Did you ever just wake up and be done with the drama?
Posted By: Ex People Pleaser on 2008-01-11
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I am 40 years old and have always tried to make everyone happy but lately I have had the attitude that I am not everyone's mother and it is not my job to make everyone happy. I have friends that I have cared dearly for and tried to help and they just will not step up to the plate and stop the drama. I am tired of the drama and I feel like I just am not putting up with another minute of it. I know some feelings will be hurt in the process but I work hard to keep my own life stable and I am tired of getting sucked into other people's dramas. My resolution is that I am not being anyone else's mommy unless they are actually a child!!
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I'm done with drama, am better now; the less you say/do, better off you are.
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Sorry, the drama has just stated again
in the Bahamas so here another 24/7 coverage for anyone who wants the updates. Oh, forgot to mention her mother has just filed another suit in Florida for disposition of the body! My goodness!
Wake up! Obey? What is she a dog?
Grrrrr
My romance/drama novel.
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Wake up and do yourself a favor....
dump him and move on! There seem to be no redeeming qualities about him. You are either head over heels in love, afraid to leave or blind. You CAN do better, you have to want it and not allow yourself to be treated as a non-entity.
lol. Made me think of wake-up sex.
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Sometimes when trying to wake up you get "stuck" between (sm)
being awake and a sleep for a few seconds and your brain is aware of waking up but you are not yet fully awake and you feel paralyzed. I am sorry for your fears and concerns, and in my 20s I thought similar things and was afraid a lot. But honestly, why would aliens want to pinch your butt? It is just an altered state of consciousness you are in. I am not completely against the idea that there could be some spirit involvement, but I honestly don't think aliens want to hold you down and pinch your butt :-). I think you should look up sleep paralysis and if you are still afraid, listen to the woman who gave you the spiritual advice below.
Me, too. It's just not worth all the drama.
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Wake Up Call
Wake Up Call lyrics
http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/m/maroon_5/wake_up_call.html
wow...talk about drama, sm
First with the phone calls, I would use an answering machine and screen all calls, or maybe unplug the phone while you are working. Can you get one of those cheap pay as you go cell phones, give your dad the number and then change your home # and don't tell him?
It sounds, at least to me, that your dad needs immediate psych help. Is there a Baker Act or something where you live? Does your mom have a restraining order on him (it sounds to me like she needs one). There's only so much you can do for someone that doesn't seem to want help. While I loved my parents immensely, I would have sent them to an MD or shrink if one of them started doing this. Sometimes there's a role reversal in parents and adult kids where the parents are acting more like kids which leaves the child to be the adult and make them do stuff they really don't want to. I've had that happen to me while my parents were sick, and while it wasn't any fun I knew I had to force them to do things (take meds and see MDs) they didn't want to.
Good luck. Hopefully someone else might have a better solution
I don't thrive on drama at all...sm
There is nothing more I would love than to be left alone and not have to see or speak to him ever again. I am living on his property. He has a big barn on it. He comes and sits out there at that barn near every day. If I walk out in the yard to feed my dogs --- here he comes. I cannot avoid him. I have told him to go away. I have been ugly, rude, and just downright said don't come back to my house. I live on his property. What can I do? Yes I can move. That would cost a lot of money though. Money I don't have. I live in a mobile home and sure it can be moved but that costs a lot of money and you have to pay to have all the plumbing and air conditioning hooked back up plus the actual costs of pulling it. I have 2 dogs I do not let roam free. I have to have my fencing moved and everything. I would go through the hassle gladly to get away. But I don't have thousands lying around to do it. I keep my doors locked and don't answer them when he knocks but you know he will sit and wait for you to go somewhere and meet you outside. I can move on my mother's property and we are probably gonna have to just get the money somewhere and do it. We have looked to see if we could find an acre of land for sale to buy but there is no small tracts of land around here for sale.
The sheriff and my dad are friends so that poses a problem. He doesn't believe my dad is like this. Daddy can hide his instability when he wants to. I am going to talk with my husband and tell him somehow we have to move. We have to.
She is the drama queen but she does - sm
have a good voice (or at least I think she does, and they must too or they would not be putting up with her again).
It's time to wake the old boy up
It's time to wake the old boy up. Go out of your way to make his evening special, when he wakes up to what he forgot. Give him a little grace and tell him he can make it up this weekend when he takes you out for dinner and what ever YOU want.
Forgive him and spank him at the same time :) He will LOVE you for it.
Favorite Doc Drama
Well, it was Chicago Hope for a long time (I adore Mandy Patinkin), then nothing. Now, it's House but I have to wonder how in the world he got to be as good as he is, when he constantly misdiagnoses the patients for the first 45+ minutes of the show. LOL.
Drama Queen- for asking a question that...
I was looking for intelligent answers to? It's a big assumption to assume that I am an immature drama queen with a very active imagination! A bit extreme to make that type of judgement over a person asking for opinions, nothing more nothing less. I was not looking for hateful assumptions about what type of personality that *you* think that I have! Don't be so hateful with your posts! And since you are sooo big on making assumptions, allow me to make an assumption about you- You are not used to receivng attention from the opposite sex, you are having a hard time understanding my post because you have never been noticed before?
And perhaps you are getting a little carried away with being hateful so you probably should not answer serious questions if you have a problem with being respectful in your posts.
Thanks for your comment anyways, even though it was totally off base and not much appreciated!
Kids: Do you wake them up or do they get themselves up for school? sm
I've told our 16-year-old now junior in high school that she can set her alarm clock and get herself up in the morning and out the door for school, on time, this year, and if she fails to get up on time and is late for school she will lose privileges with them increasing for each time she is late.
What about your kids? How old are they? Are they responsible for getting themselves up in the morning and if so, at what age did they start doing this?
My wake-up call came a few years ago
I, too, live in a very rural area -- farming community just like yours. My husband was working late that night and I was home alone with the kids. My road isn't quite a dead end, but it doesn't get traveled often since it turns into a dirt lane and there's no winter maintenance on it. I never really heard much traffic that night. I did hear a few gunshots, but just figured it was my goofy neighbor shooting target practice. He does that all the time. The next morning as I pulled onto the main road (about 2 miles from my house), I noticed an ambulance heading in. No sirens or lights. I thought it was rather odd since there's no firehouse on that road. I went to work that day and thought nothing of it.
I came home from work that night and noticed a state police car coming out of my road, but didn't pay it much attention. When I got home, my answering machine was lit up like the 4th of July. My phone was ringing as I walked in. Everyone wanted to know what was going on on my lane. I had no clue but didn't have time to ask any questions b/c someone was knocking on my door. I hung up the phone and answered the door to a state trooper wanting to ask me some questions.
He wanted to know if I noticed anything unusual last night. I said no. Any traffic? Not more than usual. Any loud noises? Just my neighbor shooting his guns. What time was that? About 9:30 or 10:00. That's where the story gets interesting.
Apparently 2 vehicles met at the top of my lane for a drug deal that went seriously wrong. The one couple shot the other couple and left them for dead. They then proceeded back down my lane and up the road about a mile where the girl stopped at my friend's house to use the phone. Not knowing her, they didn't let her in but brought the phone outside for them to use. After using the phone, they sped off down the road. The next morning, some hunters found the dead couple and called 911.
This all happened just 2 days after Christmas. Needless to say, I lost my sitter for New Year's that year. I agree about locking your doors, but more than anything I believe your dogs saved your life. I'm not an animal lover, but I sure do love my dog. She barks anytime someone comes on our property. She's not mean (a retriever/lab mix) but she is very alert. She's the best security system out there.
i have 2 girls, 10 & 13, both are drama queens
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You'll wake up one morning....
skinny, wrinkled and old and think "where did the time go"? I thought the same when I was young and here I am! LOL
next time you wake up, tell him you stuck
a pickle up his while he was sleeping and he should go get it removed.
update on teen drama
I posted before about how my son's ex-girlfriend was sabotaging him receiving an invitation to Sadie Hawkins dance. The girl that "changed her mind" can't find another date because it is too close to time.
So she follows my son all over the place, but she has to be loyal to the "Queen Bee" and doesn't seem to have the courage to ask him again.
Four years is a long time to be incarcerated in high school. Maybe he will get an A in chemistry instead!
Even if she wasn't a drama queen, that
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It makes it hard to have other plans, but drama is
She's only a teenager once, and there's only one spring drama performance? How many weeks could this last? I wouldn't sweat it too much. We love to go "up-to-bat" for our children, but we need to pick our battles. If she is a teenager, you do not want to give the impression that you are not supportive. We found the same thing happening with baseball practice for our son last year, so we just planned on the "not knowing". He'll only play baseball for a few months, and then it's over :( Hang in there, she'll be driving herself soon... YIKES! I don't even want to think about that. Be glad she's involved in drama and not "other things"..... if you know what I mean... Good luck on the performance. I'm sure she'll make you proud! 
Do you wake up early in the AM with the beginning of pain? (sm)
My migraines were often caused by a sinus headache run amok. I would wake up early, like 4:00 AM, with a tiny little sinus headache. If I was too lazy to get up and take something for it, (decongestant with pseudoephedrine in it) and 2 aspirin, I'd wake up with an out-of-control headache at 8:00 AM that would no longer respond to anything. That in turn would usually trigger a migraine. For me anyway, the secret to preventing the migraine was getting that sinus headache under control. The best combination (for me) was 2 regular-strength Sudafed and 2 extra-strength Excedrin (or Excedrin Migraine) taken immediately upon feeling even the slightest twinge in the early morning. Then I'd go back to sleep, ND 9 times out of 10, I'd wake up headache-free.
For out-of-control migraines, (or when I was out of Imitrex), I had good results with lying down & placing an ice bag directly on the exact spot where the pain was on the top right side of my head, and PUSHING ON IT. Once the proper dilated vein or artery was getting chilled, I would feel relief, but ONLY if I remained absolutely motionless, and KEPT ON PUSHING. Under the best circumstances, I could sometimes abort the migraine in an hour or two. At at the very worst, at least it made it easier to endure.
Sometimes sucking on a popsicle helps, too! (But probably not a good idea for the sinusitis!) ;D
With a recent sinus INFECTION, I got good, though not long-lasting, pain relief with Excedrin Sinus Headache, which has no aspirin in it.
Have you tried changing brands (or permanancy) of hair colors? Maybe you're allergic to the fumes, if it's not causing your skin to break out.
Interesting Note: I refer to my migraines in the past tense because in the past 6-8 years they've gradually disappeared, and are now rare, and considerably milder. Menopause may have played a role, but about the same time the headaches began to disappear, I had been diagnosed with depression and begun taking an SSRI. SSRIs have recently been found to reduce or eliminate menopausal symptoms, and I believe it, as I never had any symptoms at all - not even a single hot flash. I notice while transcribing (especially Neurology...) that lots of people who have depression also have migraines. Coincidence? I'm starting to think not. My depressive episodes almost always coincided with a migraine, and it was impossible to tell which one might have caused the other. SO --- if SSRIs can cure hot flashes, I wonder if they might also be helping with the migraines, which are also a result of dilated blood vessel(s)??? Food for thought. Might be worth asking a neurologist about.
As for migraine PREVENTION, I learned a lot from a doctor I used to have who GOT migraines. (BIG difference between that type of doc, and one who DOESN'T get them!) He told me to avoid:
1. Strobe lights or strobing fluorescent lights.*
2. Sleeping in late on weekends if I normally get up early on weekdays.
3. Skipping meals.
4. Movies, cartoons or TV shows with bright flashing colors/lights and jerky movements.*
5. Looking at copy-machines while they are photocopying.*
* (This is because migraines are believed by some doctors to be related to epileptic attacks - the aura, that post-ictal feeling afterwards, etc., and some epileptic attacks can be triggered by strobes and flashing lights. I've even had them brought on by driving along a highway with frequent, intermittent changes from sun to shade caused by a row of tall trees on one side with the sun behind them.)
One more "handy hint", then I'll shut up! You know how when you have a migraine attack, and one by one have to cross things off your day's "to-do" list, including social commitments? And when you call to cancel, people treat you like a malingerer, telling you to just "take an aspirin" and "shake it off?" Or even getting angry and yelling at you? Well, I got tired of that, and started telling folks I had the FLU, instead. Same symptoms, but "flu" is something people can relate to and understand! (Plus they don't want to catch it from you!) ;p
Anyone here ever have spells where you just wake up at night all the time. I have had this for
about a week and I dont know why. I am not worried or anything but I guess something is causing this. Maybe this job gets on my nerves I dont know. Hope it soon straightens out.
puleeze-you never met a male DRAMA QUEEN??
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Yep! Sounds like TMJ. I wake up with the sides of my tongue...
sore because my jaw clamps down on my tongue and sores on my cheeks from biting them. I would also have an aching jaw for weeks at a time that required mountains of Motrin and muscle relaxers. I finally went to the dentist and now have an acrylic mouthguard I wear at night. I hated it at first, but boy does my jaw feel better. No more aching, no more trouble chewing, no more sores on my cheeks and tongue! Cost me $300 for the mouthguard cause my insurance wouldn't pay, but it was worth every penny!
Go to your dentist!
Maybe as soon as you wake up, you can take some Benadryl (or generic), that helps me. nm
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Obviously some people have enough substance in their lives to see that this is a drama queen looking
who happens to have a very active imagination and is extremely immature.
Oh, c'mon now....abstinence? Wake up and smell the coffee. :)
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Drama mama- judge ordering Paris
back to jail. Supposedly a rash was the cause of her getting out but now they report it was she nearly had a mental breakdown. She should follow the fricking laws just like you or I do and maybe little miss twit wouldn’t land in the slammer. I feel no sympathy at all. I think, as well as probably millions of others, she is no better than anyone else. The judge is ticked she was let out, GOOD FOR HIM.
My little son Alex's sleepy face when I wake him for school, and of course,,,,,sm
watching the antics of my crazy Jack Russell Terrier with the new kitten, they pull tricks that would freak out the Mind Freak, it is a riot!!! (New Englander here, too!)
LATEST BREAKING NEWS ON BABY MAMA DRAMA
Howard Stern has just testified in court in Florida that he and Anna Marie did not have an exclusive only relationship- well, that did not take a rocket scientist to figure out with all the possible daddies coming forward, huh?
Anyone find as you get older you get a more interrupted sleep pattern and sleep less and wake up
more at night. Any suggestions for this.
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