DH and I are w/my family for lunch

and his for dinner.  I have ex-aunt that still gets invited to holiday get togethers since she was married to my uncle for so long and her kids and now a grandaughter will be with us.  She and a real pain in the but.  Even when it is not her house she tries to dominate everything.  Where everyone should sit, when we should eat, the conversation somehow always revolves around her.  She will ask you a question and even before you finsih answering she is off talking about something else.  We basically just roll our eyes and try to avoid her.  This year she wrote a letter to my mom asking her to  move her Christmas Eve plans to a different time (have been doing the same thing for years) to make it easier on her.  Not going to happen. 

At DH's house his mother was in a really pissy mood when we first arrived.  I like her most of the time, but lately I have found that I just tend to tolerate her.  She and I have never had any problems but I think her getting older is starting to take its toll.  She and I differ anyway.  Every Thanksgiving it is the same, everyone that comes brings a couple of dishes but she also does some of the cooking.  She doesn't clean up as she goes along, so the sink is always full of dirty dishes before dinner starts and I can guarantee you when we start to clean up we will find that the electric dishwaher ( I am the human one) is full of clean dishes.  This year as soon as we got there she took a hot pot off the stove and put the food into a serving dish.  I decided to go ahead and wash it.  The pot was extremely hot so I turned on the cold water to cool it off just a bit before I washed it.  She came to the sink and turned the hot water on.  I politely said "I was just trying to cool if off a bit before I stuck my hands in it."  "No, that is not the way I do it".  I was stunned.  I have been married to her son for over 20 years and I always wash the dishes.  I don't mind that I certainly am going to do my part.  But this year I said, "well if you want me to leave these for you to do, fine."  I did help clean up after dinner but I did not put my hands in any dishwater.  Besides they were still a bit pruned from cleaning up after lunch. LOL! 

Btw, this is the same woman who gives me something that she collects every year for Christmas even though I and her daughter have very politely let her know this is not something I want.   

• Any family fights over thanksgiving - MTinMT
  • Cure for In-Law Problems - It worked for me
    • My MIL is okay, but she wishes I was an orphan -sm - XXX
    • do a litttle jig - flaming
  • I come from one of those fighting families. - Lllls
    • fighting family too - Long time MT-NY
  • DH and I are w/my family for lunch - mtmomof2
    • lol sounds like my MIL - jss
      • hiding from the MIL - holiday time
  • No fights but - sm
  • Not this year but... - sm
  • I guess we are one of those boring families, too...sm - m

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What's the family lunch budget for kids and husbands?

  Us that work at home don't get a lunch budget I know

I put the grandkids on the bus in the mornings and they like to take lunchables, however they don't want to put them in their insulated lunch bags, just throw them in their back pack.  They insist "everybody" does this.  I am a worry wart when it comes to not keeping food properly refrigerated.  

Am I being paranoid, is this safe?

She said she was just worried that she might be sick.  She said dd would cry like the whole world caved in and then the next minute she would be happy and play as if she didn't have a care in the world.  I don't really know what it is about. 

I haven't taken my own medication for a few days and I guess it has brought out my paranoia.  I have never been as bad off as my cousin but I do take antidepressants.  Yeah, we live in a small town and people like to talk. 

I know she won't listen to me as to why I won't buy, it is not the products it is the issue of having to buy every freak'n month.  That is the isssue.  At least that is how I perceived this from my mom.  I am just going to half to tell her no that if she has nothing else to say go home or hang up I am busy. 

As far as the weight issue is, I am sure she wanted to know she she can tell everyone that "well at least I don't weigh as much as cousin because she weighs blah blah blah."  I know that is how she is. As far s the doctor weighing me, I am not sure.  I think maybe some birth control methods doesn't work for women over a certain weight is the only thing I can think of.  I bet though when he dictated his note about me it started with  "this obese 32 YO" LOL. 

So sorry to be nosy, but it's been a few days since you posted and I am genuinely concerned about you.  Has he been dumped?

Hubby and I are going down next weekend for 2 nights and have not been in years.  I would love to hear of any really neat places where we can get a nice seafood lunch for a reasonable price.  Thanks for your help! 

STEAMBOAT SPRINGS, Colo. — Forget pizza, hamburgers and macaroni and cheese.

Dozens of students at Steamboat Springs schools are getting peanuts, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches — or nothing — for lunch this week after the district cut off those with unpaid balances on their school lunch accounts.

Nutritional Services director Max Huppert says students owing $6 or more were not allowed to use the district's automated payment system to buy hot lunches when they returned to school Monday. The move affected about 25 elementary students and an unknown number of middle school students.

The affected elementary school students were given snack food instead, but the others received nothing.

Huppert says about half of the nearly $10,000 owed to the district has since been paid.

My best friend just returned from a trip back home by herself. There, she met up with her high school sweetheart - 20 years later. His mom and her mom are best friends and they were both there for a funeral.  She cried her eyes out at lunch today.
She learned while on her trip back home that the love of her life was divorced, has 3 kids - his wife left him for another man. My friend is married with 2 children.
To make a long story short, my friend is a true lady. She told him all about her life here and he just listened. They were near water (a gorgeous beach) on the docks and it was just the 2 of them and he began saying things to her that made her so sad. He went on and on about how he never stopped loving her and would look at her and say, "you are just as gorgeous as you were back in high school."  She said she would just laugh and tell him he was crazy.  She said she saw him on and off during the trip because she "had" to. They have families that are very close.  Every time he would see her he would give her a big hug and call her gorgeous.  She said the night before she left they were on his mother's porch swinging, eating ice cream and he cried like a baby. She cried. Nothing inappropriate happened between them.  She said it was a connection none like she had ever, ever experienced before.  She said that he made her promise that if anything were to ever happen between she and her husband that she would come back and be with him. He promised that he would wait for her, even if she were 80 years old.  My friend cried and cried.  He cried and cried.

I cried and cried.  I know this lady's husband.  The have a good relationship.  But she and I both know that we did not marry our soul mates.  I don't even know where mine is (we broke up many moons ago), but I know he was the one for me.  There was no infedelity to this story at all. I believe her.  They lost contact when she went away to college, moved on, and that was it.  She would talk about him periodically with me, but nothing real serious.

I don't know how many women (I sure haven't) met up with old flames or lost soul mates and have the experience she has.  She is a Christian and says that if she didn't love Jesus, something would have happened between them. She was able to use her love of God to witness to this man (who isn't a Christian).  She said that she wouldn't be able to live with herself if something happened between them and that his soul was more important to her than her selfish desires.

I commended her for that.  I don't know how many women in her position would have been as strong.  She cried so hard when she was telling me this story. Lunch lasted 4 hours!! I'm glad I was off today. Anyway, it just has me thinking about my ilfe, too, as a married mom and wife. My husband is the most unemotional, unaffectionate, doesn't-believe-in-soul mates-kind-of-guy. I can't talk with him about these kinds of things.  I just wish he were mine OR I was with mine.......

Juliet is a kindergarten teacher in NYC...She said, "We just had our Valentine's day cupcakes and pudding, then they went to lunch"...All I could say was "They're not going to gym next, are they?"  She said, "Well yeah, that's their next class".  I said, "Get ready for a barforama!"....If I hadn't already lived through it I could'nt have said it...Poor Juliet  Cat  

since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely  everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.

Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....

FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.

My biological mom moved out of state when I was in 3rd grade, and my stepmom's first husband had died in a car accident. Plus my sister and stepbrother are less than 2 months' apart in age, which mostly didn't get noticed because she moved out of state with my mom while I stayed with my dad. The only thing that caused confusion was that my stepsister and I have almost identical names (similar first name, same middle name, last name with same first initial), and the oldest 4 of us all have names starting with M. When my brother was born, they gave him name starting with J