Caught husband looking at wfm ads (sm)
Posted By: Carolina MT on 2008-02-26
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After he had used the computer in the history there was a list of women seeking men ads that he had been going through. I waited a day and then asked him this morning if he was looking for someone else....he said "Ummmmm, not necessarily." I said, "No?" Then he said, "there are none available." I said, "I would hate to think that you would do anything risky." and he said, "I haven't found anyone risky." So I said, "then you are looking?" and he said no, and then started to deny that he was looking, etc. We have been having some marital problems and I am not completely surprised, but was asking him to be honest with me. Anyway...how would you react?
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Caught him when her husband called my house to ask for her -
My husband introduced me to J. We became good friends. When I was working and could no go places, she and her son would go with my husband and my children. We stayed at each other's houses all the time, went places together (me and her/us and her). I noticed her husband never would do anything with us or hang out, but she said he was just antisocial. Eventually she and her husband moved away because of a transfer and me and my husband separated. Then one day her husband called and asked me to speak to J. Long story short, my husband and her had been seeing each other even before he introduced us to be friends and her husband thought that I was just a front and not really married to my husband but was just a third wheel willing to cover so that they could be together whenever they wanted to hang out...
Caught in the act sm
Sounds like a really selfish person to me. Don't let it get to you, I can't imagine living with someone who would do this with a busy household at that time of day and in what I think was personally degrading to you. Where are his family values anyway and his pride, never mind yours! Don't accept being talked down to or treated as "less than." Perhaps you had no place else to go, so you vented to us, at least you got some support. Sounds sick to me.Yours sounds like a normal reaction to a very distasteful situation.
I had a cat who once caught a bird...
in mid air. I saw it with my own eyes or never would have believed it.
Caught the rhyme!!! LOL...nm
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If they get caught, off goes their water!
Have my shutters open this morning and I see my next door neighbor starting to water her lawn. We are in a drought really bad here and the water is being rationed, so to speak. No one waters on Sunday (and Sunday as I write) and we have an odd, even day system when we do water through the week. Atlanta, which is close by, has gone to a 1 day a week watering system. Some places in my state have turned off water to people caught abusing this. I remember in the 80s we had such a drought our showers were limited to 5 minutes. I would hope it does not get that bad again.
i got caught in the middle
of a redneck area. needless to say, I fled the area and the boyfriend. too much for me. I'm a yankee, and so is he, but he was use to the so called rednecks. I do love the more cosmo parts of south. Can't help it!!
Right?! I once caught a fish so big...(sm)
that I wanted to run back to the house to get the camera or at the very least an eye witness, but was all by myself. This fish I caught, it was a carp, which is a basically a goldfish on steroids. This thing was as big as a 5-gallon water bottle--no word of a lie. It actually broke my fishing rod.
So there I was, down below the highway with my huge catch, and I had no way to contain the thing and didn't want to kill it by taking it for a walk with me. So, I did what any insane person would do. I unhooked my bra, took off the bra, strung the straps through the mouth, out the gills, and attached this "tethered" but quite safe carp to a sapling that dipped into the river.
Mind you, this all took place in the CITY (I so totally don't belong in city) and I had to scramble up an embankment and cross a 2-lane highway, while holding down my flapping boobies, to get back to the condo to get my eyewitness.
My husband was home and he got to witness the whole spectacle. No camera though...all I have are my memories, which I am told are degrading, as my fish gets bigger and bigger every time I tell the story.
Long live us rednecks! 
I only caught a bit of the interview, but - sm
she looked almost like she was on drugs... She was very stone faced and did not seem to show any emotion. I do not know, just take the baby and leave seems to e a better idea than shooting him... Just my opinion
Ah, caught the peek up there. nm
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I caught about the last 15 or 20 minutes. Can't hardly
wait until next week. Maybe House and Cuddy will finally get together.
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage."
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage." Good Luck!
Caught my index finger in the
front door storm door this afternoon. One shriek wasn't enough, so DH had to hear a second one. I iced it and elevated it and still it throbbed. Feels fine after a hydrocodone though, and I can type! I'm glad I'm off today though so I can rest it. Whew, that was close.
Oh, and when I shrieked, DH was sitting at the computer desk. He tried to get up so fast he banged his ankle, so now he's limping.
We're such clutzes.
Glad you caught that quickly and put it out
And that nobody was hurt.
Thanks for the reminder!
They caught the guy from the sex tape!! He admitted who he was!!!
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071016/ap_on_re_us/sex_tape_suspect
The guy who raped the little 3 year old girl was caught - he got pulled over for something else, confessed who he was and said he was tired of running!!
I caught the blues when trying to eat the red meat
because husband is a health food junkie and I think sometimes he expects the same of me. I love steak but hardly eat-are shrimp bad for someone who has high cholesterol? He eats fish- I don’t care for- fish is fish is fish to me- all taste alike except for the shrimp with the sauce and horse radish in it- yummy! My physician when I mentioned about my cholesterol told me to tell hubs to leave alone- mine was excellent and I could eat most anything. So there, man of the house!!
I see your answer in post below me; so he did not tell you, and he would not have; he got caught
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Does your city have a fine if you get caught?
Does your city have a fine if you get caught? I don't know about mine. I don't think there's one, but I could be wrong.
ALBANY, N.Y. -- The New York state Legislature has given final passage to a bill that would charge $250 for pet owners who don't pick up after their dogs in some parts of the state.
Dog owners currently have to pay $100 if they don't pick up the poop. The change would apply to the five boroughs of New York City, Albany and Yonkers.
The Assembly passed the bill Wednesday and the Senate had already passed it.
A spokesman for Gov. David Paterson said the governor will review the measure.
Mine was caught at an older age,
unlike the listing above and we have so much in common. He makes me laugh and a big love, just want to take a little bite of him. Oh, that is the cougar I guess coming out.
Caught between pride and terror
I became a mother in 1970 and have been actively mothering non-stop ever since. Now my baby daughter (who is actually 17 and a senior) has received acceptance from two of the four colleges she applied at, with the other still undecided, and it finally became real - - - She's actually going to leave! She is not only my youngest but my only daughter and she and I have been inseparable all her life. I can't begin to imagine not knowing every facet of her life, down to where in her messy room I can find a particular item of clothing! My oldest son is 38 and long since married and I only see him every few months. I guess I'd see him more if he had kids but unfortunately it's not in the cards for him and his wife.
I think I'm kind of going into mourning, thinking of not having her here. I'm so proud of her, and thrilled that she knows what she wants to do - study anthropology and travel the world and make a name for herself. If anyone can do it, she can! And I'll continue to live vicariously through her somewhat, but I know it won't be the same. The idea of having to do the "well, how have you been - - - good, good, how are you - - - what have you been up to - -" stuff that I do with my son terrifies me. Is is possible to maintain a really close relationship with a grown child even over time and distance? I mean really close? We're taking a trip to Canada for her graduation gift, just her and me, and I'm afraid I'm going to be crying the whole time!
Thanks for listening.
You are caught, you assumed and completely wrong!!
I love it, have been a stay at home mother, working mother, everything rolled into 1- I never saw that much trouble with it and I do not really remember hitting the playgrounds to be interviewed for how hard of a life I had. What a joke.
Caught my housekeeper red-handed stealing from me
My household is small, just hubs and myself (with 2 pets). Hubs went out of town to visit his brothers, left early Saturday. I got my housekeeper of say the past 15 years or more to come clean up for me yesterday. Knowing that I was having a doctor's appointment today I had laid out fresh underwear to put on (this is unusual because most times I am without my undergarments but thought I better wear panties today). I put them in my first dresser drawer Saturday night, went and picked her up Sunday, started to lay out all my clothing Sunday evening and my undergarments gone. I am literally ticked beyond belief. I am about to lose a housekeeper- my husband told me for sometime that things were going missing such as things he bought, toilet paper, some forks and spoons, things like that which I normally do not see. If I let her go, I have to do the work myself (she does washing besides housework) but yet I cannot let this pass. Any ideas? I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her but cannot stand the fact of being stolen from - especially since if she needs something she could ask and I usually get for her. Ideas??
I was a total cougar til my prey caught ME, lol!
My boyfriend is YEARS younger than I am. Started as a one nighter that turned into a 4-day sleepover...I thought he was totally hot but also totally dumb as a pet rock.
Fast forward 2 years...He's sitting on my couch watching the news, and we've been living together 1-1/2 years. He's still totally hot, but not at all dumb as I had initially suspected and, in fact, handles our finances, etc.
Yeah...being a cougar totally rocked, but it turned out even sweeter than I expected when my prey caught ME!!!
Remember Me? Caught Between Pride and Panic?
Well, my daughter has been accepted at her #1 college choice, and we're going to the Accepted Students day this weekend.
In her Creative Writing class in school, they were assigned the task of summing up their Senior year in six words and then to illustrate it. What she came up with blew her father and me away! I hope those of you who have had children leave home will get an inkling of the emotional impact this had on us. Suffice it to say, there was not a dry eye in the house! See below.
That Iranian president is a real laugh riot. Caught
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I watch both CSIs, caught a typo on a Vegas episode, they spelled Novolin wrong! LOL. nm
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Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
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This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND
I am so mad with this man. Last night he made a comment that all I have to do on my job is sit on my A_ _ and stare at a computer screen. He thinks this job is cushy. I transcribe every foreign doctor known to man for 8-10 hours 5-6 days a week, achieve OVER my line counts and bring home more money than he does and I work from home. What in the world does he think gives him the right to talk down to me? Even though I love it, this is one of the most taxing jobs I have ever had in my life. The mental drain is incomprehensible at times. I was so mad when he came up with that, I would have thrown him out if he would have had anywhere else to go!
mad at husband
Do what I do..i put him in my chair with my own keyboard, a set of headphones and told him i would be back in 30 minutes. And I gave him one of my best enunciating docs to boot. Needless to say....no more sit on my a** comments any more. I put the son in the chair too. Good luck.
Which one, the husband or dog?
He, he!
What do you do when your husband says
He does not love you anymore after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids? He left once about 3 years ago, but came back saying he missed us and loved me and that he was just going through a tough time and he knew he was making a bad choice. I thought we were okay, not smart of me, then he started getting distant and grumpy all the time again, and he told me last night that he tried really hard these last 3 years, mostly for our kids sake and because he cares about me and does not want to leave me high and dry, but he does not love me and is not happy with me. He says we have nothing in common anymore, which we really didn't in the first place, but it was okay until recently.
I don't know what to do. All 3 kids are extremely close to their dad, and he loves them so much, but I feel I should move to where my parents are (next town 20 miles away) but it will be harder for him to see them and also rent is so much higher for housing there. I just feel like I want to be closer to my family because here, I have NO ONE. I moved here because it was his hometown and he was happy. I also have the kids in preschool here, again cheaper than in the town I want to go to. My son will be in first grade and needs speech therapy for developmental delay and I like the people who have been working with him as they know his history. Am I being selfish wanting to take them away from here? I am lost and don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 
What do you do when husband...
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.
husband
he sounds like a pig... i say move on
My husband will be right over! LOL!
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