At risk of being bashed, try to make friends with SM
Posted By: Sally Forth on 2009-05-18
In Reply to: How do you get your neighbor to keep the music down - frustrated beyond all recognition
the kid. If he is bully, he is probably sad and scared. I don't know, just go by and talk to him. Try to be his friend. I know this sounds crazy, but going the other route, police, yelling, I don't know what, just won't help.
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just because your risk diminishes doesn't mean you aren't still at risk!
why does it seem worthless to quit? what if you have a CHANCE of living longer?? you may be diagnosed with cancer still, but it may be sooner than later. Your argument makes no sense, to say that no one is affected by your second hand smoke do you ONLY SMOKE ALONE IN YOUR HOME and nobody visits you ever? if you EVER smoke in public, someone is affected. i can't believe I'm counseling someone who has smoked for longer than i have been alive. i mean that's just my opinion, you are going to do what you want, it's not my business, but if you enjoy smoking and dont care if you die sooner than later, continue on.
That's a pretty dog and I'm sorry you got bashed
I know there's zillions of folks that think all dogs and kids should run free doing whatever they darn please 24/7, and they all seemed to have jumped all over you. But I say, thank you for not being one of those people and training your dog - and loving him too!
Yes, go now--don't risk your life any further! nm
......
and at the risk of sounding ignorant
isn't it true when one gets a vaccine, they are actually receiving some of the disease itself?....remembering back to smallpox vaccinations.......so are they going to vaccinate the girls by giving them a tad of cancer? Really, I hate sounding ignorant but.......
Personally I think the women of the USA, Texas right now especially, should BE SCREAMING THEIR HEADS OFF about this.............That Rick Perry dude - says he sees this vaccination no different than a polio vaccination.....HOW DARE THEY when they know not much about this new drug/vaccination.........remember all the new-ish drugs that have been recalled and lawsuits abound? Vioxx, Bextra, Accutane, hmmmmm....tons more......
Texas article below:
http://www.forbes.com/forbeslife/health/feeds/hscout/2007/02/03/hscout601622.html
At the risk of sounding very rude, I think you are the one who
needs to step away. This is a mother who wants to help her son. I don't care how old my son gets I'm here for him. If I live to be 102 and he's 81 and he needs my help, he'll get it. I'll always be his mama and that's what mama's do. They help their kids. My children are now 25 and 26 and I would turn myself inside out to help them if they needed it. That's called love. 
Are you prepared to list every risk
How far do you want it to go? Fill out a huge form (that they paid someone to design instead of paying claims), that lists every supposedly avoidable risk imaginable, including amusement park rides, occasional bowling, how often and when you take a walk, if you might be a passenger on the back of someone's motorcycle, etc. Then they can spy on you (instead of paying claims) or encourage your fellow employees to be whistle blowers, catch you doing something that you said you wouldn't do, and deny your insurance! How often do you eat junk food - are you prepared to be completely honest and accurately estimate how often you intend to do that? How often do you exercise - and what if you say you will but for some reason don't? Prepare to lose your coverage over it because they can prove you a liar deliberately cheating the system. That's what this is coming to!
If you go off it suddenly, risk of suicide goes up. But,
It made life worth living again.
honestly, I would risk it and play dumb. sm
I can only say that because this is anonymous. I can't do that in my case because what I have will not go away. However, I think she was haphazardly diagnosed and I would not just accept the consequences of someone else's negligence. I would skip listing that doc and list my prior doc and if it ever came up I would say I didn't know I was diagnosed with it.
The risk of suicide is greater in people with depression anyway sm
I personally have suffered from depression for most of my life, and the only time I feel "normal" is when I am on some kind of antidepressant. It takes time and a patient understanding doctor to work with you until you are on the right one at the right dosage, but I strongly feel that it is irresponsible and dangerous to tell someone not to take an antidepressant if they need it. You don't go telling diabetics that they shouldn't take insulin because people taking it are more likely to have high blood sugar do you? Makes about as much sense to me
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Call antique dealer. Why risk making it worse.
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When you have friends - it's good. But when you don't have friends it's
REALLY GOOD!!!
I swear, I have this one friend who just gets mad at me stupid stuff. I told her a few weeks ago that I could probably go out this sat. but now I can't make it (just dinner). So, I emailed her and told her I can't go. She's upset. Thinks I should not have made plans in the first place. Well, things come up.
Why are people (women) so catty? Immature?
Are there any women out there who can: Forgive, understand, not get offended because I am not perfect? If so, I'd like to meet you. I highly doubt she exists though.
At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
x
Friends of Our's..
are separating and might end up divorced uggg.
They are the couple that we went on our summer vacation with. They have no kids luckily.
SHE is unhappy and has been since June I guess. He has been talking to hubby about it all on MSN Messenger and asking for advice. It has to do with her Religion, she goes to the church where they meet in homes and she wears skirts. I can't think of what she calls it but he isn't into that Religion and refuses to go to church with her and that is causing problems.
Anyway, she won't be happy unless she finds a guy in her church, that way, they will go together, ya know?
I feel bad for them but it might be for the best I don't know.
DH saw it with friends and they all
loved it. He reports it is very good and very gory. Critics hated it, but it is raking in the money because fans love it. It is more of a guy movie, but that doesn't mean a lot of us gals won't like it too. DH and his friends all researched the subject before going, they were that excited.
ooh, I never said he and I were friends...
I tried being *friends* with him for about 8-9 years after but he was never my friend (nor his own friend) - but with passive-aggressives - if they don't want to change, forget about them *cooperating* - WE EVEN DID THERAPY prior to the divorce but it was evident to the therapist that he was lying and playing games.....power tripping games too.
No, what I meant is he is in a better place today in HIS life, kids are doing their thing and communicating with both parents, and my life is great because I'm FREE....for me, it's all about freedom and having nobody trying to *control* me.
Good luck in your choices, they are not easy choices by any stretch of the imagination....
Where are her friends?
This young woman is in pain and is hurting. She needs help. Where are her friends? Instead of demonizing her, her mother, K-Fed, father - is he in the picture - former pastor, someone should be with her and get her to go into intensive private therapy. The girl is melting down in front of the world and no one is trying to help her.
I don't condone illegal drug use or misuse of legal drugs, but I really don't care if her problems were caused by drugs or something else. She is a human being in pain and needs help, not ridicule or judgment.
Where are Nicole, Paris, Lindsay, all the blondettes were ready to party with her in order to get their own picture in the tabloids? Where are the publicity agents, talent agents, etc., who made thousands of dollars off Britney's career? Someone needs to step up to the plate for her.
I should add that Pam and I were friends (sm)
not just in Bunco but had gone many places together, spent lots of time at each other's homes, had our children play together, etc.
best friends?
How many of you have bonded with a person...ala best friend...out of your immediate family?...to the point where you trust this person more so than a family member?
I have friends..not close...I'm close to only my sister...
I know one acquaintance that spends all her time with her best friend...I mean they have morning coffee together..take family trips..am and pm visits...I don't know that I could be that close to someone without it bugging me abit even though she was a good friend...
Confusing maybe..just thought I'd throw it out there..its a thought I had...
If they are your friends
Then they will take your feelings into consideration also. If you don't want to hang out, you don't want to hang out, no harm in that.
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be allowed to live there.
haha
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be chosen to live there.
haha
yes he does and he says his friends liked it
because he thinks his teeth look like hers now. It's my issue not his, thank goodness!!!
I guess it's because his teeth don't cascade naturally. He did have a palatial expander, which may have something to do with it.
Friends....sm
I have 3 friends who have been wonderful over the years. One I have known nearly my whole life, one for almost 20 years and the other for about 10 years. Then I have my sister and 2 female cousins who are absolutely 3 of my most favorite people in the entire world. I am truly blessed.
friends
My sister is still very good friends with her best friend from high school and it is cool to see them get so old. I am the older sister and in my head they were goofy, skinny teenagers, and now they have all these kids and it is amazing. Me and my best friend in high school did not last past me having a baby. She never married and I guess she felt like we did not have anything to talk about anymore.
Friends
I've run into quite a few of these type of individuals through the years. Oftentimes, it turned out to be a family member of the boss, owner, etc., or someone who got the job through a friend, OR someone who just happens to look good. It seems that experience and talent/ability are not the qualities that get the job nowadays.
I agree for friends
I have a very good friend who lives across the street and she's welcome to come over whenever she wants. We usually just knock and go right in. I do look out the window though if the doorbell rings and I usually don't answer it if it's someone I don't know.
My kids all believe, even though some of their friends say otherwise.
It probably helps that they are "free thinkers." They have their own thoughts and opinions and aren't usually swayed by others. Also, one of them is pretty popular in his school and very much a leader there, so many of the kids believe what he has to say over a lot of the other kids, even about Santa!
I think I've gone out of my way to teach my kids not to follow others' belief patterns just for the sake of being like everyone else. They really don't care much if they stand out, and it's actually worked to their advantage. They are often looked up to because they're strong enough to be different. :)
By the way, they feel sorry for the kids who don't believe in Santa.
did you accept it and are you friends?
mk
Well, she can't just not let her child have friends over! (sm)
That's just not realistic. So the whole family should just hide in their house because of her husband's issues? I have to disagree with that.
tell us about your furry friends.
We would love to hear!
No famous HS friends, but...
my FIL worked as a security guard for several Elvis Presley's Memphis events. He was a sheriff department reserve officer and they were chosen regularly for Elvis' appearances.
My former step-mother owned a night club in Port Arthur, Texas, where Janis Joplin and her band played regularly...before she was famous.
My parents assembled the dryers/heaters that cleaned up the radiation spilled at the Three Mile Island accident in the seventies.
oh, he realizes he does it, and he does not do that to his friends, right?
nm
One of my very best friends had this done and is so very happy she did.
She had a really horrible time before the ablation, including chronic anemia. (Her hemoglobin had fallen to 5.4 at one point!)
She had this done last year and says it's the best decision she ever made. The procedure wasn't bad, recovery was quick, and she's had no problems, and no periods, since then.
Losing friends
When I lost my first one (my cat BB) I tried to keep him hanging on as long as possible but when I talked to him about it he let me know he wanted me to let him go and I held him when I took him to the vet and he purred the whole time. He knew he didn't have to suffer any more. The really hard stuff only lasts for 3 days, then you feel better every day. It's lots easier after you get the ashes back, you feel like they're home. On my hearth I have 4 late cats, 1 late husband, 1 late brother-in-law and my late mother. I never really feel like they're gone. I feel for you, hang in there.
Family and friends
Thanks for understanding. I agree. I have found that family is not necessarily blood. They say blood is thicker than water? I say blood could equal dysfunction. The real family we have are those we choose ourselves and who love us in return. Your peaceful Christmas with you husband and your friends sound like what Christmas is all about, not the other stuff. Thanks for reminding me Christmas can be peaceful and warm.
This is why I have mostly male friends.
I really hope you don't take too much into the mean ones and listen to the positive input.
Walk a mile in someone else's moccasins, people...
I didn't but my son and some of his friends did.
I am going to try to record it since my son won't be home from school when it airs. I talked to another mom and she is going to record it as well. Hopefully one of will succeed.
We are going to the dog track with friends. sm
we have been doing this for years. Only spend a couple of dollars on each race (we really don't know what we are doing LOL) and then we play the slots. A couple of years ago I hit $2000.00 on "The Big Cheese". We only go once or twice a year so that makes it even more fun.
Good friends sm
Believe me when I say this, I have all my life been a giver and I always end up getting hurt in the longrun. The only friend you should be totally devoted to is YOU. Be your own best friend. Even if you don't have money, do something nice for yourself and you'll feel better.The best things in life really are free, a brisk walk, a hot shower or tub, etc. I have a hard time as well but never as much as when a supposedly good friend betrays me. I know if I take care of ME, at least one person is grateful, ME. Some of my worst best friends came from church, go figure! Be nice to yourself and the rest will follow. You are not alone with the way you feel, just tell yourself this too will pass and think of the saying that goes, "I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes; then I met a man with no feet." You will be okay, try to let it pass, don't hurt yourself, please, we need all the MT's we can get!!
My friends all went to the fireworks at the - sm
Ferry Building on the waterfront last night. I was tempted to go, but honestly don't like being around ONE drunk, let alone a quarter-million of 'em! So instead I stayed home and worked late into the night to get as much as possible done. Then today I slept 'til noon, and then went for a long skate all over town. Went to the 4-story parking-structure where I used to work, and took advantage of its emptiness. I skated up all the ramps to the top floor(the "workout" part), and then turned back around, got into a tuck, and zoomed down all four floors non-stop. (The FUN part.) What a blast! I love parking structures..........
:)
Mom called friends?..........who are these
xx
Never said you didn't have friends
I wasn't condemning anyone and certainly didn't mean to imply you didn't have good friends. But living with someone is different; when you have the flu, do your friends stay with you overnight and wait on you, sit around watching TV with you, etc?
It's funny, actually, because I just typed up some guy who had a closed head injury with a prolonged confusional state and was separated from his wife. They couldn't let him go home unless he had someone there to watch him all weekend. Guess who he's going home with? One of his friends? Nope. His wife.
I have some friends who adopted 2 of them;
The more I see them, the more I like them. If I had room for a dog, I'd consider a retired racing greyhound!
We go every New Years with friends
and occasionally once more during the year, about a 2 hour drive. For New Years we get a package deal that includes dinner, hotel, and some tokens. A few years back I hit $2000.00. I have to admit that was fabulous. Haven't won anything like that since, but I am sure we will be going again this New Years. Thay also have a dog track and we also bet on each race. Nothing more than $2.00 on each race cuz we dont have a clue what we are doing, but that is fun also. I pick the dog by his/her name.
very displeased with 2 of my friends right now
We all work for the same company. Our employer offers three types of employment: Full-time, part-time and on-call. Well, work has been low and the on-call gals have been asked to halt production and allow those of us full and part-timers to meet our quota. They know I work full time, as I must, being the sole-provider for my family. They both have husbands and only work on-call for spending money. So, of course, I ran out of work today.
Friend number one calls and tells me she's working, asking me to help her listen to a blank (which she does multiple times throughout every day.) I don't mind giving her blank a listen, I truly don't because she needs the help. I asked her why she was working, knowing work was low, and she stated to me that with the holidays coming up she needs a much larger paycheck this next time around. ARRGHH!
I already talked to our supervisor about the two of them. I feel that since we are friends, I should not have to be the one to tell them that they are taking food off my plate. I'm just really mad that they are both doing this!! I know there's no solution to this, I just really needed to vent! Thanks.
our friends the carnivores
Dogs can eat raw bones, including raw chicken bones, (but not the legs as they splinter even raw) beef marrow bones are good too. Freeze them and serve them outside because they stink as they age. Also make sure that they either eat them or you throw them out as they will attract wildlife and cannot lay around outside.
Raw food is so much better than corn (the main ingredient in dog food). Their coats will be shiny, their teeth clean, and they will love you too.
Note: I do have a dog now that can't have bones that she cannot eat in ten minutes because they are so good and wonderful that she has a nasty personality change and gets protective of them. Growling at everybody over the bone pretty much nixes the treat.
Drugs v. Friends.
It is hard to say how long it lasted. I would think that this was "the year" & then have another period. Probably 3 yrs. During which I was an angry, emotional wreck but was so "inside" of the experience I couldn't really see what was happening. I lost a lot of friends. Effexor helped me a lot, but didn't start until late in the game. Wish I'd tried it sooner. Had talked to one doc about BCPs, but as my symptoms were more emotional than physical, did not seem this would be likely to help.
Thanks. My friends are very supportive (sm)
but my dad just told me I couldn't use his minivan for my move because he didn't want to be involved. He's loaning my DH money to get out of debt though. Family is funny.
I'm 29 and still friends with a lot of girls from HS
and most of us know how to sew, cook, bake, etc. We learned it in Junior High and High School. I have a couple friends who sew their Halloween costumes every year and they're awesome at it!! I know the basic stuff, but prefer to only sew by hand - I hate sewing machines! So, I don't think it's necessarily a generation thing, maybe more of a regional thing. I grew up and still live in the Midwest (just north of KC). They also still teach Home Ec in schools here.
How many REALLY good friends do you have?
I have 2 but I'm kind of shy and keep to myself. I have 2 girlfriends I could confide anything to but that's it, I'm not much of a social butterfly. Is that abnormal?
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