Child support questions

I hope I'm on the right board here.  :D  I have 2 kids and have been divorced 4-1/2 years.  I have had a child support order in effect since around 3 years ago, which included back pay for the whole 4-1/2 years.  This was for (don't laugh) $125 a month.  I FINALLY just started getting this support about a month ago.  First, it was $25-something a week and the past couple weeks, it has dropped down to $9.65.  I believe this is automatically coming out of his paycheck (this is the first job he's had in forever).  He tells me he has a very good job in trucking and so, what my question is, if I go back to court to modify that order, to get more, since he now has a job, will I need an attorney, or can I do that on my own?  I'm really thinking it won't even be worth the time and money with a lawyer, but I would like to have it modified, since he has an income.  To add to that, I am paying $250 for the kids' insurance, and I wasn't when the original order was made.  He also tells me he just bought a house (which is likely baloney, anyway), but if he can afford a house, surely he can afford more than $36 a month in child support.

PS:  Per the handy-dandy canculator on the state website, figuring both our incomes in (what he claims to be getting, anyway), he should be owing between $1500 and $1800.

Thanks, y'all!

• Child support questions - sm
  • Here is what I did. - bumblebee
  • Speaking from the other side of the fence.... - MT and worn out
  • yes, you can go to the family court and do that on your own. - ()
    • Thanks very much - sm
      • Go affter it, doesn't matter how long it takes! - ()
  • in my state... - mt

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mine is currently in arrears in the amount of $23,775 --- he inherited MILLIONS when his father died -- he refuses to work, he's never paid me a dime.... my case worker is attempting to put a lien on his $1/2-million home in Vegas..  Blessed with this child, but sure would like some support, maybe not have to work two jobs...

I'm so glad you're all here for ranting.... thanks, friends.

Well, I managed to make it to family court yesterday and back home while flying low :)  My son-in-law walked out 5 months in arrears and next payment due 3/1, already in debt for about 2 grand, plus he has to pay for the DNA test (99.999% - ha, didn't need Maury after all!)  My daughter is $1500 in arrears with another payment due 3/1, and her order has been moved over into the category to take any Federal Income Tax refunds she gets in the future to be applied to the order.  So now, finally, I should have no further court appearances unless the two want to TPR (terminpate parental rights) and let me adopt.  The next step for my daughter is jail if she doesn't pay in March, so she is already making noises she might let me adopt.  The dud has wanted to me to adopt her all along to avoid CS.

I went to municipal court and had the arrest warrant removed and was given another 2 months to pay the s-t-u-p-i-d ticket.  I asked whether the judge would accept that I corrected the tag problem the next day and was told no.  If it was expired at the time the ticket was written, then they do not make exceptions.  I checked our local newspaper and the city hired 11 new officers in 2006 for the specific purpose of enforcing vehicle/driving codes in the city.  They have increased the number of traffic-related tickets issued to almost 18,000 in 2006, up from less than 8,000 in 2004.  Now I just have to remember to pay it, but did buy a new day planner today and have written 3 reminders to myself to pay it on time  

On another note, as I have no health insurance and need certain maintenance medications (almost $1000) a month, I found needymeds.com.  I have already received a 3-month supply of one drug and will be receiving another each month shipped to my doctor's office.  The manufacturers help people who fall between the cracks by providing free medications. 

I feel a lot better about things.  

You need to contact the state - to supply where the other parent works....they don't track 'em down - you have to supply the info and everytime the other parent changes jobs, you have to call CS and supply them with the new info.  Believe me, I did this from the time my child was 9 until 18......

You supply the info and you keep on CS behinds..........don't know what state you live in but in the 21st Century here in the USA - they are gunning for deadbeat parents

AND I live in a huge metropolitan area where said CS was gotten from...20 million people in my state......

Is she on welfare?  Does she freeload off her parents or other relatives?  I think not.

I've read her other posts and yes she stated her husband has a good job.  Does that mean she does not support herself.  I think not.  YOUR OPINION IS INAPPROPRIATE. 

I have been married for many years.  Some years I had a taxable income and other years I did not.  I did, however, support my husband by cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, etc.  I take offense to your insinuation that just because someone's spouse makes a good living that makes the other spouse's contributions insignificant.  Thank goodness the IRS doesn't see it your way, hence, the filing jointly box.

Not sure how much of DH yelling I can take.  I work 2 jobs.  Yesterday I had to put in 5 hours for one.  DH is supposed to help with the kids.  Well, his level of helping yesterday was just sitting in his chair and yelling at them to stop doing this or that.  He said about 5 times that my 15-mo had a dirty diaper.  I had the attitude like “well go change it, I am working.”  He never changed it and I don’t know how long she stayed in that dirty diaper but by the time I got to changing her, she was red.  Then I went to help my 5 year old with her Valentines.  She did 20 Valentines and she insisted on doing them herself. It took her 2 hours but she did it all.   I was proud of her and amazed.  Dh kept hollering for us to get through because he wanted some Ice cream.  I told him since he can drive he can go get it himself.  He got mad and started yelling.  My 15 MO kept bothering us.  I got some toys to try to help distract her and it would work for a little bit but then she would pester us some more.  I told dh to keep her distracted and he shouted “WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO.”  WHY ARE YOU ACTING THIS WAY?  WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU?   I told dh that she acts like she is hungry, has she had anything to eat.  “she has been eating popcorn all after noon”  I knew better than to ask him anymore so I got up and started to go find her something to eat and he yelled “SIT DOWN”  and gave me a look that could kill. 

I told dh that I just don’t know how to deal with him anymore.  I feel he is angry with me or resentful.  When we first got married, his Mommy was practically sleeping in between us. She balanced our check book, she went through or mail to see what bills had to be paid, still does, she has to know everything about what we are doing.  She and dh are best friends.  MIL went on all the vacations with us and it was always where dh wanted to go and MIL always loved where dh wanted to go.   When I had the kids, it had to be all about her.  I told dh thiat if this sick business did not stop, I was leaving.  It stopped.  Poor MIL don’t get to see her DGK anymore.  Boo hoo hoo, (coming from dh and MIL).  I am so mean.   This is all another story. 

One minute dh says he loves me, then next he treats me like this.  My family, unfortunately, loves dh.  He doesn’t act like this around them.  He is no niceeee and MIL is so niceeee.

I have to go.  I got to get my kids up and ready for school.

I have breastfed and am currently breast feeding and would like to ask you

If you were on the air plan which would you prefer the mother breastfeeding her child to comfort and keep him/her quiet in this cramped uncomfortable environment or to listen to this child scream bloody murder making your trip totally unbearable???? 

Some thoughts:

Children that young dont know how to clear their ears when changing altitudes and it easier to either have them sleeping or sucking.

Also some young children that are breastfed refuse bottles completely.

Older babies do not like to have their faces covered while eating they want to see their mommy and surroundings.

Personally:

I am the mother of a ten month old that will be flying (on a long flight) for the first time next month.  I plan on breastfeeding him if needed and if I do need to I will have my older daughter there to hold a small blanket up as a sort of shielding wall. I am more than ready to be done breastfeeding and am working very hard to get him there as well but because his schedule doesnt agree with mine I dont think that I should be barred from traveling on a plane and I think the other passengers on the plane would prefer I comfort my child to the best of my ability so that they can try and enjoy their trip as well.

The sucky part about is I will be on the mentioned airlines soooooo may be my son wont get to meet his grandparent for the first time because my child comes first always!!!!  Take care everyone and enjoy your holidays I am climbing off my soap box now

Has she been anywhere that she could have come in contact with bedbugs? (stayed at a motel, slept over at a friend's house)

Is it possible she has been in contact with poison ivy?

We went through a similar problem with my husband a while ago. He has to travel sometimes for his job, and several years ago he picked up some bedbugs from a hotel.

Since then, we have moved to a new house and he got a new bed. When he started itching again we were concerned it was bedbugs, but the rash was similar to how you describe your daughter's rash, and we finally figured out he had probably gotten into some poison ivy in our back yard.

Good luck - I hope you figure out the cause (and cure) soon.

1.You'll never see me watch___? reality TV

2.You'll never see me wear___? a designer dress

3.You'll never see me eat___?  chocolate covered ants

4.You'll never see me buy___? any male enhancement products

5.You'll never see me clean___? at all, unless I'm getting company!

6.You'll never see me kiss___?  Jack Black, ewwww

7.You'll never see me talking___? about wanting to work outside my home

This morning I wrote a letter to my son, who I cut out of my life eight years ago at a time he was making two children with two different women.  I got on my high horse and told him that until he straightened his life out I could not be part of his life.  He was divorced from his wife, who was pregnant, and setting up housekeeping with his girlfriend, who was pregnant.  Since then, he married his girlfriend, had another child, bought a house, but I had let it all slip away.  I've never met his son and daughter, never met his present wife.

I wrote him today and asked for forgiveness and to be a part of his life again.  I want to know my grandchildren. 

Could you all send your positive thoughts my way, or pray for me, that he'll let me back in his life?  I so want to rectify this horrible mistake.  I've already missed the first eight years of my granddaughter's life.  I don't want to miss the rest!

Thanks, everyone.