But why not a trial separation?
Posted By: Never on 2008-12-21
In Reply to: Try another counselor - Old part-timer
DH says he'll take me back if I don't like being separated. I didn't ask him that - he volunteered that. A sister got divorced and she's glad she did it. She remarried. I just want to date, not get married or live with a man at this point.
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re: separation
Yes, it's definitely possible. I, too, am going thru a separation w/my husband. We have 2 children and have made it a priority to make it as easy on them as possible. The first 8 months was difficult, but now it's very amicable. We actually like each other (as friends). Something we hadn't had in a long time. We still butt heads occasionally (same old arguments) which is why we remain apart. If you are both good people underneath and can put your pettiness aside for the sake of the kids (I don't remember if you said you had any), I believe it's doable.
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I've been married a long time, but for some of the usual reasons, I've wanted to try separating. It took guts because I've never been on my own, but I found a place to rent (with a roommate) that is reasonable and includes utilities in the price. I found it through Craig's list, and just kept looking until I found a nice place that's only 2 miles from work. I went to the bank and got a separate checking account and my own charge card. DH is amicable (though doesn't want to separate), so I have it easier than most. But I wanted to let you know I'm excited and happy about this change that I had been too scared to make for so long. I think everything is going to be okay and the days of wanting to sleep my life away are over. I hope. But at least I have hope now.
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Our great country was based on the separation of
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...and after the trial?
What's your plan for moving upward and onward?
I wonder if you'd allow me to presume on some years of experience by asking you to really examine the core issue here, namely "I still love him".
I'm not saying you don't, but I wonder whether this is actually "partner-for-life" love which absolutely depends on a foundation of mutual respect, which I believe he has thoroughly destroyed.
There seem to be all kinds of feelings that women can have for men that they call "love", but they're not the kind of love that forms the basis for the intimacy on every level that life-partners need.
A woman can have motherly love for a misbehaving partner. A woman can love a false image of a partner. A woman can love what the partner used to be. A woman can love what she believes the partner could be. The list goes on.
When it comes to partner love, all of these others are really counterfeits and/or substitutes, and none of them provide a reason to stay together.
Over the years that I dealt with domestic disputes - and especially those that had a component of substance abuse - I never saw one of them that got better, and they usually deteriorated. That's why I hope you have a plan for moving onward and upward.
No - I did not watch the trial
start to finish, as I had to work. I lived in LA at that time. I think the timing of this was crucial - just after the Rodney King debacle. I think Johnnie Cochran was very charming and had that jury in the palm of his hands. I think the investigation was botched. I'm not an expert on the trial and it's true, I don't know everything about it, but just my opinion. Even if he didn't do it, who in the heck would write this kind of book - it's just distgustingly insensitive to the victim's family, who think he did do it and who were there from start to finish.
Oh, then I am sure you saw the wrong trial
because if you watched from start to finish as I did, I could never have convicted from what I saw. The papers and the trial were so far apart I could not believe it. One case in point - just about the glove- There was a piece of paper, receipt, that showed SOMETHING bought at the store in the accessory department, had no mention of a glove, a scarf, wallet- no numbers to match up and YET, it had his wife as buying a pair of gloves there- that put enough doubt in my mind but I am sure you did not see the same thing or you might have had doubts.
WHAT????? Not talking about the trial
some what now 13 years ago?? and so did I watch it. I am talking about what is happening today or what happened yesterday in Las Vegas. ME AND OTHERS CANNOT SEEM TO GET OVER WHAT A JURY DECIDES AND THEIR WORD IS FINAL??? NEVERMIND.
Believe me,. if you stiill love him, go to the trial
what will send him to jail.
Do you never ask yourself 'Does he love me?'
The situation is so deteriorated that it is not anymore in your hand to solve it all alone, you need help.
He blames you for everything that went and is going wrong.
You need to wake up and so does he.
If you want to rescue the son and show and guide him what 'justice' is, testify. Only this can and will make you strong.
I am not sure but I have the feeling that you are afraid what he might do to you when he is released from prison? Get immediatley a restraining order.
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By trial and error. Lots and LOTS of error!!! -nm
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