Because he is trying to get 50% custody (sm)
Posted By: anon on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: how are you protecting your sm - wondering
If I don't prove how he is before I leave what if he gets that and they have to be with him alone without me? Did that cross your mind?
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You can request family court counseling and the children get to talk to the counselor and say who they want to live with and why. An 11 yr. old can definitely choose which parent to live with, and if father is a bad parent, you can also have supervised visitation only, so the child does not have to be alone with him. Talk to your lawyer.
A GAL does not have physical custody -
in the best interest of the child - a lawyer who represents the child. The GAL can make recommendations that this or that person be best suited in raising the child, or make a recommendation to a court that evaluations need to be done, etc. MOST GAL's do a splendid job in looking out for the child's best interest, but there are those whose priorities are more in line with being in favor with a particular party (a judge, a person of influence, etc.). I've seen great GALs and not so great GALs. Time will tell what will happen in this case.
Custody-how much say does an 11-year-old have? PLEASE HELP
 My 11-year-old son has recently started tearfully asking me to divorce his dad. I have been borderline on it for a while but was trying to keep the family intact - one reason being that I was afraid of how my husband would treat my son and 8-year-old daughter when I was not here. In discussing the possibilities of divorce, I told my son that his father could possiby try to get 50% custody of him. He said tearfully, "if that happens, I'll just shoot myself." I have never heard anything like that come out of my child's mouth. His dad is overbearing and he truly doesn't ask the kids (or my for that matter) opinion about anything...just does whatever he wants and expects us to just live with it. He is very concerned with what everyone else thinks but in truth doesn't care much about us. I guess my son is finally seeing that. I asked him to talk to his dad about how he feels but he is too afraid and said his dad will just say , "you got that idea from your mother."
I'm scared. I do want to consider filing for divorce, but if my husband gets partial custody the trauma on my children will be devastating! And he has much more financial means to fight me in court than I have.
How much say does an 11-year-old have in court about who they live with? If we went to a family counsellor first would that help at all?
CUSTODY not company LOL
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Remember they are doing split custody, they might - sm
be with daddy right now, either way though you are right. She can get away with it now that they are little and have no clue what she is doing, but if she continues on this way they will catch on eventually.
they have joint custody w/dad being primary...
Please, open your mind - occasionally there ARE extenuating circumstances, you know?!
I have joint custody w/ dad being primary
Am I a deadbeat mom as well?!
This was agreed upon by both dad and I .. Child lives out of state, I get all holidays and summers....
Just because no support is being paid doesnt mean the person is a deadbeat .. every situation is DIFFERENT....
Why does everyone think negative?!
OP should get custody of kids if things so bad.
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Brittany just lost custody of kids
Effective this Wednesday, going to KFed, how long??
I agree. My mother is a drug addict and lost custody of me
and I went to live with my grandmother so both of them have less than stellar parenting skills. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you let into your life.
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