Birthdays. Mine was completely forgotten by everyone! June 14, Flag Day. sm
Posted By: Deb- on 2009-06-15
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Mom & Dad, longterm boyfriend, best friend, brother, I teach a kickboxing class and last class I randomly said *I will be teaching on Sunday, which is my birthday, so be prepared for a killer workout" - maybe I was hoping for a few Happy Birthdays... not a call, not a card! I kind of cried tonight in the shower... I'm over it now, (well maybe not really!) but should I bring it up tomorrow? I know B-days are for children, but I just wanted to be treated just a little bit special on this day! I've had a hard year with some illness and kind of thought maybe somebody would want to celebrate me! So here I am working tonight - but I think I might have to head out to Dairy Queen for a Blizzard before they close. I think something gooey and chocolatey is needed.
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I finally got fed up with the birthday thing too - for YEARS I have sent my 4 brothers, 6 nieces & nephews, daughter, stepson, step granddaughter, great niece and 2 great nephews birthday cards. . every year on my birthday, I get a card from my daughter and from one brother. .that's it. . I know it's not about getting cards but still, you would think just once somebody else would send me a card.. so this year, I'm thinking about not sending cards. . .
birthdays . . .
We quit when the birthdays with friends became more important and more expensive to have. Gma and Gpa are always welcome to join us and usually we end up having them over for a light supper or pizza or something, just not "HUGE" family parties anymore. Family first, of course, but our kids LOVE having huge sleep overs with pizza and movies, so it's too much to have both. BTW this was around age 10-12 for both of the older two. The youngest we still invite grandparents to friend parties and they still come (probably because they are quite as loud and chaotic as the older two!!!!).
Birthdays with holidays.
Sometimes I like that the birthdays are around the holidays because then I can buy extra stuff and look at it all and decide how to split it up between the 2. Other times, like this year, we don't have much $ so I would really prefer them to be separated more but can choose that one!
My husband normally leaves the lights on all night. Turn on when he gets home from work and off in the morning...not this year. I think its reasonable to just do a few hours each evening. I don't think we'll put up as many as we normally do either. Usually we line all the windows, roof, bushes, etc. Probably keep it simple this year.
I had forgotten all about those!
I remember those books! I was one of those weird kids that liked going to the library. I remember the Judy Blume books. After those, I started reading the Sci-Fi ones with dragons and wizards. I remember reading one (of course I can't remember the name) about a doll house where the dolls came to life. I had nightmares for weeks! Taught me never to go to the 'horror' section again!
Gone but not forgotten
Along the lines of the Folgers latte post from below, thought I would mention a couple of sorely missed items on my list. For starters and most importantly, CARNATION INSTANT BREAKFAST BARS . . . OMG, I miss these sooooooo much. The best energy bars ever, IMO.
I also miss the Slim Fast Jump Start . . . lose 5 pounds in 5 days.
Also, a nail polish color by Estee Lauder called 'Nectar'. IMO, the color went with everything and, amazingly, looked good with all skin tones, even mine!
i feel like that on birthdays and gifts
I used to go all out, get gifts and dinners but then nobody would even care when it came to my birthday. Don't get me wrong, I didn't want a lavish affair, but heck, 2 years ago my did didn't even wish me a happy birthday after I had given him a birthday dinner. So I stopped doing all that. Why stress myself out when it's apparent it's all one sided. Maybe I annoyed them by making a big deal out of their birthdays?
anyway I said all that to say--I know exactly how you feel and a I sympathize.
I had forgotten about Raleigh
Thanks for the reminder! At first I was looking at the Charsleton area, but it seems to "inner city" unless you go north.
wow had forgotten. About girls and
bikes, we were not allowed to wear pants or shorts to school, hence, we were in shirts, dresses and shoes we called flats. It was the new style, away from saddle oxfords and bobby sox of the 50's, so bikes were out as far as going to school. Besides, I was 2-3 miles from school and rode the bus. Thanks for the memories.
I had actually forgotten about my PayPal acct
Well, thank you. I still have a nervous feeling in my stomach from all of this mess.
The last time I bought something off ebay was about three years ago, and I had a different checking account and credit card. 99% of my mail goes into the spam folder, and I just automatically delete all the mail in that folder without reading it. I would never click on a link to anything I wasn't sure about in an e-mail. I have noticed though that lately there have been tons of e-mails from people claiming to be from postcard.com type addresses. There are many of them, all stating you have a card from a classmate, a friend, a relative, or somebody who is thinking of you today, LOL. I bet they are!
Just by doing a Google search today while trying to find Ebay's phone number, there are lots of web sites that lead to people who have had similar experiences. I have no clue what happened, I'm just glad the money is back in the account and I can make my house payment in a few days. Whew!
Red Flag
Red Flag-
You need to get a life and join the 21st century. More Moms and Dads are working these days. Parenting is the hardest job in the world. A child can get into mischief even if you don't work and watch them 24/7. That is part of growing up. There is NO such thing as the perfect parent - no matter how hard we all try. There are going to be broken bones and busted lips. Don't tell me YOUR children never had a cut or bruise under your watchful eye. That is BS and a flat-out lie.
I worked in child abuse as a therapist for 13 years. I have seen the worst of the worse. This is definitely not a case of abuse.
Lilly
Red Flag
A huge red flag to me is that he blames *you* for hitting you a few years ago.
"But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago."
Nice.
.."why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?"
I think you answered your own question *wink*
Good luck, and take care of you!
red flag should be up
IMO if the person who told you something about your spouse cannot provide the proof, why would you discount it so quickly. Maybe it's time you started to look for proof. It could be as the other poster said and the person who told you about this could be trying to stir up trouble, but like I've heard before - the wife is always the last to know.
Well, I think Red Flag is outnumbered here.
Oh my goodness-Red Flag - Are you kidding?? (sm)
First of all, even if we didn't go as far as to compare this to truly neglective mothers, think about this. If the mom worked outside of the home and her child was in a child care setting, do you know how closely the child would be watched? By teenagers usually for summer camps at least, and they have many children to watch at once. Kids get hurt all the time. Even a non-working mom cannot sit and stare at her six year old watching their every move all day. If she did, she would be accused of being overprotective and she would never get her housework done, so then, of course, she'd be in trouble for that. The last 20 years or so children have been far more supervised than ever in history! For those of us who grew up in the 70s and 80s, we were outside playing til the street lights came on. For those who grew up in the 30s and 40s - they were out farming and cooking when they were 7 or 8 years old - heck, back then, the 6 year old would have been the babysitter while the parents farmed. People have to make money to survive. A mom working while her child is at home cannot supervise them 24-7. But she loves them and takes very good care of them, working to earn money to take care of them and I am sure setting boundaries and keeping the child in a safe environment. Kids today are soooo much better off than in the past. Be realistic, please!
let's raise the flag *ROFL*.....lucky you....
When the physician personally calls you, red flag time
I just had an MRA of brain this past week and nephrologist called today, not in and he left his cell phone # for me to call him back. He said an artery showed up as bigger than should be - I asked aneurysm and he said, well he wanted to know about my seeing a neurosurgeon ASAP and he said he would call and talk to 1 he knew (if I did not have one of my choice, nope didn’t ) and get me in just as soon, hopefully tomorrow and then nephrologist called back in about 5 minutes to verify he did speak with the neurosurgeon and appointment tomorrow. Now I have just started to draw my full social security, still working, planning vacations and yes that is pleural and crud!! Maybe good this anomaly caught in time, would hate to stroke out or worse. I had been going to another neurologist, started having some twitches in my face and also nystagmus in my right eye here lately. I was knowing something was up. I will collect that medical license just any day now. Wish me luck with tomorrow....
Mid June near Phila nm
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We usually go end June or early
July, but this year we waited until the first week of August and was already better on crowds!
A little old (like me) - exp. June གྷ
Okay, I'm only 34, but I feel a lot older!
I've had the strips for awhile, but they are consistent in giving me about the same numbers. I will be scheduling with the doc soon, so we'll see. I'm at least being more careful and paying more attention now.
Since June of 2007, my check has been
cut in half thanks to MQ. This will be the last year in an apt I love but cannot afford so will be downsizing. Thankfully, working at home cuts down on gas. My car is leased and I will be turning that in in April and will buy a used car. I go out to dinner once a month now, if that. I rarely order out and if I do, it is because I made a few extra dollars and want to treat myself. I went on a budget plan for gas and electric. I have basic cable now. I lowered my cell phone plan to $22 a month with 64 minutes per month. I am trying to quit smoking.
Being single, it is very hard as there is not another income to count on but I manage and am trying to come to terms that I can no longer live the type of lifestyle I had become accustomed to.
I think it has impacted all of us in some way and it helps to know I am not alone. We just have to do the best we can with what we have. I feel bad for those with children as that must be very hard making ends meet.
Physician called, red flag lady back from visit and on my getting M.D. license
First of all when I called the neurologist's office this morning (this was the appointment my nephrologist had so quickly set up for me last night, himself-) the neurologist's office asked me if I could come on in then instead of waiting for my appointment at 11:30. Oh, lordy me- I just knew it was time to get my affairs in order, write that will, etc.
The physician after my saying about 2 sentences to him asked if I were a physician. The great news is the brain aneurysm is very small (see I also was goggling brain tumor before I went in, you know how some of us are) and he said it was a watch thing, no neurosurgeon would touch it at such a small size. You talk about relief. I told him I could hug his neck. I went in with such fright and that was all basically eliminated. Thanks to each and all who said they had me in their thoughts.
So, June Cleaver... what do you pack for lunch?
Finger sandwiches? Please. It is one meal of the day and kids would eat far worse if given lunch money. Now why don't you run along and iron your aprons or something :)
Not until June 7th...Cant wait to have my girls home all day!! nm
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This is the baby I want to buy. He was born in June - and is a teacup sm
Yorkie! If I can get him shipped, HE'S MINE! He will be as big as my Diet Dr. Pepper can! I LOVE these things...isn't he precious????
'Ima June Bugg' sounds like something you'd name
(Lots of registered Quarter Horses have names with Ima in front of them... i.e., 'Ima Scooter', 'Ima Real Star', etc.) Anyway, that's what came to mind when I read that name!
;)
Oh, I would have dropped everything! Celebrating 15 years of marriage in June!
My b-day is also June 14th!! Happy B-Day from a "Flag Day Sister"!! I used to think when I w
little that they put the flags up just for me. Parents never told me any different until I was in my early teens! We share a special day!
What would you all do? My SIL is making my DH attend my nephew's HS grad in Texas this June...sm
We live in Illinois.
He would be taking my youngest son with him also. The total cost of the trip for the two of them would easily be $2000 since my DH does not get paid for taking time off work. If he takes this trip that would mean no vacation for me or my other two kids next year since that's pretty much all we can afford is one vacation a year. She is insisting her only brother (DH) be there at the actual ceremony which is on a Tuesday evening. Then afterwards they plan on going out to dinner to celebrate - no party that would be it.
I would rather we go the following week, drive the entire family and stay the week and celebrate the whole week with them. My son graduates high school in two years and I don't expect her to be at the ceremony for that. We probably wouldn't have enough tickets for her anyway.
DH doesn't have the guts to tell her "No" since she's laying the guilt trip pretty thick.
Do you think we are obligated to go to the ceremony? She has more than enough family members that live over there that could attend (grandparents, aunts, uncles, her other children).
Thanks for any input.
Checks could be in taxpayer mailboxes by June, according to an Associated Press report.
they ARE completely different
i can't believe you have a friend that had the nerve to compare her abortion to your miscarriage!!! im so sorry for your loss
I completely believe that. sm
I've never been separated from a marriage, but in 2 long-term (several year) relationships that finally succumbed to breaking up, we got along WAY better once we were 'only' friends. The change was immediate! Best of luck to you both. Sounds like you tried your hardest.
Understand you completely - sm
My situation is exactly the same. He can ignore me for weeks. I mean completely ignore me to the point that I may as well not even be here unless he has run out of clean underwear and socks.
Then when he gets a wild hair, I'm supposed to jump with glee? No thanks, I would rather spend my time planning for the day I leave his sorry self now.
Agree completely......nm
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I completely agree! (sm)
As strange as this woman may have been, including the people she chose to surround herself with, there has never been a question about how she felt about her beloved son. Let's hope this woman can finally have some peace in the next few days and spend eternity next to the one person that wasn't involved with her for his own personal gain!
I may be completely wrong,
but when I caught a little bit of the story on the news, it sounded like the "amount of money she had been offered equaled out to 20,000 a day for each day they were married. I would not call her a gold digger when they first married, I mean, I most certainly could fall in love with Sir Paul, but now it sounds like she wants everything. As for Dancing with the Stars, she has shown up but I don't see the public embracing her and voting for her to stay.
Completely agree...
I have the same standards. Sleeping together is a gift that comes with marriage in my opinion. It is your house and your rules. Good for you for sticking to it!
I completely agree...sm
I live in one of the states that is in the middle of terrible turmoil due to illegal immigrants and what gets me is the minute citizens try to get laws that are already on the books enforced we are considered racists. The illegal immigrants form marches and get on TV and tell the world how terrible and racist the politicians are who are just trying to have laws that are already written enforced. It is just crazy. I mean they are here illegally, it has nothing to do with their race, it has to do with the fact that they are breaking the law and need to be treated like any other law breaker in this country. Geez. You have to be a citizen to vote, but all our signs outside the voting places have to be bilingual, does that make sense to you? Most jobs in my area are now only hiring bilingual people, so unless you learn Spanish, it is very hard to find a job, which I find even more irritating. I mean, what would happen to an American citizen if they tried to jump the border to any other country in the world, do you think we would be given any sort of rights other than being thrown in jail, deported, or just plain disappearing off the face of the earth? I don't think so.
Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm
out of my mind. It is legal because it states that he has the right to make any decision and can change his mind at any time since he has physical custody. He has been very kind in the past to allow my son to spend the entire summer with us. This will be the first summer in 7 years that we have not seen him. Plus, we send for him throughout the year during holidays and spring breaks. He can do this and can make this decision.
I could get a lawyer and amend the agreement we have, but then it will get so ugly (again) and complicated and I don't ever want to go through that ever again. He still has emotional wounds from our divorce (I've since moved on and remarried), so if he wanted to be ugly he can. What's to say my husband and I hire a lawyer in his state, go to court, and then I end up losing even the right to see my son? That can happen, especially since he has not lived with us ever. Thanks for your suggestion, though.
I agree completely! Very well said (nm)
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I understand completely...
and am in no way arguing your point, it's a valid one! I just don't understand the LACK of self-control these days. Maybe it's the lack of responsibility one must take for those actions..I don't know, guess we could debate this all day, but please, I meant no disrespect to your previous post. I enjoy reading your advice...very refreshing and inspiring 
Understand completely - sm
I too have been burned a few times for trying to help someone but not Stacy.
She's a smart kid, a good mom, and proudly independent. I think she will see it for what it is. The temptation is very strong to try to bring a "family" together for the sake of a child but I am really hoping that she won't give in to that temptation.
Her ex boyfriend and his mother are wastes of perfectly good flesh and oxygen. some people....
Not the OP but I understand completely - sm
And, just for the record. I don't have a cleaning lady but I would love one too. My husband is a complete SLOB.
I vacuum every night, do the dishes, clean the counters, etc. By the time I get up, there are wood chips, snow, mud, whatever, trailed through the house from his boots, there is protein powder all over the kitchen counters and on the kitchen floor, and more dishes in the sink than even my kids can go through in one evening.
Not to mention the pile of dirty laundry he pulls from under his side of the bed immediately after I have finished doing ALL of the laundry. Happens every single time!
I'm not even going to get into the stuff I find in the bathroom sink and on the bathroom floor!
Like I said, I would love to have a cleaning lady too but I would be too embarassed to let someone see what I have to live with.
Completely different posts....
You might want to read again-I was not talking about her meowing then. I am not talking about giving her foods, supplements, now. I am asking about how do you know about end of life. People say you would know and I am asking about her sounding off now. Please review my other post again- I am feeding her kittie cat food and also supplements. This post is entirely different.
I actually have, and it was completely normal - SM
I'm in my mid-20s and have always been very healthy and active. I could never even catch the chickenpox from my friends as a child! LOL! Oh well, I'll have to see if stopping this antihistamine makes a difference. I feel completely fine otherwise.
I completely understand
My 13-year-old daughter just asked me for $25 for a T-shirt for the Science Olympiad. Thankfully her yearbook only cost $20, but she thinks money grows on trees. She does get an allowance for watching her younger sister and helping around the house, but when I tell her I'll deduct the money from her allowance, she looks at me like I'm crazy.
She's in Student Counsel and they go on trips every year, but her school does fundraisers so we end up not paying much at all in the end with his helpful.
She wants to go to college to become a Vet and probably will end up trying to go to Cornell. We've already told her to start saving and get some scholarships because there's no way we can afford it.
I still have a four year old to deal with. I can only imagine when she gets older.
I completely agree with you. - nm
nm
I completely agree.....sm
I also as a child was spanked NOT beaten, an I can tell you that my generation had MUCH more respect than the generations now. I am not that old either...late 30s, but back in the day, the neighbors spanked you, then sent you home to your parents whom they called, and you got it again...needless to say, I turned out JUST fine and again, have a LOT more respect for my elders now. I cannot STAND when people say that just because you spank your child means that you beat them...I have 4 children, whom are spanked when needed, which has not had to be often, but I can bet you that they respect me, their dad, AND other adults, and even my oldest ones (who are teenagers by the way) have said THEY think it has made them better people. They can COMPLETELY understand WHY we as parents may resort to spanking (and we used time outs too, but those only work for so long and for the "little" things). I too think that if more parents "spanked" NOT BEAT, their children, we would not have all the disrespect we have today. Just another example of "society/government" getting in the way. Again, spanking and beating are two different things, so DON'T confuse the two. As it says in the bible...spare the rod, spoil the child! JMHO!!
I completely understand...sm
I am scrambling tonight trying to get some lines in because my work has been so slow I only worked 14 hours Monday until Friday. This weekend I got about 63 minutes of dictation so that will add some lines. I have to scramble to work about 20-25 hours per week.
Just want you to know I understand completely where sm
you are coming from and agree totally that it is terribly, terribly sad. I just don't want you to harp on it and let it work on you. You have done nothing wrong. Stand proud. They are entitled to their opinions - strange as they are - they are not entitled to spew them all over the place and say hurtful stupid things to you - just shows how mixed up they are. You sister was right in telling you to let it go - they are strange - weird - you are blessed your husband is so different. Give him a hug and ignore the rest of them. Good luck!
Agree completely
I've always known my IQ (from accredited Mensa tests). and IQ may go down (due to age, partying too much, etc.) but it never goes up. I've taken several tests from different sources throughout the years (I guess I'm just weird) and the figure always stayed the same. I was on a dating forum a couple years back and everyone started coming on saying they were geniuses because they took an online test and it said so. I am also well acquainted with the Bell Curve, and also I knew from most of those poster's prior comments that they weren't the brightest bulbs in the box. It smelled fishy so I took it, and it padded my IQ by 10-20 points!
If you really want to know your IQ (or your child's, they have a kid's one), you can buy an accredited test (published by Mensa) at most mall bookstores for about $3. Most online tests are crap, designed to suck you into a marketing ploy, as well as make you look like a fool bragging that you're a genius, along with anybody else that takes it.
Kendra, I'm with you completely on this
I have a lot of animals and unfortunately have lost a few through the years. It is never easy and I have never stopped feeling conflicted about the decision to euthenize them, for the same reasons you mentioned. If I am reasonably sure they aren't suffering, and if I still see a spark of joy or love of life in their eyes I do what I can to support them, JUST LIKE I DID FOR MY MOM when she was paralyzed and bedridden, being fed through an NG tube after multiple strokes. She indicated to me that her life was still valuable to her, and I find it very difficult to determine when life ceases to be valuable to the person or animal living it. Also, I have seen miraculous recoveries after all hope was lost. I'm perplexed that we assume an injection is the "humane" way to deal with ailing pets yet recoil at the thought of human euthenisia.
Love and blessings to all of you going through this.
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