Don't feel bad. Everyone makes mistakes.
Posted By: CAMT on 2006-10-16
In Reply to: Ok. I am feeling so horrible as a parent right now. My 2 year old son has a sm - Feelin' so bad
The doctor should not have made you feel bad, nor should have your husband. Especially your husband because I'm sure he knows how bad you feel. My husband has said things like "you're home all day, why can't you..." whatever the point is. Infuriating! As if we're not really doing anything while we are at home.
Don't beat yourself up about it. Your son will get over it, and then he will be immune. Just do what you can to make him feel better (it sounds like you already are). You're not a bad mom! Hugs also!
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You are right, everyone makes mistakes
but like you said they are held to a higher degree of accountability.
If you have every worked in a hospital, in any capacity, even as an MT, you know that there is a system of checks balances for everything from dietary and housekeeping to OR employees. There is a reason why these systems including HIPAA, OSHA, and JHACO are in place. Sadly, there are always those few doctors (thank goodness for the nurses' who commonly save their rears such as in this case) who think they are above "policy and procedure." This might be a simple case of someone needing to be reminded that they are not above any protocol and they can make serious mistakes very easily.
Well this makes me feel better
We tend to eat out quite a bit on the weekends, although we never intend to. We usually eat out on Friday night, then sometimes on Saturday for lunch and dinner, then usually cook on Sundays...if I feel like it and we've had a chance to go to the store. Anyway, it's nice to see we're not the only ones who do this...
Okay, that makes me feel a little better.
I am a month behind on mine because a couple of months ago I was behind on the house payment so had to make 2 payments in one month, foregoing the truck payment in the meantime. My husband knows about none of this and I've been so paranoid that someone is going to show up at my doorstep. (had that happen years and years ago after my first divorce. I couldn't remember how many payments I had missed but they came to get the car. It was in the shop at the time and I had just filed bankruptcy. The repo guy was really nice and said he was just going to tell the company the car wasn't there). I've been trying to work extra to pay more on the car payment every month to eventually break even on missing one but with no jobs available a lot of nights, a child graduating high school in a few months, etc it's been a little difficult. I definitely sympathize with your situation. It is not fun at all - especially in today's economy.
whatever makes you feel better - nm
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Whatever makes you feel better.
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I knnow - it makes you feel like such a fake (sm)
When you go to church and your husband puts his arm around you in front of everyone and they all think he's so great and that you are such a nice happy family. And if I ever say anything about things not being great to anyone at church they act like I am just being a bad wife. However, I have not talked to the pastor, which now that you mention it, is probably what I should do right away.
You are lucky, and so is he! It makes me feel good...sm
to see there are happy couples out there.
Do you feel it makes you a big person putting her down?
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Kids want/need bounderies. Makes them feel safe
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Exactly - it's taking the time that makes me feel guilty too sm
Solution they are saying is to go to bestlife.com and sign a contract with yourself and then Oprah has a bestlife challenge with diet and exercise and other tips and an online journal, etc. In the past when I have exercised regularly, I found that I felt like I had more time, because I had more energy to get things done. So I am trying to get back to that again.
Can any new Fermodyl 7 users comment on how it makes your hair feel? Greasy? Heavy? I don't use
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Fabric softener makes towels softer, yes, but it also makes them less absorbent. sm
Which is, after all, the function of a towel, absorbency. :-)
Don't let it get you down. We all make mistakes.
If you make a mistake because you believe in the basic goodness of people, then the person at fault is not you, but the other person.
I used to feel the same way - that all people were basically good, had good intentions toward others, and would respond to kindness with kindness. I, too, learned the hard way.
It took me a long time, but I finally realized that not everybody has my best interests at heart, so I have learned to be a little cautious. Everyone is innocent until proven guilty - but I let the jury deliberate a little longer these days. 
I see these mistakes all the time
I think especially with doing VR my eyes are so trained to catch any and all misspelled words. I find them on the news from our television channels, in the paper, on advertising, everywhere, Craigs List especially- these people cannot spell now. I saw Chester drawers on Craigs- sometimes just knowing they are so wrong I send email asking them - do you mean Chester drawers or chest of drawers?? Drives me bananas!! I saw misspelled word in high-end ad for a furrier and newspaper ad for a cleaner- in the groceries I see mistakes.
let it out, maybe they can learn from your mistakes
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I make mistakes, my children have but
I pay for my own mistakes and my children when they were children, not as adults. I do not take on the responsibility of people who knowingly a) have children and not be financially responsible for taking care of them, b) do drugs and/or alcohol and want handouts?? This falls into a category of you do it to yourself, you take care of it yourself. I would helpp the sick and elderly, animals, people who have misfortunate not of their own doing. That is how I live my life. I read things in the paper, if I feel something I should give money to I do but not in a situation where you have the brains to do right if you WANT to do right.
4 weddings, don't you learn by your mistakes. 1 is more than enough.
Nope, did not learn from mistakes
but I sure got it right this time, married 7 years and love the ground this guy walks on. Am glad I kept on because you know something, I have found the love of my life and if I had stopped (which thought I would do after the last person died) I would have never known such happiness and bliss.
whoops, excuse those mistakes in there sm
I'm in a hurry
That's "think" - we all make mistakes!
Not as bad as offshore, IMO. Point mistakes to off-
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I can't believe you just wrote it's not okay for your kids to make mistakes.
"Just becuase UGU all forget things and make mistakes does not mean that my children need to be raised to think it's ok to do so."
Good god, I hope I never meet you or anyone else with your twisted sense of right and wrong.
I don’t care how you live your life, just don’t want to pay for your mistakes
I think I have made my point.
Can you talk to facility and find out if mistakes
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It does shake you up a bit especially when we take great care not to make mistakes
But we are human and we do make them from time to time. I believe that is why the doctors read before signing. I've made mistakes in my career, nothing that would change the care a patient is to receive, but working in this field for 8 years I can't say that I have never made a mistake. And you are right. It does shake you up a bit and only natural to start doubting yourself. About 5 years ago while working in a hospital I had made a mistake the doctor was upset about they were nothing major that changed the treatment a patient got, but still was upsetting. I talked with a co-worker and she said overall the work is excellent, we all make mistakes from time to time and you just try better not to make the same mistakes.
Luckily my current clients have never sent back a report, but I just say take it as it is. It's a mistake and you're human and we all make mistakes from time to time. Don't let it get you down too much.
that is too cute!!!! but as long as people will fix VR mistakes, it will continue on the roll it is
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Dad said: You can learn from your own mistakes, but it's easier to learn from
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this makes me sad...
Life is too short to be unhappy. If you don't love your husband and are not attracted to him anymore, then why don't you leave him? I can't imagine why people (both men and women) stay in a bad, unhappy marriage. It can't be worth the effort.
Thankfully, I am very happily married (though of course, we do have our bad times...) and can't imagine my life without my husband. But at the same time, I can't imagine being miserably married either.
You need to search your heart and really figure out how you feel about your husband. Good luck!
makes me sad, too. nm
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Makes you wonder
how often this has happened with him over the 7-year period of his relationship with the other gal. I would be very cautious as the other posters say. Wait for someone who is worthy of you!
What makes you think she will?
I have always been very open with all of my children, and I have 4, 3 are grown, and they tell me everything. So far I have one who is in grad school and still a virgin because he said he refuses to have relationships just for the sake of having them, he'll wait until the "one" comes along. One is married. One is 18 and did have sex at 17 and said it was the worst thing he'd ever done and he wishes he would have waited. He told me about it the next day and was upset about it. My daughter isn't dating although she has 2 boys at the current time who are interested. She said "Mom I'm too young for that, I'd rather be friends right now." She also knows that should the time come when she IS ready for a serious relationship, she could come to me to help her make decisions and take full precautions. She in fact told the doctor she knows all about "crotch rot" and it isn't worth the risk. I have friends who say their children won't even talk to them if they need a laxative and that's really sad...if they can't talk to their parents, who will they talk to? So if my daughter tells me that she agrees she doesn't need it and her doctor said if she has no "at risk" behaviors she doesn't need it, then there's absolutely no reason to get it, esp considering there ARE side effects to it and it's new on the market, so the full effect won't be known for a few years.
this makes me want to
stop buying pet food all together and feed my animals food that I eat. Who knows what else has been poisoned with this, treats, other brands of foods, etc. I have been watching all my animals very closely, even though they don't eat any of the recalled foods. Scary issue.
Not OP but can you tell me who makes this?
You made it sound soooo good I have to try it! :)
Tell me about it- and what makes me mad
is if you struggle for 2-3 years and slowly pay off all your creditors like I did, you can't get credit to save your life.
Yet if I had just declared bankruptcy and let them all go I would be rolling in credit by now because they know that you can only declare it every 7 years so they figure you are a better risk. I think that kind of logic is kind of questionable and definitely unfair. I don't really want a bunch of credit cards any more but I do have to have credit to buy a car and/or a house someday and then what? Pay 35 percent interest??
Me makes 3!
Hope you don't mind another neighbor hopping into this string. Finally saw someone close to my area and it made me smile. I'm originally from near Hershey, but relocated to close to Altoona this past January. It's not quite as close to Pittsburgh as you all, but it was close enough for me to want to say hi! Felt good to see a post from "my region" ... feel like I'm all alone in this MT world sometimes LOL
Makes me wonder if he
is gay or something. This is really weird!
And that makes it okay?
He's an elected official; he is held to much higher standards than the general public. That attitude is why the exploitation of women is so accepted in our sick and twisted society...geez!
My ex makes a lot more $$ than me so
he pays 75% of expenses, I pay 25%.
Makes me think of someone I know.....ME!!! lol!
Thanks......that was a good laugh.....
too familiar!
Sneaser
Makes me wonder...
if the delivery person gets this surcharge or the company keeps it.
That makes 2 of us!
Me too! - that makes three of us.
I did get married outdoors at a location of a famous movie though!
OH, THAT MAKES ME SO MAD!! My
ex-husband would literally refuse to let them in, no matter how they tried to push in front of us.
That just makes me ill
Talk about milking the system for every little penny they can get. Seven kids and ANOTHER on the way! What a bunch of scum! Get a real job and stop reproducing!
That just makes me ill
Talk about milking the system for every penny you can get! There are many people out there who actually NEED that kind of help and can't get it! These scum bangs need to stop having so many kids just so they can sit at home being lazy and not get an actual job while our tax dollars pay for them being so irresponsible!
Whenever she makes a comment that you
suspect is made as a dig, try smiling pleasantly and saying, "What?" and waiting for a reply. If she is trying to be mean and trying to slip it by everybody else, she may not be willing to explain what she meant. If you do it every time, not quite hearing or understanding those comments, you will tire her out because her zing didn't hit.
Oh, well THAT makes it so, huh?! Look, CHRIST is
I don't hate Santa. But this business of "thank God for Santa" is utter sacrilege.
I'm tired of hearing how Santa is what keeps everything good and the hope alive. BULL.
Christ. Remember that name. Christ.
All of you who are ga-ga over the commercialization business of Christmas -- that is nauseating, it is sacrilegious and it flies in the face of God.
Pathetic.
Thanks - makes me wish my kids were little again.
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it actually makes no sense
to sell a sound, healthy horse at auction for a fraction of the price that can be sold outright. If the horse is too slow to race ont the track they can and are used in other disciplines. Its hard to believe that practice is widespread. When a horse finds its way to auction there are other underlying reasons..
OMG that makes me SO homesick.
I don't like her, but this makes sense to me.
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