Be patient, kind, loving and understanding . . .
Posted By: miss my dad on 2009-01-28
In Reply to: How would you feel about this... - sm
sounds to me like he is missing you and your mom/family life. He is probably hurting right now and needs you and for some reason he finds great comfort in being with you. My dad died 13 years ago and I loved having him around. I know your situation is different, but be the comfort he needs right now and I am sure this will end in time. He is looking for reassurance for something. Who divorced who? He is probably hurting a great deal right now even though he does have a new girlfriend. You won't regret being there for your father. Trust me.
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Yes, dad was in the picture. He was kind and generous and patient.
He took her abuse for 30 years, and then he died. He wouldn't leave her. He and I were very close. My father gave me a great gift. He gave me self-confidence. I could write about him forever! But I can boil it down to this: A father who loves and cares for his daughter, and builds her up, increases the likelihood that she will have great relationships with men in her life. I've always had wonderful men in my life -- very good friends -- and especially my husband. My father had a lot to do with that.
So thanks for saying I'm a good seed, but my father was also a good gardener!
What are you not understanding? lol
See link: :)
http://www.answers.com/topic/scrapple
Thanks for understanding..sm
I don't really know what statement Tom Cruise had made. It was late last night when I posted about anti-depressants and I did not want to get into a big long drawn out explanation of why I felt that way. I shouldn't have to, as it is just my own opinion. But now I have explained why I feel about anti-depressants as the way I do. I don't want any arguments either. Time is way too short to bicker about things that really don't matter any. Everybody has their own opinions about things and that should be respected. Unfortunately, that does not happen much on this board.
thanks again.
my understanding
it is my understanding that a spouse can receive SS benefits off of their retired spouse, I'm not sure how much, it's not as much as the working spouse; I read "up to half", but I believe that is further reduced if the non-working spouse begins receiving benefits before full retirement age and will remain at that rate even after reaching retiement age.
as far as Medicare goes; it is available to all individuals meeting the age (and in some cases health) requirements.
thanks for your understanding
and your opinion. I am hoping you are wrong, but I am taking what you say into consideration. I think we will ultimately see a counselor because we do want it to work, but I am aware of the fact that it may not, even if we want it to...
I don't think it's wrong to want to have friends over for casual dinners and theme parties... :( or even GO out for the occasional dance! When I start a family I will not be planning on going out dancing... just thought I'd add that...
I need help understanding ...
I did not grow up wealthy, but solidly middle class. We had a city house, and a country house (10 weeks every summer) my father was a business man, my mother a teacher. In my adult life, I have been rich and I have been poor, but with a friends and family safety net, mostly in between. Not everyone is so fortunate, and I feel it is our responsibilty as citizens to help each other. Why should someone be able to have life saving surgery simply because they are wealthy, as opposed to someone with no insurance OR someone whose insurance won't pay? Why should someone in this country, who works full time, go hungry and without dental and medical care?
Please, explain it to me, I need to learn about this very self absorbed kind of thinking. I need to understand how those who claim to be on "the religious right" couldn't care less about a starving, poorly educated born child, but get all hissy about a fetus.
Please, tell me.
Sorry am not understanding
pirate in his sites- did the President go somewhere?
I am not understanding of what you are saying
The person above saying she thought we both were spoiled. I in no way am making her or anyone else pay for that, just don’t understand where you get my being spoiled has anything to do with the issues we have between us. I am far from miserable, have wonderful marriage, travel a lot, have most I strive for, just don’t have to struggle like in earlier years. I would be the first to admit spoiled but that does not play into the relationship. Cannot figure your answer out???
If I were the patient I'd....sm
never be comfortable with what all this midwife is trying. It appears to me that the midwife is trying to play doctor - we've all seen it at times with nurses & PAs trying to be something they're not.
My OB group uses midwives and prefers that the midwives deliver all vaginal deliveries; however, I have insisted that a "real" doctor see me on my visits and deliver my baby when the time comes. I'm paying for a full MD service (i.e. they don't charge the insurance company less if a midwife sees a patient and/or delivers).
Be patient
I know it's driving me crazy too, but if I wait about 20 seconds or so it finally comes up.
Wow! Unusually understanding cop! - sm
When I had only had my license for about a year, I got stopped north of L.A. for slowing down in the left-hand lane of traffic on an older fwy. that had only 2 lanes in each direction. What that dipstick didn't understand was, the offramp I was exiting on the old-style, on the left side. It also had a very sharp curved marked ཕ MPH' on it, so I had slowed from 65 to about 55 as I was easing off the fwy., and he gave me a ticket once I'd stopped at the bottom. He said I got the ticket because 'a car passed me on the right'. Only thing is, I later checked the Calif. driver's handbook, and according to that, passing on the right was legal on freeways. Of course back then I was too young & too much of a chicken to fight the ticket in court. And, I had all my friends with me that day, who usually preferred to ride with me 'cause I was a safe driver! So, of course I was mortified..........
Sometimes I'm also the only one out there who slows down in the rain, too. I don't get these guys who still try to drive 75 when there's an inch and a half of water on the roadway. I've hydroplaned in a downpour, pulling a TRAILER, no less, at only 32 mph. So I have a very healthy respect for bad weather!
Driving in the Sierras during a snowstorm can be entertaining. On interstate 80 there is usually a spot where, if you don't have 4WD and snow tires, you're required to stop and chain up. A large percentage of the drivers on that road in winter aren't going up to ski, they're on their way to Reno, often for the first time in winter. They'll stop at the checkpoint, pay some guy $10 to put their chains on, and then as soon as they've gone a short ways, and they think no one's watching them, they stop and take the chains OFF! Further up the moutain, as you're going over Donner Pass, there are often cars everywhere; on the center divide, in snowbanks on the side, etc. And of course then there are the teenagers that think 4WD = invincibility. They think the extra traction that gets them moving in the snow will also stop them faster. NOT!! What I worry about the most when I go up skiing in a storm is one of those bozos skidding into me....
Understanding how you feel
really I am but when the diagnosis came thru on my child, that was devastating for her and me both. That was much, much worse than ever knowing the fact she had engaged in premarital sex. I did not worry about babies but having been thru all the reports on people dying right and left I was a basket case. She is now 10 plus years since and get this, another shocker for me-she tells me stopped taking her antiretrovirals some time ago as they are so poisonious for your system. She is now grown (30+) so I cannot make her decisions. That is certainly 1 I would not have made but I do not delve into her life, only here for backup.
It is my understanding that the owner of the --sm
property has the right to ask anyone to leave. It is their property and they do not OWE you to live there, even if you have been there all your life. If you are paying less rent than the average renter, I can see why he is doing this. You may be a good tenant, but everything, these days, comes down to dollars and cents. He may not have to do too much to "renovate," but he can get a much bigger price in rent. I really don't think you have a leg to stand on and I am sorry for your situation, but the owner can do anything they want to with their property.
Thank you for your kindness and understanding. I SM
will make a call in the next few days to find some help. I don't usually think of myself, but this has been so terribly difficult.
The English Patient
What can I say except I adore Ralph?? :-) Sigh...
Patient - every time!!!
It was so bad that I even put it in my auto type and I even spelled it wrong there!!!!
you mentioned innate understanding.... sm
I do believe that God instills in each of us a connection to him. I believe that this is why so many people who are constantly searching and seeking fulfillment in anything but God and his holy word are having a problem finding that peace and fulfillment that they so desparately crave.
Thanks, you are a real understanding person....nm
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Sounds good, then just be patient....sm
and please let us know when you are 6-8 weeks into using it....I so hope it works for you, it worked for me and 2 of my friends (they had lost their hair to chemo), one of whom finished chemo in November and has nearly 2" of growth all over her head now and thick!! (post-Fermodyl)....
patient care - did you hear about this one?
June 13, 2007 — A woman is lying on the floor of a Los Angeles County hospital emergency room. She is throwing up blood. Family members say hospital workers ignored their pleas for help, so they called 911 from the hospital frantically seeking help.
A half an hour later, Edith Rodriquez, 43, a mother of three, was dead, leaving the family reeling. The county supervisor is outraged, and it's all been caught on tape.
At 1:43 a.m. May 9, Rodriquez's boyfriend, Jose Prado, placed the first call to 911 from a pay phone just outside the emergency room at Los Angeles' Martin Luther King Jr.-Harbor Hospital.
911 Operator: "What's wrong with her?," the 911 operator asked.
Prado: "She's vomiting blood."
The operator then questions why hospital officials are not helping Rodriguez.
Prado: "They're watching her and they're not doing anything. Just watching her."
Rodriguez had been to the emergency room on three separate occasions. Each time she was released after being given prescriptions for pain.
This time, she lay on the floor of the emergency room for 45 minutes. A security video shows staffers and other patients standing by as a janitor cleaned the floor around her.
Eight minutes after the first call, another call to 911 apparently comes from another person not related to Rodriquez. "There's a woman on the ground of the emergency room at Martin Luther King and they're overlooking her," the female caller says, "and they're ignoring her."
The operator asks the caller what she wants him to do and informs the woman to contact hospital personnel. The conversation then becomes tense as the operator lets the caller know he cannot send an ambulance to the hospital.
"I cannot do anything for you for the quality of the hospital there," the operator says. "This line is for emergency purposes only."
"May [God] strike you too for acting the way you are," the caller responds. The operator says, "No negative, ma'am. You're the one."
The county coroner ruled that Rodriguez died of a perforated bowel.
After listening to the tapes, L.A. County supervisor Zev Yarovslosky called the hospital's actions a moral and human breakdown.
Last week, federal inspectors declared that patients at King-Harbor were in "immediate jeopardy" of harm or death and gave the hospital 23 days to correct procedures or lose certification. It was the fourth time in less than four years that the hospital had received the warning, according to The Los Angeles Times.
"I hope it's a lesson to the rest of the community that when somebody's in trouble and the appropriated reaction is not to turn your back on that somebody," Yarovslosky said. "It's to put your hand out and see how you can help."
The supervisor of that second dispatcher said his tone on the call was inappropriate. The medical director of the hospital has been ousted for his handling of an unrelated lapse in patient care.
You're a very patient woman
I was too when I was younger, but not anymore. Good for you for teaching your daughters what not to do.
I think you deserve better. I doubt he appreciates you.
I have a couple of nieces who smoke and their houses never smell bad - they use air purifiers and anti-cigarette candles, but I'm not sure where they get the candles. They smoke, but hate the smell of stale cigs. Go figure.
just a liaison between the patient's and families...
and the nursing home, so if they are not addressing your needs, this is an appointed advocate--not employed by the nursing homes--whose job it is to address your concerns.
Hands down....The English Patient
Absolutely the worst movie I have ever seen.
All the above are why my loving
furkids stay inside. I have a bird feeder right outside my work window and they are welcome to come and look at the birds which they do but I love my feathered friends as well. I have this unsociable furcat next door who had the nerve to come in my yard trying to catch birds. I chase it off, folks here not supposed to let their animals run around anyway.
you are loving her
You are loving her by stepping back and making her stand on her own two feet. Loving someone does not mean enabling them to hurt themselves. Loving your child means pushing them out of the nest and letting them learn on their own. If you keep enabling her you will not be loving her as much as if you push her out. Praying for you....
Jan
loving pet
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. I'm glad you enjoyed his company and love for many years. This is the caveat of having our loving pets - it's so difficult to lose them. We will join with all of them one day, when it is our time...how could we not. They provide us with so much love and good company.
My understanding is that both parties involved are black. nm
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You are not understanding me. It doesn't matter how he gets the info. sm
If he works for the police department he most certainly can go into the archives or whatever you want to call it and pull up this guy's history or past. I'm telling you, they can do that. It is not a secret. Someone's police records are NOT a secret at all. Nothing like a medical record. All records are public knowledge. You can obtain them. You can obtain a rap sheet on ANYONE if they have one and you ask for one. If a business were to do a criminal background check you are given one on that person if they have a background. These records are not protected. The paper can run your history, anyone can run your criminal history and I think it's great.
It was my understanding, the checks are mailed out on Fridays, and
delivered..provided the mailing address was correct!
How much are stamps these days???
My understanding from my attorney is that during the divorce process,
from the time I file until the time it is final, the judge can issue an order forcing him to leave until it is final and a decision is made about splitting the property.
He takes lithium for his bipolar disorder, but yesterday when he was released from jail, he went to the ER because he was apparently vomiting profusely and was found to have lithium toxicity. So now he's not taking his lithium and I'm sure he will use this as an excuse to not take it anymore.
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
Talk about a patient's privacy being intruded upon.
And who is paying for these ultrasounds? Are these lawmakers going to support these children. I think we've fought long and hard to make it our decision as women. It is our body. I'm sorry if I offend people who call it murder or whatever, but that is the choice a woman has to make, not some lawmaker. Also, which health care provider (doctor/imaging center) is making the money off of this one? Will the woman that is with child have to pay for this herself?
I had a patient's name a long time ago, Ima Piggee..nm
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there is a patient advocate or ombudsman in every state...
whose job it is to deal with things like this. the nursing home can give you the number and it MUST be posted somewhere. If you ask for this number, chances are, they will find the ring if at all possible because they do NOT want to deal with this type of mess, but you should definitely get in contact with him.
Dear Mother of an Adult Patient
Stop calling me to request prescription refills for your son. If he needs something, HE should call, not you. He is forty years old and fully capable of calling. Also, don't call me on Friday afternoon and ask me to put a Rx up front and then call me this morning and ask if I faxed it to some pharmacy. That's not what you asked me to do. And again... HE should call, not you. Also, calling me three times a day to ask if a company has called me to authorize your son's Rx is annoying. They won't call me. They will....Oh yeah. CALL HIM! Your voice annoys me. It's like screeching birds. In case you didn't get it, which you don't seem to, PLEASE STOP CALLING.
Thanks!
Patient had heartburn after eating a "hot met"
this was in a report I transcribed a couple of days ago. I left a blank because the client allows 2 blanks, but it has just been bugging me ever since. It was an account in the southern US, so I wondered if it was something specific to that region (I've lived on the west coast all my life). Can anyone satisfy my curiousity and tell me what a "hot met" is?
Pit bull or not he is a loving dog ...sm
who has never attacked and I honestly with all my heart know he would never hurt me. I believe in all honesty he would die to protect me to make sure I wasn't harmed if that is what it took. I know some pits have attacked owners and I believe these were either unstable dogs or abused or provoked. My dog has a respect for me also. He knows I am the boss and when I take a firm tone and let him know I am not happy with him he just bows his head and lays down. I didn't set out to own a pit bull he kind of fell into my lap you could say and I fell in love with him and he with me. I rocked him as a baby and nurtured him and he loves me with everything in him and I love him the same. My ownership of him just happened unexpectedly and I am so grateful it did. When I am sad he licks my tears and is so loving. I know other breeds are capable of this but CJ just happens to be a pitbull. I dont care. His breed is not important. It is the love in his heart. What is inside him. I don't judge a dog for what they are but who they are.
Just did MRI on tinnitus patient. See Message regarding acoustic neuromas.
Acoustic Neuromas:
Acoustic neuromas are small, slow growing benign tumors that press against or invade the auditory nerves. If your tinnitus is only in one ear, you should see your physician to rule this one out. An MRI will probably be required for a definitive diagnosis, but one contributor's ENT felt that an MRI wasn't warranted unless frequent dizziness was present. Acoustic neuromas are removable by surgery but involve a risk of hearing loss. Doing nothing should be considered an option by elderly patients since these tumors grow so slowly.
I hate the phrase "the patient expired"
I have never liked that phrase...makes me think of spoiled milk or something. We don't come with expirations dates!!
How to compete with a loving doting MIL.
I am jealous of MIL and Dh relationship. There, I admitted it. It was a huge red flag when we were dating but I ignored it. To start at the beginning I was jeolous. I wished now I would have listed but I didn’t I married him. Lived here in an appointment but he really considered his home with mommy who was 88 miles away. He would go every weekend leaving me here alone. I thought well, he is not married to me or anything I guess he is taking care of responsibility. He seemed obsessed on the family farm (70 acres) and getting that started. He and his mommy were working side by side to get “the place” fixed up. Occasionally, his friend and his wife would invite them camping so he and mommy would take a break with his buddies and camp. Not so intelligent me was sitting at home, alone thinking one of these days he will figure out what a wonderful person I am and he won’t have to cling to mommy so much. Boy was I ever wrong. He took my virginity and that made me want to cling to him tighter. I shamelessly chased him. Finally I told him that if he wasn’t going to marry me, I was leaving. He said okay, lets do it. Well we had a rush engagement. DH hated the idea of a wedding he had already been through that once. (This was his second marriage). He was not very cooperative and kind of rude but I did get my wedding. At some points in our courtship I thought it was sweet how he doted on his mommy I just wished I saw how dysfunctional it really was. I think my first clue should have been when he was late for our second date because mommy called him bawling because she and her brother got into a fight.
Anyway, it was so hard to keep MIL out of our business. MIL balanced our check books, dh would take me and MIL out of a drive, all outings included MIL. I told him that I think we should be taking care of our financial bus and dh said “no, mom knows how to do it and besides if I take that from her she won’t feel wanted. “ I asked, who did you marry, me or mommy. Well MIL is not in our finances anymore. She did used to go through our mail. I asked her if she was going to be a meddling MIL and she got mad and told DH and dh jumped my butt saying she is only trying to help and a few cuss words. (when the cussing started, I turned out). MIL was upset and she was going to take us to court. I guess she thinks she has rights to his money just like a wife would or more so. They did have bank accounts together, cc together.
Any, I cannot write a book. Just a long story short, I try to put up boundaries and I am the villain. MIL is not a meddler, she is trying to help, she is only being a loving, doting, graaaadmommeeee. To get along, I try to think of her as a break from the kids but the way she interacts with my children sends chills down my spine. First she would say that is her baby, she didn’t want her baby doing this or that. She did not want her baby to get sick so I couldn’t take her outside. She wants to sleep in their room so she can take care of them, she would take my oldest dd in another room and shut the door and undress. She wanted to take her to the public restroom, (It is like she thinks, DH child is her responsibility, I am just womb donor. It was driving me stir crazy. She and dh would buddy up on our outings and leave me feeling like a third wheel. And with DD, it was like she, DH and my child were just one big happy family. Gag. One time dh ask her if she wanted another baby, she said “I love babies.” GAG. Bad part is my oldest dd loves her. She wanted MIL to take her to school this morning, not me. She is 5 years old.
If I put up boundaries, or say that anything bothers me, I am the villain being mean to an old lady. MIL acts like such an abused old lady who looves me so much and I amso mean and trying to take her babies away (DH and the kids). Everybody says, she is so NICEEEE. I feel like I am in way over my head. We have been through counseling and the counselor said that he needed to put his wife first before mommy. DH thought that counselor was nuts and that he just wanted him to can his poor little old mommy. I have asked dh if he wanted a divorce so he can have more time to dote on mommy and so she can feel wanted and needed. He said no, I would rather have you here than her but he doesn’t understand why I am so mean. I have developed anger that I never knew I had in me. MIL I guess developed a sudden interest in psychiatry she says I come from an unloving, uncaring family. DH grew up happy. I guess that is why he was a teenage alcoholic, had 3 DUIs, got married the second he turned 18, had legal problems of course his mommy, being the loving mommy she is, would lighten the load for him and help him do community service. I cannot win. I want out of this insanity. I just don’t think I have anyone around to help me.
You are talking about loving the kids, right?
As an MT I on my own supported a house of 5 people, paying all the bills, including mortgage, cars, utilities- this was when hubby disabled on dialysis. Why would you want to stay with some jerk like that? I would not care if I had 10 kids. The other hubby died and I have a husband who never, ever puts me down. I live on Easy Street. Work part-time now, vacation twice a year, have most everything I want or desire. You can do better than crap.
I am loving these doggie-auggie
pictures- they are just too cute. I also do not know how to post pictures or I would show you my 2 fine male cats. They are real charmers their own self. Loving these, keep it up!
I am really amazed at how and question to loving ASR
speech (or the platform I work on) seems to sorta "take over" your PC. In other words, not only does it pick up what the physician says but I find that when I type a word wrong a lot of times it spells it correctly and these are words I do not have in autocorrect- have you also noticed this?
Oh, besides loving water, they also eat olives!
NM
I'm loving life since leaving MT.
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I would also wear them, especially if you had a loving relation with her..nm
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Living in Georgia and loving it
Never have felt the need to move because I got frustrated, never. Moved from another state over 30 years ago and love where I live. I really hate when I see an overall blanket statement about a state being backwards. I find myself going on the offense when a person attacks a state in general when they perhaps are unhappy just for the person they are. I am sure a person can find fault with any place they might be brought up or choose to live but my community is very progressive, upscale and as much as I love to travel, hope this can be my home from here on. People make their own happiness and if you are unhappy either in your personal or business life, then perhaps you are just soured on the world, not where you live. If a person wants to move from my state, hey, just more room for the people who can enjoy their life here.
I'm having a hard time understanding having a baby for selfish reasons...
My older sister feels the same way and doesn't want kids.
As I pointed out above, I'm being selfish by wanting my alone time and doing my own thing and not having to care for someone else.
but watching my little sister be a mother, it is one of the most SELFLESS acts I've ever seen.
So I guess I'm confused at how come you point out that it is selfish... just because you love babies doesn't make you selfish to have them. and of course it's "necessary" or we as a human race would be over ;)
I just feel like being a mother is the toughest job in the world... so I don't know how to combine selfish with that. I do see your point in a way that we want something to love, but I just look at it as being a family... I want a family. I know there are people who are content on their own... but I guess your point would be "WHY" do i want that family? I can't answer that in specific terms.
I guess it's to share the love that me and him have with a child or children some day... to expand our happiness. well i guess that is selfish. ha.
I'm glad you are such a good mom. I don't know what I'd do without mine.
Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now!
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I'll still be loving you - Restless heart
That was played at my wedding!
Please don't feel guilty! You sound like a loving fur mom!..I too
lost a cat this week, also about 18 years old. She was an outside cat who never came in but about 6 weeks ago she just walked in one day and never wanted to go back out, so I figured the end was near. I feel very guilty too, but I made her comfortable, stroked her, made sure she was comfortable. Hubby went out in the pouring rain/sleet to bury her under a cedar tree where our others are buried. When I told him how bad I felt about not being here when she died, he said she had a great life because of me and how much I cared for her. I am sure you were wonderful to her. Please don't feel so guilty! My gal, the day before she died, actually did go outside, it happended to be sunny for a bit, she laid down on the deck and enjoyed the warmth and caught the last bird of her life! For a cat, she went out on a good note!
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