Boy, if stress is the trigger, I'm surprised I'm not one big blister. Stress is my middle name
Posted By: NotSoFunnyMT on 2008-01-19
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Stress when is enough enough?
Wanted to gab to get some feedback. Right now, it seems like everywhere this MT turns there's stress. DH going through final hearing for child support his ex won't pay for years, she threatening to take the kids away so he has to pay child support, etc. I just switched jobs within the last year, and although I am doing well the one I chose, it has been really stressful trying different MTSOs out to find the right one, or the fairest one. Top it off, my 2nd computer in 6 months just died today and my lovebird cage just fell down from the ceiling wrecking the living room, the cage, and scaring me and the birds half to death. Last week, when my son went for visitation, he wanted to stay home and not go with his dad, he screamed so loud the police chased his dad down in the car, and they came here to make sure he was not a kidnapper. I am not kidding! Look, I am not looking for pity. It just seems that as I sit here and write this to you (who I don't even know), that since I work at home transcribing 6 days a week, am fully involved with my son at home and step kids all the time (no life outside the house to speak of anymore) I am absolutely at a ridiculous point of stress. Any happy coping suggestions in response to this sad situation other than, go to the "mental health board," or "get a life..." etc. Thanks in advance for your kind comments. Just a sister MT trying to cope with job and home and trying to find advice from anyone who has "been there." Thanks.
STRESS
I am so sorry to hear about your friend (coworker). I cry with you. I hope and pray that you can find someone at your facility that will see what is happening and help you make changes!!!
Why can't anyone realize that the stress we face is great?
God Bless You and your other coworkers!!
christmas stress . . .
Due to the high stress nature of my husband's and my parents, we no longer tell them about the children's school events ( I know, sounds horrible, doesn't it?). My husband's father, whom we see three times a year, and has absolutely NO relationship with our children, called the school and found out when their concert was. He and his wife showed up last night, sat in front of us, he said two words to my husband (his son) all night long. When we got home last night and wanted to decorate the tree, my husband blew a gasket. He cannot handle it. It bothered him SO much that his dad showed up that he screamed and yelled at us until my daughter and I were in tears and my sons wanted him to leave. My daughter, lying in bed crying while I tucked her in said "we do this every year, mom". In order to get a grip on the kind of relationship my husband and his father have I would have to go on and on. basically, he adopted my husband when he married my husband's mother years ago. They split up the year we got married. My husband tried very, very unsuccessfully to maintain a relationship with him over the years and finally came to a point where he gave up. We have awkward moments and conversation when we are together. We have nothing in common, they don't really care about the kids, because they are not there to actually spend time with them and get to know them. We prayed for my husband last night, and my daughter asked me if something happened in his childhood. How do I get my husband to deal with this so we don't have to go through this every year?????
My solution to your stress
just BEAT HIM. LOL. J/K of course.
I would be upset too. Look for another company to go through. Unreal.
you are in posttraumatic stress right now--sm
go to the ER. Have someone drive you, if you feel you may leave the car running again. They will be sympathetic and guide you as to what is appropriate care for you. I feel your pain! My children's father took his own life on Father's Day two years ago and a cousin of mine took his own life less than a month later. I know the feeling, believe me. You will get better though, trust me. good luck to you and keep us all informed. you need compassionate friends right now, too. {{hugs}}
stress causes it too, my child has it....
and is also on metformin which causes more problems....has been to the GI doc who is really not much help....in this case, stress causes it...child doesn't drink....26 y/o.....
hope you feel better.....google IBS - you'll learn how to cope/deal....
stress, work, stress, work, stress, work
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What do you do for stress relief?
I am having a tough time blowing off steam lately and looking for some stress relief ideas...some for in the moment and some for just routine daily/weekly life stress.
I am pregnant so moods are crazy and I am just having difficulty letting go of even the smallest of things. Looking for some pointers, ideas, suggestions.
My garden tub used to do the trick but now that I work until late at night and have a child home from school for the summer, it is difficult to find the time for that or mani/pedis which I also used to enjoy.
stress reduction
My ex-hub wrote some papers while he was doing his PhD in psychology on stress reduction. I typed his papers both before and after we were divorced. It made sense to me. One of the things he said that you work all week to make a paycheck to pay your bills. He said you have to consider yourself "a bill out of your paycheck that needs to be paid" just like any other bill that you owe. You need to pay a bill owed to yourself for hard work in the form of whatever you can afford out of each paycheck no matter what the amount that you may deem to afford meaning a new outfit, pedicure, meal out, movie, whatever makes you relaxed and feel happy. Set an amount aside even if it is just $20-$25. It gives you something to looks forward to. We have been divorced for 15 years, but I still remember this and still do this. It makes me feel good because I know I have to pay this bill to myself and it makes me feel good.
I wouldn't stress.
I had my baby natural childbirth. It really wasn't so bad. By the time it gets to where you can't stand it anymore, it's time to push. When you push through a contraction, you don't feel pain anymore just pressure. During labor I just kept thinking, this time tomorrow I will be holding my baby.
While I was pregnant, friends and family delighted in telling me their horror stories about childbirth. Don't listen to them. Everyone's experience is different. I figured if it was that bad everyone would only do it once, right?
I did take my sister's advice though. She's an RN on L&D and she said the nurses are there to help you, don't get mean and nasty with them or they will go away and only come back when they have to.
My friend had an epidural and suffered from severe headaches for months afterwards. I've heard of women having back problems, leg problems with them. I don't think I would ever advise anyone to get an epidural.
Yes, definitely a stress point in a marriage....sm
As for taking charge, I think we have to as they simply wont. I mean someone does need to be "in charge" so to speak...it is their place to be "head" of the house, but most dont take that place, they dont want that place, the responsibility that it brings.
I often think of the fact that if I died while my children are young they would have to live with my sister....seriously. He would not be able to take care of them, and not talking just financial, he literally would not be able to take care of them. It is sad to feel like that about it. Just how it is.
You're not weird. Maybe you can stress that you'd like it to be just old
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They are big-time stress reliever!
I play what my brother calls 'girly' games - Final Fantasy, tetris, etc. I also have a couple murder mystery-type games, but I have to watch playing them when I'm home alone because I'll scare myself! I know it's pathetic but some of those games have things that jump out at you! I guess that's why I stick to the 'girly' games! LOL
Anybody have stress bother them and then get sick?
Ever since I have been stressed over a certain situation in transcription, and my family's budget I have become extremely tired and it is really hard to get my line count. Every day as the pressure builds regarding this my line count gets lower, no matter how hard I try. Anybody in this situation or ever been, I'd appreciate advice. I am trying stress busters, exercising, reading books, taking time to go outside, but nothing is working.
Every time I sit down to type, I just get more and more worried and I can't produce! It is like my heart is going on strike against the position I have because there are problems with the situation and it makes my money situation even worse. My husband is very understanding but this has got to stop. I want to feel good about my job again and my production. If you say get another job, I understand about that, but what about until the other job starts, what do I do? Arrrggggg. I know life is no picnic but it could at least provide piece of mind so I can do my job! Thanks in advance for any and every suggestion or advice. It will be well appreciated
If she's such a good kid, why stress her more by making her pay
for car/gas/insurance? I think that making good grades and having extracurricular school activities are enough. If she has to work also then something might slip, probably her grades. My girls, now 30 and 33, did theater, choir, drill team and we took care of the car. They did not turn out to be slackers. Maybe taking her siblings to school and running errands is enough of a payment.
Believe it or not, my favorite stress reliever is
SEX. Seriously.
Anyone on Lexapro for stress and anxiety?
Do you like it? Is it working for you?
Stress - thanks all for yesterday - got the Bach and the multi-Bs (sm)
Still stressing but feeling much better today. Didn't get out until 8 pm last night to make my purchases and still had a rough night, but this morning I am much calmer. Thanks to everyone who had any comments or suggestrions - I really needed you guys yesterday and appreciate you being there!
Emotional upset and stress. Such as reading MT
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I would say that you have every reason to have panic attacks what with all the stress you've SM
been under. I take Effexor XR for my painic attacks and atenolol to help control my BP and it keeps my heart rate down. The combination works wonderfully, although I wonder if I've become a little too dependent on it as I sometimes get a little anxious at the thought of being without my Effexor.
I would have periodic episodes of anxiousness going all the way back to my teenage years, but I would always work through it myself. Then a year ago, in the midst of marital trouble and feeling alone as I lived two states away from friends and family, I started having what I now know to be gallbladder pain while I was at work. In my mind, I knew I wasn't having a heart attack, the pain was in my right rib cage and radiated around to my right scapula. But I couldn't seem to convince my body. My heart started racing, my mind was racing. I felt dizzy and short of breath. I went to the employee health nurse who took my BP and it was sky high. She immediately rushed me to the ER which freaked me out even further.
Long story short, I was having a full blown panic attack and I hope that I never experience anything like that again. I ended up crying for three weeks straight, was afraid be left alone, was afraid to leave my house, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, would pace the house with my heart racing, not able to calm myself down.
I saw three different doctors before I found a female doctor who listened to me and told me she knew exactly what I was talking about because her daughter had panick attacks too. She started me on Effexor and set me up with a therapist who taught me breathing techniques and meditation techniques to help calm myself when I feel anxious. One technique, as simple as it sounds, is something I practice almost daily which is deep breathing: in through your nose and out through your mouth and as you exhale allow your body to relax starting from the shoulders down. It seems silly, but it really works. I noticed that I clenched my jaw a lot and so that is were I focus my mind when I'm trying to relax. I focus on the tension in my jaw and start relaxing from there down.
Exercise is another great technique for relieving anxiety and stress. All the experts say that, and it's true. Just getting outside and walking can clear the mind.
Well, I've rambled on and on. Sorry about that. Let me just add one more thing, if you decide to try medication, my advice would be to be patient. Sometimes it takes a few different trials of medication before you find the one that fits. My doctor explained to me that panick attacks are caused by an overactive fight or flight response in the brain and so SSRI antidepressants like Zoloft or Celexa won't do the trick. You have to have a NRI (norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor) to calm the response.
I'm not saying you need medicine, but I am saying that you may want to get a handle on it now so you don't have to go through what I did. I can't even explain how horrible it feels to have your mind spinning of control. I felt like I was genuinely losing my mind.
Well, anyway I feel for you and I wish you well.
I'm one of the few Grinches here who agrees with you. Enough w/the stress & extra calories in the
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I agree. Hand him the headphones to have a listen. And stress how
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I think finances and stress ALL play a huge part in this. nm
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Definitely stress. Cops said once that Xmas eve with alcohol & money
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Stress to vet office this is urgent or call emerg. vet.
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Get some B-stress vitamins, Bach Rescue Remedy spray (sm)
Valerian Root to help you sleep. If all else fails ask the doc for something temporary for stress. I have been so stressed out before I couldn't stand it. Best wishes to you! I hope things get better soon. Take a day off!! A mental health day! Be lazy, take a hot bath, take a long walk.
I can't stop laughing....Whoopi in the middle? If she is in the middle,rush limbaugh is very far
She is further left than Rosie.
Fragrances can trigger relaxation.
I wonder if the fragrance just triggered a feeling of relaxation, and now he's hooked.
:oD
What to do about a blister
My son got sunburned this weekend pretty bad and he just had a pretty good-sized blister form. What should I do about it? He's freaking out
Can you tell me how to take it or what dose. Do you take it all the time or just when the blister
is there.
I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
NM
Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
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I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
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