Back away now, and do it fast. Then you will find out. I think he is not the one, but you sm
Posted By: back away on 2006-12-26
In Reply to: Need opinion on guy troubles - nl
will learn quickly. (he sounds like a jerk to me).
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Run, run fast and don't look back!!!!
Being a step-mom to kids who have no idea what the meaning of respect is SUCKS. Especially when the father has no interest in teaching them! Been doing it for almost 10 years now, don't put yourself through it. If he doesn't "get it" after this he probably never will, and will never change.
Run away fast from this tramp and don't look back! nm
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Need help fast!
Is there a way to get a certified copy of a birth certificate in a couple days? Other than driving to the county where you were born? I live in California and I have looked at some websites but the fastest I can see is 3-5 days and I need it in like 1-2. Any help is appreciated!
Not so fast!
Your return only equals about "10% or so" assuming that the stock or fund you pick stays flat or goes up in price. If you lose money on the stocks, the 100 bucks they give you at the end may not even get you to break even. You also have to subtract the cost of your trades. 10% a year is a killing in this market.
You can learn to read charts & screen stocks at www.clearstation & www.morningstar.com.
You have to have a strong stomach to be invested in anything other than a passbook savings account right now unless you are in a VERY conservative fund, in which case there is no way you are going to make 10%.
Rule of thumb is the closer you are to retirement, the more conservative the fund has to be. The further out from retirement you are, the more time you have to make up your losses (and there WILL be losses).
So be very careful. I hope you're not planning on day trading.
As fast as I could! nm
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not in the fast lane
It doesn't really matter what lane I'm in, but in fact I hardly ever drive in the fast lane. I always move over for people who want to pass me because I figure, That's the guy who's going to keep me from getting a ticket. The point I'm making is that they ride my butt when they were getting off the freeway anyway. I go to the trouble of moving over, & then I see them in front of me, pulling off at the next exit. Like they couldn't have just gotten off while they were still behind me without having to make the big macho statement, or if they were so bent on passing me, there is normally at LEAST one lane to my left that they are welcome to use, since they are almost always going over the speed limit. And on the rare occasions when I am in the fast lane, if someone is riding me I ALWAYS move over. Always.
Jeez. I didn't expect to have anyone get in my face over such a benign thread.
I'm headed nowhere - fast. Or perhaps to
We had DVR'd it and just fast forwarded
through that part.
Netflix -- fast. Love it.
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Mine also, and I go very fast driving over them
and hold my breath or pray pretty much. Years ago my sister had gone over a bridge traveling to Tennessee just before it collapsed and I never forgot it.
On the news today they said something like 70,000 bridges in the country are in disrepair. I say put our taxes to better use! Do something constructive for a change.
Scary stuff.
I can see that time fast approaching...
well, not without my hubby, but the kids are getting to be moving-out age, and we see less and less of them and have more time to ourselves. I enjoy that. But in the winter, my husband works very long hours. I'm home alone all day, working or doing what I do. I have an active life away from my family and enjoy my friends and community. If I had to, I could live alone, but I really don't want to.
Now, an occasional break from the family life is always good! I do solo backpacking now and then, a weekend or several days at a time. I love living by myself with everything I need on my back. It's a real confidence builder!
No stead-fast or gal or man or whatever, this one has improved
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is there a reason you were in the fast lane?
haha since that was my pet peeve, i had to ask... i mean i may be the one riding your butt if #1) you are going BELOW the posted speed limit or #2) there is NO ONE in the other lanes you are passing!!
and you know... you NEVER know why people are going fast. Sometimes they are just irresponsible, but sometimes they may be heading to somewhere that constitutes an emergency for them you know? not that they should put others in danger but i have learned to come to that conclusion...
With the holidays fast approaching...
I am wondering how your kids found out about Santa. My son has never led us to believe he doesn't believe, although we have wondered since he is in middle school now. I found out that he told a young cousin about the truths of Santa, E. Bunny, etc. My husband and I feel like we should approach him about this, not with the intent of being in trouble, but just to let him know that he shouldn't spoil it for the younger kids. Under the circumstances, I think he said it to be spiteful because he didn't want to go to bed for the tooth fairy to come.
I know as a child I was afraid that the holidays would cease to exist if they found out that I (the youngest) knew the truth. It was my older sibling who finally talked me into spilling the beans so no one had to get up early in the morning. I wonder if it may be a similar circumstance. Normally he is very open and honest with us and asks questions and discusses things that most other kids would find embarrasing, etc. He is a very good kid and I was very surprised to find out that he did this.
It would grow old real fast for me - sm
so I can understand you being annoyed, and no it is not heartless. Is he short on cash? Can he afford to feed himself? Obviously is money is an issue then it is a different story. Were you very close before the divorce or is this new behavior? I presume the GF does not want him there for dinner presuming it is a loneliness issue for him. But as you said he is probably keeping an eye on your mom since he asks about her every day, I would presume the divorce was her idea? Or is he having buyers remorse? I would set some ground rules for dad and tell him as much as you enjoy seeing him, etc, that you need some nights to yourself, and to limit it to maybe 3 days a week, MWF or something like that. So he still gets to see you (and stalk your mom) but not monopolize every evening. Or else starting making things you know your dad dislikes!
Thank goodness for fast forward on DVR! - sm
One word - LAME!!
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
Does anybody know what helps get rid of fever blisters really fast. I just got some and they are
not very nice looking on my lips.
Get her professional help fast. Maybe family counseling. SM
Sometimes it just isn't one person in the family who has a problem. That came out badly, since I didn't mean you or any one in family in particular. Just dynamics of family life.
Best wishes to you. You will need a great deal of strength, but you can all come through this even closer as a family.
LOL! Good suggestion, they would leave you alone fast!...nm
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I'm praying that you get this poor animal to a doctor and fast!
It's your responsibility as Misha's owner to get her medical attention when she needs it. Please do that.
I hope she's okay too.
Slim-Fast here but I'll give ya my support.
Let's keep all each other posted on the progress. I also would like to lose 30 lb.
15 years, no weight gain, I walk a lot, fast.
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Many posts hafta read fast cause they are pulled if
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Classic sign of an abusive is a very , very fast romance - sm
leading to marriage, which it appears you have done. He has successfully isolated you from your family and controls everything you do. He is deciding where you live, what "he" wants to do, work, etc. You don't mentions kids, and I hope you don't have any, but if you do you need to take back some control if you intend to stay in this one-sided marriage. Sounds like you have no say/input at all, it is his way or no way. My DH gives me grief when I visit my family, as do my in-laws, I go anyway. He doesn't like it but he cannot stop me from going. He knows better than to try. He will make my life living hell until I leave, trying to get to stay, but I think only one time did I give in and not go, and boy was I mad at him for quite some time (and myself for giving in). My DH is very passive-aggressive but most of the time I ignore him but other times he gets me all worked up ready to kill him and then he is fine, and I am all mad. Drives me crazy. But after 12 years of this I have learned not to take the bait so much, and have seriously though of kicking him out, though he's refuse to leave as it "is his house" (it is in his name only but we bought it 10 years ago while we were married, so it is every bit mine as his). So if you get to the point when you are sick of his controlling ways, go see a lawyer. I plan to soon myself just to see where I would stand in the event of a divorce. We both have our faults in my marriage and I think it is smart thing to find out what could or could not happen in the event of a divorce. You might want to see what your rights are too, cannot hurt. As for your sister coming, just say, Mary is coming to visit and tough cookies if this bothers you. She has never been here before and I want to see my sister and niece and if you don't like it make yourself scarce while they are here. ---Good luck.
Ima and Ura Hogg, Ophelia Rass, Mike Hunt (say that one fast)
Donald Duck (this was a retarded child) how cruel. Seymore Butts
No fast food. Disgusting. Only locally owned restaurants.
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No fast food. DISgutsing. Only locally owned restaurants.
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Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
nm
fast walk/weight lift/exercise machine only way to tone
nm
Back-to-back black swans that look like (sm)
a giant moustache. My MIL painted it for us and put our last name on it and my DH nailed it to an outside storage room door. It looks ridiculous, and when the kids have other kids over they always ask why we have a giant moustache on our door!
Hayseed was back a few weeks back
But we haven't heard from her since. I miss her too. I hope she's doing okay.
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
water skiing. Fast dictator or slow dictator?
haha!!
Please let us know if you find it...nm
Insert smiley face with crossed fingers here.
How do I find out
where this person has his banking account? I cannot believe a person would just snub their nose at a court action. Had it been the other way around, I am sure I would probably be under the jail as we speak!!
i find that
exercising daily helps and stretching REALLY REALLY helps. sometimes my entire back feels as if i have been beat with a baseball bat. it is hard for anyone to understand unless they have the same condition. also, not eating sugar helps me, especially my joints. i take ibuprofen when i cannot stand it any more and then i take 600 to 800 mg every 3 hours for a couple days. that eases the pain. i do not take any other pain medication.
good luck to you and may you have more and more pain-free days.
cannot find this
Can you possibly e-mail with the info, I cannot access it as given for some reason. Thanks
What will they do when they find out
I would like to think he could find something
nm
Only way to find out if he is just not that into you.
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Just find somebody else, have
the work done, and then send her the pictures of how beautiful it all turned out.
Be sure to tell her you paid a little more with this company, but it was worth it because they were so professional and quick with their service, but she was no "nice" and took such an "interest" in your welfare that you wanted to show her how nicely the project turned out. :oD
When you find out how to
make $$$$ being a beach bum, please let me know!!!!
Can't find that either!
Someone tell me, too. They said it is above where we post.. not seeing it. Sorry. . I'm havin' a bad one!
Hopefully that find the guy but at least..
they found that little girl and got her out of there.
If possible, see if you can find where she's going - sm
outside. Maybe she prefers that material to what's in the litter box. If she prefers dirt, you might try using that in the litter box to see if she'll start using it again. Then if she does, over time you could very gradually add litter to the dirt until it's 100% litter again. You might also try gradually adding kitty litter to the dirt outside where she's going as well, to help speed the transition along. Might not work but then again, who knows? It just might.
The other thing is, it takes a LOT to get the cat-urine smell out of the rug. Cats can smell much more keenly than we can, and it has to be 100% removed. Not easy. Don't use any household cleaners with ammonia in them, that'll just attract her. After thorough scrubbing, you might try something like "Nature's Miracle" to remove the rest of the odor. You could also try putting a small, inexpensive area-rug over that area, just to be SURE she can't smell it. Or even something like that indoor-outdoor fake grass stuff used for wiping your feet on...or anything else a cat might not want to walk on.
If your kitty's an indoor/outdoor kitty, maybe installing a small cat-door might help solve the problem?
One of mine (indoor-only) is the Queen of litterbox avoidance. Never used the rug, but is attracted to linoleum. I started out her rehab by caging her & "crate-training" her like a puppy, and also purchased Dr. Elsey's "Cat-Attract" litter, which is pricey but helped quite a bit.
She finally started using her litter boxes (she has THREE...), but is still inexplicably drawn to linoleum. Luckily there's not much of it in this apt., so I took temptation out of her reach by putting up pet-gates in front of the bathroom (real fun to trip over in the middle of the night, but heck - it works!), and also blocking off the kitchen (where I, as a non-cook, rarely go, anyway.)
The most important thing is to get creative, and to not give up.
This is the only pic I could find
of me in a dress, for comparison. Of course this was 21 years ago, and my hair was different in this picture, but I still think it shows the difference I'm talking about.
If you find any, let me know
I'm 25 and make more money than average college students. I just applied two places for a student loan and was denied. My credit isn't great (some medical bills on there that were past due but have now been paid), but it's not horrible either. My mother's credit is currently worse than mine, so having her cosign would do me no good. I really think companies are making it more difficult to get these loans (as I got one last year when my credit was worse and I made less money). So, I'm stuck trying to work as much as possible to pay for books and tuition myself. No fun. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's tough. I know when I was younger I couldn't get grants because my parents made too much money. Now that they don't include my parents in the calculation, they say I make too much money.
Sorry I don't have great advice! All I can say is research scholarships and apply for them like crazy!!
he may find his own way out, but
just in case you ever run across a poisonous snake and manage to cut his head off, do not reach toward it. There is a "heat sink" reflex and the darn thing can still bite you.
Trying to find someone...
When I first started MTing earlier this year I had corresponded with an MT named Deb out of Florida. We became friends but she had to deal with some personal stuff and in the interim we lost touch. I'm just wondering if anyone knows who I'm talking about? I'm really concerned and would like to know she is okay!
first find out what you
25 years ago is a long time. I would be very clear about what I wanted before I mentioned it. If you want to apologize to your sisters that is one thing, but if you want him to that is another.....
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