Couldn't decide whether to
Posted By: jmr on 2007-11-07
In Reply to: Am I the only nut who LOVES to pick zits n' stuff? - Hayseed
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I think you should tell them and let them decide what they want to do.
My husband died six months ago suddenly and unexpectedly. My niece, who just turned 12, has always been extremely close to my husband and me, and spends a lot of time at our house. LIke your children, she had never experienced death in a close relative before. The day he died, my brother and sister-in-law picked her up from school and broke the news to her. She was sad of course and she cried for quite a while.
Her parents gave her the choice of what she wanted to do in regards to go to the funeral home and/or attend the funeral. She chose to come to the funeral home and sit with me, and to attend the funeral.
She later wrote on the subject when the class had to write an essay at school about a life altering event. She wrote about how much she loved her uncle and she felt that was her last chance to say goodbye, as she didn't get to say goodbye before he died. She was sad that he died suddenly and she didn't know ahead of time, and that seemed to hurt her a lot, even though nothing could change that.
As for me, her presence at that time made me feel a little better. My husband's death has made she and I even closer. She's very smart and mature for her age. She knows sometimes when I get a little sad, that I'm thinking of my husband, and she totally understands, cause she still misses him too.
I know this is kind of rambling, but I hope it makes sense. I think kids want to be a part of our experiences, the good and the bad, and I think to exclude them, even when you think you're protecting them, makes them feel left out.
Good luck to you and your family. My prayers are with you.
So then why take any drugs at all? Or why not let's just decide which
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if you decide to give
my suggestion would be to get something bigger than 0-3 months. they go through that stage so quickly and lots of people give that size.
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now. He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now (when i say now, we would wait until after marriage). He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
Easy for men to decide
Some guys are good dads - willing to pitch in and help take care of the child's needs, and give it plenty of time and attention.
There are quite a few guys out there that like the IDEA of a child - as long as it doesn't cramp their style. This means it all devolves upon the mother - care of the child 24/7, criticism from him and his family if you aren't doing it their way, but of course any bragging rights are all theirs.
Then there are the demands of academia - when your child gets sent home with a backpack full of paperwork to review on a nightly basis, whose job will that be?
Another thought is the possibility of divorce down the road - what happens then? Quite a few dads who let mom do all the work suddenly become superdad when the thought of child support comes along, and they will do anything to win custody so that YOU have to pay THEM. Even if you win custody, the head games with visitation schedules, daddy's new girlfriend pushing her way into the picture, etc. never end.
Be careful. Having a baby to stroke a man's ego can get very messy very fast. Its a huge responsibility and too often the mother does all the work and the father takes all the credit. Take the worst case scenarios into consideration before you decide.
So who gets to decide what is illegal and what is not? You? sm
That's a slippery slope. Like the poster below who wants sugar taxes - actually that's not a bad idea since sugary drinks and snacks are making our kids fat. Let's see - then we should tax fast food or control the amount that fatties can eat, right?
Where does it end?
Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message
I posted last week about my dilema about whether to have a hysterectomy or not after my left ovarian cyst (which was removed along with ovary) came back with a pathology report stating papillary serous tumor, borderline. Doctor says I should have hysterectomy for "insurance" and preventative measures. However, according to their group discussion, my tumor was borderline, but "more on the benign side". I am so confused. I'm 42 and I don't want to have a hysterectomy, but yet, I don't want to have a problem with cancer either. I have the option to follow every six months. Is this safe? Am I better off getting a hysterectomy? I just don't know what to do!!!!
So even animals help decide our fate???
Where did you read this or learn about this? I've never heard that animals will speak for or against us on judgement day...interesting. Guess I'm in the clear, I don't do animals, don't own them, don't abuse them, don't like 'em!
Be careful if you decide to wean
and hand feed with formula and syringe. Don't know about your type of birds, but I have a parrot that I hand fed with a syringe and the breeders instructed me and watched me do it myself to be sure I was doing it correctly before they let me take him home. Apparently you can kill them if it goes down the wrong way, but it was really easy feeding him. Maybe there's somebody in your area who is a bird expert you could talk to?
I re-read, so you do live together - you have to decide if he is (sm)
going to function as a dad or not, and if so, you need to BOTH be involved in decisions, not just him. If he is not going to function as dad, he should not be involved in conferences at all.
Mercy is for God to decide - she should rot where she lays
I posted below - but have more to say. She needs to rot where she lies. That may sound harsh but I have no compassion for her and anyone else involved in those horrendous crimes they committed. "Charles Mansion brainwashed me" or whatever it is she claims. Oh brother - let me get my violin out. She knew what she was doing. You would think at some point while she is in the act of doing the horrendous things she did she would think somewhere in her pea brain - wait a minute, this is not right, and she could have easily sneaked out or called the police or something. I lived across the whole country (east coast) and still felt the horror that happened to them. It was hard growing up knowing that those pieces of garbage were out there and it could have happened to any of us just as easily. They just happened upon that house. I had nightmares because of it. Between that and the Hillside strangler and all the other creeps out there, it was hard not to have nightmares. She committed the crimes and she needs to do her time. She had no mercy for Sharon Tate and her unborn child and she so much as said so. Why she would think the court should have mercy on her. Brain tumor? Good and I hope its a very painful death for her. I always say do unto others. If she committed torture, then she should be tortured. The only one she should be asked Mercy for is from God. Maybe she should contact Roman Polanski and ask him if he thinks she should be let out early. "I would like to be out one day" Give me a break! I'm sure Sharon Tate and the other people would have liked to live. They should tell her and her family that they have no right in asking to be let out. I don't care if she can't sit up in bed. That is her problem. In fact I think they should post all the crime scene photos in her cell and let her look at those day after day and say until she dies and tell her this is why you are not being let out. Besides, if she has brain cancer who knows what she will be thinking as it progresses. Well I'm glad she's "not the same person than when she went in". But then again that's what all the prisoners say too. She did the crime - do the time (and I hope she suffers. I have no tolerance for what she did).
Is that good? I can't decide whether this would be tasty or not? nm
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Well in my mind lust is when you decide
to give in to something and enjoy it, which I have not and will not do in this case.
The puzzlement for me is how the attraction comes out of nowhere like that, and of course this time when it happened it is more troubling because he is so young. It must be pheromones. I think that's the best explanation.
Yep, some oldies decide on invitro
to have kids but I don’t want to have a kid in college just when I would like to retire. I see advanced maternal age listed all the time when the mother is only 34 or so, so wonder what category 41 falls under. Too many birth defects possible as the mother ages. Others can have their kids if they want at past 50, just not my cup of tea.
funny thing about when you decide to give up...
on men/relationships...That is when the right one comes along! That's how it happened for me. I, like you, had decided I was done with men, too many bad experiences, and then I met THE right guy for me. That was almost 11 years ago and we have been married for 7-1/2 years. We have a happy marriage and a beautiful little 15-month-old girl. It's when you stop looking that the right one comes along!
The most important thing, though, is to trust your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. From your description, it sounds like a good thing, but if there is a doubt that nags at you, don't dismiss it. Just don't let prior bad relationships cloud your judgment, because they are all different.
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
I just don't see why any parent would just allow a child decide to move out
It makes no sense to me. He is 16 years old and still a child. I guess I just don't understand how you have no problem with him deciding to move out and not even try to do anything about it other than take his house key. It sounds as though this 16-year old is running the show here. The whole thing is very disturbing to me.
Hi, Kelly, in case you decide to use Rogaine,
please check with your doctor first because of your thyroid issue!
Changes of a Down syndrome baby go up with age, though. You'll need to decide if an amnio & its
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DH not happy = his prob. Let him leave or stay or decide
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I'm 36, married 5 years, and still can't decide. I wish I had an answer for ya. But you're
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Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t
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stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
How old is your child/children and when did you decide he wasn't worth the effort? nm
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Thanks so much! I just couldn't seem...
to find it. I used to look at it quite often, but I hadn't in a while. Thanks, again! 
Couldn't help it....
I haven't figured out if he is a moron or if he really can't believe what is happening. I would like to hear some background information on him. I really think he could have his own show!! Too funny...
Tried but couldn't -- sm
I discussed this at length with a bankruptcy attorney. If I filed for banruptcy (have a lot of old debt from personal issues before we were married), now while married this could affect his credit which is perfect. Instead, what the attorney told me was to fly under the radar as most things don't stay on a credit report more than 7 years depending upon your state. He told me that once a debt is tranferred around from agency to agency it gets very difficult to validate the debt (and the collection agency's computer printout does not count). He told me never to talk to them by phone. First written response is always to ask for validation and if you get a computer printout, ask for specifics like dates, times original amounts etc. Then if they can actually prove it, they may offer a settlement. I have settled a lot of old debt for way less than the collection amount by negotiating and insisting they take it off my credit. If you want more info, feel free to e-mail. :)
Wow, couldn't have said it better myself...
You go girl!
Couldn't believe this...
My husband said he heard that any employee working for Lowe's would be fired if they said, "Merry Christmas" to a shopper, for fear of offending anyone within earshot. Do you notice now everyone will only say, "Happy Holidays"? You never hear the word "Christmas" anymore. I'm not offended when I hear someone mention Kwanza or Hannakuh. Why does the word "Christmas" send so many people reeling?? 
I just couldn't ask for more!
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nobody said you couldn't eat it
make you think twice. Nobody said anything about regulations or telling you to exercise. Speaking of coffee, maybe you should switch to decaf. Geez
Couldn't be better! = sm
Upstate NY here. My crocuses are in full bloom, daffodils poking up. And warm, soft winds carressing my shoulders when I go out without a coat or sweater!!!! Too bad we're supposed to start getting rain, but it's nice to know this is the trend now, not like January thaw!
I couldn't have said it better - well put
Well put.
Wow! I couldn't have said this better myself!
You're right on!
Are you saying this couldn't have ...sm
happened with a Great Dane or a Great Pyranees or Lab, etc.? Are you saying these dogs aren't capable of killing or mauling? I don't think the old man was their master. I think the pits belonged to the daughter and her boyfriend. Unfortunately this happened and it shouldn't have. These dogs for some reason chose to attack. I don't know or you why. I would like to know but we will never know. I just don't believe that dogs attack for no reason. It don't make it right for them to attack but I think there is always a reason. Something provokes them.
I guess the daughter and boyfriend thought the dogs would not hurt the man but something happened there that day and a dog should never kill a person. But something happened. These dogs were not quite as stable as thought to be or either the man wasn't stable enough to be staying in the house with the dogs. You are right you never know what the dogs will find to be threatening and something must have made these dogs feel threatened.
I take every precaution I can with my pit bull. He is not mean or vicious but he has that protective instinct for his family and that is what I have to protect others from. But so do German Shepards, Dobermans, etc. My dog also looks for me to tell him when it is okay. When someone is okay. When we introduce him to people we tell him it is okay CJ. He/she is nice. And we let him sniff them and then he will go have a seat and just chill. He don't want to hurt anyone he just wants to make sure nobody hurts his family. As soon as he knows we are fine he is fine and goes on about his business. But that is only if a visitor wants to meet CJ and then we will let them but otherwise he will stay in his fenced in back yard. I try to be as responsible as possible.
Probably most of us couldn't. I do think the men are the
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Couldn't do it...sm
I love it all ~ steaks, roasts, burgers, chicken, turkey.
I always remember Ron White saying we didn't get to the top of the food chain by eating carrots.
I definitely couldn't do it
I love my meat. I don't eat a lot of red meat, but I love a good hamburger or steak now and then, and we eat chicken a lot. My daughter, who's 15 has been a vegetarian for about two years. I don't know how she does it. It helped her lose 20 pounds, though, and I give her a lot of credit.
EXACTLY Wannie!-I couldn't have said it better
Couldn't care less
I couldn't care less whether someone gives me good wishes for Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Winter Solstice, or just a generic "happy holidays." I also don't care what any store decides to name their holiday decorations or sales after.
From a purely economic standpoint, it does make sense for businesses to combine holidays when they occur near each other. If they advertise only "Christmas" items, then it potentially excludes anyone who does not celebrate that holiday. The same goes for Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, etc. To market to the largest number of people, a general "holiday sale" works because each person can take from that what they want. For Christians "the holidays" in December means Christmas. For Jews it means Hanukkah. For pagans it means "Winter Solstice" (which, by the way, is where many Christmas traditions originated from, including the "Christmas" tree, but that's another story for another time).
I guess my point is that I personally feel some people make too big a deal out of things like this. There are far more important things in this world to focus one's attention on than what a store wants to call its sales.
to each his/her own - I couldn't bring myself
of who made the movie and the director/producer's family history...........
to each her/his own..................
different strokes for different folks, and so on and so on and dooby dooby doo bah.......(lyrics from Sly and The Family Stone)
I couldn't agree more! (sm)
I tend to believe the rumor he's working towards his own "Judge Larry" show, but personally I think he should take his acting skills to the Soprano's! LOL!! He's absolutely disgusting!
I had PMS so bad I couldn't stand myself let alone anyone
else. I got a great PMS pill from a chiropractor that helped a lot, and after moved from that area I would buy mega-B vitamin pills and take them. They really made a difference. Good luck and, believe me, you have a LOT of company! I had PMS long before they ever put a name on it.
Just because you couldn't get along as an intimate and
faithful couple, does not mean that you can't get along as friends. It just didn't work out in a commitment, that's all.
I couldn't agree more......sm
I sat and watched while innocent people were being dragged out of their homes in New Orleans after hurricane Katrina and all firearms taken out of their homes. These were not the gangs, the criminals running around killing people and stealing. These were law abiding citizens who had these guns to protect themselves from what obviously the cops couldn't, because most of the cops ran. I am sick to death of hearing ridiculous things said about gun laws, when those laws give you the right to protect yourself, but if it were not for the media videotaping those innocent people being handcuffed, sat on the curbs in front of their homes, while the local LAW broke the law, this would be covered up. There were so many civil and constitutional rights being violated it was sickening to watch. Their constitutional rights were being taken from them for absolutely no reason whatsoever and their homes searched like they were common criminals, while the thugs who usually run around the streets were hiding like cowards. Anyone with sense would know that it isn't the law abiders committing the crimes, it's the ones who aren't and those people will use something, ANYTHING, to kill someone if they want to, and they can always find a way to get a gun illegally. Those very people ranting and raving about gun control sure would hope for a gun if their home were being broken into and their lives or their children's lives were in jeopardy! Look at New Orleans to this day. The nuts are coming back and new gangs at that to steal from and kill tourists just for a few bucks. The police chief himself said they could not get enough police offers back in, so who do you think you would call if you were in the shoes of those living down there? You might have to look out for yourself.
I couldn't do it either and I am very glad there are
those who are willing and want to do it. I respect them for that. But then again, most of them couldn't do what we do every day either. Not a whole lot of people have the patience to sit and try to decipher what some mumbling, gum-chewing, eating, speed-talking dictator has to say. 
ER work...who couldn't do that!..nm
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COULDN'T AGREE MORE!!!
And just because you are the Navy doesn't mean you are immune to being called to Iraq. Any armed force, any position, can be called to active duty, PERIOD! Even, as it turns out, National Guard paper pushers!
I don't know how she couldn't unless the girl
is mentally retarded or otherwise impaired. They say the girl showed no motion whatsoever on the videotape during the attack. No crying, no screaming. Nothing. You have to know that would change a child's personality to have something like happen to her. If my child was suddenly emotionally changed I would definitely seek counseling for her.
and she is SEVEN now for goodness sake ...you would think it would come out by now.
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