CHOICES
Posted By: nana on 2007-07-02
In Reply to: What do you do when your husband says - mtmomof3
If you stay together what will it be like when the kids are gone? Will you be happy with him then? How old will you be then? Will there be a reason to stay with him then? Make two lists, one of all the reasons you should stay, one of all the reasons you should go. Make two more lists, one of all his good qualities, one of all his bad qualities. Put them in a drawer and get them out in a week and see if you feel the same about what you wrote. One other thing, did he have a girlfriend this time? Does he this time? Major cheater? If those last three are true then go home where there are people you can trust who are there for you no matter what. Work, take care of your children and enjoy them. Go to church, go to movies. Have a life. You could go to Marriage Encounter and I recommend it, but if he is a cheater and makes no solid committment to stopping then you need to consider this. What your children see you do now will stay with them and they will live their lives accordingly. I will pray for you. Save your money too because you never know when you may need to move your teepee to a new village.
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You have a few choices -
Either learn to deal with it, meaning shut up or put up, or move. I think I would vote for the latter. There has got to be a better place to live than that drama factory. Life is too short!!!
Good choices
Some of the higher-paying career courses that may be available to many people in a 2-year or less course are:
Dental hygiene
Occupational therapist assistant
Physical therapist assistant
Surgical technologist
Lab tech
Coding (not the right choice for me, but for only about $4000 you could get job that pays very well and be in high demand).
Those tend to pay more than these below, and therefore a better investment than:
Medical assistant (may be a 9-month course or 2-year)
phlebotomist (but may be a 3-month course)
Your choices are to either be proactive and do something...
positive about your situation, which IMHO is to leave this mess or continue to live this sorry life and whine about it..in that case you are not a victim but an enabler and a contributor. Would you want your daughter to live like this? Would you want your son to treat his wife like this?
matter of choices
It's not just about protecting our children from being taught something that is wrong, something that goes against our moral fiber, something that this great country was founded on, our belief in God. It is also about standing up for our beliefs and not condoning something that is clearly sinful. You may not believe there is a God yet. That is your opinion. What makes you think that you were right in letting your child watch anything she wanted? So she turned out good. So did my children and they were raised to believe in God and his son Jesus Christ. The only difference is, when the time comes for Jesus to come back to this earth, your daughter will find that she has been cheated by being taught there is no God and perhaps will find herself in some serious trouble.
The kids may like those choices
but I don't think they're all that healthy. The salads and baked potatoes are good and probably the spaghetti, but everything else I would worry about. The Chic-Fila delivery is nice but probably should only be once a month. It's not just what these kids are eating in school; it's that most of them don't get a nutritional meal at home.
Fashion choices........ sm
My cousin and I were in a discussion this weekend and the topic came up about how so many younger people today are wearing their clothes way too tight and about 2-3 sizes too small. You know the tight tops, cut WAY too low, the too tight jeans, tops to short. On top of that, most of the offenders are way overweight!
Anyone have any comments about this? I see it all the time even in some in my own extended family. Jeans too tight, shirts too low, top nearly hanging out. They all look like clones. Not to mention the short tops wtih the "muffin top" hanging over the blue jeans! When did this get to be the fashion and the way to dress? It seems the style these days. I don't care what size a person is, big, little, in between, I think it looks terrible. Don't know how people breathe in these too tight clothes!
Any dialogue/comments out there?
Just adopt the dog or MOVE. Seriously. What other choices do you have!!?????
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current and past choices
Current: NCIS, Mad Men, Damages
Past: West Wing, Will & Grace, M*A*S*H, Shark, Golden Girls
Thanks for some good choices - I've seen some of these mentioned but
will definitely check out the others. Thank you!
Fair question. I have made choices in my life that sm
afford me to stay at home and work. When I say refuse, yes, I refuse to put my children in childcare because I can do so. I can choose to take them to a daycare provider, but i want to be their sole providers and protector always. I can do that. It is a luxury.
Now, do I look down upon moms and dads who use childcare? Absolutely not. My heart breaks for those moms who want to be at home with their children but for unforeseen circumstances they just can't. I understand that if I was in another situation where I couldn't work from home then they would be somewhere else, but then if that was the way it was I would not have had kids. My kids are 5 and 2. I've been doing MT for 9 years from home. So, you can do the math there.
We all have a free will and have to make choices every single day. Christian or not. sm
I am a devout Christian, believe in God 100%, but I must make good decisions every single day with regard to my health, family, finances, self, etc. You can't place blame on anyone (including God or others) when you continually make bad choices and bad things happen. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out. That rule works for non Christians too!
God is there to help us when we mess up. He's always there. An ever-present help in trouble. That's a comforting thought. God didn't want their water to be turned off. He doesn't wish for anything bad to happen to us, but just as if we have adult grown children we will allow them to go through certain things so that they might learn and grow. God does that with us, too!
You reap whatever you sow. I think most of the time it is our own choices and bad decisions that get us into hot water. Too many people cry foul when things go bad and not take responsibility. It's time for people to start growing up and taking responsibility for their lives and decisions. I was homeless at one time and have had a very hard life, so this isn't coming from someone who was given a silver spoon.
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