Doctor says to lawyer
Posted By: Trivia/Riddle on 2007-04-02
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We were born on the same year, month, day, and minute. We were born in the same hospital, hospital room and we have the same 2 parents. We are not twins and we have no brothers. Explain this.
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What's your lawyer doing
If you're separated, why aren't you and the kids in the family residence, or why isn't your ex forking over child support and alimony so you can afford your own place?
Check with welfare, Medicaid and children's services in your town to see what programs you're eligible for.
If its untenable to reside with your parents, go to a shelter until you resolve the money issues and then get your own place.
Save yourself. Light a fire under that lawyer and be more pro-active. Take charge, it you can't do it for yourself, find the strength to do it for your kid's future.
Might need to consider another lawyer
My BIL turned down for disability before, got another lawyer and it made all the difference in the world and he got his disability after being turned down before a judge. Is this lawyer strictly in the disability field or could you perhaps get a second opinion. It would not hurt to try.
I'm not a lawyer yet but...
If that bill really was first incurred in 1987 (!!!!!) there is no way on earth that it should be collectable from ANYBODY, let alone the minor child at the time!
That said, most states have a statute of limitations. Most states (you never said which state you're in, so I can't look up that state's regulations) start counting a statute of limitations from when the most recent payment was made on the account. So if your parents stopped making payments on the bill in 1999, then in a state with a 6-year statute of limitations (SOL), then legally the hospital or any secondary debt collectors cannot take legal action to collect the debt after 2005.
Now....
Not being able to take legal action to collect the debt does NOT mean that they can't try to weasel it out of you through guilt or intimidation. But they don't have a legal leg to stand on to enforce anything once the SOL has run out.
So...
They never should have gone after YOU no matter what.
And they never should have even had it in their records from 6 years after your parents last made a payment on it.
Like somebody else said - tell them to pound sand! LOL!
The lawyer and the money
Well, it seems kinda funny that shortly after her court case was settled her son died. Then, she had the committment ceremony with the sleazy lawyer. Now, a few months later she dies? Wonder who her beneficiary is. It could shed some light on the events surrounding her and her son's deaths. I wouldn't say it's all about the money, but it does seem suspicious. I still wouldn't be surprised if it winds up just being a drug overdose though.
Which one? The lawyer or radio DJ..nm
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I'd get a lawyer ASAP and have those
before he spends it all on the other woman or hides it offshore. No way would I let my half go with him and that other woman. I know this may sound a little harsh, but your mom needs to wake up and do something now before it's too late.
She told her lawyer...sm
That he wouldn't get out because he said he didn't have to until the divorce was final and she can't make him leave until then which is next week. The lawyer can and will make him get out. Her lawyer is very crude and ruthless. She hates to go through all of that though. She wants him to peacefully leave. When the divorce is final she could call the sheriff's dept. and they could make him leave but she really said this would hurt her so to have to do that. It is hard enough without all that.
Mama has told him go live with the other woman. I don't think the other woman wants him there. See she is just using him because daddy has it bad for her and she uses it to her advantage to get anything she wants from him. To tell you the extent, he had around $70,000 cash in the bank less than a year ago and it is gone. My mama has seen the other woman's mame signed where she goes to his bank and everything and is allowed to get cash out. So she is just using my daddy for money and he knows this but he has it so bad for her he lets her do it. He is now broke and has no more money or not much anyway. This woman has broke him but it is his own fault for letting her. He should be smarter than that. She doesn't want him living with her I don't think or he would. I don't know. But my mom says if you hadn't gave her all your money you would have money to find a place to live. She says not her problem. Which is true.
Talk to a lawyer first - sm
I had the exact situation listed here above, house in DH name, family 4 hours away, no money, etc. In my state, VA, it is a equiable distribution state, meaning they divide it fairly, it is not an automatic 50/50 they take in each persons contributions, etc. So in my case the house would have been 40% mine as he put down the 20% on the house from the sale of his house. Our debt would have probably held where it was about 55% mine versus 45% his, or actually I might have ended up with more as my name was listed as a user on one of his accounts and I did deceive him. In my case, I was hoping he would leave, go live with his brother in MD or rent the apt. next door (neighbor has a vacant apt. over garage, tenant just died), but he would not have done it willingly. Even now after we have worked through everything, he said the other day if I screwed it up again he was taking the kids to his parents, leaving me, and would burn the house down so I got nothing. Sweet. (then again he'd be in jail and I would have the kids and the insurance money if there was any--doubtful since it would be arson). Like I said it has not been all roses but it is going well for the most part. In my case I am glad it was not the end of my marriage though I thought it would be; I talked to a lawyer in anticipation , $160 for 45 mintues, but well worth it.
Yes, get a divorce lawyer - sm
I talked to one before I confessed to my DH about the debt he knew nothing about ($88K) figuring my marriage would be over. In the event of a divorce I would have walked away with no debt, no home, but enough leftover to either buy a house with a good downpayment, or rent and be able to afford it for quite a while. I know my DH would have tried to get the kids too but I don't think he would have "won" despite my deception about the debt. I do everything for my kids, he does nothing except make dinner a couple times a week and takes them to the movies or skating every 3-4 weeks, that is it. I never got so low as to open cards in his name, and I am thankful I never sunk to that level though it did cross my mind once or twice I knew it was horribly wrong. I suspect he just filled out them in your name, maybe even on line, and then transfered his debt to yours, possibly putting himself as a user on the account, but even w/o doing that he could still transfer his debt to "your card", I know, I would transfer debt off my husband's cards onto mine so his credit would stay pristine, and so he would not find out. I would inform the companies that you did not open the accounts, have a fraud investigation started. As for telling him about the debt, since you are already heading for divorce, I would not tell him a thing, let the lawyers figure it out. They will do a list of assets and debts and figure it all out in the settlement. He can find out then. Run a credit report on yourself and find out how many cards he opened up in your name, and call each one, or better yet talk to a lawyer first and see what they have to say on the matter. I know my mess was/is bad but very thankful my DH ended up to be forgiving enough or just too lazy to go thru another divorce (I am his 2nd wife), and/or did not want to put the kids thru that. But the sooner you get the ball rolling and start taking care of things the better you will feel, I know, I feel so much better now. You kids will be happier too. Do not stay for the kids or keeping a stable home, etc. If you are miserable, then they are too and it is a horrible example for them. In my case a miracle happened and things are better than they have been in a long time, but it sounds like your case is terminal. I wish you the best of luck.
She needs to talk to a lawyer before doing - sm
anything. Before I confessed to my DH about our debt back in Oct./Nov., cannot even remember when now, I talked to a lawyer as I wanted to know what my rights were and where I would stand in the event of a divorce. She was quite clear about not taking the kids out of the state. Once your friend has a custody agreement in place then maybe, obviously the lawyer and courthouse clerk could best advise her on that, but there are a lot of things that need to be done prior to that or he can call the cops, etc. He sounds like a primo A-hole. She needs to move fast before they lose their house though.
CPS does tell if lawyer gets involved. have had every detail given to me before sm
when they were called in me for my kids riding their bikes in the neighborhood streets like every kid in the neighborhood did. we hired lawyer, refused the one on one investigation at school with the kids, and had the "meeting" at the laywers office. never allowed them in our home, but our lawyer got every detail of the report, which was passed onto us. we had the date, the name of the person who called, their address, everything.
You can probably make-up a date to see a lawyer
because marriage is based on truth. Just tell him you are done! End of story. If he catches you in a lie, that could spell trouble. JMO. 
Time for a call to a lawyer.
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Take this to a lawyer. Fight for him. This cannot be legal.
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I did talk to a lawyer too before I dropped - sm
the bomb on my DH as I wanted to know where I stood. I live in a state where they do an equitable disbursement of the marital goods, assets, etc. I would have a 40% stake in the house, entitled to about $100K in his 401K (1/2 of its growth since we married), 1/2 of assets we purchased together. Though a judge would deem what it fair, either way I would walk away debt-free though I would not have a home if we sold everything. He told me in one of his pissy moments that if we lose the house (which there is no danger of) he is moving in with his parents with the kids and I am on my own. What he does not realize that no judge would give him custody (has depression , threatened suicide, etc) and the kids would want to be with me. He has a temper too that gets the better of him too much and he is an alcoholic as well. So if a judge gave him custody I would be totally shocked. I am relatively healthy though overweight by 70 pounds, drink a glass of wine 5 days a week maybe (that is it--he drinks 9-12 beers a day --every day--- though he has cut down to 9 since the 13th for which I am happy for though I'd rather he quit altogether---But good thing to find out where you would stand in a divorce and what you would need to do in terms of custody if push came to shove.
probably call a lawyer dont you think?
Maybe she could see a counselor herself and see if they could help her to make the decision or at least scoot her in the right direction about what she needs to do or who to talk to.
That's too bad of a situation... wish her the best
Go talk to a lawyer pronto - sm
I did this before I confessed to my DH about our debt issues back in October as our house is in his name only as is the mortgage, and wanted to know where I stood with my "share" of our assets. If it was bought after you married, as ours was, then it is maritial property. The division is not 50/50 unless you both contributed equally to the downpayment, in my case he used the money from the sale of our (his) former house that he had before we married. So my share would be something like 40%. Our two cars are in both our names, except our boat and utility trailer, those are his which is just fine with me. I also have no money, but he (we) has a very nice 401K (still by some miracle), of which I would be entitled 50% of the earnings in the time period of our marriage. But basically regardless of whose name is on what it is maritial property as long as you lived in it together and you contributed to the household in some way whether it is paying all the bills, or some, or staying home to take care of the kids, it is a contribution. They figure out all the percentages, etc. I would not leave the home though, he will say you left the marriage, etc. Call around, see if you can get a free consult or a discounted consult. I think I paid $160 for my 45 minute phone call but I felt much better for doing so. Luckily I did not end up needing the lawyer, but I was ready to do so if necessary. Good Luck.
,,,use your support system, and find a lawyer who
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I'd tell him to save HIS money for a divorce lawyer sm
He seems kind of rude to me. No way my hubby would dictate to me like that. He knows I would show him the door
Machine of my choice - divorce lawyer
I couldn't live like that. Besides the awful stench and the health hazards, I wouldn't stand for his lack of respect for me.
Call lawyer! Nobody here is atty. Consultation will
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Good point, I will be contacting a lawyer - sm
to get their input, though I wil probably do the filing solo so I save money, only about $300 if I do it myself. Just need to get info and follow the rules.
Oh sorry. I thought he was a lawyer and the other two guys' father was judge. sm
My bad, but either way daddy can get him out of it.
Good luck but I doubt you will find a lawyer sm
First of all, I am glad that your sister knows the truth and is not dying. Unfortunately I know from experience what it is like for a loved one to be given a misdiagnosis death sentence. My father-in-law went in the hospital almost 2 years ago with trouble swallowing and ended up getting referred to an ENT that sent him over to a neurologist. He did an EMG/NCS on his tongue, said he had ALS, and to prepare within 6 months to make a decision on being on a ventilator or being DNR. He had to quit working early & be fed through a PEG for over a year, during which time I took him to a different neurologist, a specialist in motor neuron diseases, who said that EMGs performed on the tongue are unreliable and that he had no evidence of ALS at all. Basically what had happened is that his vocal cord was not working properly, and the ENT said it was paralyzed, which is was not. Because the first neurologist just assumed the ENT was correct, he made the diagnosis. I tried calling a few lawyers for the pain and suffering aspect, but unless you want to try through civil court, there is no malpractice involved because there was no permanent physical damage done. They're lucky he didn't follow through with the suicidal thoughts he was having when he was first told all of this bullcr@p.
My doctor said NO WAY
I asked about this for my 15-year-old daughter since it's hyped to be so great. He told me unless she is sexually active and at risk for STDs, he would NOT advise it. He said it is not needed routinely unless the girl has "at risk" behavior and they are not including this in the information about the medicine because that wouldn't be "politically correct." Also, it is not to be given after age 17.
My doctor says....sm
that as long as your periods are staying regular and the way they've always been then you're not "too old" to conceive. As far as the risks go, if you do research you'll see that it's more and more common for women in their 30-40s to have babies without problems. For the Down's Syndrome risk, if you average the # of women having babies at different ages the risks are the same across the board. My OB/GYN gave us this info and we confirmed it by doing research.
See your doctor please.
It doesn't pay to put it off. Whatever it is may need rest. Hope you don't need surgery. Not at all sure if it's carpal tunnel or what, but that's the doc's job.
my doctor put me on
Prempro. Makes me happy and I sleep well.
Definitely go to the doctor
You can't tell if it's broken without x-raying it, and even if it isn't broken, sometimes injuries to tendons and ligaments can take even longer to heal than a fracture. But first you have to find out exactly what is wrong. Then your doctor can determine how it needs to be treated.
umm not a doctor - go see one...
My advice is to go see a doctor.......hope you feel better soon!
Definitely see your doctor - and
Try alternating the foot you use on the foot pedal. It is hard to get used to at first, but it can be done. It's not good to hold one leg in the same position for such long periods of time.
You have to go to the doctor - right away! (sm)
You could have pancreatitis or some type of hepatitis or a number of other things. You need to go right away. You are like me - I always try to figure it out before I go - but if the pain is that bad, you need to go ASAP!
Just took my son to the doctor and
My son went to a hands-on medical conference for high schoolers this summer. I took him to the dermatologist this morning and we saw a PA that we had never seen before. In the car my son listed all the things the PA did wrong. He never introduced himself, after he gave his plan on what to do he did not ask us to repeat it back to him to make sure we understood exactly what he wanted us to do, and he did not end with "Do you have any questions?". He was almost out the door before I could mention a mole that we wanted him to look at on my son. We then went to the hospital for bloodwork and on check-in the we were asked the doctor's name becuase she couldn't read his signature and I had to say I didn't know. Too Funny!!!
Get a new doctor.
If I were you I would definitely find a new doctor. Going through menopause doesn't mean that all of your problems will be solved. I had my hysterectomy over 7 years ago and it was the best thing I ever could have done for myself. Six months later my doctor did my sister. We both had adenomyosis.
He definitely should see a doctor.
I agree with the above poster. It could be some sort of psychological disorder that is somehow being exacerbated or could be new. He really should get checked out by a doctor to get an idea of what is going on. He may need medication. Good luck!
She needs to go to the doctor now (sm)
Earaches are very painful and if her eardrum ruptures she could have hearing loss. You need to get her to the doc and get antibiotics today, not tomorrow. I had them as a child - they are horrendous!!
Maybe she had a doctor's
appointment too and needed a pair undies.....so she took yours. What a shame, 15 years with you..consider yourself lucky she has taken such meaningless things!! You should be ashamed of yourself to react in such a way. It's ONLY a pair of underwear and I am sure they are not 24 carat gold!!
As an MT seeing a doctor
Can anyone offer me some advice? I've had stomach problems ever since I had my gallbladder out. First doctor said I was too young to have anything wrong (was 29 then), it was probably just stress resulting in acid reflux and IBS. But nothing worked. Got 2 doctors telling outright falsehoods because I'm an MT and let's face it folks, we are in the health care field. I finally gave up entirely after about 6 doctors. Actually told one that I was fed up and frustrated and said I work as an MT do you know what that means? He said, yeah it means you know too much about medicine. EXCUSE ME???!!!! Can anyone offer some advice as to how to handle doctors given that the ones I've seen seem to have no respect for our knowledge as MTs? And if anyone is in the Daytona Beach area, can you suggest a PCP?
No, ask your doctor.
It's a proven medical fact that most people on Depo gain weight. It's hormonal. If you didn't that's great, but that doesn't give you the right to judge the people who did. All hormone-altering meds have the potential to make you gain weight, and Depo is one of the worst. It has some great benefits, but bottom line is MANY, MANY people gain weight while on it.
You may want to see a doctor if you
haven't already. I had tinea versicolor many years ago. My experience was that I noticed the pigment of my skin was changing - having the usual color with sort of white spots all over. The doctor told me it is a fungal infection. I never had problems with irritation, burning or itching, just the loss of pigment. He gave me a body wash that I had to use 3 X a week. You apply it to the body and then wait for 20 minutes and then take a shower. It took close to a year to get rid of it. Although I am not a doctor, it doesn't sound like tinea versicolor but more like an allergic reaction to the wire of the bra. I would see a doctor to find out exactly what it is.
your doctor
Sounds like a schmuck. I hate it when a mean doctor bullies me and makes me cry. Go to free clinic. They don't have time to mess with your head and it will be "just the facts" and they will shove you out the door if nothing is wrong with you.
Sounds like this guy is bored.
What doctor does DH need to see?
For quite a while he has been having trouble with his left eye. He says every morning between the 9-10:00, his left eye gets "wavy". If he closes his left eye, he can see perfectly. If he closes his right eye, he can see perfectly, but if he has both open, the left eye is "wavy".
The other day when it happened, he said it was worse. He could barely see at all at of that eye, like someone dropped a cloth in front of his eye.
He saw his cardiologist and the cardiologist said to see his ophthalmologist. He went to the ophthalmologist and the ophthalmologist said to see his cardiologist, that it wasn't an eye problem. He said it could be low blood pressure (he's on Toprol), but DH is always sitting in his truck when this happens, not standing up suddenly or doing anything else that would cause a sudden low blood pressure.
Now, here's the really funny thing: He's allowed to have 2 beers a day. The other day, he had 8(!!!) because he was celebrating not having to pay the IRS for the first time since 2006. The next day, no problem with his eye!
It's really weird and we're both at a loss as to who to see or what to do. Any ideas?
doctor to see
I have a very good friend who is (was) on Coumadin. She had bleeding behind the eye and sometimes laser helps. However, her cardiologist took her off the Coumadin. He told her he would rather she have a stroke than go blind. (Don't mean to scare you, just the facts). I would see the best ophthalmologist I could find. There are even neurologic ophthalmologists and probably other specialties as well. Good luck.
P.S. The doctor did take me over to look
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Jerk doctor
Even with the shot you can still get chickenpox. Hopefully he gets through it okay without any complications. *hugs*
Doctor funny
Just thought Id share this:
Doctor said patient had no basil crackers in the lungs! I hope not, could set up a good infection!
Ortho doctor
 I spent two years of my MT life typing for ortho doctors and I have never typed a letter like that. I would call the doctor, as the other MT suggested, and see where the conversation takes you! Good luck!
Just went to the doctor, trying to work and
so severe yesterday I could hardly stand. For anyone out there who thinks this is all in your head, believe me I never knew I had it until a rheumatologist tried to run their fingers up my spine when I left the table. The PA tells me they are using ole timey antidepressants to treat this now, not that you have depression but they found it seems to work good for this and also some antiinflammatories. What is bad is you cannot really get a big hug because just a touch on my arm by the office this morning made me recoil. I have 2 antidepressants, if 1 does not work good enough they said to try the other. I was in pure agony last night, even a class A narcotic would not alleviate this pain, goes all the way through from skin to the bone. I hope this gives some relief.
Your doctor says this, but you are the parent
and you are going on the theory that she will not become sexually active nor show up with sexually transmitted diseases up to the age of 17. That is your responsibility, not the physicians to choose or not. There are a lot of girls sexually active way before 17 What makes you think your daughter is different?
Definitely check with an OB doctor
I am 39 now and can not imagine having a baby, my kids are 16 and 14. But if you are in good shape and this is what you want then go for it. By having a healthy lifestyle more people are living longer and many women are having babies in their early 40s.
Doctor says: You have a rash.
Well, duh!!!!
The doctor has no idea what is causing the horribly itchy red welts and bumps my husband has. We've established that they aren't caused by bedbugs, but other than that, no clue. So the doc gave him a steroid shot and a prescription for prednisone and told him not to do yard work for a week.
That's great if it helps clear up this episode, but if we can't figure out what is causing it, how can we prevent it from happening again??
So back to square one....
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