Comfortable shoes! Bring a few different pairs :)
Posted By: sm on 2007-07-14
In Reply to: BTW, my 14yr old daughter wants packing tips. Any sugestions? nm - trose
As far as clothing, anything goes!
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Crocs are the most comfortable shoes around, but
I got blisters when I wore mine outside without socks. It looks dorky, but if you happen to be diabetic make sure you wear socks with them.
Love my birkies, have probably 25 pairs
I even have some dressy ones that are gold with rhinestones across the top, snazzy. I am just into pocketbooks now, yesterday got one from HSN that I paid about $160 for. Probably would be more than that except things there sold in bulk and the prices seem lower than regular stores.
Shoes! Love shoes. Thin soles work best.
Don't be mad, but foot size might have something to do with it. I'm a 7 1/2 shoe size, and I suspect a foot much bigger than that might be a bit wide to easily hit the right pedal every time. Remove the shoe and your foot is narrower and you can feel the controls and not hit the wrong one. Just a guess because I've heard guys have the worst time with the pedal.
Never - not comfortable.
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Give what you are comfortable with...sm
and write a detailed letter telling how proud you are of him--there is your personalized gift. I understand your wanting to do anything to make him happy, but times are hard for a lot of people right now. Surely this young man and his family understand that, right? BTW, I also like the gas card and keychain ideas.
The word comfortable comes to mind! nm
xx
SO very sad there is not a single person who you would feel comfortable
or that you would want to just drop in on you without prior notification. What a humdrum, unspontaneous, antisocialist, by-the-book etiquette approach.
You should deliver your baby where you're comfortable....sm
with the hospital. Remember your OB/GYN will be with you only to check in on you and do the delivery - otherwise you'll be dealing with the hospital and its nursing staff. Delivering babies is a huge money maker for hospitals and you have a choice of where to go. I'd schedule an appointment with the other hospitals to tour the L&D/post-delivery area. In the Atlanta area all of the hospitals are happy to do this because they want your business.
I'd also switch doctors if they weren't available. There's no excuse for them to be too cheap to hire an answering service, or provide patients with at least a cell phone # of someone to contact after hours.
As far as the nasty nurse goes, send a letter to administration about her. They need to know who the good and bad employees are. Each time I've been to a hospital I've sent these kinds of letters and a good administrative team will tell you that it's feedback like this that helps them identified people/areas to improve and to know what is truly going well from a patient perspective.
Good luck on your upcoming delivery!
I wear Focus Dailies - they are SO comfortable (sm)
and it's great to have a fresh pair every day! Plus it saves a lot of time and money to not be cleaning and enzyming, etc. (is enzyming a word?) There is usually a rebate on these, too. This is my third year with them, and I'm very happy! KM
Fashion Bug - Good prices, very comfortable! - nm
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Earth Shoes....heel lowered in Earth Shoes
I'd bring it up with him...
That was pretty rude of the BF.
shoes
I wore silver shoes with a purple bridesmaid dress. We also had silver/grey shaws to go with. This was in November.
In your shoes
Your story sounds exactly like mine. However, mine told me that if I did not lose weight he was going to leave me. He had an affair and blamed it on the fact that I was overweight. He said, "If you were not so fat, I wouldn't have gone there." Whatever!
Don't let him win - just MHO - same shoes here (sm)
I'm sorry for you - I know how it feels. People like that are best ignored, but would not want my kids exposed. My stepdad is just like that.
Put yourself in her shoes SM
If you had gone through a whole pregnancy and hoped for the "perfect" baby and things weren't perfect? The clubbed feet are correctible, yes, but seeing as she asked you not to say anything to anyone she is obviously having trouble coming to terms with the problem. She is a new mom, there is a problem she obviously is troubled about, hormones all over the place. I think backing WAY off is in order here. Respect her wishes and let her call you when she is ready. Being a new mother is overwhelming no matter how many times you've done it and she needs time.
at least ur not in my shoes
I would love for my husband to make advances towards me like that!!! I'm the one having to hug him and beg him. I agree with a below poster...don't push him away...enjoy what you've got. at least he wants to touch you.
Wish I was in your shoes.
I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid. Like another poster said, you can always move back. I now have a husband and kids and my family lives about 8 hours away. I miss my niece and nephew dearly but see them as often as I can. I stayed a month when each was born and then traveled every other weekend for several years. They are getting to be school age now so they know me well and I send things often. It has just become too expensive to travel that much.
I would just keep in mind with your BIL being in the military they may not be where they are longterm so that could pose a sticky situation if you get involved with someone special. Might want to talk to your sister. I know mine knows me better than anyone and always has great advice.
I have been in your shoes (sm)
I was in an abusive marriage and had children. I stayed way too long out of fear, I should have left years before I did. Just make sure you have tried everything to make your marriage work before leaving or you may have regrets. If it is something you feel you must do, you will be fine. It's not easy, but you'll make it. You'll have to work more and do without sometimes but you also should get child support to help.
Bring someone with you
I heard on the radio the other day that a man advertised a room on craigslist, then when the woman showed up to look, he assaulted her; threw her down on a bed & tried to attack her.
Bring someone with you. Finding a room on craigslist can be a great thing, or it can be a ruse for lowlifes.
If it turns out to be legitimate, get very clear ahead of time on what they expect of you in exchange for rent & that they know you will be working.
My mom was in your shoes
Married Bob, our step-dad. He came on to all three of her daughters, sometimes right in front of her. She made excuses for him and downplayed what he did. She was blinded by his money. And of course he denied whatever, pretending it was all in friendliness.
He fooled around with my little sister, I had her move in with me and threatened to call the law. Mom cried and begged - oh, what will happen to the rest of the family? How will they live without Bob's money? Oh, the poor man is threatening to kill himself vs go to jail. Please, keep my mouth shut. He's sorry and won't do it again. Oh, and little sister was probably asking for it and to blame as well (yes, mom would rather blame her own child than precious Bob)!!!!
He went on to seduce a cousin, then her young daughter, and mom even caught him red handed molesting his own DOG!!!!! She stayed with him though, for the sake of his money and supposedly her family, although by then, most of us would not set foot in their house. My brother, who was growing up under his influence, also now has a thing for underage girls that are his relatives. Nice, eh?
He spent them into the poor house, and by the time he died, all his money was gone. My sisters and I refuse to even be buried in the same graveyard as that creep. Mom dug him up and moved him to his own family plot about 10 years later, but the damage is done to her relationships with her daughters.
So if you want to end up like my mom, deny, shift the blame, and believe him. Sacrifice your whole family and stand by your man. You'll get what mom got - shame and blame and many years alone to play should've/could've/would've.
Been in your shoes
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, because my son was addicted to drugs with meth and binge drinking being his poisons of choice. Of course, he'd take anything--and I do mean anything--if he thought he could get a buzz from it. Every time I heard an ambulance wail in the distance, I'd wonder if today was going to be the day he overdoses to the point of being unsaveable. Every time somebody knocked at the door or if a police car would slow down in front of the house, I'd wonder if today was the day I was going to get notified that he finally died from his addictions. My heart bleeds for you...it really does. I know the heavy heart you have, and I know all about the soul-searching about what could I have done to prevent or maybe I even caused it.
Well, nothing you did caused it, and you definitely can't control its outcome since he is an adult, and he makes the decisions as to what he wants to do or not do with his life. I know that's hard to accept, because I went over and over in my mind with the "what ifs."
The best you can do right now is to not enable his habit. That means not giving money for rent (my son spent all his rent money on meth and booze and marijuana and other noxious chemicles), not bailing him out of jail, not giving money for groceries or even giving him groceries for that matter. That was hard for me. However, if he needed a meal, he was always free to come to the house >sober< and not under the influence of drugs and enjoy a meal. I think he came only once.
I lost track of him for 8 years or so, and then I learned he was living behind a dumpster in Boston during the coldest spell of the last century. I managed to get him out of that environment, and he did okay for a while. He had to go back to Massachusetts to serve a 60-day jail term, but he did that and cleaned up.
He was doing okay for a while and then he ran with "the crowd" and ended up back on meth and other drugs. He was again hooked, and this time it was a 4-year hiatus into that misery for him. I put him out of the house about 4 years ago, and the last time I saw him, I burst out crying because my baby was down to skin and bones, and he definitely looked like he was dying. So, for the past few years, I've been dreading the wail of sirens and knocks at the doors.
Well, about 3 days ago, I get a call out of the blue, and it was my son, wanting to come over. I was suspicious, of course. (In my mind, I thought about what else he was going to steal, etc.)
When I saw him for the first time in 2 years a few days ago,I truly did not recognize him. He had put on 65 pounds (not fat either), looks reasonably healthy, and he has "the sparkle" back in his eyes. Before, they were soul-less black orbs. Now, they shine. I found out that he has been drug-free and alcohol-free for almost 2 years now but that he was hesitant to make contact because Narcotics Anon. suggests only coming back and apologizing when able to make full restitution money-wise. Well, he didn't have the money, but he did apologize.
So, I really do know how you feel and all the pain, sorrow, and worrying you are going through and just how much greater those feelings will get for you. It will be a whole lot more intense as time goes on.
You need to get somebody to talk to for yourself. I tried the local Narcs Anon and a few of the other addiction groups as well as a couple of private counseling sessions.
Remember this: You didn't cause it, and you can't control it. Just don't enable him with money or gifts (he'll just trade or pawn whatever you give him for drugs...my son did.
If you need somebody to talk to about this, feel free to email me. I feel for you. I won't lie. It's going to get really, really rough...but no matter what he says/does, you didn't cause it.
Kathleen
If I were in your shoes - sm
First of all, take a deep breath. I would definitely ask him about it. I would also INSIST that he go to a marriage counselor with you. It does not sound as if you did it when it first happened, but you need to go. You have lots of unresolved feelings and rightfully so. I would tell him your marriage hinges on what action he takes. If he refuses, go alone. It seems like he is still holding on in some way to the memories and keeping in contact with her. Your marriage can recover from this with time, counseling, and 100% honesty from him. He needs to become an open book to you. It is not the end of the world, though it might seem like it now. My heart goes out to you. Best wishes.
How much is too much for shoes?
My husband always tries to get me to buy name brand shoes from an overpriced shoe store.... which I have to put insoles in anyway for my plantar problem!!!! Last time I bought shoes I went to Walmart and bought them for 20 and then put my insoles in them and it was fine. I saw these shoes made for walking by Sketchers and went online to look at them and they turned out to be $175!!! I was like WOAH!!! I actually like Sketchers, but good god I cant believe how much some shoes cost..... SO THE QUESTION IS HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR SHOES??? HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR YOUR KIDS SHOES???
Pay for shoes
I'm one who can wear shoes from Payless so I usually get shoes for $20, sometimes less if they're on sale. I have a friend who once said to me, I bought 2 pairs of shoes and spent $100 and she was excited about that. I laughted and told her I could have gotten at least 5 pairs or shoes, maybe more for that price. I try to get the kids shoes at Payless also, at least the youngest.
to each his/her own - I couldn't bring myself
of who made the movie and the director/producer's family history...........
to each her/his own..................
different strokes for different folks, and so on and so on and dooby dooby doo bah.......(lyrics from Sly and The Family Stone)
what color shoes to buy
See what color other bridesmaids are wearing, all should be same. Beige or cream color is a good choice. Gold/silver better choice for evening & not at golf course.
Bring the dog to my house
I would go get the dog and bring the dog to my house and take care of it.
so, did you bring the dog to your yard?
nm
I own it on DVD, but can't bring myself to actually watch it!
It seems way too sad! My husband will never watch it with me because it's a "chick flick." LOL!
you bring up my dilemna
I notice that you say you went to your grandparents as a child but now you expect your children's grandparents to come to you. I am soon to be a grandmother - DD and SIL make 200,000.00 a year and work only 40 hours weeks. I am struggling with 2 jobs - 60 hours a week, no days off, to make ends meet (was divorced and their father pretty much left me to pay for everything - now credit cards have been paid with my retirement and rolled into house payment). We went to my grandparents and I took my children to their grandparents for most visits, why now is it my responsibility to get to them? Do you spent at least equal time going to the grandparents' houses? What changed?
Oh me too. Love shoes!
It's a sickness really. :)
At one point I had well over a hundred pairs of shoes. I have thinned that down to about 10 pairs now but I am so tempted to buy shoes whenever I see some that I really like.
Why are big size shoes always
Short people don't have big feet, tall people do.
How did it turn out, what did you bring???
Love to know!
I would bring mom home
Sounds like it is time to bring her closer to you.
I've been in your shoes too - sm
Warning bells went off when you said he's gone 6 nights out of 7 (drinking, "sleeping it off") and that you believe his excuses. I did too but turned out he cheated on me for several years and finally gave me an STD (one of the "minor" ones at least).
Get out now. He's emotionally unavailable. Google "better than nothing relationships".
I was in your shoes at one time too -
I lost a job after 13 years and of course a person cannot always afford COBRA. So of course I had no health insurance for 3 years. That being said, I also was on 2 different antidepressants that cost almost $300 a month. My doc, bless his heart, put me in touch with a program for "Indigents and Transients". Don't let the title put you off...what it is is a program by some drug companies that will provide you your medications free of charge. No cost to you at all. All you do is fill out any necessary paperwork. It is income based, so your husband being laid off will be a help.
Your son may have to fend for himself for the duration. You raised him the best you could, taught him what he needed to now, and now he has made his choice. Tough as it may be for you, you need to get yourself taken care of first. No one can take care of you except yourself.
Where I live in Michigan, we have a program through United Way of MI that you can call and they can steer you in whatever direction you need to go...food pantry for feeding your family, low-cost or free health care, social services, etc.
Is your husband a veteran? My DH is a vet, Vietnam era, and the VA has resources you can use too. The "Veteran's Trust Fund" helped pay our mortgage one time when we hit the wall. They only wanted to know what had happened and how we had gotten behind. Also too, check into any of your county programs. When I lost my job, I was considered low-income (DUH!) and the state of MI came out and replaced our leaky doors with metal, leakproof doors ND blew in insulation to help cut down the heating bills.
Please, please, don't feel like the Lone Ranger. There are a lot of us out there that would fall apart at the seams if our paychecks were even one day late.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers as any time is a bad time to be in this boat, let alone at Christmas time.
OK, I'm giving it a try again, except for the shoes.
I cleaned my sink last night and will keep that clean. Got up this a.m. and got dressed and ready for the day, which does indeed make a difference in my attitude. The only thing I won't do is wear my shoes in the house. This is something I've never done. It's not a cultural thing, it's must a me-thing. I'm always in socks in the house and keep my Crocs by the door for quick trips outside to mailbox or garden. The only time I wear shoes is when I'm out and about. This is something I've done all my life, and it just feels very weird for me to have shoes on in the house.
me and my laced up shoes
They are on when I hit the floor and not off until I hit the hay. (I think flylady thinks it is important to prevent napping), but I can cat nap with my shoes on :)
Even my casual shoes are $130, sm
my dress shoes usually run about $200-$250. I buy shoes that are constructed well and last for years. I have a pair of pumps that are about 20 years old and look brand new except for wear on the sole. I don't have hundreds of pairs, less than 15 pairs in 20 years, but I take really good care of them and get them repaired/resoled when needed.
I probably have spent less in 20 years on shoes that a person who buys $20-$40 shoes over the same time period.
I'm close to being in your shoes
Lots of sharp replies from people who probably don't know the whole story.
I've been fighting it for some months now and it is going to take months before I can recover. An MTSO I worked for lost a client in November, but that was okay because I had a doctor account and a second MTSO job to pick up the slack. In February the first MTSO lost another client and as I was low man on the totem pole, my account was given to those without work and I was let go. Still okay, I thought, because I would just make the second MTSO the primary MTSO...which worked for about a week when I got the notice that MTSO was cutting my pay by 70% by switching to VR editing. Okay, I had some notice and I found another company to make my primary MTSO but it has taken time to build up my lines - took a pay cut but grateful to have a job and still had the doctor account. Now I've heard this new MTSO will soon be switching to VR editing. 
I had just signed the lease on the apartment I am in. I am single with no family to help and have a 6 yo child to raise without CS. Everyone goes through a bad patch sometime in their life and I hope this is as bad as it gets. I have my health and the ability to look for another job. My LL has been very understanding and is working with me for a couple of months. Even though money will still be tight for a while, at least for another month there is a roof over our heads and a chance to work to turn things around.
I hope things turn around for you soon 
Maybe bring him to your home, until you can get those slackers out of there.
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You could even bring back the Macarena! :) nm
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in my opinion, if you don't want to discuss it here, why did you bring it here?--sm
You write a lengthy post and then dismiss any response with *I don't want to discuss it here.* You are not looking for help then. sorry. JMO
Had one that was tinkling in the closets and in particular in our shoes. (sm)
I found bloody pee in one and called the vet to take all 3 of them in for a checkup. Sure enough, UTI. One of them very obligingly peed on the floor in the waiting room and we could easily see who had the bloody pee. He did check the other two out, only the one had it. I now use only cat food with special urinary pH formula. I think it has helped, no problems for years now.
Do you mean cut flowers to bring inside,
or do you want an inside plant that blooms?
I am an outside gardener myself. If it's outside flowers you are interested, where do you live or what is your zone?
They should bring the dog in and tie the dog-hitting kids.....
:(
Maybe you could just bring up casually in conversation
how much you enjoy the squirrels, and how much it pains you to see when one has been run over. Don't mention the incident at all, just talk in general about squirrels. Even if she views squirrels as pests, hopefully your talking to her will make her more aware of them when she is driving.
I love squirrels, too, and fortunately I have never hit one, but I tell you, more than once I have nearly had a wreck trying NOT to hit one. They are tricky little devils!
Ah...our furbabies. They bring such joy and sadness.
I have been where you are and my thoughts are with you. Mine died 4 years ago and I still miss him every day even though I have since adopted 2 more. Each one is special and unique. You are doing a good job...hang in there.
I am not in your shoes, but from your post, you sound a little
She is lonely and obviously loves her family. Hoping she is going to slow down soon is also not a nice thing to say. All I can say is that you too will be old someday and I hope that your children and inlaw children are not as sensitive about things as you.
Take more pills and chill.
Anything cherry or lemon! Bring it on!
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