Does my granddaughter count? nm
Posted By: Mimi on 2007-02-14
In Reply to: Who is Valentineless today? Not upset or anything, just asking - Kokopoo
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My granddaughter is only 2-1/2, but I already
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Tell me some about your granddaughter,
please.
Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
to raising my granddaughter
Thank you for all the information. I may email you as this thing goes along. What a mess for the kids. I wish the mom would get some help, but she is perfectly happy in the drug world and doesn't see a thing wrong with it. Thanks again for the info.
Well, have a granddaughter, similar situation
never hear from her, in same town, no calls, no visits. She graduated high school this year- I got invite - did not go, my gift nada. Why should I put myself out if others don’t seem to care about me??
Young Frankstein is my granddaughter's
favorite movie of all time!
When I adopt my granddaughter in a couple of years
it is not going to make a difference to her dad - he could care less about her (literally). With my daughter, though, our relationship is already nonexistent so I don't think it could get any worse when I change her daughter's last name to my maiden name. She is more upset that the child has become accustomed to me being the one "playing" momma and calls me that sometimes. I don't refer to myself as "mamma" to my GD, but she choses it to use it from time to time. My daughter thinks she can spit out a kid, walk away from it, and still take all the credit for success at potty training, dance recitals, the child's extensive vocabulary...all the while not visiting, only calling once every few months, not paying court-ordered child support, send presents on special occasions...
A name is just a name. My 4 yo GD told my daughter she was going to call her "sissy" now instead of "momma." My daughter started crying and the child said, "don't cry. We'll find a way for all of us to be together somehow." Out of the mouths of babes. Think my daughter actually heard the child was saying she wanted all 3 of us to have a relationship? Nope. Too wrapped up in herself to listen.
I think people overreact to names. I think it is the relationship that counts, and if the family of Heartbroken doesn't see that, it is the child's loss and that is who I feel sorry for.
3 yo granddaughter got super-glue in hair,
at her other grandma's house. Is there any way you know of to get this out and same from cutting her beautiful hair off ?? thanks.
Used to do the seatbelt thing, too, till 4 yr old granddaughter told me "Nana, we don't take o
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Count me in!!
But sad to say I will be out of end of the business by the time (if) he makes this film....
DEFINITELY - count me in too....!!
Ok, does it count if
I was given some property FREE and then sold for 150,000? That was all profit or would that be cheating?
Can't they cut off his leg and count the rings???
asdf
don't count on Emeril being there in MS *LOL*
Miami Beach (South Beach) or even the one in Orlando or New Orleans - but I doubt he's at the one in MS at the moment.....
BUT ENJOY!!! He's terrific!!!
Count yourself among the lucky few . . .
I don't like to generalize and know that not all men are like that, but IMO she really hit the nail on the head here, and in quite a humorous way, I might add!! I really enjoyed reading her post, but should be on the comedy board . . . LOL!!
BTW, kudos to you and enjoy that man of yours. You really are a lucky one! :)
just life - because I count everything
and when traveling I see things I would never see - like roadrunners and scissor tailed flycatchers in Texas when I was younger. I have regular nuthatches but this really caught my eye and I had to look him up. I have wrens also - always a vocal presence in my yard year round. Just saw a downy woodpecker - have not seen a pileated for years but my wasbund has them in his yard. Chickadees and titmice my favorites this time of year.
Count my butt in too!
I'm in Iowa and it's hard to find atheists who will come out of the closet here.
I would not count on it having come a long way
rather aged quite a bit, sorta frayed around the edges. I enjoyed some of the music entertainment that was there though would not consider going again. One time was enough for me.
Does first grade count? It meant so much to me - LOL
Doug kissed me in first grade and then ignored me forever after that.
Tilden in 5th grade - he picked me to be his square dancing partner.
Lyle in 6th grade - had all the makings of an abusive husband, but didn't realize it at the time.
Tilden again in 7th grade - didn't last too long.
Had a HUGE nonreciprocated crush on Dan in 9th grade.
Bill in 10th grade - he was a Sr. so got to go to prom.
Dumped him for Chuck not long after prom.
Met Tom at church camp that summer - long distance thing.
Tim when I was a junior, who introduced me to his friend, Jerre, who ended up being my husband till this day.
That was fun!
I talked to a pet psychic once. Does that count? LOL
Seriously, she was supposedly a well known and well respected pet psychic. My dog was elderly and in poor health. I'd adopted her at 10-11 years of age, and now it was 5 yrs later. Her owner was not entirely honest with me about her background, so I was curious about that, and her current state of health.
I saw her flyer at a Pet Expo, so I gave her a call. I took notes about what she said. Some of it was accurate (if obvious/generic), and the rest was... well, I wouldn't say *wildly* off base, but it wasn't accurate and/or I didn't believe it. I don't believe she had any kind of gift, though it was an intersting conversation and she was very professional.
I do think some (very few) people do have abilities in this area that most of us don't have, but I also believe most 'psychics' are full of it and just do it for the money. I've never wanted to see a 'people' psychic, and I wouldn't try a pet psychic again either. JMO.
I'd count him out, and file the winnings.
As they say: you snooze, you lose. Boy, what a bunch of characters there though. LOL
Count your blessings and stop...
the complaining. Like previous posts have stated, at least your daughter calls you. You should be glad to have a daughter who thinks enough of you to call you and cares enough to ask if you are upset. It may annoy you now, but what will you do when she stops or isn't there to call any more?
Yes, you can "take care of you" and let this be "your time," but your kids will always be your kids. You can take care of you and still have time to pick up the phone or return a phone call.
My father used to tell the same stories over and over again. Did I always like hearing the same stories? Of course not. But you know what.....I've give anything to hear one of those stories from my dad's lips again but I can't because he passed away last year. The things that annoy us today may be the very thing that we miss later. We just don't stop and take the time to be thankful for what we do have.
Be thankful that you have money and are content with your life. Be thankful that your daughter still cares enough to call. When you count your blessings and focus on the good things, petty things like this won't get you so upset.
If I were his GF, he could count his remaining days
And note: I'll bet if he'd done it to a DOG, he'd have been convicted. For some reason, society (especially men) seem to put little to no value on the life of a cat.
Well, after hearing that story, I put no value whatsoever on HIS life.
Kids rarely help, don't count on it sm
If you have girls - maybe - but if you have boys the DIL usually hates your guts and it's not her fault, she was "trained" by her own mom and the "his mother" label gets placed. You can try everything, not complaining, helping them financially, buying her special cards and gifts, you'll still be "his mother" and you will get nothing but venom. Be prepared for it, most MIL's with boys are going through this. The son is not even allowed to call unless she's out of the house. So be prepared to take care of yourself for as long as you can, prepare financially, prepare your home, but most of all, prepare your central nervous system for total rejection. Learn to rise above, suit up, shut up and show up. Most of all smile and nod a lot.
None anymore. No wait. Let me count!
I was so busy working that most of my friends gave up and I can't blame them. My closest dearest friend of 30-some years died 2 years ago. We only kept in touch by phone in the past 5 years prior to her death.
I have 2 internet friends, one the wife of my boy friend (not boyfriend) from elementary school and one who shares genealogy family with me. He was the brother I never had.
Oh, and my husband. We've been best friends for 40 some years.
Don't count on getting it back. Sad, but it happens all they time. Look out for the girl sm
wearing that distinctive jacket. And inform you child to bring her stuff home with her. She learns a valuable lesson here.
whoops-I meant 12 years ago.....I CAN count..lol
But nothing is so much nicer than at minimum of an 800 thread count. sm
You can find those at Ross' for around 50 bucks a set for queen! :)
Target has 400-thread count for $39.95 per sheet
Do the Disney Chanel and Nickelodeon count - sm
![Roll](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_1_21.gif") I have a 3-year-old and yeah some days the TV is what I use to get some work done. It is only scary when I am humming the preschool tunes when I am alone in the car..... ![Star](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_8_7.gif")
The physician errors too numerous to count
I wish I knew why people don’t listen- could probably make millions if I found out. I went to have CT scan done 1 day - before having it done I said now that is for so and so- nope, that is not what the order read- read for another part of the body. I then asked them to call the doctors office to verify the part to be xrayed. I cannot help these igits that work out here now. I changed my regular physician because of poor doctoring. I NEVER EVER SAID anything about soft stools. Where he got that from who in the he.... knows? I said she was THROWING UP. Thank goodness not huge mistake there as I did not give her the Imodium but 2 times, otherwise she would have the runs from each end.
Do sleep deprivation hallucinations count? - sm
Somewhere on Interstate 8 between Yuma and Tucson,about 3 a.m.
Driving along and all of the sudden I see what I think is a giant jack rabbit/moose walking on the side of the road on a leash held by a big crooked man.
heeheehee Don't know what the jackrabbit/moose thing was but the "man" was a cactus.
At that point it was decided that we had maxed out the benefit of the Java Monster Mochas and took a short snooze at the next rest stop.
Still have good laughs over that one tho.
Increase your line count by chewing gum!
I have tried this off and on for a few months and every time I chew gum all day my line counts go up. For some reason they say spearmint is the best. I find that it increases my focus and keeps me alert and helps me type faster!!
Current studies are looking into three areas of potential benefits, the company says:
• Stress management: What's behind the common practice of chewing gum to relieve tension? Wrigley cites research showing that it stimulates certain areas of the brain, but wants to go further. "Consumers tell us they use it for that, and yet we don't understand how that comes about," Kumar said.
• Weight management: As a 5- to 10-calorie substitute for a high-calorie snack, gum could obviously reduce caloric intake. But does it help suppress appetite? "It's not that chewing gum has any particular magic, but it can be a useful behavior modification pill," said Gilbert Leveille, executive director of the Wrigley Science Institute, which held its inaugural meeting in Chicago in December.
• Cognition and focus: Is gum-chewing a way to increase focus, concentration and alertness? Wrigley points to studies that show that it increases blood flow to the brain but would like to see it linked definitively to higher concentration levels.
God bless ya! I can always count on my computer savy co-workers SM
for answers! Thanks again. I had that terrible question rolling around in my head all day and worrying myself to death. 
This will be a lesson well learned in the future.
I just keep checking my line count and adding up my money. Great job.
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No, but I hate my lying, stealing, sociopathic brother. Does that count? NM
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