Besides the obvious humiliation the girl has suffered
Posted By: MichiganMT on 2009-02-11
In Reply to: That just burns me. I have to say...sm - They said what
Isn't this also the equivalent of performing medical testing on a minor without parental consent? I agree with all of the above posters. This child has been humiliated and that counselor needs to lose his job. I have a 12 yo and she would be MORTIFIED if this was done to her. She's uncomfortable enough with her body changes, such as her breasts developing and just starting to have periods. She would be embarrassed beyond words if something like this happened to her.
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My work suffered today because of this
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I'm not obvious about it, but...
it is obvious by her mood swings when it is approaching, and we all run for cover! Also, when she gets hers, I know my is only a few days aways, so that is helpful to me, too.
I also regularly check her BC pills (she's 17) because she is in a serious relationship for over a year with the same guy and I'm not ready to be grandma for a long time.
obvious to who?
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Sorry if I ask the obvious questions, but ...
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Never said that she was, just stating the obvious......
I know if she were my sister (I'm around her age) I would not have wanted anyone to know, that's all.
The most obvious question here is......
Why isn't your husband doing anything about this? Just because this is his only sister doesn't mean he should put his family at risks. Does he worry more about his sister's feelings than his children's safety? He is the man of the house.....he needs to act like it. If he's anything like my husband, he's afraid he'll hurt her feelings. My SIL has always played the innocent, couldn't possibly have a negative bone in her body kind of game, but eventually my husband realized this was what was happening and he finally starting distancing himself. She is playing him for a fool and this is really about who he stands up for more than anything else......her or his family, and your MIL is doing the same thing......"Son, who do you really care about, me and your sister, or your wife and your children? Where does your loyalty really lie?" Better nip this in the bud.....it's already gone too far.
It seems obvious but I feel bad (sm)
I don't want to be mean to a good person just because they don't have it together. It's a hard decision for me.
and the obvious question is
What was on TV? ;-)
mine's probably obvious
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also, as is probably common, some of us have other screen names here than just our primary. i have more than one identity here, which shall remain nameless. another one of me is much more of a trouble-maker than the true XanaX, another regards being an ex-employee for another company, and yet another regarding my location in this country. i'm usualy X, but my mood changes and sometimes i need to be more anonymous. 
I know this is stating the obvious but sm
Just quit doing it and they will get the idea and stop. Trust me, I have a whiner for attention here at my house (and I have French doors to my office so he can see me to boot!), and when he pulls that whining nonsense I just ignore him, he gets bored, and moves on. Be firm! Best of luck! 
If you can't change your SIL's mind (and it seems obvious you can't) sm
Then you need to build a fence around your property to protect your children. Yes, I know it's expensive, but what are your children's lives worth?
he shouldn't even ask-it's too obvious and classless
again, just my own *take* on the situation...betcha these people always get called by virtual strangers or acquaintenances to stay with them while the guests do Disney Parks.....living in Orlando and all that....
it reeks of using them.....just to stay there.....
Bad taste, to say the very least.
You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM
from your posts for a long time to me. You are doing the right thing and staying on top of this. With your close eye and caring and with professionals on board I think your son has a bright future. Keep us informed. 
The Missing Link, for obvious reasons (nm)
Obvious error in prior reply - meant to say
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Yeah, it's pretty obvious what any list means
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Re-read your post - you already know the answers to your questions, it's obvious. nm
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Yeah we are both Christian women I thought that was obvious.
and while I'm on a roll I might add that he found time to build a barn but not fix the obvious (s
problems with the house. Putting your wants before the NEEDS of your family is called being selfish. Maybe you are doing the same thing so you can relate to him so well?
I assumed that all those things you mentioned are obvious dangers with children being home alone nm
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That little girl
For those of us who lived through the "British Invasion", or even if you didn't but saw replays of some of the groups singing, you would remember that the teen girls would scream and cry. Cry. Yes. So when I saw that pitiful-looking little girl, I thought she was planted there sort of as a flashback to the British Invasion period. If that was the reason, it did not work out well. They should have had a group of them doing that. As it was, it just made her look like she desperately needs a psychiatrist.
but did you notice how enthralled she was with Sanjaya? that's why I think it is millions of little girls that age voting for him.
Just my thoughts. My other thought is that AI seems to have run its course.
Go girl!
Go get 'em!! You sound like you've got a good plan. I wish you the very best of luck!
Girl, let me tell you...sm
I know...what's up with her snotty attitude lately? And running for senator, puhleeze! She is so ugly to everyone, including Victor...she best watch it or he'll kick her off her high horse...
you go girl!
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You go girl...
Way to go! You are a force to be reckoned with...Congratulations on your victory! Here's to ya... !(I'm in the ATL area also...hey neighbor!)
I'm with you girl...
My DH loves camping...I told him when he buys a luxury RV, then I'll go~~~maybe~~~ I'm more along the lines of a resort in Key West, now that's a vacation....and ABSOLUTELY NO WORKING...
Me too!...This girl does not...
sleep in an RV, tin can trailer or a tent, let alone on the ground! Hotels all the way for me...don't mind hiking, backpacking, etc...just give me a good room at the end of the day!
I could have been that little girl.
My mom had mental health issues, but back in the 1960s, no one talked about such things. Our house was a horrible mess, and I knew it. I had dirty clothes which were usually old hand-me downs from a cousin. It was really awful growing up. Right up until I was about 13 or so, I used to beg my mother to do "normal" things, like let me have friends over. It was always a disaster. I just didn't understand that she wasn't capable of being like other moms. Eventually, I stopped having friends over, learned to do my own laundry, and worked like crazy in our house to clean and cook. It was a small town, and everyone knew that I had taken on the role of woman-of-the-house. My friends' mothers would invite me over to give me a break and let me be a kid. I eventually stopped even trying to have them at my house. It was torture to even try.
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that little girl...
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Thanks! I owe you, girl!
I'm so proud to show off my new boy.
You go girl!
Man do I hate that phrase but guess it says it in this case.
Why do people always assume we have to be indebted to our parents/children for the rest of our lives. As we get older this is the time we are suppose to take care of ourselves, and for once in our lives think about ourselves. We raised our children, watched them grow from children into adults, put them through school, rooted (sp?) for them at their sports games, supported their ups and downs, watched them proudly at their wedding, or supported them if they decided to be with another person and not marry. We did everything for them. Now when we are at the age of retirement and want to take time for ourselves and think about ourselves for a change we are called selfish and are supposed to feel guilty?????? Give me a break! So who is going to take care of us when we need it? Retirement is the age of "me". That's not a selfish wish, it's what happens in life. Yes we are here to support our kids (emotionally - who are no longer kids), and financially if we can if they need it or if we want to slip them a $20 in their pocket from time to time for no reason, but I'm with the above poster. It's my golden years its now time for me! Life is about growing, knowing who we are, learning about ourselves. Society forces us to follow the bandwagon meaning...your born, you go to school, you graduate and get a job, you get married, have kids, watch your kids grow, retire and take time for yourself. Not once have I ever seen anything talking about getting to know oneselves before going and getting married to another. I do not believe we are born in life just to always take care of other people. We've given enough of ourselves to others. It's now time for me.
You go girl!
I agree with you 100%. Sterotypal stuff doesn't fly well with me either. I am 58 and I also listen to loud rock music, dance when I am cleaning, and read Elle and other more youthful magazines (saying that because they don't usually address my age group!). I say if you want to do it, do it! Feel better yet??
Your little girl - sm
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it.
About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain.
I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasn't hurt myself, I was terrified for years and years of dogs, to the point where I wouldn't take a walk or ride my bike in an unknown neighborhood. It wasn't until after I was an adult and married and my husband talked me into getting a puppy that I lost my fear of dogs. Taking care of a dog from puppyhood can be the "magic cure" for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable.
This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine.
Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an "attack" of conscience and do the right thing by your family.
LOL you go girl!
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Girl,
don't go away mad . . .
You GO Girl
Agree 100% with everything you say & stand for. Send me an e-mail & if you have PayPal I will send you some money for your rescue animals (I have 2 myself) right now.
Don't let ANYONE tell you animals are less important to the universe than children; NFW.
You GO, Girl!
I have been thinking about it a lot lately myself. It is very difficult. I've "quit" a couple of times myself, yet here I am, a smoker still.
I have been meaning to ask, are those of you on this board who were discussing group quitting following through? How's it going? Do you keep in touch/support each other through e-mails? Just curious because I haven't seen any discussion about it since the new year began and wishing you all good luck and success, and same for you XanaX!
(Kicking myself for not joining in with you guys!)
You go girl!!!!
Congrats and have fun!!!
WOOHOO...you go girl (OP)...
She was the white girl with the
kind of "punk" look. Dark hair, large red highlight in front.
lol, I definitely don't think the little girl was a *plant*....
but I do agree she may need a psychiatrist! Yikes.
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
Way cool; you go girl! : )
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Amen girl!
 We are NOT all hillbillies, either!
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