Better hope DS doesn't marry her; their kids will be rude too :(
Posted By: nm on 2007-08-06
In Reply to: thank you... - sm
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I hope she didn't marry him
i'm sure my winning the lotto wouldn't change that LOL
I hope I didn't come off as being rude...
that is not what I was trying to do. I didn't think you were judging me...I was just relating my experience with people who did pass judgment on me and my decision for meds...Everyone is different. I am truly sorry you had a horrible circumstance, but I am glad God pulled you through and you are here to share your thoughts. I am sorry if I sounded like I was defensive...It is hard to project your feelings on a medium like this...Yes..God does work in mysterious ways...am I am grateful for my second chance.
lol, I so agree - why are kids the way they are today? Rude and obnoxious?
The generation raising them, apparently. Kids today are treated like little princes and princesses. I don't know when children became things of worship but they have. And this time out and talking to the child it such crap, when most just need a good smack now and again. Hey it worked for us. When I was growing up we kids were not disrepectful and we didn't think the world owed us something and we grew up to be decent people. We were afraid of our parents in a way and it helped us to be decent kids. I don't remember being worshipped by my parents. So, I just can't imagine this world in say 20-30 years, how scary.
you may not be bitter, angry, or uptight, but you are RUDE rude rude!
You talk about being attacked when you are the one calling names... yes someone called you Doctor to start with, which was pretty childish, but they were saying so because you acted so matter-of-factly about diagnosing someone saying they were just having vivid dreams, and then going off on a tangent about their Xanax use...
Xanax affects EVERYONE differently so just because your husband is a certain way does not mean that is the same for this person. I take Xanax to fly... guess what it is a LIFE SAVER! I never take it to sleep nor do I ever take it for anything else...
maybe you are being rude because you are reacting, but my guess is you will have a response to me pointing this out... and it might be rude. just a guess.
How do you know he doesn’t like you/kids
You said he kept things under wrap. Your mother should not have to choose between you/your children and her husband. How old a person is he? Other things going on with him/them that you know of? Lot of people in older years PUT UP with children- that does not mean they want to be around them. I know you said you did not stay at the home with them. Do not ask your mother to choose, though. That is probably the reason she has not answered you. You as well as your siblings probably picked the ones you want and may not believe this but if left up to your mother and she had to choose, it might not be you and your family.
Your sad - hope you don't have kids
NM
OMG - huge difference! Hope you aren't as naive about your kids....wow! lol
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Rude people deserve a rude response-but an idea (sm)
I am very kind-hearted, and even a sucker at times but when someone is very rude and disgusting, I have no problem telling them to go away. If she doesn't want to completely cut this woman out of her life, she needs to say something like, "I have decided that I am only going to be able to have you come over on Wednesdays." She can make up an excuse like, "I am not getting enough time to myself" "I haven't had time for my other friends" or just act like she feels like she desperately needs a regular schedule, so "Wednesday is your day." See ya next week! If she shows up on a day that is not her day she can say, "Suzie Q, your day is Wednsday - I'm sorry, but I am really determined to stick to my schedule"
Right, and men usually marry for one reason
for someone to take over their mom's job :)
Did he marry her, the answer is
no. They had a symbolic wedding, means nothing in the eyes of the law. Her mother would be her next of kin. That being said, IF 1 of the 3 now claiming to be the father really turns out to be the father, the courts probably would hold the money in trust. I am not so sure they would entrust her father to get that much money and besides that from what I have read, the court action may not be completely over yet on the outcome of the millions from the old man husband. Such twists and turns, huh?
Did he marry her so he could stay in the U.S.? nm
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How to Marry a Millionaire
Most women use more brains picking a horse in the third at Belmont than they do picking a husband.
Would you ... date or marry someone ...
Simple questions .......
Would you ever date/marry.....
someone who is less educated than yourself?
someone of a different race?
someone whose parent's are divorced?
someone who has bad credit or alot of bad debt?
someone who is overweight or obese?
someone who affliates or supports a different political party than yourself?
someone who is rude to customer service staff?
someone who talks a longtime on their cell phone when you are eating?
someone who enjoys a different genre of music?
someone who does not enjoy the same leisure activities as yourself?
someone who is a very picky eater or someone who is a vegeterian/vegan and you are not?
someone who prefers to spend leisure time alone or with friends (without you)?
These questions had me testing my own dating/marriage limits...
Not if you don't re-marry and you are widowed. I collect, so I know
sorry!
Mormon or other, illegal for old man to marry 14 y.o.
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I am not letting my young teen marry an old man.
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marry someone who smoked or couldn't sing sm
He smokes and won't be on American Idol anytime soon but isn't completely awful lol
When you answer no to some of these, as in would you marry an obese person
What in the world should happen if after you marry a slim, trim person they gain weight? Does that mean a divorce for you? Other than a person changing race after a marriage, most of these other questions could change with the person and then what, you leave?
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Truly don't mean to be rude, but... sm
You called him a sociopath, then asked "doesn't he have any remorse or guilt?" Well, no, not if he's a sociopath. (Which I also think he is, BTW.)
That's a big part of what makes someone a sociopath/physiopath (aka antisocial personality disorder) - not having a conscience or the ability to empathize about the feelings of others, among other things. There are, (unfortunately) a lot of people in our society who are sociopaths, to some degree or other. It's pretty scary.
He's a sickening man. I've always wondered what it must be like for his two kids, being raised by the father who murdered your mother. It always seemed insane to me that he was given custody of them.
Because they are rude.
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How rude!
So what if you misread . . . I thought the recipe you shared sounded really good, and easy to boot! I personally would probably "cook a chicken breast" rather than using canned, but then I always change recipes to suit my taste (doesn't mean I wouldn't eat the canned chicken). Anyway, I thank you for sharing.
rude
If it was me I would have stopped and said what did you say. I am sure they probably would have shut up. Then i would have asked where do you live, so I can talk to your parents. LOL! You people are telling her to consider the source but come on if it was you walking you would have been ticked off!
please don't be rude
I'm a physical therapy graduate (party working as an MT) and my wife's a nurse. These are just our initial income since we're just starting. I'm working on my state board as Physical Therapist. I would not think that you're just rude to me.
No. I think it is rude.
nm
I think it's rude...if they ask okay, if not no way!!!
nm
You are so rude....That's all I can say to you. nm
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Once again you are rude
I don't understand why you don't think your replies are rude. She was replying to Ms. Done with what she has been through. I don't find that her case is all that different. I was reading all the posts below and actually got lost so I'll post here. I'll tell you what I have learned. When you are growing up and your parents are miserable together that is what children think a relationship is supposed to be like because they don't know any better. They think its okay to insult and belittle their spouse, they think its okay to fight all the time. It's not. I wrote in my post and I'll write it again. Children are a lot stronger than we believe. The children always come first before anything, but when you are in an abusive relationship you cannot honestly say to a person "hey, so what if your being abused the bruises are not visible, stay in, keep letting him treat you like this, because there is not a visible injury the kids don't care". You know what. The kids DO care. Kids want their parents to be happy. When the parents are happy they have so much more to give to the kids instead of having to hide the misery they are going through. Sure sometimes its hard in the beginning but kids are genuinely more happy when their parents are happy. And they will in turn learn to treat their spouses with respect. Of course someone should try counseling before just up and leaving, but if you have a spouse that writes you letters pointing out your errors and flaws and then feels they have done nothing wrong that is not healthy. If that spouse will not agree to counseling then there are another alternative and that is to leave. Do not stay in an abusive relationship and keep being abused by a spouse because you have to stay there for your kids. That was what people did in the 60s and 70s and probably before then. This is the year 2008. There are better ways to live.
would it be rude?
to just tell your family members you are making a christmas dinner and invite everyone over, no presents allowed? We just bought a house and are not in the best financial situation at the moment. I have tried hinting around at doing things like dirty santa or drawing names but no one likes that idea. So I want to scrap presents all together. I am working on Christmas day so that would be a good excuse not to visit anyone that day. We are also in a central location and that would make it easier to have everyone over to our house. What do you think?
How Rude!!!!
Good for you! The fact that she told you to "hold on" while she finished texting would have sent me right over the edge! Congrats to you for teaching her a lesson her parents obviously don't care to teach. I have 2 teenage girls and we have made that rule quite clear that they will lose ALL privileges if they even think of texting while driving or talking while driving. The phone must be turned off when they drive and we have "tested" them on it many times just to make sure they are following the rules.
How rude !
Why bother posting something so rude? Why not just ignore this thread and be on your way?
I am in no way trying to be rude,,,,,,but
what does your post have to do with this thread? I personally wanted to adopt children until I met my now husband and realzed that if I could give birth that is what I wanted to do. Feeling selfish, my brother would love to have a child but his wife does not. It is a very personal choice, and I honestly think when the time is ready you will know. If you don't feel it, don't do it. It is so okay to not want to have children. You are not doing anything wrong. I wish there were more people out there that don't want children and accidentally have them would have used protection. Do it only when you know in your heart that you are ready. Trust me, you will know when you are ready.
who is rude
Negative thoughts you are giving right back, you are no good obviously.
I didn't start it but I can always finish it, so get over yourself like you are the only one to have an opinion. people like you make me SICK
you just hate for no reason hate hate hate
you should be so proud!
They are not being rude!
You said " I think it's pretty rude of smokers to smoke inside when youre sharing with a nonsmoker anyway."
I think its really, really rude to move into a house where there are smokers and just expect them to stop smoking in the house. Because YOU don't like it. Well, maybe they don't want to leave their comfort zone, drop what they're doing and go out into whatever weather and deal with the bugs, etc. just so YOU can be all comfortable instead. Ever consider that?
And what's next - you inform them they can't eat meat in the house because YOU are a vegan, or some other fool thing?
There are few enough places left that smokers can do their thing in comfort. But you can bet every time they find one, sooner or later a nonsmoker will barge into that place and think they are entitled to punish and banish them for smoking. Save everyone some grief and wait until you find a nonsmoking house to live in!
YOU are rude
and actually they ARE desperate
did you even READ MY POST?
i NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
get it again?
I NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
They offered. I ASKED YOU PEOPLE IF IT WAS RUDE IF I ASKED THEM TO! EVEN AFTER THEY OFFERED.
what dont you get about that! and i said if they invite a nonsmoker to live with them, then i think it is rude. and by the way, they like me very much.
you talk about me getting over myself? you have no idea of the situation! MY QUESTION WAS HOW DO I GET THE SMOKE SMELL OUT OF MY ROOM, MY CLOTHES!
and i got jumped on for expecting them to smoke outside.
TELL ME WHERE I STATED "I EXPECT THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE NOW THAT I LIVE HERE".
YOU need to get over YOUrself you are obviously trying to be better than everyone and cut me down for something i never even did.
Not exactly sure why you think this is rude, though...
8 is a big litter for a dog and an average litter for a pig. How is this not a "litter" of babies?
They are not being rude, they just
want to tell you that you should not be lenient and give in every time to the despicable behaviour of your father.
It may be rude.
I think it is worse to be invited to a wedding for a person you have not seen in 20 years. What possible reason would they invite her except for a gift? Has she heard from the bride or groom during the whole engagement process, or did she get a call that said "hey I met a great person and they may be the one". I bet not. But when it comes time to get gifts, they send to everyone they have come in contact with since they were born.
I think the bride and groom(any bride and groom) need to think about how much cost is involved to their guests, bridal party, family, etc, when they plan a wedding and not be offended if people can't participate.
I said it was very sad, do you consider that rude?
It is a sad thing when you possibly have to leave a note, the possibility you will not be there for a child to let them know. What is not sad about that? What is rude about that? Are you sure you read the post correctly? I find it tremendously sad and stand by my first posting. As far as the person in high school you said became pregnant a second time, not trying. After having a first pregnancy she should have known the cause. Birth control usually works in cases like that, condoms, etc.
I think you are very rude. At least if you
cannot give good advice or encouragement in this case you shouldn't even comment. She is down and you trample on her. It is not true that people who cannot get a job in these times are lazy. My neighbor is a registered nurse and she is already loking 4 months for a job and did not get hired yet. She is 32 yrs old.
Regarding the eviction:
If she does not pay rent, the LL has the legal right to evict her. If he is 'nasty', a lot of them are, and he really wants her out, he can speed things up to get her out.
I would not be so harsh, maybe tomorrow it hits you.
New poster or not, you are rude. nm
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I don't think its rude per se - I'm in the same boat
I constantly have people ask me why I'm not married and why I don't have children. What I find odd is the men - they will ask me "can you not have children?" I will ask them "what kind of question is that??" And the response I get is "well, women tend to have babies at the drop of a hat," or "women just get pregnant without thinking twice about it." All kinds of responses. I've even been asked if I'm a lesbian (which I'm sure I'll get pounced on, but I find that extremely insulting).
I guess the bottom line is that in this day and age, if a woman does not have a child, is not shacking up with some guy after the second date, or has never been married, then there must be something wrong with her in the eyes of society. However, try asking the woman that has 4 kids by 4 different guys why she never married the daddies or why she doesn't use contraception, and boy oh boy, stand back or run for the hills.
My answer has always been - I never met the right one. Which usually gets a response of "maybe you're just too picky."
I could go on and on about this. But think about this - the women that ask you these questions are usually the same women that say one of the following: "Men are dogs, or men are pigs" and "oh god, I couldn't imagine being single and dating. I'll take what I've got at home over your life anytime."
Makes you laugh doesn't it!
Rude or not, we threw ourselves our
own housewarming party too.
We weren't expecting gifts. It was just a fun way to have everyone over, have fun and break the house in.
I didn't register, but a lot of people brought gifts that I happened to like a lot. If you register, I would only tell the people who ask if you are. I wouldn't pass out cards in invites. We also received a lot of gift cards as well. I just put those to use for buying school clothes though since we spent so much on the actual party.
It is rude but common.
I guess you can assume the non-responders will not be coming but it is not uncommon for people that do not respond to show up anyway. If that happens, embarrass them loudly when they arrive! :) I found that including an email address on the invite helps, some people are just weird about calling, especially if it is to tell you that they can't make it.
Agree, it's rude
I try to always RSVP, especially if I can't make it. I figure if someone is going to the trouble of inviting me, the least I can do is respond.
ya know if all Americans were rude like you, they
dense because you don't know how to get over your rude-sounding self
here, let me help............. 
and NOT all who came were legal - Ellis Island or no Ellis Island......sheesh - talk about dense......
Rude Husband
Your husband was rude. You need to discuss it with him in private. Is he under a lot of stress right now? What is going on to make him behave this way? Is this new? Ongoing? YOU are your child's advocate and role model. Children want and need friends. Their friends will often offend depending upon how they are raised, the manners they have been taught, etc. because they are children. Your husband should not have responded on a child's level if he felt the remark was offensive. Confront your husband and demand that he treat everyone with respect in your home. Do not settle for less.
Best wishes!
Didn't mean to be rude
I guess if I had read the previous thread it would have made more sense. It just seemed so random though.
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