Basically just lost my son when he married into
Posted By: Grandkids, parents, etc. on 2009-03-05
In Reply to: My in-laws are overkill -sm - and another side
my DIL's family. Just sucked him clear in. No time for our side of the family after that, not his g'parents, his maternal side, aunts, uncles, cousins, no one. It was all her side that mattered. I got charged for any work around the home I needed done by my son, he did her family's for free. I tried to be there but never barged into their lives and now not in their lives at all. I do not worry about things anymore, no use in it and just try to work and live my life to my liking. His marriage just kicked me to the curb and it used to hurt but not anymore. I have accepted I do not play a part in my son's life nor his childrens.
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Good grief, lost of people get married and don't have children nm
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Yes, they are basically against everyone but themselves I think (nm)
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Basically the same as we always have
Swimming in our pool, visiting friends, eating outside on our deck. We go out to dinner every Saturday with friends to get a break from the kids, and this weekend we're going to our local Balloonfest so not much driving involved. Luckily everything is pretty close by and we usually only spend approximately $80 a week on gas for two cars.
This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm)
But I don't think he is just going to go away...he has a good job, 401K, and we have a lot of equity in our home...in other words, I would cost to much for him to leave. Even if he has another woman that he is all excited about, the money is very important to him. But basically I have started doing my own thing, not calling him, etc. He has been upset saying that I don't even miss him when he has been gone..he takes all these trips and then we are supposed to have a big party for him every time he comes home. Well, we've been married 14 years - he leaves because he wants to be gone, so I am not going to throw a big party for him every time he comes home.
Well put? It was basically unintelligible...
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Basically you are saying you are not trusting him
now, even before he moves in permanently, otherwise you would not be, as you state, paranoid about his cell phone. Trust is upmost important in a relationship. If you don't have that, it is really doomed from the start. Been married almost 10 years now and never have checked a cellphone, email, nothing that pertains to my husband. I think women sometimes have an extra sense so to say and they know when something is up. Maybe that is what is happening with you. In my case, I have never had 1 minute of worrying about him. In another relationship I knew before I saw or heard. Called women's intuition.
She has basically admitted that the swats
are no punishment, so if you don't make her do the suspension for the 5 tardies, she will have no punishment for it at all, and thus it will probably continue. She'll just take the swats each time. You'll have to sign the paper for it this time and then they'll have it on file and won't ask you about it for further incidents. (BTW, I've got nothing against spanking, but only by a parent in this day and age, and certainly not a 14-year-old.) If she is really concerned about her grade, she'll get to class on time after this suspension.
Friends of our set up their registry at Honeymoonwishes.com. Basically asking everyone to pay for h
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I have some health issues that basically prohibit
a lot of the things I mentioned, bending, stooping, cleaning, etc. and I can afford to have someone and why should I not? Oh, by the way there is a lot of time she watches television, I do not mind and I pay her per hour more than I make an hour so I think for 4 hours here is a good pay. The thing was I only had 1 pair of panties (I felt should wear to an appointment this morning, knew exactly where I put them and they were not there.) If you knew how much I gave her, not only money but have bought her grandkids things at Christmas, given her clothing, lots of things when she asked, then you would understand about why I am upset she stole something from me. I buy clothing and then do not like and give her brand new things with the tags still on them so I have a right to be upset about someone stealing.
I was disappointed in the group last night basically
No one really grabbed me like I would like them to. Adam was okay but I am just not into him as well. The group overall had none of the zing felt with the first group. Oh, well, I think there is a brand new group next week, isn't that so and how many more groups are there?
My SIL makes it this way and the meat basically falls off of the bone.
I know that once she gets the pork seasoned, she puts in a small roasting pan and then sets it in a "bano maria" at 250 degrees like for 10-12 hours depending on the size. I will see if I can get the recipe from her. As far as the seasoning, it all depends which way you want it, for Cuban style mojo seasoning, it can be bought already made in a bottle at the grocery's store in the international food section, probably Goya brand. Then, there is the other seasoning with the oregano, salt, vinegar, garlic, black pepper, and olive oil.
He basically tackled another player and just held him down...and then punched him in the gut a few t
stupid on his part but he got a 15-yard penalty for it...he won't get fined
Basically stick to a schedule. Laundry is only "housework" while I"m working. Keep calls sh
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I did a lot of research! Basically, I scoured the public notices in the local paper. SM
You know, the ads that say a certain property will be auctioned off on the courthouse steps on a certain day at a certain time. Well, I learned quickly that just because you've read the public notice does not mean the property will actually get sold when advertised. Like the person said below, a lot of times the owners rehab and pay back payments right at the last second. The trustee selling the property is usually an attorney hired by the bank or mortgage company that hold the loan on the property. You can call the attorneys and find out if a propert is still being auctioned off which I did a number of times. Once you find out who holds the mortgage, you can contact the bank or mortgage company directly and make an offer.
For my particular house, it was a waiting game. They actually listed it with a real estate agent and wanted $80,000 when they first listed it. I called the real estate agent they listed with after it had been on the market for about three months. They were asking $60,000 at the time I looked at it. I thought they were crazy cause it was a 2 bedroom that needed a lot of work. Just so happened that at the time I walked through it I was stilling bickering with the insurance company over my settlement, so I wasn't quite ready. Then, three months later I'm at the grocery store (I live in a small town and it is wonderful!) and someone was telling the cashier about a little blue house that had been for sale for a long time and nobody was interested in it because the basement was a cinder block basement which scared people off. Anyway, long story short, the person said they were now asking $45,000 for the house. I had just settled with the insurance company and thought nows my chance to get a great deal!
I called the mortgage company and offered them $36,000. I low-balled because I was prepared to negotiate. They countered with the full asking price. So I countered with a $40,000 cash offer. I said they would be crazy not to take it because I was a cash buyer, didn't have to wait for financing, and didn't require a mechanical inspection. My brother-in-law waterproofs and pours basements for a living. I had him look at the basement and told me that it was a dry basement and he would get a bobcat from work and dig out the dirt around the foundation of the house and waterproof it from the outside and that should make it solid. I have cousings who are trim carpenters and roofers, although the roof was in good shape, no leaks. So I felt safe not having a mechanical inspection especially because I have all this help should something go bad.
The mortgage company decided to sweat me out and didn't give me an answer for two weeks. What they didn't realize is I wasn't sweating because I thought they'd be crazy to pass me up. My waiting paid off. They called the Monday after the 4th of July holiday and said it's yours if you still want and I said "I do."
I bought the house As-Is. Also this was a foreclosed property which means the owners that were foreclosed on cannot rehab the loan and take back the property. It's mine once we close.
So that's how I did it and I can't believe I did do it because I actually felt like I didn't know anything when I started. I just prayed a lot and feel like I had some divine intervention for sure!
I think you are taking this out of context...I originally asked about my in-laws basically coming ov
and then the issue of locking doors and security gets brought up...why is it you can't post something on these boards without it being blown out of proportion???
Yeah, the True Blood series is basically like soft porn...
definitely not advisable for a 14 year old!!!
Meatus, labia, mucous membrane...basically all genitalia related words...
make me throw up a little in my mouth. LOL
I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now. 
my dogs are basically indoor dogs sm
but have a doggie door to go in and out as they please. Sometimes our Jack Russell gets excited and barks inside the house. My DH grabs is belt and snaps it and the loud noise shuts her up right away. I am not trying to frighten our dog, but many times just saying knock it off doesn't work.
If I lost say 60-80 lbs
I would be so full of attitude even my hubby probably not able to get to first base with me! Nah, just kidding. I also need to lose that much, just gonna have to do it it seems.
lost
Note - next week is 2 hours. Starting at 9.
Yes - they said the woman who parachuted was with an expedition that Penny sent.
Locke really appears to be dead.
lost - and am I!
I don't really know how I feel about the fast forward - but of course there is something wrong there because he said "call my father" and we know his father was dead before he hit the island. Why didn't Charlie hold his breath and swim up through the port hole? Whose funeral did no one want to attend?
we lost one of THE BEST!!! nm
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LOST! (nm)
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lost ours . . .
Four years ago both of them at the same time. We still have their son . . it was just heart retching. My husband and I actually cried harder than the kids . . . isn't that crazy???? We were devastated.
I did WW for about 2.5 yrs and lost 72 lbs! sm
It works but you need to stick with it. Don't get discouraged on the weeks you do not lose weight; it is also not "a diet" but a lifestyle change. Do try to find some fruit/veg that you enjoy; the fiber definitely helps you feel full and lose. Low sodium V8 is a good 1 pt or 0 pt option to get in 1-2 servings of veg daily. Eat a piece of fruit for your snack. I found that I really began enjoying fruit-veg after a while. Get active, drink water and give it a chance - WW does work well and nothing is off limits.
Gee, I think I should rejoin! Good luck.
I had lost about 30%. in my IRA. My
broker put my money into some type of annuity where I am guaranteed not to LOSE any more money for the next year. If on my anniversary date I am below my original balance, I retain that balance. If I have acutally made a little, I do get that and then am guaranteed that amount until my next anniversary date where the same scenario occurs. It is in lower-making funds, but at least I can't lose any more.
Lost coat
If it were me, I would be angry as heck at my 8 yo for not being responsible for her things. Forgot that someone might have taken it, the child was irresponisble. At 8, she should know better than to leave her things behind. Too bad, so sad, no coat, maybe she'll remember her things next time when she has no coat because she's cold. Learning life lessons are tough and 8 is really old enough to take responsibility.
Just another perspective.
lost coat
Maybe she actually left it at school or someplace other than dance, but is certain in her mind that she last had it at dance. You could be looking in the wrong place. I don't ever trust my memory on things like this because when life is really hectic (whose life with kids is not hectic?), sometimes events run together in my mind. Maybe her coat is at school in the lost and found or in the back of the van under a seat, etc. Just a thought. 
Lost Coat
You bet!! Unless shehad the money to purchase another one. She left it, so it got stolen. If it was grabbed off her back and stolen, that would be another story.
Kids can be kids, but they have to learn responsibility some time. It's the parents that don't teach it that are having issues with their kids. Mine learned early and often that their actions have repercussions, good and bad ones. And they learn from them.
For example, 15 yo daughter is a competitive dancer. When she was probably 10 or so, she goes to a competition and forgets to pack a tutu that she needs for one of her numbers. Do I got back and get it? Nope. Her responsibility and she had to expain to the others in her group that it was at home. Did she ever forget her tutu again? Nope. It usually only takes one time.
We need to be parents, not friends and teach them to live and survive in the world. It is never too young to learn. My 4 yo knows that if she walks out the door without her lunchbox for school that she doesn't have lunch. How many times did this happen? Exactly once. Kids are smarter than you think they are.
She was either drunk or lost a bet - sm
what a total freak, what woman would shave her head unless she absolutely had too (like a bad attack of lice, which I highly doubt was her problem). It will take quite a few years to grow back long again, oh well, guess that is her problem (s).
I lost 123 pounds (sm)
I am down to 112 pounds. All my skin, including my face skin, bounced back really well. I do have a little loose skin on my thighs but not so much that I can't wear shorts. My belly looks like I've been pregnant with big kids, and with my largest being 10 pounds, I earned my loose belly skin.
It might have made a difference that I did it "au naturale" without the surgery, so I am still absorbing my nutrients properly.
I know your pain..I lost my 16 y/o
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I am so sorry to hear you lost your
precious kitty. That's a long time to form an attachment. I feel bad for your daughter. I'm sure it was a shock for her - you're never ready for that. You are going to cry for a few days and then one day you the good memories will start and you'll realize you always have those - lots of those in 16 years.
You might make a collage of pictures for your office wall.
LOST fan here, see inside.
If they were not dead before, they probably will be now, unless they find some way of digging out. Orrr, maybe the conversation the guy had with John, where things don't stay buried if they're too close to shore, hmm. However, what was the point of this episode? It centered around 2 people that we really haven't seen before, then they seemingly get killed off in the same episode. The only thing related to the series was when Raphael (I think his name was), was hiding in the bathroom when Ben and Juliette were in the Pearl bunker watching Jack on the monitor and making some plans about him. Other than that, I totally did not get the purpose of the episode.
Funny...but I'm not lost...
I'm just coming unscrewed in the process.
My ESL would say LOOOsing it or more like lucing it!
I just need a real vacation WITH PAY!
Did you see LOST yet? (Not too spoilerish)
All I can say is - WHOA!
Didn't quite see that ending coming.
Very, very weird and interesting episode.
never miss a LOST!
We are huge Lost fans at my house! We didn't think the show shed any new light on things though. Just old stuff we already knew. They said John Locke has been trying to sabotage their chance of being rescued from the beginning, but we didn't really see anything until midway through like when he blew up Mikhail's station and then the submarine. Did we miss something else? Anyway, Locke is being so selfish now. Even if everyone else got rescued he could stay on the island by himself, so why is he trying to prevent everyone else's rescue? And we still want to know why Libby was in the institution!
Lost Addict
I'm thinking "call my father" is either a drug haze that Jack was in, OR he came back to life on the island. He did see his father standing on the beach not long after the plane crashed in season #1. At the time, I thought it was a hallucination. Maybe not? It seems that the island has the power to bring people back to life at times. The one-eyed guy came back -- or was he not really dead?
Whose funeral was it? Hmmm. Ben's? It was someone that Kate and Jack knew. Sawyer's? Someone that we haven't met on the island yet? How 'bout Jacob?
Ooooo! It's such a long time to wait, and so many possible answers to too many questions!
I lost my Tasha last May
I lost Tasha last May, she made the decision I did not she was 16 1/2 years old. But I did take her body in to be creamated and am going to spread her ashes in the park where she loved to run and chase the squirrls when I can bear to do it. But my sister has had three dogs put down, the vet come to her house and she is on acerage but they bury them in their back field. In their other homes they also buried several pets. I worked for a vet and I know how some of them dispose of the animals and I would never do that and that is why I decided to have Tasha cremated. It cost me but was worth it. I was going to bury her out at my sisters but decided to keep her here where she loved living. But you can have her put to sleep and take the body home with you and they don't ask what you are going to do, at least here in Oregon. But be sure you dig a large enough hole and down rather deep so some other animal does not come and dig it up. Even in the city, raccoons will dig it up sometimes. Sorry, about Foxie. I kept Tasha comfortable on arthritis medication but the Glucosamine helped the most from Petco and kept her quite comfortable for the last year. Ultram kept her free of most of the pain during the last 6 weeks and I really don't think that she suffered. But she decided it was the end and just went to sleep and up to that day she was walking a mile a day or so with me around the moorage. She was eating well. It is hard and I have not yet decided to get another dog yet but may soon. Take care. Patti
Somehow I lost 10 pounds.
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I lost my mother sm
Two and a half years ago. She was 59. I still have my father and a wonderful step-mother but not a day goes by that I don't miss my mom. So many people helped my by telling me what a good daughter I was and that my mother passed away knowing how much I loved her. She and I talked every day and most days it was 2 or 3 times. I have a 16 and 14yr old and everytime something wonderful happens in their life I think "Oh how proud my mom would be". You are always going to get meaningless platitudes but just keep in mind that your parents did a wonderful job raising you and obviously knew how devoted you were to them. Hugs to you!
My SIL had this and lost over 150 pounds. She...
really did not have any major problems after the surgery. However, it has been almost 2 years and in the past few months she has regained 35 pounds. If someone is eating to deal with emotional problems or just life in general, having the surgery does not make the emotional problems go away. They need to find another way to deal with them before the surgery in order for the surgery to work effectively. Just my opinion from watching my SIL. The docs need to deal more with WHY the patient is eating the way they do and work on changing eating habits before they have the surgery.
so, how much weight have you lost? nm
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You lost him years ago - help where you can when you wish
to but don't make them your project - it will drain the life from you. This is the life he evidently wants so life yours and wish him happiness. You need to let go - it is difficult I know - but you can do it.
Another poem for all of you that have lost someone!
These poems are meant to be personally yours....
I’M FREE
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free
I’m following the path God laid for me,
I took His hand when I heard Him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
I found that place at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow.
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life’s been full, I savored much.
Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief.
Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me
God wanted me now, He set me free.
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Wow! You lost half of yourself
I am in awe!
I lost 72 lb doing WW, did meetings first,
then online. Then on my own. Good luck - you can do it. Remember even a 20 minute walk counts as exercise!
I'm sorry you lost a friend sm
Maybe in the midst of my anger, I'm not expressing myself very well. I'm really sorry you went through what you went through.
My whole point is not about money, even though it may seem that way. I think there should be some sort of penalty when a dog bites someone, especially an 8-year-old child.
In our case, there has been absolutely no penalty, and the dog has been out without a leash since the attack. The owners even tried to blame our daughter for the bite. They said the dog thought she had some food in her hand or that she was standing next to the dog's food which was not the case. She was standing in front of their house. The dog tried biting my daughter's ankles, and she put her hand in the way.
They're not accepting responsibility for this attack, and if the only way for them to be penalized is by suing them, I will do that. I will advise our attorney that we will be willing to settle with them because we don't want this to end up in court, and I'm sure the owners don't either. I have never sued anyone and never expected I would ever sue anyone.
While I have sympathy in your case, I don't have sympathy for the owners in our case. If we did nothing, this could happen again to someone else's child, and I don't want to see that happen.
that is so right on. My mom lost the ability to.....sm
pay her bills, write a check, etc., but under her bed were at least 3 dozen rolls of toilet paper HIDDEN from who knows and also another case of paper towels. These TP and paper towels become extremely important and nobody has explained it to me yet but.... oh well, she is still a delight, albeit a mindless one. LOL
These people just lost their son and they already
have to start answering to the press. Sure, discuss it with the police, but let this people try to catch their breath without them having to prove anything to total strangers. Look at all the speculation already, was being monitored, wasn't being monitored, (is it a law that he had to be?), John is gay, mariage is a sham. You know that if there was any foul play or not someone is saying in their ear, don't say anything. Give this family the respect they deserve. Just imagine, heaven forbid, that you lost and child and had to do it in the public eye.
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