Can I vent for just a minute?
Posted By: trose on 2007-04-06
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My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband's family. She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens " I love to cook, I just don't have anyone to cook for." My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago. My MIL works Mon.-Thurs. in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can't have everyone here becuase we just pulled up all our carpets to put down hardwood floors, so most of our furniture is in the garage. I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response "I don't like mashed potatoes." Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don't say anything negative about my MIL to my hubby) mainly becuase she is a very good MIL and a wonderful grandmother. (Sigh) I feel better now. 
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I find it best to take a 15-20 minute nap....sm
when I find myself super-sleepy during the day. It's just enough to perk me back up and works better than caffeine or cold water.
I take a 20 minute nap and that helps when I get like this.
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Wait a minute...
This bride is 65, second wedding, and I assume wearing white? I wonder. Also I believe etiquette says a bridal shower is not proper for a second wedding and probably especially not for a couple in their 60s ! which poster mentioned. Also, etiquette says the bride and groom or family should pay to put the guests up at the hotel if they have to come from out of town which poster also mentioned.
This old gal is obviously not Miss Manners, herself.
: )
Such a minute amount but what I was
saying anyone who has a huge amount on their card really cannot stand to take a chance with not paying on time- I am sure would not have a problem having it written off- they love me because 2nd time I have paid off totally and always on time (not this small amount though) and the last time over 10 thou paid off. I will probably call them anyway.
I usually use about 1/2 bag if minute rice..sm
but this is the first time I have used the recipe on the dry onion soup box!! It just sounded so good that I thought I would give it a try and just add the rice since my hubby likes rice in his meatloaf. Hope it comes out okay!!
As of 1 minute ago, here's what they agreed on
If you make at least 3000 but don't pay taxes, you'll get 300. If you pay taxes, you'll get 600. Plus, you get an additional 300 per child. Each couple that pays taxes will, therefore, get 1200, plus 300 per kid, as long as they make under 150,000.
Yahoo news had the wrong numbers posted this morning, but everything has been decided on now and above is the info.
Wait a minute...
Excuse me, but my son just turned 8 and this girl is almost 8. I have since found out that she did this to another boy last year (not as hard) and my son also said she will walk up to him and hyperextend his finger back and twist them, as well as flicking him with her pencil when she gets mad. I know of yet another student that had problems with her last year (an older boy) who felt bullied by her.
To me it just seems there is a pattern here that is only getting worse. It could have been his eye. Would you say it was no big deal then?? Where is she getting this behavior from?
And yes, I think she needs special help in the classroom if she has behavioral issues. This is way different than kids fighting over a ball on the playground. This is a private Catholic school and they don't have the funding for extra programs for behavioral and special needs. In addition, their code of conduct that they recite everyday after prayer and the pledge of allegiance is that they will "uphold the sanctuary for themselves and others."
Have I done without as a child? Let me think a minute. YES
My family was borderline poverty striken although I was not aware of it. My grandmother used to pay our house note and my aunt came in and picked up bills that were due and paid those. I remember my grandmother buying us groceries. My mother never had what you could consider a really good job. No drugs, no alcohol, nothing like that but not enough to really support a family, not much help from my father (although he did pay child support). Being as only 2 children, mother was able to make each feel loved and wanted. My mother's kids were not born back to back so bonding was able to be in force. This mother is talking about doing illegal things and hopefully the courts will step in about the children. I do not think she has the basic common sense to take care of this brood. All she thought about were her needs, not the needs of all these other children. She had enough at home before she started. I read she had to pay $100,000 for the invitro. That could have bought an addition on the home so they could put in more bedrooms for all these extra mouths to feed.
Wait a minute. She's only 7-8 weeks old...sm
You've only had her a week, and you expect her to be housetrained already? And you're already thinking about giving her up because she isn't? WOW!
Boy are you in for a surprise - if you keep her, that is, which at this point I'm not sure is the best thing for her, unless you're willing to adjust your expectations and do a bit of a 'crash course' in puppies/dogs. And please be honest with yourself, because if you don't keep her, it's much easier to find her a home while she's still young.
First of all, it's totally unrealistic to expect no 'accidents' from such a young puppy. She is *very* young. In fact, it sounds like she's doing remarkably well for being so young!
It isn't *physiologically* possible for a puppy to be 100% pottytrained until about... 4 months of age, if I remember correctly. They don't have the muscle control to hold it more than... 4 hours, I think it is? (I'm going by memory, so I'll have to look that up.)
So, my next question is, how long does she have to stay in the crate w/o a potty break? Because it is extremely unusual for dogs to soil their living area - unless they either have no choice and can't physically hold it anymore, (or if they came from a puppy mill/pet store where they had no other choice but to go in their cage and so get in that habit), OR if her crate is so large that she can go in one section and then go off to another section and be away from it. (If that's the case, you can use a crate divider.)
But as young as she is, she probably just can't hold it for more than a couple hours at a time. I had a great site for potty training stuff. Let me find it and post again later. It does s/l you're doing everything else right as far as keeping her on a regular schedule. For now, I'd suggest that she commes out of the crate for a potty break at least every 2 hours, or immediately if you see her start to sniff around in her crate or otherwise act like she's going to go in her crate.
BTW, she should have stayed with her mother and littermates until *at least* 8 weeks of age, which tells me you didn't get her from a reputable breeder if they let her go so young. That's a shame, because a reputable breeder would be available to mentor you and answer any and all questions you might have along the way (for life), like about crating and pottytraining. A rep. breeder would have also asked you a lot of questions and would not have let you have one of their pups if it would not be the right breed for you and your family, or if you're maybe just not cut out to be dog owners. (That kind of screening saves everybody a lot of heartache, rather than getting the puppy and then not keeping it, having to find it a new home, etc.) But that's neither here nor there at this point. I just always recommend a reputable breeder, rescue, or a shelter. It makes me angry that people will sell a puppy to someone and then just "leave them hanging" so to speak, because it's the puppy that suffers. Okay, enough of my ranting.
I'd have dumped the vet the minute she mentioned the
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It's 30 minute circuit training SM
on very easy machines. It's actually fun and everyone is friendly.
Only problem is, you don't really lose a lot of weight, if that's your goal, and, at least where I live, it costs $40 a month. What with rate of pay dropping, I had to quit.
If you don't need to lose a great deal of weight and just want to stay in shape, it really is good.
There is one from the 10 Minute Solutions group.
xx
And you can get thrown off this board for just what you said a minute ago
that being correcting me about how I structured a sentence. I was talking about a situation outside of this board and outside of work this morning and you are calling someone to task about my being rude? In a nice way I can correct and usually do. I can see where your name comes from.
Need to Vent.
 Sorry I just need to get this out before I explode. I am so mad at my DH right now. I opened my box that he had duct taped all up. I was hoping for something special, well it was a really ugly robe. It is red and has flowers on it. I have never worn red, and don't like flowers on my clothes. Why DH picked something like this is beyond me.
That is all I got, nothing from the kids, nothing else from DH. I just feel like crap. I am so sick and tired of taken second to his stupid cars. He hasn't got a clue why I am ticked at him, the kids are acting like its not a big deal. It just hurts to work so hard on everything and get nothing in return. I got DH everything he wanted, why couldn't I get anything.
I'm sorry I just needed to get that out. After not getting anything all year for any of the holidays or my birthday, I was just hoping that DH would make up for it at Christmas. But I guess I was wrong. I'm always wrong. Now I have to put on a happy face for a bunch of people coming for dinner. I just feel like crawling back into bed and staying there.
Just a vent
I went to register my daughter for school this morning. I was in line to pay for her books when I noticed the man in front of me is listed on our local sexual offender registry for child molestation. He was there to register his daughter for kindergarten. After he left, I made the secretary aware. I came home, looked him up again just to be sure though I thought I was and sure enough, it was him. I called our local police department because I wanted to be sure of the laws. It was my understanding that offenders were to be a certain distance away from public parks, schools, etc. He told me I was correct, though there is a gray area... he was at the school to register his daughter and he is also welcome to attend school functions!!!
Is it just me or is this not concerning??? I told the police officer I can't believe he would be allowed to do this and don't even get me started on the concern I have for that man's daughter!!!! I have this horrible picture in my head of attending one of my daughter's school functions and my son somehow meeting up with this man in the bathroom or something!!! I realize the odds are slim but it still bugs me. I also realize there are many more sexual offenders than listed in the registry and have discussed this openly with my children but it still upsets me!!
in-law vent
I agree, you need to calm down and don't make any hasty decisions until you ask your SIL "exactly" what was said to your niece. Don't wait and stew over it either, go to her house when your BIL is there and ask them both up front exactly what was said and after they give their story, tell them how your niece is interpreting that conversation and that they need to have another talk with her. It appears that you do not care for her to begin with and may be interpreting more into this situation than need be because of that fact. If she did say exactly that, then I would assume she will be looking for a new sitter, though it will only deprive you of a relationship with your niece, but you can just visit with her at their house. Just don't cut all ties or burn all bridges because you will be the one to suffer the consequences, not them.
Need to vent sm
My 8-year-old daughter was bit by a dog a few months ago by a neighbor's dog. The bite has healed, but the emotional scars haven't. My daughter is now absolutely terrified of dogs, and cats now, too. She won't play outside, except in our backyard and won't ride her bike which she absolutely loved before this incident. Before this incident, we were even planning to get a dog. This is obviously out of the picture now.
Our medical bills totaled over $800 before insurance. We gave them the bill, wanting $800 because we pay for our insurance on a weekly basis, and they shouldn't benefit from that. We thought that was more than fair because of the trauma my daughter suffered.
Well, today, they tried to give us a check for $87! Yes, that's $87! I was so insulted by this, and hurt! All that my daughter went through, they tried to give her an $87 check?!!! They only want to pay our copay!
Well, I typed up a letter and returned their check, informing them we will be contacting an attorney. So, instead of the $800 we wanted, I'm sure they'll have to pay a few extra thousand for pain and suffering, and also for the lost wages because we had to miss work because of this.
I can't believe these people!
Thanks for letting me vent!
I really need to vent
I am editing work to upload to a client. This MT's quality is horrid! Basic medical terms are misspelled. Basic sentence structure is a mess. There are two to three blanks in every report. She claims to have typed for a major hospital for over five years. I am wondering how she kept that position so long. I send corrections regularly, and she argues with me. I need to stand up, be a man, and find a replacement. I am spending my Saturday night fixing her mistakes while she is probably relaxing with her family. I hate my job today!!
Thanks. I solved my own problem. I need to replace her ASAP.
Need to vent a bit!
Ok, so I need to vent a bit about a friend. Well, I guess now I should say "former" friend. Back in February, my husband and I decided that we wanted to use our tax return to install new hardwood floors in our house. We were talking with our friend about it and she said that her husband was great at installing floors and that he could install them for significantly less than an actual flooring company or other contractor. We asked her about how much he would charge to do this, and she said about $400. We had been quoted $1000 and higher by several flooring companies, so we decided to let him install our floors since it would save us a lot of money.
It took about 4 days to get the floors installed. In fact, my husband helped quite a bit with the install, plus we ordered him lunch every single day he was here working. While our new floors were being done, we were also talking about how we were planning to remodel one of the finished rooms in our basement, which is my husband's office/den. We were planning on hiring someone for this We even already had an appointment scheduled with a company to come give us an estimate the next day. Our friend's husband again said that he could do this significantly less as well. He said that he would charge around $500 to put up new sheet rock and install the new laminate flooring that we had already purchased. We asked him multiple times if he was 100% sure that he could do it for that cheap. He said yes and insisted on doing it. We agreed to this and let him do the work in our basement as well. We paid him a total of $1000 cash for all of his work, which is what he asked for, plus bought him lunch every day and helped him with the labor ourselves.
Well, a few weeks ago our friend started acting very strangely around us. We didn't know what was up and she wasn't telling us. In fact, she started completely ignoring us and not answering our phone calls, text messages, or emails for days. We later found out from her husband that she had been laid off from her job and was too embarassed to tell anyone. She did finally come out and tell us about it after about 2 weeks had gone by.
About a week after she told us about losing her job, we got a phone call from her and she said that we didn't pay her husband enough for the work that he did in the basement, so she wanted us to give HER a check for $300!!! We told her that we had already paid her husband $1000, which is what he quoted us and he had been very happy with that, especially since he really needed the money. We told her that it was simply not in our budget to just give her $300 and basically told her sorry, but no way.
This morning, we woke up to someone banging on our front door and ringing the door bell over and over again, which caused our 2 dogs to start barking like crazy. Both my husband and I work really late hours and we were both sound asleep. In fact, my husband had just done a double shift a the hospital he works at and didn't get home until about 7:30 this morning. We had no idea who it could be, so I got up to answer the door, and there was our friend standing there. I let her in and she said, "I've been banging on the door forever! You're probably just ignorning me because you think I'm here to collect money." I was in total shock. We had been sound asleep and didn't even hear anything until she really started banging hard on the door. She then went on to say how incredibly rude we were and how ridiculous we were being for ignoring her. We weren't even ignoring her! We haven't even heard from her in weeks and she just showed up this morning without even calling first when she KNEW we would most likely be sleeping! I was half asleep and she was ranting on and on about how rude we were being and how she would help us out if we needed money. That let the cat out of the bag right there. The money that she wanted was for HER and NOT for her husband! She was just using him as a cover to get us to give her $300! She then said, "I also need to borrow your Windows Vista CD and I'll be back later for it and expect it to be waiting for me, unless you're going to be ignorant about that and not give it to me." She then stormed out the door and left.
Let that be a lesson to never hire your friends to do work for you!!!! She had been our best friend for about 7 years and now we want nothing to do with her. Sorry this was a bit long, but I needed to vent somewhere!
need to vent
Today is invoice day & got up extra early to get started as I will have my 5 month old grandson tonight & kids will play with him until bedtime, BUT .. I can't sign in to work, got up at 5a.m., still can't get connected, emailed boss & tech support, nobody on IM.. plus can't get on the other IM thru work because I have to be signed in.. ggrrrrr.. okay, hopefully I can get on soon.. here it is almost 11:00.. I could've had 6 hours in already.. geez.. what a day.. okay, sorry about that, but needed to tell somebody.. hope everyone is having a better day than I am..
Please let me vent....sm
I am so fustrated. I recently started a custom accessory buiness online. I have a myspace page and a website. I have had the worst luck getting this thing up and running. I mean, I know the economy is bad, but I have had THE WORST luck. I would be happy with just a few orders a month. Nothing. And believe me I have put the website out there. I submitted it to Google, Yahoo, and MSN. THey still haven't posted it yet I don't think. I am at my wit's end. Anybody who has ever submitted a website know how long it takes for them to put it up?
There are others who do similar products as me. They have orders right and left. I cannnot figure it out. And mine are cheaper. I am about ready to throw in the towel. I don't know what else to do. I'm sorry to whine here but gosh I need to vent. There is nothing like putting your all into something and nothing happens.
I can't believe you would waste a minute of time obsessing about this.
Unbelievable!
Guiding Light since it was a 15 minute show
 I'm old.
Wait a minute, so no gift, meaning nothing?
nada? No money in a card either? I can't believe what I am reading. LOL.
Here is how it works.. for a shower they usually want a gift off the registry which just about everyone has these days. If not registered then about a 30-50 dollar gift depending on how close you are or gift card, etc.
And for weddings, wrapped gifts are always tacky mostly because they are awkward, much harder for the bride and groom to take care of at/after the wedding (have someone collect the gifts and deliver later?, collect themselves which is tacky, receive yet another item they don't need and/or want), and so ALL brides and grooms expect MONEY.
Weddings are very expensive. Mine was over 10000 a while back and if all 60 or so couples brought me a "gift" I would have been VERY upset. Sorry but it's true.
I think most people who bring gifts are the ones who don't want to spend much or don't want people to know what they spent but that's just my opinion. Otherwise, why wouldn't they just put the money in a card and give them something they can really use?
Even if you don't have much money, 25.00 is better than more crystal champagne glasses or yet another picture frame that so doesn't match the decor.
Okay, done. Sorry......I was on a roll.
LOL
If it was my child, I would be at that school in a hot New York minute.
Regardless of what is or is not wrong with the child, that comment from the teacher is totally uncalled for and extremely unprofessional. A teacher should know better, period, end of discussion. And I agree with tnmt, ask for a meeting with the principle and teacher.
TY for replies/advice - see "wait a minute" below for
update. I plan on talking to principal and teacher today and go from there.
our kids have a 2 minute walk from school and
they have already been heckled by meaner kids, they even threw a beer bottle at my 5 year old. I stood behind a fence one day and stepped out in front of him just as he was rounding the corner and told him that if he ever even so much as talked to my kids again I would follow him home and tell his parents exactly what was going on. I told him that I would also talk to the principal, who I know on a first-name basis as i am VP of the PTO. I put the fear of God in that child but I still do not trust him or his little band of siblings he walks with. I almost fear other children more than I do strangers!
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Wait a minute, Pinky! It takes two....sm
...to conceive a child, unless you're the Virgin Mary 2000 years or so ago. Calling the young woman a sl*t, a very shaming label, just clouds the issue. And yes, adoption is a viable option if the girl and her parents are neither willing nor able to keep the baby, financially and emotionally. But it has to be their choice. I hate abortion, but that's not what we're talking about.....anyhow, shaming labels don't help the discussion. I'm too old to even remember having the natural and normal desires of youth, LOL, but these things happen. Even back in my day, some young couples, as we put it, "had to get married."
Wait a minute, "What is wrong?". sm
These are hard, hard times, and there are always two sides to every story. She was asking for good recommendations, and she got some. That's what a support system is all about, you know. I'm delighted to see all the good and practical suggestions here, not the criticism.
Your deserved vent
As a former elementary school teacher, I asked myself 2 very obvious questions - WHY ON EARTH DIDN'T THEY GET A PERMANENT SUB FOR THOSE KINDERGARTENERS? And, WHY DIDN'T THEY HAVE THOSE KIDS REPEAT KINDERGARTEN? Promoting them to 1st grade under those circumstances is setting them all up for failure.
If I were you, I would pull her out and home school for a year or 2 until you get her caught up to her grade level and put her back in public in 2nd or 3rd grade when her skills are developed.
You will be amazed at how much progress she will make with 1-on-1 attention from you.
Best of luck to you and the little one!
I understand the need to vent....
Relatives can really get on your nerves - one of the reasons we live 500 miles away from my relatives and 750 miles away from my husband's relatives. They're great in small doses, but not as a steady diet.
So I really do understand....but I think it's interesting that you chose a time when you are not in a position to offer to have dinner at your house to object to what is being planned, especially since it is the "usual thing". Obviously, for whatever reason, your MIL and SIL don't like to cook, and your MIL has decided to take the easy way out and do "what we do every time".
Next time family visits, after your renovations are done, why not ask your MIL and SIL to bring a salad, side dish, dessert, whatever? And, as suggested here, there's no reason why you can't have both pizza and KFC. Just because your MIL doesn't want it, that doesn't mean that no one else will. Sometimes you just have to go ahead and do something and not ask for "permission" - especially since your MIL seems (on the basis of this one incident) to be a bit of a control freak. If she says anything to you, you can just say, "I thought it would be nice to have a bit of variety" or "I didn't want to say anything to you, but pizza gives me heartburn" (true in my case  ). Whatever works for you.
And HAPPY EASTER!!
Glad you were able to vent sm
When I was talking to my Step-Mother about this board she agreed that it was a great site to be able to go to and complain without having to actucally talk to people. BTW,Hats off to you for all you have accompolished without the help of your mother. Feel proud and know that you will be a better mother for having to go through that. You have lucky kids.
just have to vent about illegals......sm
we had a 9-month pregnant mother and fetus that got killed this week in an auto accident. emergency section didn't save the baby. hit by a drunk driver who was 15-yo and illegal. he lied and said he was 19. well of course they are trialing as a minor, but you know what he was an adult enough to lie about his age, bigolly charge him for the age he wanted to be!!!!!!
and an in-law vent - need advice
My husband and his younger brother have a business together - his brother and his wife have 2 kids an 8-yo girl and a 5 -yo boy. The girl (niece) spent the night a week ago because my in-laws needed a sitter - I told my husband I had to work - so he would have to look after her. Well, as soon as she got here she said, "auntie, i need to tell you something. I said, what?" then she proceeded to tell me that her mother (my SIL) told her that if her uncle or our son (he is 21) tried to touch her TINKY that she was supposed to call her mother." I was dumbfounded. I didn't mention this to my husband until the next day after she had gone home. Had she said her mother had talked to her about this situation or anything else, I would not have thought anything about it, but when she said her mother said her uncle or her cousin - I was burning mad. I realize this happens - it happened to our daughter when she was 4 - but this niece has spent the night numerous times and this has never come up - why now - and why so specifically? Should I say something to my SIL and BIL about this. I told my husband I thought he should address it with them since it was obviously a slam against him and our son - ??? thoughts, please?
Have him vent to YOU at the end of the day, not the girls.
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need to vent -- are you kidding me ?!?
New year at baseball with kid, new other parents to meet and talk with. I'm talking with this odd mother, taking a head count as to how many grubby little home-schooled children she has: Seven and one more on the way! Husband is there, unemployed, has a paper route. Subsidized housing, welfare, food stamps, and then he tells me the state just gave him a check for $900 to get his car fixed. Are you kidding me?!? Shut the Front Door!
Something about a hard, honest days' work just aint right. grrrrhhh....
Just need to vent a bit...and maybe get an outside opinion?
I am engaged, and we have 3 beautiful children, boys (twins) who are 18 months and a 4-year-old daughter. My daughter is from a previous relationship (I left him when I was 3 months pregnant as he was abusive.). Anyway, I joined myspace again after not being on it for a while as my sister lives in another state, and her fiance is sick so I wanted to better be able to keep in touch as we are having problems with our phone, etc.
Anyway, I join it and add my fiance's sister who lives across the country. I notice she has a cute album that she had previously on her page of our kids.
Anyway, one of my sister-in-law's friends made a comment that bothered me a bit. My fiance said I was making a big deal out of nothing, but I don't know.
In reply to where my future sister-in-law put "How cute" about a picture of our twins crawling at 6 months, her friend said, "Oh, I only know why you said how cute!? L0L But they're precious."
I don't know what to make of it. In my opinion, it almost sounds like she is laughing at our kids. It's not that I need reassurance that they are cute as I know they are beautiful children, inside and out, but I find it disturbing when grown women or adults attack each other's children. The odd thing is I don't even know this woman. Also, whenever we're out we always get tons of compliments and stopped by strangers who compliment on how adorable they all are and also I always hear, "You have your hands full."
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I didn't get the woman's post about LOL or I only know why part. Maybe I'm just too grown up to be on myspace, I don't know. I just know that I find it extremely disturbing when someone attacks someone else's children. My fiance has an online friend who was similar and has said extremely rude things about me and our children which bothered me, also. I mean from the time I wake up in the morning until I go to bed at night, my thoughts and energy are all about our family and children.
That is one reason I found a new MT job that pays better. I always put my children first.
Anyway, thanks for listening to my rambling. Any outside opinions will be helpful. My fiance didn't want to listen to me talk about it. I simply posted back a nice reply under that picture and said, "Thank you. They have grown so fast. I can't believe that picture was a year ago already. They have done so many new things since then."
Whoa, wait a minute, there! I was in MN last week and had the best bagel sm
I've ever eaten in my life! It was actually a breakfast sandwich with ham and cheese. It was amazing!!!
And I'm FROM Upstate NY! haha LOL
I gave birth to twins, and I have to say they were not born the same minute.
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I agree; that isn't feasable cuz they can't be born at the same minute, even with C-section it
;
Aren't they just TOOOO adorable? Ours is a laugh a minute! That sm
collar would be STUNNING!!! 
I need to vent about our public school....sm
My daughter is in the 1st grade. While in kindergarten her teacher became ill and was out of the classroom more than in it for over a month and then ended up having to leave permanently after being out for 2 months. During this time they had parapros in the classroom but all of the kids in her class got behind because of the inconsistent teaching. Finally in March they split the class up and moved the kids into other classrooms, but by the end of the year each of the 15 kids were behind their peers because of the true instruction time they had missed, through no fault of their own.
Now fast forward to 1st grade. Some of the kids had managed to catch up but others haven't, including my daughter. She is now reading on a level 3 and should be on a level 5 or 6. Math-wise she is way behind as well as her reading level is below normal. She is currently in a classroom with 27 kids and has ADD, but it is very easily managed when she is given tasks in small increments and visual cues to work with (i.e. write math problems for her and she can do them but ask her to do them in her head and she struggles).
My husband & I met with the school yesterday because of the concerns about her being behind and in the student support team meeting, consisting of the school system psychologist, special education teacher, her teacher, principal and vice principal, we were told that they don't have the resources to work with her to meet her needs and that by the No Child Left Behind federal laws they don't have to address her needs individually until she is 6 months to a year behind her peers. Why do they WANT kids to get this behind before helping them? We know she is smart - she has an IQ of 92, but she needs to have the distractions caused by the 26 kids in her classroom removed and they won't do anything about it because all other 1st grade classes have 26 kids, and the only one that doesn't have that many is a class full of kids that are learning English. We are working with her at home but it's ridiculous to send her to school 7 hours a day and then tutor her at home because the teacher won't take 2 minutes to explain instructions on a task to her. I told them that I don't want her to have to go to special education in the future because she's behind and that I'd prefer that a way to get her caught up and kept on level with where she would be should be what the goal is - not wait until she's very behind. Their response was "well over the upcoming Holidays we can send home LOTS of things for you to work on with her."
Home schooling isn't a good option for her and her psychologist has agreed that she needs the classroom interaction with other kids. If it weren't for that I'd home school her in a nannosecond, even if that meant giving up everything outside of my regular work day to educate her.
I've talked to a couple of private schools in the area and one school wasn't really any better, has 1 teacher per 20 kids in 1st grade. The other school could take her and has currently 5 kids per teacher for 1st grade with good test results . It's ridiculous that we're being forced to consider paying for private school because the public schools don't care.
I'm sure others have run into these same type of situations. What did you do - continue working with the public schools, turn to home schooling or private school?
Considering all the ridiculous responses to this vent..sm
I guess the devil is doing his work...causing conflict! Hope you have a great Christmas, Wannie!
Male harassement vent....
I wasn't sure were to post this...
My sister was just at the bank and while she was leaving she noticed a male banker staring at her. A couple of minutes later she gets a phone call from this banker telling her if she ever needs anything to call him. She asaked if he does this with all the people that bank and he said no just the pretty ones.
He did NOT help her when she was there so he had to have had the banker that helped her reopen her account and get ALL of her information. This is soooooo BAD ! She lives alone. How can this man do this I believe he was a manager or something not just a regular employee. UUUHHHHHH!!!!!! My mom use to be a banker so I told my sis to call her and see what she should do but my mom is pretty passive so I'm not sure what she will say. This makes me so angry to think that he has ALL her information UHHHH! This is sooo wrong!
My sis is only 21 and lives alone. She has already had one scare at her apartment and I'm sure she will feel unsafe once again. I don't know why this man thinks he can do this!
I just had to get this out.
My vent...why is it a not a good idea??
The reason is to conserve energy. You might even save a few bucks. But on the other hand, I'm sure they didn't think of what a major inconvenience it would be to turn your clocks ahead a little bit early.
Would like to vent a little if everyone can stand another in-law story.
A few weeks ago we were having a visiting choir at our church. We were feeding dinner them after the performance. During Sunday school we discussed what each person would bring. We wanted to do sandwiches, salads, and desserts. I volunteered to bring chicken salad and pimento cheese sandwhiches. MIL is in the same class and heard myself and hubby say it twice. She chose to bring the same thing. Okay, not a big deal, but this is what happened yesterday. Earlier in the week my MIL gave me a church cookbook from another church. While we were talking I flipped through the cookbook (this is the size of a hymnal) and saw a reciepe for "blueberry pound cake". It looked delicious and I even said "I have fresh blueberries in the fridge, this will be great for the picnic on Sunday." I also made a couple of other things as everyone always brings 2-3 dishes. Walked in to church yesterday and my MIL announced she had made "blueberry pound cake from the new cookbook". I did not say a word, but caught hubby in parking lot and told him to put the cake back in the car.
We had a neighborhood block party last night so I knew I could take it there. Honestly, her cake was a bit dry, I truely think due to the reciepe and not her cooking. I guess it worked out becuase I went home and used a few more berries to make a sauce which helped the cake and it was a big hit at the block party.
I know this is really minor, so please don't fry me for this, but I really needed to vent and I don't want to vent to my hubby. Thanks for listening.
Another smokers' vent thread
**this is a vent***
Have you ever been lectured about smoking in person?
There is not a smoker in America who does not know that smoking is bad for you and a terrible habit. I really don't need to hear it again.
Last week I was in a smoking area (well away from a building, mind you) and a passerby from out of nowhere decided to tell me that cigarettes are unhealthy. No. Really? Wow!
A friend's son also decided to share this new info with me too. His mom didn't tell him to shush, either (he saw cigarettes in my purse, I wasn't smoking in his presence.) To me, that's rude. It's like asking an adult with a glass of wine at lunch if he's an alcoholic, or a chubby person not to eat so many ding dang doughnuts.
I would never have DREAMED of commenting on one of my parent's friend's habits, and one of them stuffs used Kleenex down the sides of sofas.
It makes me want to say "yes, but they're coooooool, Bobby".
Last vent on obnoxious toys. LOL.
The LeapFrog Tag thingy. I saw them at Wal-Mart and it looks like certain books work with it. I saw the advertisement and thought it was neat until that crazy man in the lizard costume or whatever it is insinuated that books are boring unless they can be used by that talking pen. I cannot figure out how that thing helps kids learn to read as it says it does. It looks to me like that pen reads for them. My 6-year-old is in first grade and they are trying to teach her to read by phonics. So when she and I read together whenever she stumbles across a word I have her try to look at it and sound it out before I will give her an answer and most of the time she can. I think I am just frustrated by that whole industry now anyway because I have had salespeople come to my door basically telling me that my kid is going to be a dumbazz if I don't buy their expensive junk....all the other kids have it and mine will be left out in the cold. I guess I am not giving those electronics a chance. I cannot see what they can do for my child that I cannot.
I just need to VENT and see what you all think...Beware...this is long...sm
I have tried twice to tell this story but deleted it both times because the story is just too long so I will be as short as I can.
I have a bunch of ROTTEN TO THE CORE sisters. My sisters are just about the worst people I have ever met in my whole 43 years on this planet. There is one who is especially bad and I just told my other sister that if she ever dies, to please not call me as I won't come to any wake or funeral for her because I HATE her guts. I come from a very large family with 5 sisters and 1 brother with my brother being the oldest. He is not involved. He sort of "left" the family years ago because he couldn't take the bulls**t of my sisters anymore. They did terrible things to him after his divorce. We rarely see him now. I am considered a scumbag and a loser because my husband and I don't make a lot of money. We don't own a home. We don't have gorgeous cars. We can't give our 3 children everything they want and we can only give them small amounts of what they actually need, but we do try. We love our children with everything in our souls. They have made fun of me and my husband and insulted us to our faces. My husband and I have a difficult marriage as he is tough to get along with so they hate my husband's guts. My sisters have all gone out to dinner without inviting me. I have found out because of someone's slip of the tongue. They have made threats and sent rumors flying throughout the family, without me knowing, about calling DCYF on me. I heard that one too from a slip of the tongue. I cried for 2 hours in the shower that day. They talk about everyone and I mean everyone badly. They have a well known reputation in a couple of our towns here for being mean horrible girls. They are about as fake and phony as a person can get. Sweet and all smiles to your face and when you turn around, they stick that knife in as far as they can get it in. They have what they have in their lives because of what someone has given them. My sister had her property given to her by her in-laws. It is worth about $1,000,000. My other sister had land given to her by her husband's family so they could build their house and then his parents used to come over with BIG fat checks "to lessen their mortage burden" so now they owe almost nothing on their $500,000 house. They think they are fabulous people. They think they are the cat's meow. In the past years when we were all talking and I would be invited to a holiday, I was not spoken to at all the whole time I was there. I am a venter and I always have been so if my husband and I are fighting, I will always go to my older sister (one up from me) and vent and vent until I can't talk anymore because I just get so angry. She gets on the phone the second I leave and tells every person in my family what is going on. They in turn judge me and my husband, make their threats, and so on. This is also happening to my oldest sister and her partner (she is in a gay relationship but was always dating a man and was married twice) and my sister's daughter and her family. The three of us, me, my sister and her partner, and my sister's daughter and her family, talk. We get along well. We are happy with each other. We don't judge each other. Whatever happens in each other lives, we just accept it and don't judge each other because we realize that each other has their own life and they will deal with whatever comes on their own with their own family in their own way. I now attend holidays at my sister's daughter's home. I don't leave her house after a holiday feeling lonely or sad or angry because no one would speak to me. I don't feel judged. The sisters (I like to call them the Witches of Eastwick) all attend holidays with each other up at my sister's husband's family's cabin in the mountains. The three of us are not invited. My older sister has a son. Several yeas ago, my sister and her partner had a terrible fight with him. He went to the witches and told them a bunch of lies and now they have pretty much shunned her and her daughter and me too because we still talk to her. I have a sister, who is involved in all of this, that I speak to on a regular basis. She is close to my kids or at least my oldest son. She pretty much ignores my other two children and they tell me, It's alright mommy, we know Aunty Becky hates us." She is the one who has spread rumors about me in the family trying to get everyone to call DCYF on me. I heard this too by a slip of the tongue from another sister a few years back. I tend to be a forgiving person so I quietly forgave her for this without her ever knowing that I knew what she was trying to do. Now that they are all inviited to the holidays up to my sister's cabin up north, this rotten sister of mine (the one closest to my son) has 3 cats that are fed twice a day. They are extremely fat just like her. These holiday trips up north are usually kept quiet and I only know about it the day before they are leaving to go, which is when she inevitably asks me to come feed her f******g cats. This is how I know that a big party is going on up at the cabin and once again only the chosen selected few are going. This is usually for 3 or 4 days and they get fed twice a day so I have to go to her house twice a day. Sometimes I have to give them medication and the last time she asked me, I even had to soak her sick cat's feet in medicine. She lives about 20 minutes away from me. This girl would NEVER, NEVER, EVER do this for me. My husband and I took our children on a cruise 3 years ago and we have a cat and I never asked her to do this for me as I know she would have laughed in my face. I have been feeding her cats for years now when she goes away. Keep in mind though that she was in the select chosen few to be invited up to the cabin. I was not as I am considered trash in the family. I am SICK AND TIRED of feeding this girl's cats so SHE can go up north to have fun with the family on the holidays. My sister who invites everyone to go is a mean, horrible, sadistic, vicious, backstabbing wretched b***h. No one will say anything to her like, "Gee Pat, where is everyone else? Didn't you invite this one, and this one, and this one?" They could care less. All they know is that THEY were invited.
Anyway, I am sorry this is so long. I can't take my sisters anymore. I have been thinking of this all day all weekend long. I am really to the point where I just don't want to see them ever again. I am going to tell my fat a** b***h sister to fnd another way to get her cats fed because I'm not doing it anymore!! She is just using me and believe me when I tell you, she enjoys it. She is very diabolical. She loves it that I am not invited and she and her husband are. She even questions me and counts the cat food cans to make sure that I came on all of the days they were gone. These people have balls of brass and I have had ENOUGH. I am just sitting and waiting patiently for the next time she says, "Oh, we're going up north for a few days. Can you come and feed the cats?" I just can't wait to see the look on her face when I simply say, "No. I can't. I will never feed your cats again! Find some other sucker to do it!"
I believe that they are severely narcissistic people and this is nothing to take lightly. These types of people are very destructive. Do any of you have family members like this and what do you do about them? How do you stop them from making you feel sad, lonely, excluded and less than you are or deserve? I think it is time for me to cut all ties with them. I just can't take their crap anymore and I do think I would be much, much happier and calmer.
Just want to vent about a horrible thing
A friend of ours died of pancreatic cancer. Went to the funeral, fully expecting to see her husband - they were together since high school, kids, grandkids. Turned out he divorced her & left town when she got the diagnosis.
What a scumbag. I can't think of words bad enough. Just needed to tell somebody.
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