Bad idea...unfair and taking steps backward.
Posted By: Here's why ... on 2008-10-15
In Reply to: A "Gay Friendly" high school - think it's a good idea or bad?
This segregates a group out and discriminates against others. It says one group of citizens deserves more special attention or situation than others.
If homosexuals want to be treated like everyone else, they must extend this through every aspect of their life.
It wasn't easy for women or blacks to get to vote or have any of the rights we do today. This group will have to fight for theirs, as well.
I also want to point out that there is no way to shove the homosexual agenda down the throats of those who are opposed and make them like it.
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Don't know about "sweet" but dog is God spelled backward sm
I put up with a terrier mix (not a pit - just a mutt) who was hyper and ate everything, my house shingles, kitchen floor, rugs, etc., tried caging her and she bent the wires, scaled a 6 ft. fence or dug holes underneath to get out. We called her Hogan's Heroes. When she literally ate my whole couch one cold Christmas Eve with 20 people coming, I called the SPCA in tears and they said no one would take a dog like her, they would only bring her back and she'd be put to sleep. So I kept her over 16 years and she's buried in a pet cemetery nearby. I now have a 120 lb. Golden who had big paws when he was born and the last one left because he was going to be big, so I took him. People have dropped off dogs to me crying and I found homes for them. I understand how we can't turn away these beautiful animals others don't have the heart to understand.
I would present your husband's friend with a written "bill" for food, etc., but don't think it would do any good. Your husband has to stick up for you. Sounds like they're taking advantage of your good heart. I'm just glad the dogs are with you for the time being. I believe in good deeds being rewarded. It takes time but good only leads to good things coming back at you. I doesn't seem that way right now and times are tough, but hopefully you will be rewarded in other ways.
To Backward Typist regarding Heat Surge
You wanted me to post when I got my first electric bill after having the heater. It was used for the full month of the billing cycle and my bill went down $10. I run it from around midnight until 8 or 9 am, sometimes I will run it more if I'm to lazy to start a fire and its not that cold outside.
Unfair Practice
Please, please beware of Transcription At Its Best, which is really Synthescribe, a not so stable company. The company will operate and function under different names for a short while, and then will fire everyone the day before payday, and change the way it pays employees.
It's so unfair to her other 6 kids. She should be -
focused on giving them all her love and attention, and doing whatever she can to raise THEM to be healthy, worthwhile adults. I'm sure that's what her mother is trying to do. But now those kids are all going to be in the middle of a big media circus. Their mother is a total laughingstock, and is obviously a narcissistic, self-centered whacko. We taxpayers are going to be paying for those babies' inevitable health problems for years to come, as we already are 2 of her older kids. This attention-seeking celebrity wannabe is a perfect example of milking the welfare system without any regard for the welfare of her own children. She's a real piece of work.
PS: Her implant doctor should lose his license. What he did was grossly negligent.
Snap judgments are unfair. nm
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steps
I agree with you and feel very deeply for this poor child. This woman is hateful, immature, and a dozen other adjectives that I could add, but they just would not change her bad, bad, bad, bad behavior and attitude. Wonder if her husband knows she is trash-talking him online --- would love to here his opinion of this situation --- since she has unilaterally decided to air her dirty laundry in a public format. Who is spitful and immature????
steps
Example of what??? Someone who supports children rather than those who abuse them?
steps
You be gone --- find someting to do rather than supporting this freaks abuse of her husband's 5-year-old child.
steps
If I am a nut for not supporting child abuse, then a nut I am.
steps
Thank you for your warped insight. I do not, in fact have low self esteem --- that belongs to those of you who think that a 5-year-old child deserves this type of abuse.
Maybe your stepdaughters were on to something they saw in you.
steps
better annoying than warped enough to support child abuse.
steps
I don't need pills or booze, but I am not surprised that you do. Child abuse is not okay. I have contacted a moderator to request that they track down this nut job and report her to the authorities in whatever state she lives in. She sounds unbalanced and dangerous, and in my opinion this poor child needs to be protected. They also need to make the child's father aware of the venom this woman is directing at his child.
It sounds to me like this child is simply responding to her bratty behavior and she is the one who needs to be reigned in.
Unlike you, I do not believe that child abuse is acceptable --- most people do not take pills or alcohol to forget that fact, obviously it helps you, though.
take steps
start documenting on a notepad what happens and when. Keep the note you found. definitely contact the police for further documentation, and ask for extra patrols. Maybe they can even "investigate" the possible "friends." If it were me, I'd keep outside porch lights on, and keep a loaded gun in a safe/quickly accessible place (if no small kids in house). There is too much tragedy going on nowadays to ignore this kind of thing. It is NOT something to ignore.
baby steps
Start by throwing away what is broken, stained and full of holes. If I can't throw that away, I make a rag bag and put it in the garage for checking the oil.
start with small steps
It does sound like separation anxiety. I've had this. I start with small steps -- going out and driving around a couple of blocks and then coming back home again. Then I increase the amount of time I am driving little by little. She knows Mom will be back this way and over time has gotten used to my being gone for hours. She had been abused when I got her and was a wreck emotionally so I hope this gives you comfort.
I also keep the atmosphere at home the same when I go out as when I am home -- radio playing, lights on, etc. No drastic changes except for me being gone. My pets like New Age. Puts them right to sleep. (me too sometimes).
If you have an answering machine, call home and just talk to the dog as you would if you were there. Let him hear your voice. He might just think you are in another room, but with your dog he might tear down the doors to get to you so I don't know about this for your circumstances.
I also have a roomy crate near my desk and I keep a pair of slippers near it. I have a couple of cats and a dog. They all argue over who's crate it is, as they think it is their "special place." The door is left open all the time. Often I find them all in there snuggled up together. But this gives them a feeling of a special place whether I am here or not. They have their place, I have mine. I think this helps when I am gone because I often find my dog has dragged her favorite blanket over to the crate while I was gone. My scent is on the slippers and that comforts her.
Also, bringing home a treat helps!
I have a cat who pries the cabinet doors open and curls up inside the frying pans. Now I have an obstacle course of buckets, etc. to climb over as I work at the counter! (If I move them, I forget to put them back until I hear him close the cabinet door behind himself.)
There are more tricks out there somewhere but I can't remember any of them. Hope you find something that works for you. That's a BIG problem in more ways than one!
Some men don't see the little steps that lead to affairs...
What I am seeing that are red flags include...
1) She has chosen to discuss her relationship/marital problems with a married person of the opposite sex - this 100% creates an intimate situation between 2 people that should only exist in the relationship/marriage.
2) She has chosen to discuss her marital problems with her clients - this is not really appropriate client/professional behavior. She is looking for a personal connection with someone.
3) She has accepted a fairly large amount of money from a client given to help her personal situation and not as a professional thank you - this is setting up a deeper intimate relationship. She is looking for a provider.
4) Your husband seems to be filling a need to be important and a hero in someone's life by giving her this money (I agree with hero concept below but sex isn't necessarily the solution) - he is responding to the deeper intimate relationship. He is being the provider.
5) He is mad at you and telling you that you are being stupid about this - he is invested in this relationship enough to defend it.
For every step he takes forward, the relationship has a chance of becoming more serious. As each little step that he takes becomes okay with him, the next step is a little closer and a little more natural. While he may never get up 1 day and say I am going to have an affair, he is about halfway down the road and might not realize it yet.
I strongly suggest talking with him about it. Food and sex is a not a cure for this one. Make sure he knows that you are not comfortable with this and you are both done seeing this gal as a hairdresser.
The FIRM is great. I built 2 steps for it. nm
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Followup to unfair practice and followup
This goes along with my first post. None of my references have ever told me they were contacted. That is just a waste of time and energy. I don't know why these companies lead you on. I would just love to find a stable company.
BAD idea! Terribly BAD idea!
This could not be worse of any idea. People need to worry about their own bodies, not what other women do! This is supposed to be the land of the free, but people are trying to turn it into the "the land of the free as long as you agree with me." It's a medical procedure and no one else's business period! For some women, it's a hard enough decision to make without having other people tell them how they should do it!
If you do not believe in abortion...great, don't have one, but mind your own business and leave other people alone that need/want to have one! Again, it's none of your business what someone else does.
I don't have any children and don't want any. While I always use birth control, that's not 100%, and if it failed, I certainly would get an abortion without hesitation. I much rather have women get abortions than bring a child into the world that they don't want and mistreat or that they can't pay for and stick ME with paying for it! There are enough leaches out there having kid after kid they can't pay for, and we tax payers are footing the bill. Enough is enough already!
How about all you people that but your nose into other people's business and don't want these women to have abortions pay my share of taxes too since you don't mind paying for all of these unwanted children!
Actually, no, I am not taking it now
Just heard back on the market in a new name and thought would tell what I experienced from trying it the first time. Hear only have 15% fat and after that it is throne time- if you can make it there.
anyone taking Yaz ........... sm
anyone taking Yas specifically to treat PMS symptoms??? my doctor gave me three months' worth of Yaz to see if it helps my symptoms. i haven't taken the pill in ages. when i used to take it, i got really bad migraines. i've been doing a little research, and found that people have side effects like nausea, anxiety, weight gain. i know side effects differ from person to person, but wondering what your experience was. i'm not a big pill taker.
thanks
Try taking
vitamin C 500 mg with the iron, it is supposed to help with the iron absorption and help with constipation and nausea as well.
On top of being anemic, I also have psoriasis, so I have my hair falling out (including pubic, lol) and constantly looks like I have extremely dry skin on my face, ears and scalp.
i'm taking it now.
But only for a month so far. I have high cholesterol but way worse triglycerides. I've had no side effects that i can contribute to it definitively; some muscle pain that i'm concerned about, but it could be a recent back injury worsening too...
what i DON'T like is that it is a statin. I understand that statins work really well to achieve the goal usually, but they also have bad side effects, including rhabdomyolysis. I've read a lot too on this class of drugs, and really didn't want to take them again, but for me, i'm at high risk for stroke or heart attack if i can't get my numbers down, so it is the lesser of evils i guess.
My educated opinion is this: if your cholesterol is NOT that high, and overall risk factors are not a real concern, i'd stay away from the drugs, statins in particular. If you do however take a statin, be sure to take the CoQ-10, which helps protect against the cell damage and effects of the statins. High cholesterol alone, in more recent studies, is not that indicative of a future problem. Lack of exercise and high-fat diets put one more at risk than cholesterol elevation. Like i said, without real necessity, i would not take a statin.
You are obviously set on taking
It's really sad...obviously you are not doing that bad, after all your child has a Wii...sounds very selfish to me, but hey...that's just me! Merry Christmas
I do not think that taking out ALL of the...
money from the joint accounts and putting it in one in only her name, as advised above, is acting defensively. You are entitled to your opinion and I to mine, but keep in mind that your children see how you act. That is all I am saying.
taking away
We had my son take verything out of his room, every nail out of the wall, put all his belongings in the garage, paint his room (which looked terrible by the way), and sleep on the floor until he surrendered his stubborness (about three nights on the floor). Then he had to put his room back together again.
This did not cure him, but it let him know that we were more stubborn than he was..
Good luck!
Try taking away something she likes!
I know it sounds harsh, but if you take away something she likes and not give her that until she finally is a "big girl", then she may want to go potty. The other thing, I know how gross this is, but include her in your "potty time", and she may realize "Wow, Mom is a big girl, and I want to be like Mom! It is a tough call, but my daughter went through the same thing. I always got the "I'm too busy!" So, I began asking her all of the time, and finally she went because she didn't want me to ask her especially in front of her brother. She was about 4 1/2! Good luck!
Anyone taking Pamelor?
Doctor started me on one 10 mg a night for sleep but last night woke up at 5 in the morning due to some pain I am having. She said I could go to 2 a night but my question to you is do I have to work the dosage up or do you think the 20 is too much for a second night of taking? Thanks.
I said never again for taking in animal because
right after I had surgery, a Springer Spaniel came to my door. Loving animals I took him in, put flyers out in the neighborhood trying to find owner, called the pound to see if anyone declared missing, put ad in the paper under found animals, nothing-all the calls I got wanted him, did not lose him. I interviewed and hoped I chose the best- he was high energy and me low. It breaks my heart to see strays, feel so sorry and carry dog food in the back of my vehicle to feed in case I come across 1-I have before.
No. Just the motorcade taking
her to jail was driving by a circus that was set up by the side of the road. It was a pretty funny site and Shep was having a field day.
I don't like taking pills either, but
it will be 3 years in Novemeber that I lost my mother suddenly. Within 2 weeks I had to take my daughter to the doctor (family practice with my mother's doc there) and he talked to me at length and suggested antidepressants to at least help get through the holidays. They truely did seem to make a difference. By March I stopped taking them. It does get easier as times goes by but the pain and the missing will always be there. I had such a strong support system with family and friends that I didn't feel the need for grief counseling but a friend of mine met one on one and in a group setting to help with her grief and it truely helped her. Praying for you.
Yep...taking something for that which helps a lot though (sm)
Trouble sleeping, etc. Mostly get a restless feeling during the day...bored, want to do something different, need to think about multiple things at once. Want to hear the TV and work and still daydreaming about other things at the same time!
OMG! I have been taking an "inventory" of my
DVDs and another funny movie I haven't watched in awhile is Airheads with Adam Sandler, Steve Buscemi, Brendan Fraser, and Chris Farley.
At least she's taking responsibility for it...
It's not the ideal situation, but I was having sex when I was 16, so I'm not going to judge her. It could have happened to me. Sadly, she will probably be a much better mom than her older sister! My dog would probably be a better mom than Britney though, so that's not saying much.
I was not married when I had either of my children, and people judged me but oh well. I am an excellent mother and a marriage certificate would not have made me a better mom. I have been married for awhile now, but we waited over 4 years to get married, and that is our choice. Gone are the days when people rushed off to get married because they were pregnant. Sex before marriage has been around since the beginning of time. We are just becoming more accepting of it now and don't demand people get married when they get pregnant. I am personally glad our children will know we didn't get married because we "had to" but because we loved each other so much that we wanted to.
taking a guess...
Witches of Eastwick?
(has a Nicholson-type of sarcasm)
Not taking up for her, but apparently being
mentally challenged, to her it was like when you see someone you know and popping them on the shoulder to say hi. Granted, she actually hit instead of a pop, but take into consideration her mental condition. She was not meaning to hurt you and I am glad it was only a bruise and nothing more serious. Hopefully, mgmt knew her and her family and will get in touch with them.
Anyone taking Wellbutrin?
I've been on Prozac for a while now but don't like the side effects. Does anyone have any experience with Wellbutrin, good or bad?
It's a stat and someone is taking
advantage of your kindheartedness. If your contract defines a stat as anything with ? hours or less TAT and you are asked to return these "regular" reports within the stat TAT, then you should be paid as stats. Just because they weren't stats originally, doesn't mean they can turn them into 1 for you and not pay you.
Perhaps, this will prompt them to reconsider some of their lazy employees/ICs.
I want to thank you for taking the time to
answer my question so thoroughly and giving me good advice.
I wished I had such an understanding landlord like you, but I will try to talk my LL into lowering my rent in these difficult times.
I know that now is the best time to buy a house, I'll look also into this.
Thanks!
so what r u taking her to court for?
You didn't cosign for the vehicle. You didn't loan her the $$ for her electric bill. You didn't want any profit from the business. The only thing I saw you mention was at the end about animal food, etc, but isn't that considered start-up costs of a business?
Sorry, don't mean to make you madder, just confused. 
Thanks for taking the time to research this!
Merry Christmas to you!
your referring to her not taking accountability and
learning from her actions in the past right? thats good. thank you.
i get real nervous when it comes to confrontation. anxiety.
taking matters into your own hands
This is a social problem that does not look like it's going to change any time soon. I had a similar experience when my daughter was in the 4th grade. She's in college now... not promising huh?
Anyhow, I ended up moving 150 miles to a good school district in an affordable neighborhood. Sounds like an oxymoron, but I researched and did what I had to do.
I moved again when I realized the high school she was districted for had a very bad record, not to mention it was almost 2 times overpopulated.
I know this is not an option for most people, but since it was just the 2 of us and I worked for a national, it was the only thing to do.
Both moves were of huge benefit to her intellectualy and emotionally.
If I were you, I would strongly consider home-schooling or moving. Most kids are taught to read in preschool or kindergarten, so I'm assuming your school district must be extremely lacking if they didn't address her reading problem then.
I would also suggest you try to make your voice heard by writing your congressman. This is a political issue that seems to be just danced around at the expense of our children and the future of our country.
But if nothing else, PLEASE spend at least an hour a day on her reading. Take her to the library or book store and let her pick out books she likes so the process won't be such a chore for either of you. Try to make it fun and encourage her.
Sorry for going on so long, but really, the best thing you can do is just do it yourself asap. You can't wait for the government/school system to change.
Just in the last year started taking 1/2 of those
OTC sleep aids - I know, I know you are not supposed to take regulrly but gads!! I have never slept so good - didn't even realize I was not sleeping well - now - age 54 sleeping like a baby every night and never get sleeping during the day, wake up perky - totally a different experience for me!
Just FYI on in-laws dog taking aspirin
My mother-in-law has been giving the dog one aspirin every day for about a year now. It is a bigger size dog, probably about 45 to 50 pounds. The dog definitely has something wrong with its brain because of the way it acts. I worry he will turn on them one day. Anyway, apparently aspirin doesn't kill dogs, at least this one anyway.
That's okay, thanks for taking the time to post.
Also they'll be taking up the WHOLE bed at night!
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Thank you for taking the time to type this!
I am still considering this. I have found a couple of others as well and I thought I would let my daughter choose. I am getting really excited. There will be no fanfare....no music, no flowers (except I will carry a rose and so will my daughter) no extra family. It will be intimate and very meaningful.
I am taking mine early
I turn 62 in January, and I am taking early benefits. I feel I have been working since I started babysitting at the ripe old age of 11, and haven't stopped since. Got my first "real" job at 16, and other than going to college, I have been working most of my life. I don't know what will happen with Social Security over the next 10 years or so, but I want to take what I have now and enjoy it. It is a good little sum of money and will help so much to pay bills, or put something away in the bank. My husband is semi-retired and his health is not that good, and he took his out several years ago when he turned 62 also, and doesn't regret it. It has helped us survive.
Everyone voting for him are just taking him at his word because he sm
isn't experienced in running the country. Ask any OB fan just what he's accomplished and they give you this deer in the headlights look.
At least his rival, Hillary, has a lot behind her in the way of experience. People can say anything.
Haven't you heard the saying? Don't tell me about your labor pains, JUST SHOW ME THE BABY!!!!
Thanks for taking time to respond.
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