Do you LOVE your husband? Want to spend your golden years with him?? Drop this fantasy at
Posted By: least until you're single again due to death or on 2007-02-15
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Love the pic. My golden who died 2
months ago LOVED the snow and would always run out in the yard, stick his whole head in and then do a slow dive and wiggle around in it. Thanks for the great memory.
no, I have to say that came from Tim O'Leary and his drop acid tune in, turn on and drop out ment
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In Montana and just me and husband spend $400 a month..nm
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You are right, for a woman to spend all her years
just raising her family and making a home, she probably would get more than us working people. I still would go for the jugular.
Today is my 1st weddding anniversary and my husband didn't spend time with me.?
Today is my 1st wedding anniversary! My husband woke up and went outside and spent all day working on his truck until it was time for him to go work. It has really hurt my feelings. Should I be worried that he may not be satisfied with being married to me?
No - my golden's name is Roxy the golden retriever. nm
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My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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Because my husband did it once many years ago and has
never done it again. Decided it wasn't worth losing his family over. That was 26 years ago and we've both done a lot of growing up since then. 
My husband has been doing it for about 5 years!
I don't know that much about it, but he has gotten a ton of free gifts from doing it!
my husband had them a few years ago
He was in a lot of pain. Had to keep them covered at all times because we have small children who have not chickenpox yet. He took Vicodin like they were candy. He couldn't sleep, couldn't get comfortable even sitting. He has them front and back on the same side. They usually do not cross over. If you work with food, make sure you wear gloves to avoid contamination, especially if you are cooking for more than yourself. Good luck. I hope they heal quickly and that you have minimal pain. I will keep you in my prayers.
It was a dream/fantasy. sm
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed. I guess it was her way of getting some closure. I hope that clears it up for you. 
Fantasy World
Sadgirl - take a look at your own name for clue #1.
Your problem is not being able to continue this "relationship", but rather that you have focused, fixated and obsessed on the unattainable. It's "safe" because in your head you know you can never be with him but in your heart you can romanticize about something that is not even reality. You need to start figuring out why you are doing that.
You say he treats you wonderfully. Yeah, in YOUR head he does. Here's a married man carrying on conversations with you that he now wants to keep out of his wife's view with your help. He knows it's wrong, why don't you? He's prominent in the community? What would you do if your written e-mail exchanges were ever to be made public? E-mails are forever and you have already jeopardized your reputation as well as your child's reputation. His wife knows about your "innocent" e-mail exchanges - what's to stop her from printing them out? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and you have a big bull's eye on your butt.
He's saying you will be OK after he retires, yet he keeps stringing you along with no regard for your emotional well-being. He keeps you at a safe distance. You don't see something so very wrong with that? You need to step back and look at this from the outside. He is exhibiting no moral or ethical character by communicating with you knowing how you feel about him. He's getting a big ego trip off you, the younger woman, and the attention you give him. Ever wonder if there are others he "chats" with that are like you? You think this is the man of your dreams? When you make the mental list out of qualities and characteristics you want in a guy, this Bozo fits the bill?
Is this something you will proudly be telling your child about some day?
You need to ask yourself some pretty hard questions regarding why you think this is OK. Is sounds like your self-esteem has hit rock bottom and you need to find out why.
I truly hope you can find the strength within you to stop all communication with this man. What a slippery slope you are on. You know it is the right thing to do to stop all this, or you wouldn't have written your post here in a public forum. Absolutely nothing good can or will come out of this "relationship" with Mr. Ego/Married Man.
Husband should have put a stop to this years ago.
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Husband had affair 13-14 years ago
It was with a co-worker. He told me about it in the fall 1993. He moved out. A couple of months later he moved back home and said it was over. Our kids were young then, 6 and 9, and the holidays were coming up which is probably why he moved back. Fast forward to the fall 1994. He comes out with that he never stopped seeing her, but now she was moving out of state and it really is over. In 1999, we moved to a different state (not the one she's in... I know where she went). Things seemed to be okay, at least the way they always have been. We even had a baby girl in late 2000. Husband switched jobs last year and I was finally getting around to cleaning out some boxes that he brought from the office. I found an envelope in there from the low life he cheated with with a Christmas card and some pictures postmarked 2006. The message said hope you and your family are fine. I finally found some pictures for you. I hope you like them, etc. They are mostly of her with her husband with family friends. I think it's her husband ... at least it was her husband's name back then I remember, because he had called me a couple of times back when it all went on.
Okay, so it's like 14 years after the fact. I thought it was something we had gotten past. The thing is, I had never seen what she looked like and now out of the blue I'm putting a face to the whole thing. Besides that it's bringing the whole thing back, the feelings, the betrayal, all of it, I'm also shocked that one or way another they have stayed in touch, even with us moving. Now I wonder again, is he really where he says he is when he's out?
Just wanted some opinions here. I'm just a mess right now and don't know whether to say anything or not.
Fantasy is always better than real life -
He is a stranger after all these years and nothing more. Stop lying to your husband and yourself. Be happy with what you already have and stop longing for what might be. Trust me on this. Went a similar route myself that nearly destroyed me and everyone in my path 8 years ago. I was very luck my husband forgave my temporary insanity!
Midnight shift husband for 18 years now......sm
It will get better....eventually. It took about 8 years for my hubby to realize I can't work midnights like him because we have two kids to raise.
Believe me, it is very difficult at times, but it does get better.
It might help if you have a calendar in full view for him to look at, so he knows what type of schedule you are on regarding work, kids activities, etc. Once he sees it in writing and realizes all the pressure that is on you, he may begin to understand.
Believe me, night shift is not easy for the marriage.
It takes great patience and understanding of both parties for it to succeed!
I sleep with my golden retriever at night now!
Kids have rich fantasy lives - sm
There is something of an art in preserving the kids' fantasies and pretend worlds and at the same time teach them about the real world. The poster mtmomof2 put it especially eloquently when she said she grew to understand the impossibility of Santa and it thus came as no shock to her. That was the way it was with me. As on of four kids, each of us kept up the pretense for the younger ones.
My own kids had even more proof - an accidental double exposure of our Christmas decorated living room with our son and a Santa on a float in a parade, which made it look like he was standing right behind our son. They are now 19 and 17, and plan on using that picture for their kids.
I never lied. I never said "Santa is real." There are lots of ways of perpetuating the fantasy without lying. My favorite was answering a question with a question - What do YOU think?, etc. My kids were quite sheltered and actually believed a long time - about age 10 or so, but never said they felt lied to or deceived. I think it's actually harmful to deprive kids of that kind of magic that only kids can feel while they're innocent and everything is possible. The realities of life will some soon enough!
Poll here- my husband is 10 years younger but would you date
someone who is about the same age as your child or have you ever? Watching Dr.. Phil today and seeing 38-year-old woman going with a friend of her sons who is 18. As for me until I married my husband, the only younger guy I had ever dated was only a year younger.
My husband and I love THEM...after
being married 29 years we really are into the weird oldie movies.. anything with a giant spider, grasshopper, space aliens, etc..I think each year we get stranger and stranger together!
I would love to, but my husband is in Iraq :(
no message.
Yes I do! Sadly, I love my husband
"out of duty" - he is my child's father. BUT I am in love with someone who I "want" to be with. He has been my best friend for 2 years - never had sex but we know everything about eachother and can talk about anything. We talk ALL day long on emails - not mushy stuff - just real talk. And we end them with "in another life" because we just know that it would be the only way for us to be together.
i love my electrolux, had it almost 15 years!
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After all these years, the love lights are
burning stronger than ever.
Been wearing Tova for 15 years and LOVE it!
I receive lots of compliments that I simply *smell good, * not *what perfume are you wearing?* Works for me!
I've had DirectV for years and love it. sm
AT&T recently offered me a free year of Dish, but I turned it down. I'm happy with DirecTV. Love my TiVO, too!
Is it polite to drop in on somebody
unexpectedly without calling? Our church is going through something right now, and we haven't been attending. So a couple dropped by our house one evening without calling. I was NOT ready for company. I'd been working all day and I don't have kids and I never get visitors. They barely know us. I was dying of embarrassment as they had their little visit, trying to get us to go back. DH had no choice since they were looking right in the window of the door that time. Well really it's my husband they think is great. I don't think they like me at all, despite the fact that I'm the one who was going every Sunday. I don't think they think I was involved enough, but there was one thing I was doing faithfully. DH was just going to please me and my mother, He actually has discouraged me from signing up to do things in case I embarrass him by being late or something. But it's him they call on the phone, trying to get us back.
It's not my fault when the big wigs in the church break some rules and cause trouble and make people look for another church. It's a free country. But just now while we were watching a movie somebody rang our bell. We were sitting just out of their sight, and we didn't get up. Do you know we have been assigned a Deacon who we have never even seen at church? He has sent us a couple of cards in the mail, but never introduced himself. We were told he sits in the balcony. A deacon in the balcony? Is he hiding? I chose this church because it is one DH is comfortable at, but then again they aren't exactly bringing me up to speed on what I need to know to get involved. It just seems like they are set up for people who have grown up in that kind of church and know what to do already. There are lots of other churches that have more structured new member plans where I think I won't feel so lost. But what to do about these unannounced visitors?
No, it looks fat as I am fat. I am trying to drop 70 pounds - sm
and dread the wrinkles that will most likely pop up; but I guess in order to get back to a healthy weight my face will have to pay the price. I will live with it.
If you heard me tell someone to drop it, you would
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Drop your cable TV
Ditch your cable or dish or whatever. Get yourself an antenna for on your roof, get your coupon for your converter box for the switch over to digital and voila. Free TV.
I have a golden too...
And they are the sweetest dogs in the world. I can't imagine anyone treating an animal that way. I hope they go to jail or, at the least, get fined big time. Makes me angry. I live in a part of California that is very hot in the summertime, and we let our dog get in the pool with us all she wants, but mostly I let her lie around inside all day when it's as hot as it is here today (107 degrees, yuck!).
You definitely did the right thing by calling the authorities. I would have wanted to take him in too, but I would have been worried like you about getting in trouble for it. Bless your heart. At least the poor dog isn't suffering anymore.
I disagree, it is bad manners to just drop in - sm
now if you have friends that you have that open door policy with fine, but most people prefer warning so they can do a quick house clean/pick up, or have the opportunity to say no, now is not a good time. My mom always taught me to (1) wait to be invited over to someone's house and not invite yourself over there, (2) call before visiting someone. I like to be called first since our house is usually messy and this allows me time to put things away and clean up some. At my one neighbor's friends in the summer people descend upon their house every Friday night, it is crazy, eat all their food and drink all their beer, she has had it. She doesn't mind now and then but this is a regular thing. She's a direct type of person too but she doesn't want to come off rude and tell them all to get lost either. We only go down when asked and we are pretty good friends probably because of it.
I sounds like you have a foot drop. Do you..
sit with your legs crossed a lot? That can cause peroneal nerve palsy, which causes the foot drop.
shop till you drop
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Use every last drop of dish soap...sm
I don't have a dishwasher so I have to use liquid soap. I never throw the bottle away because I can't squeeze anymore out. When I'm running my next dishwater, I run water in the bottle and use every last drop. The cap even has enough residue on it for 1 load. Same goes for shampoo and conditioner. Even laundry soap.
I'll often use shampoo for body wash. If you use Suave or VO5 it's usually only .99 a bottle and when it's on sale for less than that I'll buy a few bottles. It's a lot cheaper than bodywash.
I try to do errands and appointments on the same day. Mapped out right so I save gas.
Never buy infant, toddler, preschool kids clothes brand new. Buy at thrift, second hand stores or garage sales. They outgrow them faster than the bank statement arrives. They also tend to stain and ruin clothes pretty darn easily and quickly.
Awesome!! Normally it doesn't drop below 100
until February right? LOL... Enjoy!!!
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
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golden lab retriever?
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There were 5 Golden Girls
Sophia, of course!!!.....Wise-crackin' momma...she never missed a beat! It's all in the timing!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vlvmsDta67k
my golden retriever and me
I did not go anywhere for ten years because my golden retriever would have a nervous breakdown if she was away from the family. She bit a family member when we tried to let her sleep over at another person's house and she would not eat one bite at the kennel, threw up everyday, and fell apart.
THIS TIME, when we got a puppy we PRACTICED boarding. She would go for a couple of hours, I would pick her up, she would practice an overnight visit, and I would pick her up, practiced getting a bath at the kennel, etc.
We taught the first dog to not be able to live without us. We taught the new dog that sleepovers are not the end of the world. It is a really good skill for dogs to learn.
Alternatively, a LOT of hotels take pets!
'and drop out mentality' (got clipped above)
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1 Sheltie, 1 golden, 1 Brat Cat
Presently:
Crissie, bi blue Sheltie.
Jamie, golden
Kazie, AKA Brat Cat.
Just in the past year I lost:
Starting in March, 06 my 21-year-old kitty Dinger, then in July 10-year-old Taz Duh Golden (not too bright), 15 days later, B.J.'s a cat who absolutely loved Taz and I know mourned himself to death!, then in Feb 07, 'Stash a 15-year-old kitty.
Happily, I've had many grace my heart before this and are now waiting for me at the Bridge. Three are my absolute heart dogs....Jennifer and Tyde were goldens and Casie was a Sheltie/Shepard mix. I miss these little critters so much!
Which of the four Golden Girls do you most resemble and why? SM
I would say I am most like Dorothy. I give and get hurt, I love and am left, always trying to help my mother! I tell it like it is!!
Having just lost my golden retriever a
few short weeks ago, I can totally relate to how your are feeling. It never gets any easier to lose our fur babies. Hugs to you.
Golden Retriever and Rottweiler!! nm
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My golden gets hot spots in the summer sm
I shave the hair off around the hot spot and put Neosporin cream on it. Oh, and check your dogfood. We figured out he can only eat Purina Beneful or Pedigree. He devleoped many hot spots to Walmart brand and when we switched him back, the hot spots cleared right up. I keep his hair short and thinned out in the summer to help his skin get some air.
It's just as rude to assume everyone will want to drop everything to talk to you when you call. n
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Do any of your cats drop their toys in the water bowl?
It's the funniest thing with mine. When Lucky was a baby he'd drop his toys in the toilet and just have a blast trying to fish them out. Then he'd come jump up on the desk with me and shake his wet paws off. Lucky and Sofia both drop their toys in the water bowl. Sofia loooooooves those little fur mice. She will go to town chasing them around and then she drowns them either in the water bowl or the toilet. I have learned to check before I sit down on the potty - I think I've flushed more than one mouse away.
I have a Golden too - I hope that poor dog makes it.
It certainly didn't deserve to suffer like that. Thank God you took action and helped it. Keep us posted on its condition.
Meant - Lucy is my golden's name, not mine. nm
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Golden Globes - anyone watch last night
First time in a long time I agreed with most of the choices they picked for winners.
I was especially thrilled when whatever category someone from the HBO series "John Adams" was up for they won. What an excellent and superb series that was. I went and bought it when it came to DVD and I have watched it many many many times.
I was also equally thrilled that whatever Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie were affiliated with did not win anything. That really made my night. 
There were a couple Hollyweird people I lost what little respect I had for them. Glenn Close. When they announced the foreign winner (some Israel movie) they showed her face and you could tell she was very angry about that. And the other was Angelina Jolie. My DH had told me earlier yesterday that there was trouble because Angelina was stating something about Ann Hathaway "kissing her way into Hollywood" or something along those lines, and when they announced Anne's name for one of the awards they tuned in to Angelina's face and she gave Brad a look that I can't even describe, but it was obvious what she was thinking. 
Anyway.....loved the Globes last night.
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