DH and I were just told to leave mall. SM
Posted By: Domestic Shorthair on 2007-12-14
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It isn't really a mall. Just new shopping area that opened up nearby. Some stores are opened, some are not. It was 9:30 and we were coming out of the Lohmans, when security guard approached us. We thought he was just being friendly, but he told us to leave! It isn't an indoor mall, it's an outdoor mall, on a public street.
Maybe because of our age? I'm 60 and he is 56. LOL! We must have looked like ruffians or something. You know how us middle-aged folks like to hang out and cause trouble.
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did you read the post? she did not ask them; she told them to leave.
and if she would have treated them differently, they would have responded differently.
How can I kick him out? I have told him to leave many times (sm)
he won't go. He tells me to leave. I have children. If you know how to go about making him leave, I really would like info on how to do it and enforce it. Thanks
I have told people starting to leave the restroom without washing
"Oh, wait, ma'am, there's soap in THIS dispenser." as if she might have thought ANOTHER dispenser was empty. Just about gets em everytime. They'll begrudgingly come to the sink and wash their hands and I play it off like it's nothing. Sometime, I'll say, "Don't you wish they would fill the soap dispensers more often?"
Leave some open boxes of baking soda inside and maybe search for carbon filters to leave in there,
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Mall
Mall of America
Any one been to Mall of America in Minnesota, my DH wants to go and not sure what to expect?
Mall of America
Yep, I've been there more times than I'd like to admit. My teenage daughter absolutely loves it! Very big, lots of walking, but it's 4 levels and each "corner" is anchored by a department store. Has Camp Snoopy, an amusement park, in the middle and lots of food courts scattered throughout. Also has restaurants and movie theater on the fourth floor. Any other questions?
Mall of America
Are you from Minnesota? I'm originally from Rochester, but have lived away (all over the country) for the past 27 years. ButI'm moving back this summer. Watch out Mall of America!
Mall ofAmerica
I tried to talk my daughter into the U of Minn., but she's decided to go to Creighton here in Omaha instead so I guess it's Go Jays! Where do you live now?
Mall of America
There's a new Ikea store right across from the mall. By the way, if you get there early enough, you can find parking in one of the garages which are right across the street and connected by sky-ways (free parking). They also have lockers you can rent in case your purchases get too heavy to carry! Have fun and happy shopping!
Yesterday I was at the mall and a
guy was walking along talking to a young girl. He rounded the corner and I was coming toward them. He stopped his conversation with her and said loudly to me,
You're pretty . . then went back to his conversation with her! LOL! She did not seem upset at all. Her brother? a friend?
Question. . jerk or just a darn nice guy? LOL 
haggling at the mall?
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081222/ap_on_bi_ge/desperate_retailers
and avoid the mall
the snobs will not be reformed.
avoid the mall? Was that a
swine flu post?
Held the door for a gal at the mall some weeks ago and
she just proceeded to walk through it and past me without a thank you. I muttered QUIETLY under my breath . . your're welcome.
We walked out into the parking lot and she turned around and said so nicely .
I am so sorry. That was rude of me. I should have thanked you. I immediately said, oh, that's okay. . no problem. She said again, No, I really am sorry. I don't blame you for being offended.
Wow! be careful what ya say!
Why is it when we WANT to be heard we aren't? lol 
Country. Mall or online shopping?
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Yesterday at the mall I was talking with a friend SM
I met who works there. A group of young girls about high school age came up to me and asked if I would take a picture of them together. I noticed she had such a beautiful accent. I was about to take the picture and she told me to be sure to get the American flag that hangs from the ceiling in the picture as well. They were thrilled to be in America. We asked them where they were from and they said they were from Russia. They were beautiful, polite girls who were smiling from ear to ear. It was a nice moment and I wanted to share it with you. 
Where in Northern NJ? Past Rockaway Mall?
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Hi elonmt. Yes, past the Rockaway Mall
going west towards PA. Live off of Route 80. My power went out at 12:30 as well as cable. Power came back on at 3 a.m. this morning, 29th and cable back on at 10 this morning. Man o Man. It has been crazy here. We had about 5 inches. Trees were falling, power lines down, roads closed. If felt like a January blizzard when I was out shoveling. Yes, I had to do it, but it was very heavy. I could not even have a cup of hot chocolate when I was done. We had to go out to eat also, but I was not complaining. Sleep with sweatshirt on with a hood and many, many blankets. Glad it is over. Can't wait until we get into winter. LOL
Yesterday on my break at our local mall when I
was leaving and at the door two young men about mid 20s approached me and asked directions to our county hospital and nursing home. Then they told me they had to walk because of no transportation, and that they just walked across town from a motel and were tired. After I gave the directions again one of them asked if I drive. He saw me just prior to that getting my car keys out. I told him yes. He asked if I would drive them to their destination. I told them I had to be back to work very soon, which I did. They could have been on the level, and I could have been on the new last night had I allowed both of them in my car. I felt bad when I left, thinking that I could have helped someone. What would you have done? Some years ago one night I was forced into my car by a male who followed me out to my car. That will stick with me forever. I have never been the same. Please reply. Right now I am thinking of the verse in the Bible that says something like Be aware that you may be in the presence of an angel. Did I let these angels down? Please help.
People who let their children wander in the store or mall-
one with no one around" and I dont mean that in a perverted way. Just scares me to death that these parents dont pay attention to these small children. I once sat on a bench at the mall and watched a mother walk 20 feet or so in front of a toddler, for about the distance of 3 or 4 store, not once looking back. I was disturbed by that a little. Granted, I live in what one would consider a small town, but there are creeps here too Im sure.
I'd recommend going to a local mall on a weekend and watch....sm
to see how teenage boys are currently dressing, how their hair looks, etc. Once you get ideas of what is currently "hip" then you can search for bargains for the clothes. You can dress your son without it costing a fortune by looking for bargains, searching eBay, going to thrift stores, etc.
Have fun with this!
The JCP in our local mall opens at 4 a.m. on Friday! Craziness!!! nm
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Can i add my 2 cents worth? In a mall I saw this young woman (sm)
wearing a black plastic garbage bag! She had on black tights, a black turtleneck and the garbage bag with a hole cut out for her head and arms. She had it cinched up around her waist with a really wide black belt!!
Donations for victims of Omaha mall shootings
Hi all you fellow MTs,
I live in the Omaha area where the recent mall shootings took place. It has been a devastating incident, as you might imagine. One of my friends went to the mall that day and instead of going to Von Maur first as she normally would, she decided to start her shopping at a different store. She would have been right in the area of the shooting.
Most of those killed or wounded were Von Maur employees. I work in a trauma center and we still have one of the victims there.
If anyone would like to make a donation to the victims' fund, the best way would be to go to the wowt.com web site and click on "how to help" on the left-hand side of the home page.
Thanks to all. Keep the families in your prayers, please.
OldsterMT
Imagine that day at your local mall. Then just imagine. LOL Why that day are you going? Crazy.
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Leave Them In
My mom uses hers a lot and she leaves them in. I use hers more than I use mine and I leave mine in, too. I just got it out yesterday after a year of not using it and it still worked.
What about when they just leave their
carts in line, taking their packages and leaving for you to move out of the way. I say Excuse me, is this your cart? How rude.
get him help or leave him
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No, but I tell her where I'm going and bye-bye when I leave
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I do want to leave, but (sm)
him being so agreeable scares me. I want to believe that he has been thinking the same thing and that me being the one to say it makes it easier for him not to be the "bad guy" but I am just scared that he is going to somehow try to cause me problems, I guess I just don't trust him.
Why leave is everything is okay? nm
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Take this from me. Leave her alone. Seriously. She will come to you sm
when she is good and ready. I was living in a snowed in town, my baby son was born in the middle of winter, my mom was 3,000 miles away, had my MIL with me, husband went back to work a week after son was born. I DIDN'T WANT ANY COMPANY. I didn't realize it at the time but I was suffering from severe PPD. And anything anyone said or did (sister in laws all acted like you did- confused, hurt, did not understand), all because they've never walked an inch in my shoes. I've been where you're friend now walks. Leave her alone. Let her mom know you are still there for her. Don't you dare give up on her, either, due to being offended. I lost a few so called friends because they couldn't handle the way I acted after my first son was born. My reaction: Good riddance. You were never my true friends anyway.
I could write a book on PPD. This is clearly what she is suffering from. And please don't tell me, "oh, just call me! I can help you! I just want to sit in the room with you!" Please. No. You don't understand. It is a severe mental condition. At this point you need meds, rest, and understanding.
Let me make a long story short. I had this one friend from college who INSISTED on seeing me. She came to the house 5 days after I got home. I LOCKED myself and the baby in the room, sat in the rocker and NEVER once left the room. I didn't want to see her. I, the social butterfly, couldn't understand it at the time, but I will tell you that I resented her "bugging" me like that. Of course, 6 months later, we were friends again. But that day was torture for me.
You don't know what she is going through, like I said. Just be there for her. Pray for her. She will come around. 8 days is too soon to bother with her if she is not ready. Having a baby is a truly precious and personal thing and all women have to deal with this event in their own way.
Women must understand this. Even friends.
Leave
Your last paragraph reveals a lot. You don't respect him and he doesn't respect you. You are not shallow. The two of you have grown apart and he is not the kind of man you want to spend your life with. Cut your losses and get out.
I leave it on
but no one eats it. It's kinda hard so I always thought it had a bone in it and probably would be difficult to take off. From now on I will probably remove it.
Leave now
It will be hard, but you can make it. I left after a nightmare of 10 years. I had 2 kids and not much money, but I got help from the state and survived by sheer will. The happiness of being free and the pride in becoming independent are well worth it. Good luck to you. Go get happy!
leave
You said you stayed with family out of state once before - can you take the kids and do that again? That might be the safest thing - then file for divorce, etc. You know him better than we do - so just trust your instincts and keep yourself and your kids safe - but you do need to get out of that marriage. . Take care and let us know how things are going.
She needs to leave well enough alone. He
might seem like her knight in shining army, but she has built a life with someone else. Obviously, she is not too unhappy to have stayed in her marriage for 25 years. Every once in a while I see my ex-fiance and my heart still gives a little extra thump. Then I stop and look at what I have. I have a wonderful husband of 30 years, 2 beautiful children, 1 adorable grandson. What more could I want. Yeah, the first guy was what some would call the love of my life. That doesn't lessen the love that I feel for my husband. The other man is now into his second marriage and, from all accounts, cheated his way through the first and they divorced after 20 years of marriage. As for my marriage, it's had its ups and downs just like any marriage, but, all in all, it has been very, very good and I wouldn't trade what I have for all the "thumps" in my heart. I could have married him and ended up being the one cheated on and divorced after 20 years. Thank God (quite literally) that I was spared that. 
You wish they would all leave?
because you have to transcribe ESLs and it is irritating, now you wish they would all leave? I didn't realize being an MT was so stressful for some. Glad I'm able to handle it. I must be a stronger person. Oh I love coming here! Makes me feel so much better about myself.
Why is it okay to leave this post up, but
delete all the other ones?
Well don't leave us hanging - let's have it!!! nm
Even a big man is not home 24/7. Leave while he is gone
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If she wanted to leave she would have done so
It sounds like it's drama she is posting.
She is a grown woman and could have easily left him during church, while he was sleeping, at work, ect if she *really* wanted to leave.
Please tell me she didn't leave the dog...sm
with him! I'd be afraid for the dog's safety, as well as the dog being used to manipulate your daughter...
i did leave, but came back
I read your post, and just wanted to add to my post below that I did leave and just came back within the last 3 weeks. Things were pretty good at first, but now, even last night, he comes home from work at 2 am. The kids and I have been in bed for hours, and he starts a rant at 3 am about the milk being all gone that he bought the day before, and about my daughter using his shaving cream up in the bathtub. I just don't know where to go at this point. School is getting ready to start and my kids love this area. The only place I could go at this point is my mother's, that is where I went before. I don't know, I'm just venting and praying while I work. Thanks.
I did leave him once for about nine days...sm
After only 7 months of marriage I left and sort of went into hiding from him. He didn't have any idea where I was. When I finally contacted him he was totally distraught. He begged me to come back and made all kinds of promises to get counseling and go to anger management classes. Of course, the same week that I returned the "old" husband came right back.
One reason I really can't leave now is b/c we have total custody of my step-daughter and I am the only mother she has ever truly had. I don't feel like I can leave and desert her. There is no way I could ever get custody of her in our state. Thus, I keep on dragging along taking whatever is dished out my way.
I leave the radio on for them
We go away about once a month for a few days to visit my husband's mother who lives out of state, about a 4 hour drive away, and I always leave the radio on for our 3 cats just to sort of keep them company.
All the more reason why you should leave.
Do you have any friends or family that you can stay with, so you aren't alone? Not sure if it's him you are afraid of or the legal/financial stuff but maybe you would feel better if you talked to someone close to you about the situation.
Leave some $ on dresser and see what happens.
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Fo Done: Is it right to leave a husband...
My answer to your question, in your case, is: No.
Maybe now you reject your husband so much because of this letter he wrote you, but I am sure that he regrets it and he wrote it in a state 'when he was out of his mind'. He apologized!
It is very seldom that men apologize.
Give him some t i m e to prove (oh my, I really think in this case it is prove, because it can be replaced by 'showing', but if the majority says it's proof, ok, then it's proof, I am confused now) that he wants to treat you better, give him another chance.
Don't forget, but forgive.
I am the only one who advises you to stay; I cannot believe this. All others give you their own 'horror stories', much worse than yours. Is this giving advice? Counseling?
Keep in mind, you can often give it a try, make it a little better, day by day, it takes only o n c e to leave and this is it, it's final.
Maybe if you stay, down the road, you will thank me for telling you to stay.
But......if he starts to physically abuse you, leave immediatley.
Now I am already expecting comments like....
'emotional abuse is even worse than physical abuse....etc....'
It depends on the grade of verbal abuse; some people regard even criticism as emotional and verbal abuse.
Can you not make it and just leave the
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