Daughter wants to attend birthday party
Posted By: ????? on 2007-08-08
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My daughter is 10 and her friend will be 11. Her friend has been to our house numerous times and she is a SWEET girl. HOWEVER, her parents and their home is incredibly dirty. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a neat freak myself but their home is filfthy, as are they. Took their daughter home one day and they came outside, along with one of their younger sons who was in his underwear that looked soiled/brown/gray. Her mother seems nice enough but I get the feeling there is some sort of mental illness going on. Every time I've been around her I can tell she has major hygiene issues, built up plaque on her teeth and dirt under her nails, dirty clothes, etc. I'm not trying to be judgmental; I just don't want to allow my daughter to go to their house. Her friend is more than welcome here. I'm concerned this is going to possibly cause friction with the girls. I've talked with the mother of another friend in the group and she understands where I'm coming from, as she feels the same way. Wondering if any of you may have any suggestions for me. I know the girls are getting older and I'm sure my daughter's friend is realizing that her friends aren't allowed to her house, yet she can visit them. I really feel for her and I wonder how many girls will actually show for her party, yet I don't want to run the risk of my daughter coming home with lice or something.
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Peers are usually pretty good in helping in the make-up category. That way, they all look bad togheter and they're still cool!! LOL
I'm not sure how to say this, but this is not a really huge issue. It's just one superficial way preteens/teens start their quest toward independence and getting to know themselves.
While makeup can be an outward reflection of who she is, her personality and moral character are better indicators. The make-up thing will even out in the long run.
My daugher went through the glitter, the goth, and about every other phase I can think of and she's in college now, well-adjusted, making awesome grades and puts on foundation if she remembers LOL.
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Credentials? I'm a seahag, grew up swimming in the ocean and my sons could swim like dolphins by the age of 2.  Cat
yea - they were the party parents -
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Are you planning the party for the day your son
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