Children are an expensive responsibility.
Posted By: Be responsible and don't have them if you can&# on 2006-11-12
In Reply to: Children are blessings! They are not luxury items!!! - nm
It's not fair to bring people into this world who will clearly be at a disadvantage from the get-go. They have no choice in the matter, you do.
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you need to take responsibility for getting this woman
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Well he took responsibility for his actions
He is taking full blame, not pointing finger at anyone else for his actions. He said it was an immature act, a mistake and bad judgment. TRY CRIMINAL.
He wants forgiveness and understanding and now has found JESUS and will put his life in GOD's hands now. He will redeem himself.
Kinda hard to forget and forgive this. Just disgusting. May be he won't do it again, but the point is HE DID IT and he cannot take back what he did. What's done is done.
He should still get the MAX time and should serve time in jail and he can reflect all he wants in there.
At least she's taking responsibility for it...
It's not the ideal situation, but I was having sex when I was 16, so I'm not going to judge her. It could have happened to me. Sadly, she will probably be a much better mom than her older sister! My dog would probably be a better mom than Britney though, so that's not saying much.
I was not married when I had either of my children, and people judged me but oh well. I am an excellent mother and a marriage certificate would not have made me a better mom. I have been married for awhile now, but we waited over 4 years to get married, and that is our choice. Gone are the days when people rushed off to get married because they were pregnant. Sex before marriage has been around since the beginning of time. We are just becoming more accepting of it now and don't demand people get married when they get pregnant. I am personally glad our children will know we didn't get married because we "had to" but because we loved each other so much that we wanted to.
Just want to know, how does a 16 year old take responsibility?
She said she did it. If not for the job she has because of being Britney's sister only, you think she could really support a child and take care of its every need without her mother being involved - I hear her mother is pleased. OMG, what a horror. she is really raising some good ones- I think she has another child, a son-I love watching a complete meltdown.
Why is it the office staff's responsibility
to get you from your home to their office. Obviously, you have a computer -- why not Google it?
As for the appt mix-up, it happened all the time when I worked in an office 10 years ago. It was a mistake -- not some conspiracy. A lot of staff is overworked due to rising job cuts. When I have an appt further than 5 minutes from my house, I always call the day before to confirm.
Sometimes we have to take responsbility for ourselves. As for the comments related to the age of these staff members, what about the old farts who are still working because they didn't plan well enough to retire? Yesterday, one gave me a cheeseburger instead of the hamburger that I ordered -- what's the reason for that? My guess was just a simple error; maybe I should rethink that.
teaching kids to take responsibility for their actions
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Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
It seems it would probably be less expensive SM
to just buy fabric and cut it out yourself. There are some great fabric stores with home dec fabrics. Anyway, should be easy, since just straight sewing.
Can anyone tell me just how expensive it is
to get a hearing aid, including the evaluation and the price of the device? My husband is driving me crazy. He can't seem to hear very well anymore and he is such a grump. We have insurance but I was wondering what to expect. I really have no idea if it is $250 or $2000. Thanks if you can help me. 
Why do that have to be expensive?? (nm)
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**they have to be expensive????? (nm)
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I think they are expensive. Would rather have
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Uniforms are NOT more expensive.
My kids have been in public school and in Catholic school. Buying uniforms is waaaay cheaper than buying back-to-school clothes. My boys are required to wear khaki pants and a polo shirt, and non-scuff type brown shoes. (I choose to buy Skechers.) Each started with two pairs of pants and three shirts, and I spent less than $300 the first year. The clothing lasted all years, and I found that one pair of Skechers per boy was a good investment. One pair made it through an entire school year. (Previously I bought cheap Pay Less shoes every couple of months.) As time goes on, the older son handed down uniforms to the younger brother. I replaced uniform shirts or pants as needed, and there was no big rush to go school shopping in the beginning of the year. Our school also offers uniform exchanges to keep costs down, and will provide uniforms for free through the Home and School Association to families with financial need.
As far as expressing their individuality through their clothing, they still have street clothes for life outside of school, and they can express their individuality then. Or, they can be individuals simply by being themselves, because that's how it's done. I think the "expressing individuality" issues is over-rated. What we need more of these days is people thinking about the team, about each other, and how their actions impact the entire community. We need less of it's-all-about-me attitude, in my opinion. If uniforms help in that regard, I'm very much for them!
Often several people will go in together to get a more expensive
jk,
Mine are not the expensive ones
like you probably had but at the same time offered 1 and then told I could sell myself for twice so just decided to keep and wear myself. The funny thing is to just look at those you would think just junky cheap plastic. I found at the antique place some old Jewell Tea dishes and such, my stepmom had plenty and they were selling for prices unbelievable to me being as I knew cheap years ago. I did find out that probably would have sold necklaces and bracelets for less than the dealer told me to sell for.
I thought they were expensive too
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San Diego got way too expensive
Rent was about a grand a month eight years ago when I was 36 and had my precious baby I left there when he was eight months old. I stayed with my two of my best friends (gay couple) in Atlanta for over a year in their mansion-like home. I then came back here to MI, where it surely is cheap to live and he and I could be near my family. I bought a house last year for $13,000 (that's not a typo) and the cost of living is very reasonable here.
No, 27 is certainly not old and you're not having a mid-life crisis -- just wild oats. I used to call it "world of hate" when I would be ready to leave a city: Sick of traffic, sick of the people at the grocery store, sick of my neighbors. Then, I would plot out a journey and move on. Now, though, with my sweet child of school age, we can only wander off and travel in the summer months. So, do it while you can, girl!!
I know they are expensive. A pedicure alone
I wanted to get my grandma one but i just can't afford that!!!
Why are funerals so expensive?
After finding funeral home service for my grand mother. I think that funeral home is so expensive.
You agree with me?
Thanks! Bras are EXPENSIVE!! nm
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Very very expensive and demanding blessings, yes.
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very expensive but value added to home...sm
Lumber Liquidators for the bamboo and we needed 1400 s.f. and then to pay 2 men to install that and the cork backing...it was V_E_R_Y expensive but added about $25-$30G value to the home I do believe (was done a few years ago); besides the fact it is absolutely gorgeous and not difficult to take care of...but it's shoes off!
I heard Requip is very expensive, do you know how much?
I have it day and night, sometimes in involves more than my legs, and it drives me crazy.
Eladil, though expensive, works for me.
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How do you figure leasing is less expensive?
I've tried doing the math on that several times when we were going in to buy a car, but I never see it as being a saving. If I plan to keep a car for as long as it's useful and relatively trouble-free, leasing makes no sense. If I pay off a car in 3 years, or even 5 years, I could drive it for another 10 years and not have any car payments. But if I continuously lease new cars, I'll always have a car payment. The years w/o payments are money straight in the bank for me. I could see it being cheaper if you plan to buy a new car every couple of years, but I plan to drive my cars until they sputter, cough and die.
Incidentally, I just looked at a camry hybrid today. time to replace a puffing 12 year old car with 189,000 miles on it. I like it. Not sure the gas savings will outweigh that sticker price, tho. wow!
I personally think they are expensive and you would be better off going through Ebay...
NM
Stop with the expensive gifts.
Do gift cards and such, but don't knock yourself out.
A feline is not that expensive and what I have heard is
the rodents, etc. leave even when they catch a smell of them. Have not seen 1 here but at my other house my older feline caught and killed 2, 1 big and 1 smaller. She was very proud of herself.
I hated to pay for expensive bras as well
but it really is worth it I promise you. I have a black and a nude bra from VS. I went in for an actucal fitting and these bras have been wonderful. I don't think I will ever wear anything else. I know that you don't have to go to VS to get a good bra, but I had a gift certificate, and while I don't think that is what DH was expecting my to buy, it was totally worth it. Right now I am in the second year of both bras, just wash in the sink and hang dry which definitely helps keep them in shape. I am 38D so I really need plenty of support. It is almost time for new bras, but since you can tighten the straps as well as around as you go, they have made all the difference in the world. Like I said, you can get good quality bras at major department stores without spending what you would spend at VS, but just check into it. I promise you it will be worth it.
what price range...I see they are very expensive
I need a great shampooer.
West coast is all expensive...
So you settled back at home, 13K! WOW I would never settle back in Cali... like you said it's way too expensive and the wages (at least what i make) definitely don't keep up with the cost of living. I have found in the South the living is sooooo much more affordable, but then I have to think of the pros and cons like the weather (never been in a hurricane, they kinda scare me)... but the people are absolutely wonderful! at least everyone I have encountered was so nice and polite, again nothing like the west coast. I just visited Atlanta when I was in NC two weeks ago and fell in LOVE with it. However, it's a bit big for me but I am curious to know more about it... just as an option. Do you mind if I email you directly? Thanks again for your insight!
Yes! Can you see 3 of them? And they are expensive, too. DH HATES it! haha nm
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Those places tend to be more expensive sm
Glad you found something that works for you, but that is not the case with everyone. QVC, Catherine's, etc, tend to be more expensive, which is okay for a special occasion outfit once in a great while, but I cannot afford to spend that kind of money on my everyday clothing. Also, if I can't try it on, I usually don't buy it. I have bought clothing from catalogs and feel for me that it is not worth the hassle. Things look one way on TV or in a picture that do not translate well on me. Even in a store, I have picked something up that I thought was really nice and hated it once I tried it on, as I am sure many women have. I am not defending wearing too-small clothes. I am only trying to come up with a reason for someone doing so. You wouldn't catch me dead out of the house in something too small.
Cant understand that. Cosmetics are EXPENSIVE!
I just can see paying like $9.50 for a lipstick, when that will buy a gallon of milk, some pasta, some veggies, & maybe a couple pieces of chicken.
(Surely there can't be THAT many Tammy Faye Bakers in this country!)
Yeah but Macy's is EXPENSIVE. NM
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I disagree, more expensive does not always equal better
quality. Especially when it comes to cosmetics.
Instead of buying expensive creams containing cucumber extract, just put a cucumber on your face! Works equally
and even better!
I would definitely stop this expensive gifts, but
I think that your son/daughter is either spoiled or maybe really depressed.
I would try to get closer to him/her and 'shake' him/her up to get out of this lethargy.
You did not explain much how your relationship with your son/daughter is in general?
If he/she is maried, children, etc....
Was it rude for your friend to want expensive gift?
Probably not but just not intelligent for the ones who would feel obligated to get one. A gift is simply that. You buy what YOU want to buy, not what another person wants to receive. A gift is given from the heart, makes no difference about the cost of it. Only someone shallow would worry about whether their gift was good enough.
I have seen them offered in VERY expensive housing markets -
I saw ads for 40-year mortgages offered when were on vacation in Hawaii a few years ago. My friend who lives in San Fran got one. The prices for houses in these markets is through the roof and it is the only way most people can afford anything at all. They are not offered any place I have seen where I live, which is AL. I agree with the poster below about maybe taking a loss on it with being in it for such a short period of time and wondering what the market might do and not having much equity in it when you go to sell. Remember to add in your closing costs because those are not cheap! I would just start calling around to banks. Most will be very eager to help you out. They love mortgages of any kind! :-)
The school-sponsored "jewelers" are too expensive.
Go to some place like Wal-mart for a decent ring for MUCH less money.
I'm glad my sons weren't interested in class rings. That saved me tons of money! And kids don't wear high school rings for very long after they graduate. I see more college rings on adult hands than high school rings. My youngest son decided he'd rather have an ring signifying he's an Eagle Scout, and we'll probably get that for him to present at his ceremony.
As for me, I remember how shocking the price was for my high school ring. Way back in 19mumblemumble I paid $65 for a Josten's ring! ROFL! Either I'm REALLY old, or inflation is just unbelievable!
Expensive, but love smell of my little grandson.
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Wore very expensive clothes. No one said a word.
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that. Biological has to be in the description. Wildly expensive, but works even
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I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
Yes, a long time ago. Veddy Veddy Expensive!
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Expensive dental care/no dental insurance. nm
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she said *he definitely does not want more children*
but she said that HE definitely does not want anymore children...that's what the OP said so I responded based on that *fact*.... 
I am so sorry!! I have 4 children myself
30, 28, 24 and 17 - and can honestly say that we have gone through periods like this before - it is usally something really silly that gets all blown up - a misunderstanding, etc. Enjoy your birthday to its fullest - send a gift/card to your granddaughter as you normally would and go about your business with no bitterness - it will all work out - they will be back to you soon - really! :)
Yes, and then only if there are no children.
Sorry, but tobacco is a dastardly substance that people need protection from IMO.
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