Can you account for most of his time
Posted By: Joannie on 2008-01-30
In Reply to: Livid right now - madmt
when he is supposed to be either at work or home? I would be more upset if my husband were into a same sex situation than with a woman. Thinking he might be cheating (if into same sex) I definitely would not want to have sex with him, or really the other way either but especially same. You are much at risk if you do, better to not fiddle around. Thank the Lord I don’t have that crap now. I have gone through similar in my life and finally found a guy who I am 100% sure of - hard to find now days.
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Own account
Think about getting your own account to supplement this. They are out there. Got two this past month. They came to me -- no advertising. Tapes with pick up and delivery but good pay. Each account between 10,000 and 15,000 lines per month. Will be adding another local IC but because I do pick up and delivery I can only pay 8.5 cpl but it is gross 65 cpl. But that might help.
I do 400 LPH on my ER account
Love it!
Take into account where she is from.
She may have grown up in a place that had no blacks, or maybe her parents were racist; maybe all she learned FROM OTHERS for a very long time was a little skewed or backwards, and she has no idea she's not being PC.
I had an ex-BF who didn't know a single black person until he went to college, and he would say the weirdest things about blacks, not out of hatred or racism, but out of innocent ignorance to their life/background/culture.
In all honesty, the OP sounds a little simple in her language and view...or maybe it's just that she and I are from different cultures and we are both NORMAL.
Very easy for me- I have an account
with 1 of the major shopping channels, have my television in my work room, sometimes watching a particular show and get the number, call up the site and order. It really does not take that long and I still get 2000-3000 or over a day, no sweat.
I'm jealous, I wish I had such an account
as a secret one so I could sock away some extra $$ !!!
Can You Get Overdraft on your account
This has more than saved my life. It's well worth it just for piece of mind in case something should happen and you absoutely have to use your checking account and you're a little short. I hope that that one penny won't screw you up. That would stink. Maybe the bank would be forgiving.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
No checking account. sm
I have a prepaid debit card I have my pay deposited onto and then pay bills from that or get money orders. The only problem I have is if I get a check its hard to cash and I have to go to the issuing bank and they sometimes charge a fee to cash their own check. Like National City charges $10 to cash a check drawn on their bank if you don't have an account with them. 
I only have a savings account....sm
Better for me that way. I hate checking accounts. My husband and I have issues when I have a checking account because he thinks you can write a check and worry about covering it later. Not me.
Do you have a Paypal account?
Maybe a few of us could send you a couple of dollars to cover it.
I came home from Sunday school once with a chunk out of my hair but it was the work of some naughty little boy. 
Never had any money, on account of....sm
Though I made decent wages, I was divorced and had a daughter and later grandson to almost completely support for a great many years, all through her nursing school and college for her, because her father did nothing...but that's neither here nor there.
So if anything, I'm even a little better off now than before, LOL! As long as my loved ones are OK, I'm OK.
But did you and your no account brother treat her
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Seems most poeple are not taking into account
that this man beat her! He may have not hit her in the past four years but believe me, there is a good chance he will do it again. She is NOT in love with him so why stay with someone you have NO feelings for and do not desire sexually? Is therapy REALLY going to make her fall in love with this man again? Is he going to be HONEST with her....he hasn't been all these years; in fact, sounds as though he shows no emotion at all.
My question is - how do you stay with someone you do not love any longer no matter what unresolved issues there are. The only issue I would feel is that there is NO love - if there is NO love, I MOVE ON and did after 29 years.
Sounds like we work on the same account!
LOL
I get irate too, report after report about illegals and all the free crap they get, and doctors even giving them advice on how to get more freebies.
We had that happen with an old dial-up account
But there was no advanced warning or anything. One month our bill was what they said it would be and the next month it had doubled if not tripled. They told us it was because we were "unusually heavy users." I don't even remember what company it was, but we dropped them immediately.
My checking account is free too. I pay
most of my bills on line through them--no fee for that either. Whenever I need checks, I order them from one of those places you see in ads in the Sunday paper. They are cheaper and with paying online, I have not ordered any in probably 4 years.
I can use bill pay to pay to a specific account #
at any bank. Its free, too.
login to your account @paypal to see your history. SM
if there is no payment listed, then assume it did not go through.
or you could check with your credit card company...
file garnishment on bank account
so it hits his account the same day he deposits pay checks (usually Friday).
PayPal eCheck from my checking account
I know this has happened to somebody here before, I remember reading it. This morning I woke up and checked my checking account to see what little I had left before pay day this Friday. What I found was that somebody had taken $2420.00 from a PayPal eCheck, and now I am way in the negative. The bank says it takes three to five, possibly up to ten days to dispute and make the account right. That's just great. I have a direct deposit going in on Friday, and won't even be able to use that until who knows when.
What can be done, if anything, on my part? Is there someway to make PayPal responsible for making the dispute happen faster? I have no clue what to do and have absolutely no money until this dispute is over. It did take the whole ten days about six months ago when I got double charged for something, so I already know it won't happen before pay day. Maybe with this large sum of money they will expedite. I can hope!
Okay, back to work for me. Thanks.
First thing I did after reading this was check my account sm
All is well, thank goodness. How scary! I hope it all gets straightened out okay.
Hey Jan - You can also open a free account with photobucket.com
You can upload any pictures to that and then change the size. After that you can copy it onto the avatar secton here.
Hugs sue-ellen
My husband opened up a new Ameritrade account
so far, so good. We only put in $2000. He basically wanted some play money and wanted to give it a try. We do day trading and he's actually making a little bit. He tends to watch the companies that are closing to merging and makes a play for them. You can find out ahead of time what companies are planning mergers, when they expect to close, and how much they agreed on for the selling price per share. So far, he's done 2 of these and made out okay, but he's pretty conservative in how much he buys.
Closing an account affects your score because
if you carry balances on other cards, by closing an account you instantly increase the percentage of available credit that you are using. An assessement of the percentage of use is a significant element in your credit score.
If you have other cards with high limits and low or no balances, closing an account will have only a small, probably temporary, effect, unless you are closing the account with the longest history. As another poster mentioned, length of credit history is another significant element of your credit score.
If you have high balances on other cards, leaving open an unused account will make those balances a lower percentage of your available credit, which can boost your credit score. However, in that case, paying down the balances will have a much larger positive effect on your score.
Hate making a mistake on my checking account!
I typically write only 1 check a month (for my rent/water) and everything else is paid online or with my ATM/Visa card. I checked my balance this morning and thought, yeh! I can go get a latte! So off I went, spent $3.57 on a coffee and on the way home remembered something -- I wrote a check last week to the DMV for this year's registration/tag and I wasn't sure if it had cleared my bank. Got home, checked my balance and guess what? The outstanding check has NOT cleared and now the balance in my checking account is 1 penny short of clearing that check! Too late to go put in a couple of dollars for it to be posted tonight in case the check comes through 
Y'all keep your fingers crossed with me that the check won't come through tonight, or if it does my bank will be forgiving and not charge me $35 to cover that extra penny I'm short on  That would be some expensive latte!!!
If you have a Netflix account, you can watch online for free.
The membership is fairly cheap. My husband and I have one and watch movies online on their site all the time.
Where did you get the account of it from? The child with perception issues? Or another adult?
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Change your bank account on file with Vonage Right NOW!
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Transfer your banking business to a free checking account
Washington Mutual Compass Bank, and many others offer completely free checking accounts. There’s no reason you should be paying maintenance and annual fees for a checking account.
Why does closing a credit card account negatively affect your credit report
Especially when I never use it anyway, and really never wanted it?
With all the bank rearranging going on in the past few months, one of my accounts was tranferred to Bank of America. I was sent new cards and a new agreement, new interest rate etc...
So I called them up and cancelled but before they did, I had to listen to a spiel about how this would negatively affect my credit report.
Huh?? Why is that?
No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
If you are set on closing, do not close the old ones, close a newer account first.
Your credit is based on a mix of things like history, types of accounts, mix of credit (revolving vs installment), usage/utilization of credit available, and payment history. Where closing could hurt your score is the part of the score that averages history of accounts/length of credit. If you decide to close, close out a newer account first.
The best way to protect from ID theft as far as credit is to freeze your credit reports. It's around $10 per agency to freeze them. Each credit reporting agency tries to sell your their own monitoring plan when you get to the how to freeze information, so make
sure you are freezing it.
You can't freeze it over the net they each require a letter by registered mail. It takes about 1 month to freeze it.
Right now you can place a fraud alert on your reports for free. The credit *should* not extend credit or do a credit line increase without calling the phone # on your credit report first. You only need to do it at one credit reporting agency and the other ones will be notfied. The number for equifax fraud alert 1-888-766-0008. It's automated.
If you are concerned about ID theft try one of the monitoring plans. I've tried a few of them and Equifax has the best one. Their Score Watch is great, you set the limits to be notified and any change they send an email literaly the next day. I used it after I discovered ID theft. It might be a waste of money for you. I would place the fraud alerts, then the freeze, and check your reports 2x per year.
I've had ID theft as far as my name/social but what concerns me more than credit ID theft is bank account theft. I don't know how we can fight that. It seems like consumers get the raw end of the deal as far rights when deposit accounts are stolen.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
Time out and then spanking if time out
If we are out in public however, we do not go home. Spanking right there and then and the kids learn REAL QUICK mom means business. I do not mess around and I have a 17-year-old now that has enlisted in the military and THANKS me for his tough upgrowing. It helped him through basic training.
Well, I have questioned myself from time to time.
I figured this was typical. DD has lots of friends but two real close friends. I guess this is all part of building social skills. I am glad I did okay then.
Same thing happens to me from time to time - sm
if I roll over too quickly. I have positional vertigo. There is not too much you can do about it except try not to move or get up too quickly from a supine position. I have never had an earache in my life either so that has nothing to do with it. I don't ever feel sick from it though, just more of a nuisance for me every now and then. If it keeps happening obviously get checked out, you may have a more severe case, though again there really not much you can do about it, all it is is some particles in your ear breaking loose and that causes the dizziness, etc.
If I had not asked time and time again
for the daughter to ask me are you upset- are you angry- are you in a bad mood- People can think what they want- She is a very intelligent person and my asking to please should be enough. Gest of the posting. Selfish, OMG, that is really a laugh. I have and do take care of others well before my needs- I have given of myself, my time, my finances, the whole thing until, now this will sound selfish- it is my time now. I take care of me now- this is selfish but this is the truth. I raised my family, did all I could (still do for the daughter if she needs assistance which she never asks for but I offer)and now in golden years, me time.
Yes. Next time put a time limit on it., but is there any way you
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I keep it in the office part time and on the patio part time
I've got the self-cleaning electric litter box (and boy is it worth the $100), and have a huge throw rug under it with a smaller rug by the litter pan that has a bumpy mat on top of it to catch the excess. I keep it in the office from April to October but on the patio from October to March as it is too hot in FL to leave the patio door open for them during the summer months. I also put out a spare box when we go out of town for the weekend.
Try a box that has deeper sides maybe, or not as much litter in it?
time time time
when I divorced my husband, I felt the same way. some mornings I would wake up crying and missing him, but I really knew that if I was still with him, things would have been the same. chin up, chest out!!! and forward march. it's just hard. you should read the Sweet Potato Queens books. reading them in order is best, but the newest one is the Sweet Potato Queens Wedding Planner/Divorce Guide. I say read them in order because she refers back to things in the other books that you will be in the dark about, but your situation sounds critical so maybe just jump right into the Divorce Guide. go to sweetpotatoqueens.com. I have read them all over and over and they are fabulous!!!! need some humor at this time in your life. good luck to you!!
First time I saw it
I really like Jen. Didn't care too much for Sadie.
I think maybe for the first time or maybe just the first time
in a long time - your well is a little more dry - it needs replenishing.... you give and you give and you give and even the most charitable of people need to get something back... I think you just had a dry year and I hope this year people give back to you - if so little as a smile, a hug, a bit of encouragement in whatever way - to help to lift your spirit. You will get it back! :))
Yes. Happens all the time.
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99% of the time - none.
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My son would get them all the time - sm
get something to soak the foot in, fill it with water as warm as he can stand it and then mix in about 1 cup of Epsom salts, soak the foot until the water cools.
Will have to do it a few times over a few days but the skin starts to pull back.
tell him not to cut his toenails so short! :)
I look at it as the first time since she sm
was, what 14, that she will have to be in rahab. One problem, Michele Rodriguez from the show Lost went to that jail in 2006 to serve 60 days for a DUI and was let go after several hours due to overcrowding. I sure hope she doesn't get out becuase of something silly like that.
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