could be saving that on my own, but it's not always that easy.  If it were in my account, I'd probably end up spending it.  The small amount of interest I'd make on it for the year wouldn't be worth the stress of having to save it.

I haven't done my taxes yet this year because they're probably going to be a mess.  We lost our house in a fire in October and were underinsured.  Now we have to file some sort of tax deduction for that.  It'll probably be more paperwork than it's worth, but we'll see. 

My spirituality comes from many places...

Mother Teresa said:

People are often unreasonable and self-centered.  FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.  BE KIND ANYWAY.

If you are honest, people may cheat you.  BE HONEST ANYWAY.

If you find happiness, people may be jealous.  BE HAPPY ANYWAY.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.  DO GOOD ANYWAY.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.  GIVE YOUR BEST ANYWAY.

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.  IT NEVER WAS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY.

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And that, my fellow MTs/MEs, is something we all should contemplate!

Have a GREAT week!!!