Be careful if you decide to wean
Posted By: desperado on 2007-11-27
In Reply to: Thanks! - bifdyMT
and hand feed with formula and syringe. Don't know about your type of birds, but I have a parrot that I hand fed with a syringe and the breeders instructed me and watched me do it myself to be sure I was doing it correctly before they let me take him home. Apparently you can kill them if it goes down the wrong way, but it was really easy feeding him. Maybe there's somebody in your area who is a bird expert you could talk to?
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Wean yourself from her, little by little, for your own peace of mind. She'll either get the mess
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Let us know what you decide - nm
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I think you should tell them and let them decide what they want to do.
My husband died six months ago suddenly and unexpectedly. My niece, who just turned 12, has always been extremely close to my husband and me, and spends a lot of time at our house. LIke your children, she had never experienced death in a close relative before. The day he died, my brother and sister-in-law picked her up from school and broke the news to her. She was sad of course and she cried for quite a while.
Her parents gave her the choice of what she wanted to do in regards to go to the funeral home and/or attend the funeral. She chose to come to the funeral home and sit with me, and to attend the funeral.
She later wrote on the subject when the class had to write an essay at school about a life altering event. She wrote about how much she loved her uncle and she felt that was her last chance to say goodbye, as she didn't get to say goodbye before he died. She was sad that he died suddenly and she didn't know ahead of time, and that seemed to hurt her a lot, even though nothing could change that.
As for me, her presence at that time made me feel a little better. My husband's death has made she and I even closer. She's very smart and mature for her age. She knows sometimes when I get a little sad, that I'm thinking of my husband, and she totally understands, cause she still misses him too.
I know this is kind of rambling, but I hope it makes sense. I think kids want to be a part of our experiences, the good and the bad, and I think to exclude them, even when you think you're protecting them, makes them feel left out.
Good luck to you and your family. My prayers are with you.
So then why take any drugs at all? Or why not let's just decide which
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Couldn't decide whether to
laugh or vomit with that story!
if you decide to give
my suggestion would be to get something bigger than 0-3 months. they go through that stage so quickly and lots of people give that size.
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now. He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now (when i say now, we would wait until after marriage). He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
Easy for men to decide
Some guys are good dads - willing to pitch in and help take care of the child's needs, and give it plenty of time and attention.
There are quite a few guys out there that like the IDEA of a child - as long as it doesn't cramp their style. This means it all devolves upon the mother - care of the child 24/7, criticism from him and his family if you aren't doing it their way, but of course any bragging rights are all theirs.
Then there are the demands of academia - when your child gets sent home with a backpack full of paperwork to review on a nightly basis, whose job will that be?
Another thought is the possibility of divorce down the road - what happens then? Quite a few dads who let mom do all the work suddenly become superdad when the thought of child support comes along, and they will do anything to win custody so that YOU have to pay THEM. Even if you win custody, the head games with visitation schedules, daddy's new girlfriend pushing her way into the picture, etc. never end.
Be careful. Having a baby to stroke a man's ego can get very messy very fast. Its a huge responsibility and too often the mother does all the work and the father takes all the credit. Take the worst case scenarios into consideration before you decide.
So who gets to decide what is illegal and what is not? You? sm
That's a slippery slope. Like the poster below who wants sugar taxes - actually that's not a bad idea since sugary drinks and snacks are making our kids fat. Let's see - then we should tax fast food or control the amount that fatties can eat, right?
Where does it end?
Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message
I posted last week about my dilema about whether to have a hysterectomy or not after my left ovarian cyst (which was removed along with ovary) came back with a pathology report stating papillary serous tumor, borderline. Doctor says I should have hysterectomy for "insurance" and preventative measures. However, according to their group discussion, my tumor was borderline, but "more on the benign side". I am so confused. I'm 42 and I don't want to have a hysterectomy, but yet, I don't want to have a problem with cancer either. I have the option to follow every six months. Is this safe? Am I better off getting a hysterectomy? I just don't know what to do!!!!
So even animals help decide our fate???
Where did you read this or learn about this? I've never heard that animals will speak for or against us on judgement day...interesting. Guess I'm in the clear, I don't do animals, don't own them, don't abuse them, don't like 'em!
I re-read, so you do live together - you have to decide if he is (sm)
going to function as a dad or not, and if so, you need to BOTH be involved in decisions, not just him. If he is not going to function as dad, he should not be involved in conferences at all.
Mercy is for God to decide - she should rot where she lays
I posted below - but have more to say. She needs to rot where she lies. That may sound harsh but I have no compassion for her and anyone else involved in those horrendous crimes they committed. "Charles Mansion brainwashed me" or whatever it is she claims. Oh brother - let me get my violin out. She knew what she was doing. You would think at some point while she is in the act of doing the horrendous things she did she would think somewhere in her pea brain - wait a minute, this is not right, and she could have easily sneaked out or called the police or something. I lived across the whole country (east coast) and still felt the horror that happened to them. It was hard growing up knowing that those pieces of garbage were out there and it could have happened to any of us just as easily. They just happened upon that house. I had nightmares because of it. Between that and the Hillside strangler and all the other creeps out there, it was hard not to have nightmares. She committed the crimes and she needs to do her time. She had no mercy for Sharon Tate and her unborn child and she so much as said so. Why she would think the court should have mercy on her. Brain tumor? Good and I hope its a very painful death for her. I always say do unto others. If she committed torture, then she should be tortured. The only one she should be asked Mercy for is from God. Maybe she should contact Roman Polanski and ask him if he thinks she should be let out early. "I would like to be out one day" Give me a break! I'm sure Sharon Tate and the other people would have liked to live. They should tell her and her family that they have no right in asking to be let out. I don't care if she can't sit up in bed. That is her problem. In fact I think they should post all the crime scene photos in her cell and let her look at those day after day and say until she dies and tell her this is why you are not being let out. Besides, if she has brain cancer who knows what she will be thinking as it progresses. Well I'm glad she's "not the same person than when she went in". But then again that's what all the prisoners say too. She did the crime - do the time (and I hope she suffers. I have no tolerance for what she did).
Is that good? I can't decide whether this would be tasty or not? nm
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Well in my mind lust is when you decide
to give in to something and enjoy it, which I have not and will not do in this case.
The puzzlement for me is how the attraction comes out of nowhere like that, and of course this time when it happened it is more troubling because he is so young. It must be pheromones. I think that's the best explanation.
Yep, some oldies decide on invitro
to have kids but I don’t want to have a kid in college just when I would like to retire. I see advanced maternal age listed all the time when the mother is only 34 or so, so wonder what category 41 falls under. Too many birth defects possible as the mother ages. Others can have their kids if they want at past 50, just not my cup of tea.
Be careful...
My hubby had one, we had one boy, then got a suprise of twins, neither of us ever wants more kids. My hubby is terrified of needles, doc, etc. also. I thought it was a mutual decision, but found out two years later that he feels like I forced him into it and I hate to say it was such an issue with him that we almost split up. So be careful about making the appointment for him. He needs to be fully on board for it!
On a better note, my hubby had no problems, or complications. I was in the office with him for the whole thing, that made him relax more I think.
Be careful what you wish for.
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You have to be very careful with
the bamboo. Obviously this person found some good stuff, but if you Google bamboo flooring, most people find it is ruined with scratches the first day. So if you want bamboo, I'd find out this brand and check it out in person too. The bad stuff is so soft you can scratch it with your fingernail! It is kind of logical that it would be soft since it grows so fast.
Good luck!
Please be careful
Our local news did a special report on the damage those kinds of flea control products can do to the nervous system of cats in particular. A young, healthy cat can probably handle it, but older cat or those with health problems are at risk.
I used to use Advantage on my dog but since he is mostly an inside dog I hadn't had to use it for a while. About a year ago he had some fleas so I used it on him and he was sick for three days (he was 9 years old then). The vet checked him out thoroughly, blood work, urinalysis, fecal tests, everything normal. The only thing that was different was that I had used the Advantage on him about 24 hours before he got sick.
There is a link below to an article which discusses this issue.
be careful...
Avoid the Humane Society. If you are afraid of the neighbors now, you have no idea what you are in for if you involve the HS. They will go after them for leaving the dog out to be in the street and then all you know what breaks loose. Leave a note that their dog was struck but don't sign it. The dog needs to be checked out for internal injuries. Don't implicate yourself. It was an accident. Go easy on yourself but protect yourself too.
Please be careful
I know unfortunately from experience this is a very difficult situation to be in as I have been in similar relationships in the past. While it is hard enough to get away from situations like this when alone, I know having children involved makes this even more difficult. What your husband is doing is definitely abusive to you and your children. In my opinion, he does not deserve you and your children. My heart goes out to you.
I hope you can find the courage to safely and secretly talk to someone at a domestic violence shelter. If you do decide to seek help from someone there, please be sure there are no traces of you contacting them either on the computer or otherwise. I wish the best for you and your children. I'll be praying for you to make it through everything okay. Speaking from my past experience, there is hope for a much brighter future without him in your lives. Also, hopefully if it goes to court and you explain your side, he will have no chance for unsupervised visitation with the children. If you do go through with leaving him, it may be necessary to move to keep you and the children safe. When you decide to, I think the safest way would be through a domestic violence shelter. Keep your head up. I hope everything works out for you.
Be very careful.....sm
I live about a little over an hour from New Orleans. That is a crazy place, especially at Mardi Gras. The crowds will get so bad you can get stuck in the crowd and cannot move. Just be careful.
Be very careful what you say sm
They will record you and play it back. I emphatically stated I did not want the service, could not afford it, my records would show I did not need it. I offered to keep my own number, pay as I went, bought $100 worth of minutes good for one year and I am into it 6 mos. at more than half left. I was paying $60 per month. They balked at first and they threatened to play back my agreement, I told them to go ahead as I had not agreed to anything but canceling. They sent me a new phone, said I needed updating,which would have automatically bound me into another year. I sent the phone right back, called them, told them I would keep my old phone, my old # and would do the $100 for a year or I was done with them. I am very happy with my old phone, my same # and the hundred dollar plan for a whole year.
Be careful...
IF you have to file they will ask about change in names on anything you own. It will throw up a red flag. It might be best to leave your name on the land/car, etc than make them think you are trying to hide something. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. If you have to file, the world doesn't end, I know from experience.
Be careful
Don't overdo the fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E, K.
The amount over what your body can use does not just 'pass thru' - it gets stored in fat and can potentially cause toxicity. You'd be better off taking a calcium supplement and doing some light weight lifting or weightbearing exercise.
Happy MT is correct, vitamin D helps your body absorb calcium -- with one minor correction - sunlight doesn't help your body metabolize vitamin D, it actually is how the body produces it, but we all know you can go overboard with sunlight, too. There's a thread about this from the last week or so, someone asked a question about whether you can get the UV that produces vitamin D thru a window -- the answer is NO. I posted another link about vitamin D there, but in the meantime, here's a good one:
http://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/vitamind.asp
oh well, then I have to be careful, thanks!...nm
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funny thing about when you decide to give up...
on men/relationships...That is when the right one comes along! That's how it happened for me. I, like you, had decided I was done with men, too many bad experiences, and then I met THE right guy for me. That was almost 11 years ago and we have been married for 7-1/2 years. We have a happy marriage and a beautiful little 15-month-old girl. It's when you stop looking that the right one comes along!
The most important thing, though, is to trust your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. From your description, it sounds like a good thing, but if there is a doubt that nags at you, don't dismiss it. Just don't let prior bad relationships cloud your judgment, because they are all different.
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
I just don't see why any parent would just allow a child decide to move out
It makes no sense to me. He is 16 years old and still a child. I guess I just don't understand how you have no problem with him deciding to move out and not even try to do anything about it other than take his house key. It sounds as though this 16-year old is running the show here. The whole thing is very disturbing to me.
Hi, Kelly, in case you decide to use Rogaine,
please check with your doctor first because of your thyroid issue!
Be careful when responding!
I'm not saying that the OP is anything more than someone trying to make interesting conversation, but there are lots of little innocent looking surveys on the 'net that Phish for your passwords. Since our emails don't show up here, I'm not really concerned, but I've seen this on MySpace, and I know phishing happens a lot on MySpace. Lots of folks use pet names or former pet names as passwords. The same goes for name surveys that have you do "fun" things like surveys asking you to find your porn name by putting your street name with your mother's maiden name, etc.
By the way, my pet's name isn't on the list!
Yep, be careful, dear...
I had a similar experience with a dentist when I was in my mid-20's. He wasn't that good-looking, I was married, and not therefore not tempted, but he did make personal, complimentary remarks when I went into the office for a check-up on a Saturday when his staff wasn't in. My first impression (even back then as a naive and young 22-year-old) is that probably he just wanted to see how many of his female patients would "bite." (No pun intended.) But...if he is not married, and you're able to go into this with a skeptical eye, see where it may lead...expressing wanting to get to know you better is pretty flirty, to my thinking!
Be careful having it dyed
We had our family room rug dyed, and instead of a light rose color, we ended up with a hot pink capet. This was supposed to be a reputable company.
Careful, Misha. sm
He seems laid back now because you're in the 'honeymoon' phase. He's a husky, he's lulling you into a false sense of security! LOL Just kidding. He is a handsome boy and looks very sweet.
I might have missed it - you said you're fostering him, right? Is it really just fostering, or will you be adopting him (whether you intended to or not - that's called failing fostering 101, and I have done it *twice* myself! LOL)
Big brother needs to be careful
I sincerely hope your son didn't run wants/warrants, DL, car registration, LEADS or anything else on sis's boyfriend. My sister is a deputy sheriff, and if she did anything like that for a personal reason, the sheriff would have her badge in about 2 seconds flat. That is a major no-no and one of the first things they learn if they work in the radio room.
Be careful of the color of the tea...
my dad drank about 1/2 cup of diet coke and he had to go back the next day for the test....they said it had to be the coke causing it to be too dark inside...but that was for a colonoscopy.
I think people do need to be careful with that
I think there are a mixture of factors contributing to addiction. Yes, I have seen studies that relate addiction with genetics or slight chemical differences in the brain (took a class on addiction). However, having grown up with addictions in almost every member of my family, I think it can SOMETIMES (IMO) be dangerous to tell someone who is an alcoholic that alcoholism is a disease. In may case, may family members said "see, I can't help it! It's a disease" - ignoring the fact that they have at least some control in the matter, unlike someone who has cancer. I guess the best way to describe it is a mixture of both, sort of like the nature v. nurture argument. The reality is probably that it is both - related to biology AND choice.
If you have kids you have to be careful sm
This is an issue they will never forget, not ever, so be careful you don't accuse him in front of them. Make sure you do it in private. I would copy the note and show him the original (just in case he rips it up). Work it out without getting anyone else involved. If you don't have kids and it's not true, you will laugh at it for years. There are lots of nuts out there and you never know. I would have to show it to him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, as I have had friends who have had this happen, either by phone or in person and everyone loses, everyone. Don't make yourself sick over it, dig for the truth, perhaps it's just a jealous coworker rearing his/her ugly head. Don't wait for it to go away by itself, it will only fester and make you sick. Good luck with everything, come back and let us know how you do.
Changes of a Down syndrome baby go up with age, though. You'll need to decide if an amnio & its
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DH not happy = his prob. Let him leave or stay or decide
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I'm 36, married 5 years, and still can't decide. I wish I had an answer for ya. But you're
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Be careful of what type of massage too!
I got my husband a massage for a gift once...what a disaster! We knew nothing about them...I thought it would be relaxing. NOT! Apparently it was for something called a "deep tissue massage." What the heck did we know--a massage is a massage. We almost had to call the ambulance to get him off the table because the lady just totally messed up his back, even though on the "getting to know you sheet" I had specifically wrote down that he had degenerative disk disease. So here was this poor grown man, in tears, extreme pain, and completely embarassed that he couldn't move. The massage lady was freaking out saying she had never had anything like that happen to her. The total kicker was no money was ever refunded to us, and we never even got a call at home to check on him. I was just so preoccupied with getting him safely into our pickup truck with minimal embarassment to him and getting him home.
Thinking back, he says he wouldn't have minded the whole ordeal at all if there was a "happy ending" to his massage, but alas, this was a "legit" place
 Men.
Careful not to generalize "too" much
I am dying to get OUT of a 'fancy-pants' area and back into the country, but there are tons of stuff not so much fun in the country, too, like being ostracized (Sp?) for being different. I'd give my eye-teeth (where did THAT saying come from?!) to find a middle ground: Progressive rural.
Be very careful - two people from this area
have been murdered there. Apparently not too far off the beaten path, if at all.
Careful with the Campho-Phenique (sm)
sent you an e-mail about it -not supposed to swallow it - no spray, just the gel and just a tiny bit - we use it but I pulled it up online and it says external use only
Be careful while visiting Switzerland
Swiss restaurant to serve meals cooked with human breast milk
A Swiss gastronomist has stirred a controversy in the tranquil Alpine republic after announcing that he will serve meals cooked with human breast milk.
Women will receive just over £3 (US$5.4) for 14 ounces of their milk Photo: GETTY The owner of the Storchen restaurant in the exclusive Winterthur resort will improve his menu with local specialities such as meat stew and various soups and sauces containing at least 75 per cent of mother's milk.
"We have all been raised on it. Why should we not include it into our diet?" Hans Locher, who has become Switzerland most controversial restaurant owner, said.
Mr Locher attracted the attention of the leading media of the German-speaking world this week after he posted ads looking for women donors, who will receive just over three pounds for 14 ounces of their milk.
He said: "I first experimented with breast milk when my daughter was born.
"One can cook really delicious things with it. However, it always needs to be mixed with a bit of whipped cream, in order to keep the consistency."
The food control authority in Switzerland was initially confused by the apparent loophole in local legislation regulating the use of human milk and it was not clear whether Mr Locher could actually be banned from serving his specialities.
"Humans as producers of milk are simply not envisaged in the legislation.
"They are not on the list of approved species such as cows and sheep, but they are also not on the list of the banned species such as apes and primates," Rolf Etter of the Zurich food control laboratory said.
be careful if you have environmental allergies
my son has severe environmental allergies and we were told to never hang out his laundry as pollen can attach itself to the clothing and make his symptoms worse. We are also to run an air conditoner, not use fans and never open the windows to help cut down on allergens. So much for frugality in our home!!! :(
Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t
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stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
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