But, she and her ex are on excellent terms
Posted By: Christmas and my daughter is impossible! on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: I was with you until you said...... - ex
They see and talk with each other every week, no animosity there so that is not a problem. If fact when she was here Thanksgiving she had invited him if he were going to be in town.
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Did you read the terms of donating? That right there tells you it is a scam - it even says you agree not to report them to the host site, what a rip off
In terms of what? - sm
Could be Pentium 4, or it could mean someone who has had 4 childbirths-----Pregnancy history, written as "(gravida, para, X-X-X-X)," where gravida is the total number of pregnancies (including the present one), para is the number of deliveries after 20 weeks of pregnancy, and X-X-X-X is the number of full-term infants-number of preterm infants-number of abortions-number of living children-----written as G4, P4, A0. (cannot remember if it is with or w/o the commas, I don't do many of these).
OP can use whatever terms she wants and can also take care of herself (sm)
However, in her absence if her friends want to defend her that's ok too. Maybe we all need to get a life if we are going to be on here debating something so trivial.
Personally, I think it needs to be on their terms - sm
My son is actually my stepson. I have been with his father since my son was about 7 years old. I always had a little suspicion but stayed quiet. I figured if he was, he would eventually "come out" to us.
He was actually about 17 when he called me one day from school and asked if he could just come home and talk to me. We sat for three hours, just the two of us, and he spilled everything.
It was absolutely heart-breaking to know that he was so terribly uncomfortable with his "secret life".
You love your kids unconditionally. It was a little hard for his dad to understand, very hard for his grandparents to understand but he needed to be himself.
The only thing I can offer to you is that you need to let it be their timing.
If I had asked my son about it directly, I think it would have sent him over the edge emotionally. He just wasn't prepared for it because he wasn't sure what was going on with him either.
He knew that I had gay friends and I was okay with that so I think this is why he chose to talk to me first, rather than his mother or his father.
I know it was a very difficult thing for him and I just told him that I was so proud of him for having the courage to be himself.
He's not perfect by any means but I love him the same as the rest of my kids.
He will soon by 25 and I am just as proud of him as I am my of other kids.
I think OP means she would use the terms
mentally handicapped or mentally challenged. At least those are the terms I usually hear now-a-days. Good luck to you and your family.
Terms of Endearment
I remember when
Shirley McClaine was screaming for them to give her daughter her meds because it was time. I was 17 when I saw this movie and I kept thinking, my mother would be exactly the same way.
Those terms are used all the time around here..sm
A lot of southerners use those words when talking to people. Sometimes when they don't even know the person. It is really no big deal to me.
Tell your mother in no uncertain terms (sm)
that your son and his soon to be wife are deciding who they want at their wedding, and that they will decide. If she keeps calling, just simply say, "please stop calling, we are not going to change our minds. And then don't. If she chooses not to come, that's her decision.
ooh, you are right - see inside for link to their terms
http://www.myspace.com/Modules/Common/Pages/TermsConditions.aspx
Quite common terms in the South. We
call everyone something like that, whether we know them or not.
I beg to differ. Forgiveness, even Biblical terms, can
only genuinely happen AFTER the offender repents for having hurt/offended you. Forgive and forget is just a wimpy nonconfrontational thing. The only way one can feel true forgiveness is if the other party repents. One can make informed decisions and move on, but forgiveness is not one-sided, though it sounds all warm and fuzzy.
curious - R U on speaking terms today with sis?
I am divorced and now on good terms with MIL, but not while we were married! sm
She was very critical, called me every name in the book and kept telling her son I was no good that he belonged in the home I could not PROVIDE FOR HIM, as in the home they could. Umm last time I checked he was an adult too and we were to make a home TOGETHER.
I can remember being sent to the hospital with preterm labor with my daughter. I was scared, I had had to drive my sons to my mom's and then myself to the hospital. My doctor was furious with him. Why did I have to do that? Because SHE needed to go to the doctor about her 'rrhoids and her rear end was more important than OUR unborn child!!! Oh and he could have been available sooner, but she wanted to go shoe shopping. She was truly the other woman in my marriage and when anything happened where I truly needed him, he was with her...shopping, taking her to the doctor, driving her to the dentist. He eventually lost a job because all of that. He didn't learn and continued until he finally has not had a full time job since.
What finally bridged the gap was our divorce. He didn't see his kids or pay support because he didn't feel he should have to. BUT I never kept my kids from her, she is their grandmother and they are her only grandchildren. She never forgot a birthday or Christmas and she didn't play favorites like my mom did. I respected her for what I felt was her important role in their lives and she grew to respect me for my that.
What finally did it is the fact that my ex up and remarried. The gal he married has many documented mental health issues (I saw the report her ex had on her, but that is a long story). My MIL tried with wife #2, she really did. Finally, just about the time they married, this gal threatened my MIL's life and hit her in the face hard enough to knock her down! This was done in front of my oldest son and my MIL's boyfriend at the time (FIL had passed on).
From that day on, I was welcome in her home anytime and "that woman" was not. I suddenly became the nicest of her 3 DILs and she told me that herself. Although the kids are grown and I have moved out of state, I send her birthday and Mother's Day cards. I know she regrets the things she said and did, she told me that too. I told her that stuff was all in the past and what really mattered is the here and now.
The categories are as specific as terms like "violence" allow - sm
Admittedly, there could be some disagreement about "marginal" situations. Is a raised fist "violence"? Some would say yes, some no. Away from these margins, though, there wouldn't likely be much disagreement as to which category a movie belongs in.
And since all movies are fantasy (fiction), whether they contain this sort of thing or not, the question being addressed here is what sort of fantasy is doing better at the box office?
To anon..She was trying to explain to the rest of us in simple terms...sm
how mares foal, bkz most of us don't have the opportunity to see that. You don't even know how many horses and other animals Hayseed has and cares for every day!
I suggest you apologize immediately.  Cat
EXCELLENT! Whatever you do, please
dont mutilate their claws! I have adopted two lovely males who were butchered in this way and they are OVER-aggressive to compensate for their lack of natural defense.
And this solution really does work. If you say HEY loudly while you spritz them eventually just the HEY will work... they are trainable to a degree.
If you can't get a scratcher box, even a sheet of cardboard will do - good luck!
There is an excellent one, but I don't think
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Wow - those are excellent
If I was really into music and guitars or knew anyone really into guitars I'd definitely buy one. The quality of your craftsmanship is excellent!
Hope you do really well with them.
Excellent - way to go for your mom
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Excellent tip - thank you so much
I always get those two mixed up and have to stop and think about it. Thanks for the tip.
Looks excellent, bet its even better with
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EXCELLENT joke! *LOL*.........
Excellent reply!
Happy Hanukkah by the way!
Does it start today or tomorrow? I have two calendars that conflict each other.
Excellent!!! More women should do this....
     
This is an excellent post.
How awesome that you took so much time to reply to "exhausted" and yes, it's all very good advice. I've been there, done that also. I wish I had this board to come to years ago, but the advice here is right on the money.
I have an excellent recipe if you want it. sm
just make a note under this message, I'll check later and type it in.
that is excellent advice. sm
i guess my will power just isn't very good right now. we have five acres and i try to get out every day and walk our fenced area, which about five or six times around is a mile. i guess i should put up a picture of myself when i was thinner and have that be a motivation
Excellent suggestion
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Thank you all SO MUCH for your excellent info!!! sm
I knew I was doing the right thing to ask you gals. After telling my hubby everything you all said and researching online a bit, he and I agree that - although we THOUGHT we were going to DISNEY WORLD, our kids would actually probably like Universal and Sea World. (And my youngest is 48 inches and rides every roller coaster Six Flags will let him on). Looking at the TV/Movie themes between Disney and Universal, I hate to admit it but they all seem to have outgrown Disney a bit. Is there any sense in staying in the Disney resorts for the specials/perks but mostly going (DRIVING) to other parks? Or if just staying off would be better? I just want to spend the money wisely. ![](http://forum.mtstars.com/smileys/smirlove2.gif")
Excellent post...
This is the same thing we have done with our 19YO...he's responsible, calls and checks in, and is home at a decent hour, so he does not have a curfew. Although, most of his free time is spent with our local Sheriff's deputies...he's yearing to be a deputy one day. Thank goodness he's not quite old enough yet though!
The book was excellent!...sm
I read that when I was around 16 and couldn't put it down. Check it out!
That is an excellent point! - nm
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i think that's an excellent idea. Nobody should pay for your
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Quite the contrary, it's an excellent and (sm)
proven way to reduce weight and improve your health. There are different phases to low carb. Not all do it for the weight loss, in fact, but the energy and good overall feeling that comes with eliminating processed carbs. If you've never tried it, don't knock it. Once one has achieved their desired weight loss with low carb, they can still maintain a low carb lifestyle without further weight loss. It works and it's proven. The energy that you get back is the biggest plus to this LIFESTYLE - yes, it's a lifestyle, not a "diet."
Wow -these are excellent suggestions
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am 49 years old (feel 69 right now). I'm 189 pounds and lead very very sedentery life. No kids, no activity. I know I need to do some activity but I just can't get motivated. However, I do have an exercise video called Callanetics...very low impact aerobics (slow movements with very relaxing music), so tonight I pulled it out and starting tomorrow going to do that at the end of the work day.
I too have to have my caffeine and one day without it I sure can tell. I'm what you would call "semi-organic" (at least that's what I call it). I refuse to take any medication (not even aspirin when I have a headache). I'm trying to go vegetarian (or more vegetarin) but I do like meat. Just got to lose weight and a bit more exercise.
I'm also ticked as I'm 48 and haven't hit menopause. Bummer big time for me. Just ended my weeklong visit with "my friend" and I can't tell you how much I hate it. I have no kids and don't want any kids ever. Had ectopic pregnancy years ago so only have one ovary and tube and I'm thinking...I'm not a "baby producing machine", yet I'm cursed with these blasted periods. Okay - sorry, that's more of my own emotional problem I have to deal with. I just want the periods to end. Your suggestions of herbal supplements are most interesting and I will be looking into them. Thank you again for your post.
yup it is excellent and dependable
Never had a problem with it in the three years I've been using it.
Oh you wouldn't believe all the free stuff that is available. Whenever I'm looking for something there seems to always be something you can get for free that is equal in comparison (well except a foot pedal and head phones that is. HA HA)
Here's another funny fact - has nothing to do with MT, but DH just found a website and you know all these courses they teach at the big wig universities - you can watch the classes online for free. These are courses from MIT and really expensive universities. So if you were interested in getting your degree completed you could watch the courses, take a test and get your degree for a tenth of what it would cost you to sit in the same lecture class at a fancy university.
That is one thing I love about the internet. There is a wealth of information and knowledge all for free. Talk about living in a great country!
Excellent point!
Excellent response!
Short on time and brain is toast but hey, want to know, keep me in mind and I'll answer too tomorrow probably. I enjoy conversation, even at odds with someone, that is not like what I see up a little further on this page. Thanks.
Excellent post!
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excellent post.
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Thanks everyone - every one of these ideas are excellent
I'm printing them all out and anything that maybe added later.
I'm so used to just going to the grocery store and buying what I need/want. Gone are those days after going to the tax man. My taxes doubled this year and also I'm now stuck with a tax bill for last year, so have got to keep food to 100/week cos that's all that's left. With all these suggestions I know I won't have a problem.
I love the idea of making my own bread. Used to do that as a kid with my mom and also my own pizza dough. Looks like all these suggestions will make meal times fun too.
These are excellent suggestions!
Good suggestions for others who may be facing the same situation down the road.
This one I found sounds excellent! May try it myself.
INGREDIENTS
1 (8 ounce) package elbow macaroni
5 tablespoons butter
5 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 quart warm milk (110 degrees F/45 degrees C)
salt and pepper to taste
1 pinch cayenne pepper
1/4 pound cubed ham
5 ounces cubed Cheddar cheese
5 ounces mozzarella cheese, cubed
5 ounces Monterey Jack cheese, cubed
paprika to taste
DIRECTIONS
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9 x 13 baking dish. Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add pasta and cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until AL dente; drain.
In medium saucepan, melt butter and stir in flour to make a roux. Cook 1 to 2 minutes, stirring constantly, then whisk in warm milk a little at a time to make a white sauce. Bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer. Mix in salt, pepper, and cayenne, and stir frequently until sauce thickens.
Remove pan from heat and stir in cheddar, mozzarella, jack and ham. Combine pasta with sauce and stir well. Pour into baking dish. Use paprika to make a decorative pattern on top. Bake 45 to 60 minutes, or until top is the desired crispiness. Let rest 20 minutes before serving.
Excellent News! Thanks! Now I can watch it again!!!
I am sure Elizabeth and Joy are thrilled to pieces!!!! LOL
I read it is an excellent test, but
I also heard it really smarts.
SAW HAIRSPRAY LAST NIGHT EXCELLENT GO SEE IT NM
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The new digital ones give excellent
pictures and you probably won't have to get any of those extra pictures they used to have to do a lot. They can see better all the way out to the skin, so if you have a mole or something it won't cause confusion; they can see exactly what's going on. Therefore it's worth calling around and seeing if digital mammography is available at any centers in your area.
I believe it is going to end the cycle of mammo/US/bx my mom has had to go thru in the past that always turned out to be just scar tissue (after the first benign bx).
Excellent advice. One more thing...
I use doormat for scratching "post". It is one of those thick choir mats. My cats love to dig their claws in it. It is important for cats to "claw" something, but NOT furniture, although I have a wicker chair which has also seen better days. As stated, they love to dig their claws in stuff and will USUALLY stay away from most furniture.
Excellent Work Chair
http://ellen.warnerbros.com/2008/01/hawaii_chair.php
Excellent suggestion on the dentist
He has a cleaning scheduled in June (the soonest we could get him in without missing school) and at 17 he has never had a cavity. Well, the last time he was there was about 8 months ago so he was 16 then if we want to get technical. LOL! Whew, I finally slept last night. Definitely starting to feel a bit better, but I did make his fav. dinner last night, lasagna, and while he ate just fine, normally there are very few leftovers and not even half was eaten. DD suddenly decided yesterday she no longer likes lasagna so all she ate was salad and bread. I know my radar is up now and I will be picking everything apart. Watching what he eats, if he goes to the bathroom shortly after eating, etc. Even though this has been tough, I put my parents through so much more. I really owe them an apology.
You sound like an excellent parent
I do not have any children, but having grown up with parents who sound just like you I am grateful for what they did for me. I didn't have what every other kid had and I had to earn what I did get. We were involved in girl scouts and my mom was the leader of our troop. She was involved in everything we did and she did not believe in using activities as a babysitter. For babysitting she hired a girl down the road. So I am grateful to have the parents I had (mom's gone but dad is still alive). They instilled values in me and if I ever had kids I would raise them the same exact way my parents raised me. So good for you and I know when your kids are grown with kids of their own they'll remember what you did for them and will be thankful to you. I wish more parents were like you (my sister could take some lessons for sure - but that's a whole nother post).
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