Ditto, no desire, not in today's society/world!
Posted By: nm on 2007-01-30
In Reply to: That's why I won't have kids. - Hayseed
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The poster meant breastfeeding is primative in PUBLIC in our society today.
I agree with her. I don't have a problem with someone breastfeeding their baby, and I mean BABY, not toddler, but discretion should be used. That woman knew full well that she was going to be on a plane. She could have bottled her breast milk for her TODDLER instead of making others uncomfortable around her. It's the 20th century, not the dark ages, and not Ethiopia. And, this lawsuit crap only makes the mother look even more like a beatnik dingbat.
Maybe, but you are living proof that in today's world, -sm
you just never know. 'Once bitten, twice shy', and all that.
The scenario you describe may have been legit, but to me it sounds just TOOOOOO risky! Especially when there are more than one of them.
In these hard times, there are more robberies, muggings, carjackings, etc. than ever. Always be aware of your surroundings. Follow your gut instincts if you think something is not right as you walk to your car, and go back inside the store to ask for an escort. When you get in your car, don't dilly-dally - close the door and LOCK all your doors before you even put the key in the ignition.
They were old enough to know that women shouldn't give rides to strangers - period. They could have approached a man and asked him, or better yet, asked for bus fare money.
Women are best off only giving rides to people they know.
I am in the same boat. I have no desire to go to my in laws for sm
Christmas Eve and my husband is making us all go. It's the biggest fight every year. I am dreading it so much. I wish he would listen to me, but he won't. I don't see a long future for me and my husband. It's always his way or NO way. I should just say I am not going and not go, but IF I do that then Christmas morning will be miserable. He will take it out on me and the kids. I think he's just like them!
He pouted all day Thanksgiving because I refused to go to his mother's house where his siblings (the culprits) would be. The thing is this: They've never liked me. Never. It's been almost 10 years and everything is my fault. For a long time it scarred me, but then I realized that it wasn't me, it's them. And then to have my husband force me to be around this hateful, evil people is beyond understanding. I am NOT looking forward to Christmas eve. I swear, I just want to stay here (I've already celebrated with great friends and my family) and just want to enjoy Christmas eve and Christmas with people (my kids) whom I adore. But, it won't be that way when you have people in your lives (unfortunately) who are exactly the way you just described.
Ugggh. Not looking forward to this weekend. And to top it off, my birthday is Saturday. I told him that I wanted to NOT go to his mom's house for my birthday. That made him mad.
Oh, and don't tell me to put a smile on my face and be nice or put up with it. Until you walk a mile in my shoes where you have 3 sisters and 1 brother who think I am the antichrist, the last thing you can do is smile at these people....And I am a very kind and nice person. these people bring out the worst in me.
Absolutely NOT!! I have no desire to give...
my daughter a vaccination for a STD! Plus, from what I've read, it doesn't even protect against every type of HPV and she can still get cancer. And it's only been tested for a very short while and there may be long-term complications that we don't know about yet.
Even if I was to try to overcome my lack of desire for him (sm)
He did in one case admit to cheating with a girl he met while fishing from a pier in the Outer Banks. He then denied saying that, but of course he said it. I have children to raise. Should I expose myself to possible diseases? He still has not gone to get tested, so why should I give in to him?
If you are both mature and desire a child sm
I was immature for the first, thought I was mature ten years later for the second and now that I'm too old to have one, wish I had more but it's too late. This is not an answer but a longing that I wish I had more than two and it's too late. My husband did not want another as the first had medical problems, so we waited ten years and I am sorry I don't have more kids. I love kids! Also, my MIL didn't like kids and was not happy, complained about both pregnancies as "another mouth to feed". Each time I see a happy family planning for a baby, I cry. If it is going to make you both happy, do it, you will be the happiest in your life when you hold that child. Just IMHO. It will work if you want it to. If you wait until you "afford" one, you never will. Children are beautiful and worth it, they enrich your life, why else would you get "married"?
I have no desire to sell my house sm
and couldn't afford it anyway. On top of that, regardless of hte neighborhood, I DO NOT want to live where there is an HOA!
Their desire to want more (money, stuff) far outweighs sm
the consequences they know they will possibly face if caught. Just this morning at Wal Mart I witnessed a man with a cart loaded with 2 HDTVs! He didn't go through the line, just walked right out!! A clerk saw this and yelled, "Excuse me, sir!" and he calmly kept walking. I started getting really nervous! She followed him and then others followed (all Wal Mart employees) and I watched as this man abandoned his cart outside, walked to his car while they tried to get him to come in and he completely ignored them! He got in his car and took off. The manager got his license plate, I'm sure.
I began thinking "what on earth was he thinking?????" Why would you want to chance getting caught stealing 2,000 in merchandise? I don't have the temptation to rob, steal, kill, or destroy, so I can't tell you what goes through these people's minds!
But like I said earlier, whenever any of us do anything contrary to what we should be doing, we either don't realize the consequences or don't care about the consequences. Either way, it is a lose-lose situation.
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Unfortunately society has already
taken Christ out of Christmas. It has been said that many children today do not even know the true meaning of Christmas and only that Santa Claus is coming.
society does not get it
I am just going to have to vent on this one...
My husband and I got married when my stepdaughter was 7. She was in the wedding, etc. I adored her. We paid for her child support on time, bought her first car and anything she wanted, she came for summers, we went on trips together, and she grew up.
But her mother told her to choose which family she really belonged to and she chose her mother's family and that is the end of it.
It had nothing to do with me, even though it felt personal. Her mother asked her to choose and she was a good daughter and a bad stepdaughter.
I am allowed to move on with my life. Not every story has a happy ending. She will never love us or thank us for anything, and yes I took her to shop for her wedding dress.
I will be so glad when people stop romantizing divorce.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Being a stepmom is not like being an adoptive parent. It is like being a parenting team member. There is no recognition of you, except when you drop the ball.
Has society become this bad and why
I saw the post down below about the Wal-Mart worker. Here is a new article that just came out (link below). The police are now looking at video surveillance to see who trampled this poor worker to death. Personally I hope they find all responsible and prosecute them to the fullest. It doesn't matter that it was Wal-Mart. I like their store just fine, it is what society is doing to people that nobody even bothered to stop and help this person. I grew up in the 60s/70s in a small town in New England. Maybe I'm old fashioned but my parents/grandparents taught me better than this.
I just can't believe people would do this. And for what? Getting a Christimas item? This is one of many reasons why I do my Christmas shopping (what very little I do) online and gift cards.
I think the "traditions" of the "big" shopping day the day after Thanksgiving should go away. I really don't know what the solution would be to try to get the people to "love thy neighbor", not trample, bite, and spit at them so you can grab that item. (BTW - you can shop online at Walmart too).
I think to myself that I thought the spirit of Christmas was supposed to celebrate Christ. Oh yeah, I'm sure he is so proud of people like those who harm others and cause death so they can get what they want.
I hope those guilty are sitting at home worrying about whether or not their face is going to show up on the video camera.
http://apnews.myway.com/article/20081129/D94OJ4NG0.html
What do you think of the quality of clothing today. What I looked at shopping today in nice stores
the stuff wasnt even sewn properly. Do you have to look at everything you buy or just hope it lasts a year.
When I got my dog from the Humane Society
a while back, they gave me a free veterinary visit to almost any vet office in the city. She also developed kennel cough, but about five days after I brought her home. They say it can take up to ten days for them to get the symptoms. They said a large majority of dogs from any shelter will end up getting it. The vet can also tell by looking at their teeth about how old they are. Maybe you are right, she may have some kind of infection going on.
I think it's great you are committed to keeping the dog even with these problems. A lot of people would take it back and trade it like it's a car.
Society is getting too tolerant!
I suppose you are one of those people who thinks she can do anything she wants because she isn't "hurting anyone". It is poor manners to take an animal into a public shopping area. I feel sorry for you if you do not see anything wrong with this type of thinking. I suppose you also drive with your dog on your lap, too!!
Unfortunately you're right about society and
it's very sad. I'm average, not thin or overweight and fluctuate a few pounds a lot. So when I lose 5-10 lbs or so, I often hear from others about how great I look. Gee, thanks...? How bad did I look before that 5 or 10 lbs? It's a warped society but that doesn't mean we should try to conform to it. Turn off the TV and throw away the magazines for a while. And, heck, if your boyfriend doesn't like you the way you are, throw him away too :)
that's the problem with society
the poster definitely got to people. You need to get involved, for the sake of every innocent child and animal, and put these sick humans ouf of every child's and animal's misery. It's because of attiudes like the couple who posted here, oh, why post this, I did not want to read this, so just go on with your life and ignore what's going on around you, and that's why it continues to happen, because you do not want to hear about it, much less do anything about it.
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I am so grateful the dreges of society
are not able to go on welfare and live anymore. I do not mean this for disabled, the elderly and the like. If you have a child, you did this and should not in any way receive welfare. This was what you wanted, not something taxpayers should have to pay for. If you had no money to have a child, well maybe waiting until you did have some might have been a good idea. If you cannot make it on your own, DO NOT have children. Simple. Do the math. I give only to people who come under a heading of some kind of misfortunate they did not bring onto themselves happening or to animal shelters, etc. To a drug place, alcohol or unwed mother place, never....
I agree about society and options, etc. (as
You don't have to have an eating disorder to be thin. Not everyone who is thin has an eating disorder.
Don't wish that horrible fate upon yourself.
If you want to lose weight, just set your mind to do it. Decide before every meal, snack, or drink you have, if what you're eating is undermining your desire to look better and be more healthy, and decide if instant gratification is more imporant that this.
Oh, and by the way, just because you are thinner, does not mean people will give you more attention. Believe it or not, it is what's inside that counts to the people who really love and know you. Yeah, you might turn more heads, but you are still the same person inside.
Having said all that, I do agree that society does judge people on their appearance.... beauty, body, blah blah blah... I could go on about my philosophy of that, but I'll save it for another time :-)
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I think we've become a disposable society
Perhaps it comes from having too much.
People used to get by with just a few clothes, that had to last. Now, many people need more than 1 walk in closet to house all their clothes. Something tears, ach, chuck it out, there's plenty more to wear. Even shoes aren't made sturdy, anymore. Used to be you got shoes repaired, re-soled, re-heeled, re-tipped. You don't see many shoe repair shops any more. We used to have one in about every mall.
Function of society at large (sm)
I think you are right to some extent. I personally try hard to keep my word and when I can't, I feel bad about it! I call as soon as I know it's not going to work and I apologize. I try hard not to say I can do something if I am not sure I can. I don't make other plans for that timeframe that I have already committed to see someone during. How is that so hard? If someone is "iffy" about something, they need to say "I don't know, can I get back with you?" Not just say yes and then forget about it. I know a lot of people these days who seem to plan several things for the same time period and then whichever one they feel like doing at the moment gets priority - regardless of who else is inconvenienced or whose time is wasted by it. (I know I'm ranting here...making me feel better...haha.) Then they don't even understand why you are angry or why it is offensive...as though you are being unreasonably demanding to think that someone is going to try to do what they said they would do. Whew.....ok, I'm done. Think I will look at my navel now...lol
Call the Humane Society or Emergency Vet
Tell them what happened, that the owners are not home, and you are afraid the dog is critically injured. They will then send someone to check on the dog and do what needs to be done.
As far as your neighbors being mad at you for hitting their dog, it is their responsibility to make sure their animals are safely confined. NOT taking a nap in the road.
Don't let the poor beastie suffer for their ignorance. Please call to see if the dog can be helped.
The lesser known (and least respected) Black Hat Society.
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Added fresh chives today. to the egg today.
and a SMIDGE of soy sauce.
That is ABUSE Humane society or ASPCA should be called
Dogs dont just bark for no reason. In my opinion a person who puts there dog out and the dog is distressed and barking and the person does nothing to work with the dog and leaves to avoid the barking is abusing that animal. That is like locking a child out. If you really do love dogs like you say anonymously call the ASPCA or Humane sociey and let them explain it to the owner.
The local humane society allows people to stop by
and visit the pets. For example, if you like Kittens you can come by anytime they are open and just sit and play with kittens and or pet and keep them company. Also if you are a dog person, you can do same. Any day, any time. You might want to call your local pet shelter if you like pets. I hear that the pets and people get a lot out of it. Of course, I planned to do this a year ago, and still have not made it out of the house, but I do think about it sometimes! Good luck and have fun what ever you do.
As a civilized society, life in prison without parole
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Isn't it refreshing to know you are not a tool of the consumer "buy buy" society? sm
I can't tell you how empowering it is to know that I have 50K in savings and liquidity, as well as a 401K, my cars paid off, my house paid off (although it is old and not fancy). If I need something, I can pay cash for it. What a relief, when the economy is crashing to know that I will be fine (God willing) with what I have!
Definitely call Animal Shelter or Humane Society
Ours runs a once a month clinic where they will give rabies shots and spay or neuter for only $20.00. Tell them she's a stray, hopefully they can help you. LOL, she has chosen you and your family. She brought her babies in the house cause she feels they'll be safe there. Congratulations on being adopted!
St. Vincent De Paul Society is good. Volunteers administer the program.
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No, Blondie, give the dogs back or call the Humane Society.....s/m
who can take care of 10 (t e n ) dogs? This is CRAZY!
Your husband is a coward. He should protect you. God knows what a 'deal' he made with this 'friend'.
Ditto
I made my little cousin take back some stuff from the grocery store when he went with me. His mother was a bit upset with me for doing it, but to my knowledge, he never stole again. Sometimes, the immorality of it doesn't sink in, but getting caught and confronted by a non-family member can scare them enough to stop it. Also, you could tell her you simply cannot trust that she won't do it again, so she is no longer allowed to go shopping until she can convince you that she will behave appropriately. It may take a while, but she'll see the consequences and miss the outings with you.
I'd definitely bring it up to a counselor if none of the above worked. They may be able to bring up the behavior of her birthmom being wrong, so you won't have to seem like you're downgrading her to the child. I'm sure it's got to be confusing if she saw this behavior much.
Good luck!
Ditto!!!!
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Ditto for me
 I am no good on the keyboard before 9:00 a.m. lol
ditto
Put it down and leave it. It could take a couple of days but hang in there. Forget the baby food, etc, as that does not have the vitamins that a cat needs. I have always fed my cats on the dryer away from the distractions of the house and family....might try something like that too. Good luck!
DITTO............
 
Ditto from me! :-)
Now, Antonella could probably model, but she can barely sing compared to Lakisha. Hope she wins it all!!
LOL, ditto here too!
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Woo-wee..He made night manager at the Pizzaria in 3 months...or was that weeks. Guess she could not see her self the wife of the new owner of the Pizzaria chain! How many mink coats and cars will that buy!
ditto
I had one of those husbands as well. He actually called my job a "hobby" I know exactly what your going through. I agree with the other poster, have him sit down and do just one report, he won't. Like mine said, I don't know how to type, I asked him to at least listen and he still refused. Lots of luck to you.
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Me too!
ditto that one!!
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