At the church I used to attend --
Posted By: MUST READ! on 2009-03-23
In Reply to: For those of you happily married, where did you meet your spouse? sm - LMT
they instituted a "reform program," whereby the associate pastor and elder members of the church agreed to take in single men who were recently paroled. They dressed up and brought them to church every week. They were introduced when they first came, but nothing was mentioned about their "crime life", etc.
My point is, to the newer church goers, these men seemed like perfectly respectable church-going men, all the while they weren't. Please keep this in mind.
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Spiritual in other ways aside from God. Don't attend church.
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I would join a church or church group. SM
I'm sure you will find someone like yourself, who likes to do the things you do, whether friend is male or female.
I'm laughing, because I am not religious fanatic. I do go to place of worship, but believe me, not fanatical.
church, church, courthouse. Married the same man
all 3 times. 
Well my church is a SB church in South Georgia
So maybe you're going to the wrong SB church!
Thank you, Lilly! Unfortunately, I do have to attend with him and the other gentleman
because of the nature of the conference and both of them are the district heads. However, although I do believe he is a very kind and respectable person, I feel a bit too vulnerable at the moment to go it alone, so I contacted an MT I know from the area we are going to and she is going to meet me for dinner that evening and show me some of the shops. This gives me my "out" not to have dinner with them and also to stay within my boundaries.
I am a widow, so these feelings are more to new to me than I can actually express in words, but it has been a long time since I felt that comfortable around a man since my husband. However, as many of you posted, the timing is not right and I will not compromise my integrity as a person. I have faith that God will guide me in the right direction and I am happy, in a way, to know that there is hope that I will feel those "feelings" again with another person, although this is just not the one to be feeling them with.
oh but he did attend 4 yrs of school in Korea
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she got VISA to attend way too late to come.SM
and Brad was great too.....different types of singers/performers....
don't be sore about it....*lol*
Do not do anything else until you attend marriage counseling - sm
You owe it not only to the kids (who did not ask to be born into this) but you owe it to yourselves to seek marriage counseling before just deciding to up and divorce without seeking outside professional help. Until you can say you tried everything under the sun to make it work and can truly walk out the door with no undone and unsaid business with your husband you are not even ready for divorce. Give it a try. I have been down this road before (but for other reasons) and can tell you it turned us around. We are celebrating 25 years this September and have never been happier. Best of luck to you both. 
Daughter wants to attend birthday party
My daughter is 10 and her friend will be 11. Her friend has been to our house numerous times and she is a SWEET girl. HOWEVER, her parents and their home is incredibly dirty. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a neat freak myself but their home is filfthy, as are they. Took their daughter home one day and they came outside, along with one of their younger sons who was in his underwear that looked soiled/brown/gray. Her mother seems nice enough but I get the feeling there is some sort of mental illness going on. Every time I've been around her I can tell she has major hygiene issues, built up plaque on her teeth and dirt under her nails, dirty clothes, etc. I'm not trying to be judgmental; I just don't want to allow my daughter to go to their house. Her friend is more than welcome here. I'm concerned this is going to possibly cause friction with the girls. I've talked with the mother of another friend in the group and she understands where I'm coming from, as she feels the same way. Wondering if any of you may have any suggestions for me. I know the girls are getting older and I'm sure my daughter's friend is realizing that her friends aren't allowed to her house, yet she can visit them. I really feel for her and I wonder how many girls will actually show for her party, yet I don't want to run the risk of my daughter coming home with lice or something.
Do you attend a local state fair in the summer? How far
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I homeschool my daughter, but allow her to attend public school for the SM
social aspects. She is way ahead of her grade academically. Eventually, she will either be homeschooled exclusivelly or I will enroll her in a magnet school or alternative school.
I think in this day and age parents should plan a way for their kids to attend college (sm)
$1000 a month is nothing compared to what it actually takes to raise two kids.
Do you attend any free local concerts in the summer? Are any offered
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What would you all do? My SIL is making my DH attend my nephew's HS grad in Texas this June...sm
We live in Illinois.
He would be taking my youngest son with him also. The total cost of the trip for the two of them would easily be $2000 since my DH does not get paid for taking time off work. If he takes this trip that would mean no vacation for me or my other two kids next year since that's pretty much all we can afford is one vacation a year. She is insisting her only brother (DH) be there at the actual ceremony which is on a Tuesday evening. Then afterwards they plan on going out to dinner to celebrate - no party that would be it.
I would rather we go the following week, drive the entire family and stay the week and celebrate the whole week with them. My son graduates high school in two years and I don't expect her to be at the ceremony for that. We probably wouldn't have enough tickets for her anyway.
DH doesn't have the guts to tell her "No" since she's laying the guilt trip pretty thick.
Do you think we are obligated to go to the ceremony? She has more than enough family members that live over there that could attend (grandparents, aunts, uncles, her other children).
Thanks for any input.
Ours attend local college PT and still live at home. Hard to make ends meet "out there" on
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In a church
with a full catholic mass and I guess what you'd call a traditional receptionist.
In a church...sm
The same church where I was baptized and confirmed and where my kids were baptized and confirmed.
church school
Well, I didn't say the ONLY place to find teachers who care is at a church school, and I certainly don't believe that. I do think your chances of finding them in a church school are a whole lot higher, however. I didn't intend to create a religious argument either. I was genuinely interested in why you would not want your children in a church school.
UPDATE. Mom is at the church
I guess she heard me. LOL.
Get ready for the next battle over the baby. I would love to raise that baby myself. She is adorable.
You could always go through the motions and go to church
to please him. I do that with my family. I respect my family's religion, but I just don't believe in organized religion. If it is only important for him to have you in church and you don't mind, you can always try that. If his issue is that you have faith enough to be a Catholic, that will be a tough road.
Are you looking to hook up with your church guy?
If you REALLY want to leave, do it while he's at work. Call the police and have them assist you.
Yes, definitely!! Call him Church. (nm)
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lol - you are 2 much, church lady!
LMAO
We grew up going to the same church
until we were about 11 or so. He moved and I didn't see him again until my senior year of school when he moved back into our home town. He looked me up and we started dating. We got married when I graduated high school and we will have been married for 36 years in June of this year. I was 19 and he was 21.
I live near this church
and heard on local news the pastor himself is having difficulty with it, whatever that means!
church is a coverup for sm
many of these guys. It still doesn't change the fact that he can and will hurt you! You haven't read about "church people" and pastors beating their wives or murdering their wives? What are you waiting for? My opinion? You do not want out. you say you wnat help but then don't listen. That is why you are in the situation you are in. What do you care what people at church say or if they are for him or you? IT DOES NOT MATTER! GET OUT AND WORRY ABOUT IT LATER!
if you ask a church for help they ask if you are a member
but limit funds to help the needy
I met my husband at church when sm
I was 16 years old and married at 18. I am now 54 and will be married 36 years in July!
Since the Catholic Church
is still firmly entrenched in the Dark Ages, it is no surprise. That poor child, but BRAVO to her parents.
Mine was about 2 yrs. ago in church
We were having communion, the grape juice was being past, as I went to pass it the tray hit the back of a seat in the row ahead of us . Cups , juice & the tray went flying . I sat there numb & couldn't move, I felt everyone staring at me . It all ended up on the carpet & a few upholstered seats ! One of them men serving got splattered, he was wearing a tan suit , I help so bad, felt like leaving . A young man cleaned up the mess & we went on with the service . The church has new carpeting & new seats now & I 'm really careful not to have this happen again .
As a member of a large church I am always around others. We have different sm
groups and we do dinner once a month, shopping once a week (if you can make if of course), movies once a month, etc. Then I attend a Bible study on Wednesdays with another large group of women and we will get together a lot and talk on the phone during the week, etc. This, along with my family, sister, in laws, etc., and I am far from being an introvert working at home doing MT. Been at it for 8 years.
To be honest, and don't take this the wrong way, but as an MT or anyone who works from home, you decide if you want friends, a social life, etc. We work 8 hour days or some of us work 4 hours. That leaves you lunch hour to get together with a friend or 2, after work for dinner, shopping, and a movie, and then weekends for a couple of hours. We all need balance. It is not healthy to be at home all day with no interaction whatsoever. You will begin to suffer if you continue living that way. Trust me, as a former depressed person who suffered from post-partum depression for 4 years (yes, you read that right!), I had to make a decision that I would not exclude myself from my friends and family, would make NEW friends while I was at it, and it has turned me into a very positive and fun person to be with.
I can't tell you how many parties I've hosted since coming out of my depression. My friends call me Rachel Ray with a mix of Paula Deen (I'm leaning more towards Paula), since I LOVE to decorate and entertain and be a blessing to others, ministering to them if I can, lend an ear or a hand if I can and have an "open" home where people can drop by if they need to talk about something. My life has been fantastic since overcoming depression.
I'm not saying all extroverts are depressed, but that was the reason for me.
Good luck.
Westboro Baptist Church. sm
Ladies there is a bunch called Westboro Baptist church that does this sickening protesting and they call themseves christian. They were the group that was going to show up up the Omish school house funerals. This is a "christian" organization. Hannity and Colmes let them come on FAUX and they agreed not to show up at Omish funerals.
no, she's not gonna hook up with church guy
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This guy has to get a clue. He isn't a pastor. He has no church. If he did sm
he'd have members. This guy thinks he's leading, but he's only taking a walk.
I kind of feel sorry for him, though. I am in the ministry. If the people don't support you, you have no ministry. This guy has no support. If he did he wouldn't have had to do what he did. He probably didn't bother telling anyone because these people aren't committed to attending his "church" anyway.
If it were me, I'd cut my losses, pray for him and move on. Don't call the police, just move on.
One of the biggest problems facing the church today is bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness between believers.
I know you probably don't want to hear this - but join a church! sm
I would be homeless and helpless without my church friends/family. They are better to me than my own family.
i received numerous cards and most were from church folks. There are people who care! I wish I had your name and address because I'd send you something special. I'm serious.
It's just so sad. I think sometimes people give their church (sm)
too much power instead of reading their Bible and seeing what they think God actually thinks. Different churches have different opinions and I don't see how a person can just allow the church to make a life decision like that for them.
Our church has WMU/Brotherhood meetings
and every couple of months we switch it up and the guys cook instead of the girls. It's always interesting, and yeah, some do bring buckets, but its fun to see what they make. Last time our pastor made pecan brownies and they were actually really good! (He actually read the directions on the box!)
P.S. WMU -Womans Mission Union
Brotherhood - Men of the church who do missions projects
baked potatoes to church
Wash and cut in half each potato. Wrap in aluminum foil and bake. Leave the foil on. They will stay hot about 2-3 hours out of the oven. I have used this recipe for 100 people. Put the toppings on ice! It is always a hit!
Amen to that sista! Don't ask a SB church for help nm
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
My children have all gone to the private school through our church
anti christian or something, but I really don't know. I believe, perhaps, what the poster meant is that teachers who work in private church operated school settings do so because it is their ministry or calling by God. For me, knowing that my child is in a setting where the teacher loves God, children, and teaching is comforting to me.
If she really loved him, she would bring church to him. She wouldn't go if sm
he didn't want her to go and would respect him. That is just my opinion.
So, it's not so much the church as it is the unannounced knock on the door.
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Darfur.. Many church organiziation has mission
money that goes toward the people of Darfur. They are not overlooked by all.
Do you have friends close by? Joining a church can be very
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Our church is having a "Girl's Night Out" potluck
The men are to bring the main courses & the ladies will bring the deserts . DH says he will go by KFC & pick up a bucket of chicken or bring bread but he isn't cooking ! Has your church or organization done this ? How was it ? Were there some unique dishes brought ? I told him I have some easy to make dishes but he said "I'm not cooking".
Volunteering. Church. Political parties.
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Married long time ago in church. SM
They don't care if you convert. You just have to sign paper stating the children will be brought up Catholic.
The bride and groom must also attend classes before the wedding.
I never heard of any of the other things mentioned. That must be some conservative church.
hold up...are you sure this is a Roman Catholic Church?...
First, let me state I have utmost respect for my faith and priests but they cannot force your daughter to convert...it is against the Roman Catholic faith to do so (prosyletizing). Also, in regard to all the other issues that you mentioned, any so-called "sinful activities" that may or may not have gone prior to marriage, these are reserved only for the confessional and not for the premarital screening process. The priest has no right to ask for "penitence" or to know their secrets. I think you may be onto something; my suggestion is to contact the archdiocese this priest lives in and calmly state your case without passion; he may have had other complaints against him. A wedding day should be a sacred occasion filled with joy and i hope you can resolve this issue.
I knew some ladies from my church when I was in high school
that used to meet at the church to quilt. They would auction off the quilts when they were done with them and actually used the money to help in the community with families in need and they used some of it for a scholarship for their high schoolers going off to college.
I have seen some sell them at craft fairs and stuff. I never really got into that much of it though I used to help the church ladies once in a while.
I tried to donote to a local church's thrift store...
I had a small freezer and an entertainment center. When I went in the store and told the guy what I had he barked, "No!" he never even looked at me. When I went back out to my truck, a man asked if I was willing to sell him the freezer. He had been waiting for them to take it in the store to buy it, so I just "donated" it to him, but I could not believe how rude the person inside was. I would have been happy with a smile and a "No thank you."
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