Clearly to blame for what? In your mind. nm
Posted By: Supporting on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Even if the poster is dead wrong and clearly to blame? nm - what's wrong with the truth
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I don't blame you (sm)
One bit for being mad. I would be too. It definitely doesn't seem fair. I mean, if this is common practice, you could spill coffee on your carpet and get all new. It really doesn't make sense.
By the way, I hope everything works out for you, and I'm very sorry about the trouble you are having. It sounds like a matter of insurance companies being bombarded with claims due to mass damage in your area, so they are getting stingy with their pay outs. Definitely not fair. Is the state isnurance commissioner doing anything to help?
Please don't blame yourself. (sm)
I do not know if this has anything to do with your situation, but I thought I would share.
My mother experienced a similar situation in regards to my oldest sister (5 other siblings). The counselor told my parents that my sister was attention-seeking. She was in her 30s and married with children when they sought counselling together. She is now in her late 60s. Our mother is still living and in her late 80s, and my sister still has her moments.
"Birth order effect" is very interesting:
1st born must cope with the loss of attention to 2nd born.
2nd born must constantly cope with the attention-seeking 1st born.
3rd born must cope with a perfectionist 2nd born, and it keeps going on.
Our 38-year-old daughter also has her moments, but overall we have a very good mother/daughter relationship.
My opinion only, but I think a daughter's personality can be affected by the relationship with their dad. My husband was diagnosed with a passive-aggressive personality, and I do think our daughter was affected by his personality. But, instead of arguing with her, which is a trait of a PA personality seeking attention, I try to avoid conflict and praise her often, as she can be kind and loving, and God has been blessed her with many talents.
May God bless you and your daughter to experience a more loving relationship is my prayer.
I don't blame you
I saw one of those in my flower bed one time and almost had a heart attack. 
I do not blame you.
Maybe couples should fill out questionnaires before getting married that include questions about vacations as well as the usual concerns.
Oh yeah, I guess they probably cover that if you use one of those on-line dating services like e-harmony.
I don't blame you....
With all of that happening...your daughter's safety is #1. Even though she got suspended. I would still have her carry something like the pepper spray again for her protection just in case, but tell her to be extremely discrete about it and not show or tell anyone about it, not even her friends. You can never be too protective when it comes to your children, in my opinion. I would ask the people you are meeting with if it was their daughter what would they do? If your daughter is attacked, she may be scarred emotionally/mentally for the rest of her life. I have 4 of my own, and I would do anything to protect them. Your a good parent; I would have done the same thing.
I don't blame the mom
13 years old is too young to have a boyfriend.
I don't blame you for being really sm
mad and I sure wouldn't have anything to do with her anymore, but not everybody has a work ethic like that. My hubby has been doing work for friends for probably close to 40 years and WOULD NEVER EVER do something like that. Actually he underbids himself alot and is happy to do it for people What goes around comes around and it has for us in many many instances when we were on the end needing help.
Don't let this color your faith in people. You just had a bad experience like we all have had at one time or another for one reason or another. If it hadn't been this it would have been something else with the same people. It just took 7 years but it would have happened!
I don't blame you~
How aggravating that must be.. I hate dealing with people over the phone like that.. It stresses me to no end & I can't even work some days with that kind of junk.. hoping you are having a better day by now..
please don't blame his heritage...this could have--sm
been anyone from anywhere. He was more american than he was korean and I really don't think his nationality had anything to do with his emotional state. I am not defending him or what he did, but please don't make more of it than what it is. There is going to be enough anger about all of this when the shock wears off and it just does not need to become a race thing, too. JMO
I don't blame you for feeling that way at all...but (sm)
I really think if you say anything it is just going to put a wedge between you and your dad and your new *relative*. It stinks though, I agree with you!
well i always blame work!
so they can't find out a lied because i work at home !! :)
I do get what you are saying, but if they are my friends I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to tell them i dont feel like hanging out! Maybe that's part of my immaturity and im on the road to working on that :)
Really can't blame the govt on this one - sm
We all take responsibility for ourselves.
Let's talk about the decisions we make and advertising.
Some people see an ad for some kind of "miracle" weight loss drug. We know it isn't going to work the way the ad says it will but... still, some people buy it, the company makes big money.
Same thing with some of these shady lenders. They may be sitting on a lot of foreclosures at a time but they will STILL make a lot of money off of the rest of the people.
Now lets talk credit cards.
Same thing here. I have a Discover card that I had paid off about 2 years ago. I still had a sizable balance on another card but my plan was to close the Discover and keep the other and pay it off too.
When I called Discover to close my account after I had paid it off, they wanted to keep me of course so they offered me a fixed rate of 3.99% for three years on any balance transfers, no transfer fees, etc.
Okay. I kept the Discover, transferred the balance and closed the other card. I am now 2 months from having it paid off again but....... even though I have requested numerous times that they NOT raise my available credit, they keep doing it. My available credit is now up to $14,000.00.
Excuse me but I am NOT that stupid as to charge that much on a credit card, no matter what the interest rate is but..... Some people do it and end up in big trouble.
The trick of it is that people need to be smarter than that. It's OUR money, OUR risk. Card companies don't give a rip if they over extend credit to people. They will find a way to squeeze the money out of them.
I don't blame the stores at all
Its a vicious circle for everyone, and everyone is loosing money. The stores because people won't buy what they used to and the consumer because they have to pay so much more for what they do get!!!
I'm sorry for your friend, but you can't blame the dr.
My mother had the exact same ailments - diabetes that she did not control as well as she should that eventually led to kidney failure, liver failure and death. Mom was always concerned about what other people thought, yet she never failed to ask questions of her physicians. If she didn't get an answer that made sense to her, she continued to ask. She was very stoic so sometimes the drs wouldn't take her as seriously as they needed to take her and there were several instances where something went on waaay too long because Mom wasn't kicking and screaming about it.
Be that as it may, it is YOUR health. If you don't understand something, it is YOUR responsibility to ask questions until you do. It doesn't and shouldn't matter if the doctor is English speaking or not. If you don't understand something, ask. You are your own best advocate for your health.
She needs to take someone with her to every appointment from now on. I hope she gets the kidney she needs.
I don't blame you, you did the right thing.
If you're taking care of them, they're fine at their own house. The owners should understand that. If they can afford to take all of these trips, they can afford to board them. It's not your responsibility to provide them with dogsitting service whenever they want to go somewhere. My sister has two very big, very obnoxious German Shepherds. They are bullies and their behavior isawful, one even flunked out of obedience school. She has asked if they could come to my house when she has went on a trip and I've had to say no. I have 2 Rottweilers, but they are quiet and calm in the house. I also have a cat who co-exists with my dogs just fine. My sister had the nerve to say "but they don't like cats, so you'd probably have to lock him up somwhere while they were here!" WHAT??? I don't feel bad about saying no and you shouldn't either.
If it were me, I'd totally blame my husband.
You mention in your post your BIL had a trailer stolen and a vehicle broken into at his house so that should have been reason enough to get a little energy up to take them off the trailer. A tough lesson learned, yes, but it's only 1700 dollars. Did you happen to see the other post above where a woman is in danger of losing her house?
I don't blame you. Have you checked zillow.com
or had an appraisal lately? Not that it matters - but would be something to shove at them if they get pushy - unless of course it comes in lower than you want. If you don't NEED to sell - hang on to it if at all possible. We sold our land 5 years ago and wish we would have held onto it - it almost never depreciates!! Best of luck to ya
blame to person who put it out there and didn't keep an eye on it. can't sm
blame the lady for buying it at the price the daughter stated whether she knew what it was or didn't know what it was. fancy cars mean nothing these days. i pay more for a nonfancy car than most pay for a fancy car because i don't have good credit so it cost me twice as much. why are you saying the person who bought it is a rotten person? she gave the price that was asked for it. why lay the blame on her? would you not have done the same thing. garage salers and buyers are out for deals period. why would she not high tail it out of the neighborhood to fly to more garage sales if that was what she was out shopping for that day? what would you had done had you caught up with her? asked her to give it back? that would be rotten in itself. she got a deal. get over it. geez! it isn't the poor lady's fault and doesn't make her rotten.
I am asking in all honesty to not blame the stores
My family is in the grocery business, and like jss said, everything is going up. I don't believe the stores are trying to make a profit off of the bad economy, but groceries have to be trucked in (paying the drivers, the gas, the workers that package the items, etc.). Outrageous prices are eveywhere. My father refused to order red peppers due to the cost and the fact that he knew his customers would not pay for them. It works both ways.
Honestly I don't blame you for macing
the dog if it's owner isn't going to be responsible enough to keep the dog on his/her property. Have you contacted the owner of the dog and complained? My husband is a K9 officer and he gets these calls ALOT and it ain't all pitbull calls, it is just dogs in general roaming around in other people's yard and not on their own property. The mace won't kill a dog, but it sure does hurt really bad and makes the dog think twice about approaching you.
I would not blame granny. She tried to get daughter
NM
I don't blame you for not wanting a woman
I am a massage therapist (not practicing right now), and I know how it can affect guys (when doing normal professional work ... nothing funky). - I doubt your hubby would be too keen on a male working on him though. : )
Maybe you could do a bit of a strip tease for him or even just whisper in his ear about how hot he is.
I'm just doing a simple, sweet card and a $5.00 scratch-off lottery ticket with a big heart on it ... and probably a bit of hanky-panky. Not to promote drinking, but if you are a bit inhibited, you could drink just a bit to take the edge off (a shot or so). We seem to have extra fun when I do that.
easier to blame you than look in the mirror!
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the doctors overdosed him can't blame him if he
now refuses to take it!
I don't blame you for being upset.. afterall..
a vacation is to "get away" from it all, even if does mean your family.. but I am not the best person to give this kind of advice, I absolutely hate to be put in a position where I'm gonna have to "feel mean or bad" about telling them NO~ or I can't do something, etc.. will pray it all works out for you..
Many people do this in this situation and I cannot blame them.............nm
nm
I did NOT blame his culture-reading problem?
I gave the freshest stats at the time this a.m. - that he was a 23 y/o Korean boy....
only thing i stated about Korea and their culture was that in the schools they teach antiamericanism and I'm not blaming the culture, I'M STATING A FACT.
Geesh........
Even if the poster is dead wrong and clearly to blame? nm
trudat
I blame the parents. Children are not getting the love and attention
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If you don't mind me asking, did you take the
mega-B vitamin pill every day or just when you felt the symptoms? My former OB/GYN basically dismissed me as "it is part of life", but she did suggest vitamin B, but I don't remember if it was every day or not.... Thanks for listening.... By the way, I think my Mom had PMS too but never sought attention. I find out later on down the line not too long ago that she also suffered from severe anxiety. She had high blood pressure as well, which I do not have. But I think of all the times as a child how she would be so moody, ya' know.... LOL.... makes more sense now.
would you mind
what you think I could do to make it better for her... I'm not referring to the party.... just in general. It weighs on me. Thank you.
Sorry you had to deal with that growing up. That had to be incredibly hard.
I can do about anything I put my mind to...
The waterfall idea I had was obviously to make my own, but creating out of pottery, or a like substance and having it fired. However, I've no experience and tho I am keenly interested, I am afraid it would be quite time consuming. I would like to propose before Christmas.
I was always of the mind that
Happy Holidays encompassed everything from Thanksgiving through January. It was just a more efficient way of noting good tidings. It is certainly easier than saying, "Happy Thanksgiving and merry/joyous religious and/or cultural holiday and/observance of your choice and Happy New Year.
Well first keep in mind that everything changes....(sm)
Nothing stays the same. I remember at one point in my life feeling like I was at the lowest point possible... like no one in the world cared. I remember sitting in my room thinking it would be better if I just died. Then my sister called and told me that she was thinking about killing herself. I talked to her for an hour about all the people who would be hurt and devastated if she did. All the things she had to live for and how you never know what the future holds. By the time I finished talking to her I felt so much better. About six months later, my life was going great and I was so much happier, I thought back to the moment when I had sat in my room wishing to die and I realized that we have to always understand that a moment is just that...a fleeting moment. Nothing stays the same. You never ever know how things are going to go. You do have people who love you and count on you...your daughter and your granddaughter...it was a good decision you made not to exchange gifts with your daughter when you are in debt. Christmas is not about getting gifts anyway...it is about giving and loving others...and you did just that by sacrificing your own gifts to be sure your granddaughter had a good Christmas!! You should feel really good about that. Also, you said you have avoided people...reach out and reconnect with your old friends..you say you didn't even get a card...did they get one from you? Did you call them? Go to a debt counselling service and get help with your credit card issue. Keep looking for better jobs and hang onto your less than great ones in the meantime. Just from your post I can see you have much to be thankful for. You are obviously intelligent from the way you type, you have family members, you have 2 jobs (many people have none), you have friends whose opinion you valued at one time enough to avoid them over being ashamed. Everyone has something at some point in their life that they are not happy about or proud of...everyone comes into hard times at some point in their life. Reach out!!! Take some steps to improve your life. It is all so within your reach!
Do you mind if I ask
how your kids like your b/f and if they are comfortable around him. I have so much anxiety about that and that is one of reasons I choose not to date. How did you bring your b/f into their lives?
What if it is on her mind?
I think about ice cream all the time! Although, I suppose it is a problem. :)
Don't mind really
You know..It's funny. I really don't mind doing it. I kinda like the social aspect of it and being able to feel like I'm doing something other than just production work. But, I really would like to get some compensation for it as well. How should I go about it? My boss and I get along VERY well and we see eye to eye on most things, but I've just never been very good at asking for things.javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
I did not say he was in his right mind- sm
it is never right, just saying maybe childbirth, etc. made him be *tupid- who knows, who cares at this point. No need for you to be a total witch about it. I had not read all the posting when I posted, what is your excuse? I am more concerned about her current children. If he is a pedophile she needs to see if he had done anything with her/their own kids.
Only in your mind (nm)
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Mind your own
I doubt that getting the stick is so heinous, or the child wouldn't have chosen it. What the child did was deliberately deceptive, which is really one of the worst offenses. When a child believes he is so clever he can outwit the parent, there is trouble brewing.
Like others have said, DHS is not the best solution and once you get them involved, you can't un-ring that bell. If you see the child with marks on him or limping from injuries, that's different. As it is, stay out of it.
A J Cowling and OJ come to mind........
Oh yeah I did watch it - and still felt *inundated* - it became prime time TV.....it preempted many TV shows.....
And as far as you not thinking he did the deed - you're entitled to your opinion - just as we all are. I believe he did it and it's as simple as that, TO ME. To me, he HAS the legs - legs that were/ are known for running!!
Have a great Sunday...........
I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM
the first thing that comes to my mind
detatched retina.
not saying thats whats wrong but had 2 sister-in-laws who both had detatched retina and symptoms were floaters. get to an eye doctor asap to get it checked out. if it is the sooner its treated the better--- which is the case no matter what the cause is
I google whatever ? comes to mind...sm
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
http://www.bloomington.in.us/~lgthscac/santeria.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/santeri.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santeria
I actually dont mind others using....
a cell phone if I am in a store as long as it is not to argue with family etc. My son has one and sometimes he will use it in a store to call me and ask me something regarding an item I asked to grab for me while there etc. I have also heard husbands talking to their partners asking questions regarding food shopping while in an isle. That doesnt seem to bother me at all..
How do you quiet your mind
My mind just always races and I can't sleep. I am not good at meditating, can't take meds or herbal supplements because of health issues. any suggestions?
Big DollHouse comes to mind!...
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I gotta get out, How'd i get in this slammer
This cooler, this big dollhouse!
Alright, ladies, welcome to the "Big Dollhouse!" For those of you new to the Baltimore Women's House of Detention, think of me as a mother... one who eats her young!
Locked up with all these lowlife women
And horizontal stripes ain't exactly slimmin'.
Is there anybody here who can dry clean my blouse?
It's the maid's day off In the big dollhouse
Lady justice, Where have you gone?
Îîí, wilbur, check, I think i left the iron on!
Did you see corny laughing? I could murder that louse!
Honey, that'll getcha life In the big dollhouse
Big house!... Locked up here in the pen
Big house!... No phone! No food! No men!
I need a conjugal visit from my loving spouse
Honey, just drop the soap in The Big Dollhouse
Yoo hoo, my stomach's a little sour
I haven't had food in over an hour
You just had a pizza, six burgers, a mouse!
There's no food left in the big dollhouse
Hey, I have got to complain
Mira, mami, don't i know you from 1st and main?
Eek, call my attorneys Lipshitz and Strauss
I gotta get sprung from the big dollhouse
Big house! No fair! No food! No fun!
Big house! And our fight had just begun
'Cause it's freedom's flame I'd like to douse
So we must break out of this Big Dollhouse
Penny, i can't take all this waiting
I've lost my man plus, my hair's deflating!
Well Tracy, I hate to grumble or grouse
But it's your fault that we're in this big dollhouse!!
Hey, cool it, ladies no need to shout
And don't ya got an old man to bail you out?
Ha! Her daddy's a pervert, a loser, a souse!
Well, it's just us girls in the big dollhouse
Big house! God, i'm too young to fry!
Big house! I'm busting out! Girl, so am i!
Lady justice, hear my plea 'Cause the big dollhouse
The big dollhouse ain't big enough for me!
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Brings to mind
Michael Jackson's little court room dramatics- hobbling into court in his PJs acting like he was at deaths door.
Do they really think the judge is gonna go "ohhh, poor thing, I can't send them to jail if they don't feel well!" Gimme a break!
Paris's "medical condition" is obviously not so severe that it kept her from going out and getting drunk and driving.
And please, I had a friend who had full blown AIDS and was still required to serve most of his sentence.
Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
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That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.
I can't touch roses myself.
Okay, I don't mind paying
to make sure everything is in order! Thanks for all the advice!
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