As an active dieter, you officially have my pity! (But you will have a small butt than me).....sm
Posted By: Cyndiee on 2009-03-03
In Reply to: I am having a South Beach pizza and putting some fat free - PITY ME, PLEASE!
The salmon cakes sound so yummy, love seafood, I usually make crab cakes, will try the salmon, do you make it essentially the same way? thanks!
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I'm officially depressed
If I made $80,000/year , I would think I was rich. . I am single but only make about 19,000 per year - thank God my child is out on her own.
I officially gave up this year
I pitched my seeds. I can't grow them either. It is so frustrating!
Have pity! I'm almost 60, LOL!
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I do pity you...sm
It sucks when you have a parent who has chosen to put other things/people before their children.
I don't want to dissuade you from spending time with him. I mean forgiveness is important. But then again he didn't feel guilty about leaving for his "job" and not coming home to see his family for long periods of time. So you kind of feel like why should I feel guilty when he didn't? It is up to you if you want to see him more than the holidays and b-days.
My dad has chosen another family over his family. I am 31 years old and my parents divorced this year because my dad was running around. Well according to bank statements he is paying not only the woman's bills but is paying her daughter's car note and her son's electric bill, etc. Anything they want they got it. This woman's kids are in their 20s. I have to work to pay my car note and I am his own daughter. Which I realize it isn't his place anyways. But it is the principal. He has NEVER payed anything for me and I mean NOTHING. He has never given me money at all. My mom has helped me when I needed it but not him. But yet he can give them anything. He doesn't know I have seen those bank statements so he doesn't know what I know. It kind of makes it hard to want to be around him when I know what he does for them and has never done for me or my sister.
I kind of know where you are coming from in that I don't specifically care to be around my dad either and sometimes I feel guilty about it. But then again does he feel guilty for what he is doing? Apparently not.
Pity the son's mom as well but not the "boy"
and oh, PS: The "girl" could have closed her legs. Grrr! We are supposed to be "smarter" than that - "NO!"
I was the same age when I became active - sm
and slept with my boyfriend. My mom always thought it was my college boyfriend and I never corrected that assumption. I think I just did it because the hormones were raging more than anything, your daughter is most likely going through the same thing. My mom also asked me to wait until I got married, I told her pointblank that was not going to happen (I was 14 during that conversation but already a horny girl); plus I wanted to live with my future husband to hopefully avoid divorce (so far so good on that, and yes I did live with my DH for about 8 months before we got married). I also went out with plenty of losers. My parents were smart about it, as you appear to be doing, though demanding he get a checkup and HIV test may be a bit too far, plus he will just tell you to jump in a lake probably. From the sounds of it you would not have been happy if the guy was a freshman at Harvard. You knew she'd have sex sometime and assumed she would wait, big mistake. If that is what you did, great, or if you wish you had and did not and regreted it, so be it, you cannot live through your daughter. The only thing I have asked of my kids is to wait until after they graduate high school (that is what I did as the guys had very big mouths and have to brag); now if they don't that is their business and they will have to live with the consequences/rep they get, whatever. I hope they heed my advice but I won't freak out if they don't. As for taking her to the ob/gyn, that is a great idea though. They say to start at about 16 I think anyway, whether or not sexually active. I took myself when I was 17 and still in high school to get on the pill (did not ask parents/mom on that, did it on my own; drove over state lines to do it too). I had the hots for my on and off boyfriend and thought on prom night we'd "do it". Never happened, but that is fine. There is probably a lot she does that you don't know about no matter how close you are. I was very close to my mom but believe me she did not know everything. Eventually she will wise up about the boyfriend, especially if she has plans to do to college. Just try to chill out some and take it easy. Good luck.
Not too much, but I would have been more active.
I've actually done pretty much everything that I've wanted to do to this point. But I wish I had been more active and kept the weight off all along rather than struggling to lose 70 pounds in my 40s. I should have been out riding my bike, hiking on trails, the things I love to do now.
The one thing that I did at age 45, I think I would have done sooner in life. I had a breast reduction and went from a DDD/E cup to a C. Now being active is much easier, because I'm not carrying around the big girls lashed to my shoulders. LOL
Is your hubby active?
What I mean is he involved in outside interests clubs,volunteer ,maybe a hobby? I know a lot of yall here are still working fulltime, but there will come that day when you and hubby will be together all day side by side!! just wish mine would find an outside interest but he finds something wrong with any suggestion so I have quit saying anything he loves to stay at home.
For my grandmother, who is still active but
on a limited income I give her all occasion cards and stamps. She has told my mother many times what a great help they are to her.
If they are active in their community, then why
are you saying in quotations they are showing the children off? I think this speaks a lot for the way you are feeling towards them or her and it seems to me maybe she loves them and wants to let people know her grandchildren also. As a child I had to go spend time at my great aunt and uncle's house and they did not even have a television, only farm books, absolutely nothing for kids- we were not told we would do cookies. We went and said nothing- we were children but a little bit older than yours now. Why do you not send them a care gift for there, things they might enjoy doing on their own so their grandparents might also get time with them?
And I guess you never have a weak moment and wallowed in your own self-pity.
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My son is 15 and just recently became sexually active... SM
Some of you may remember my posting a few weeks back about him. Anyway, I just found out that he has been having sex with his girlfriend. And get this! She is the same age as him, but was by far not a virgin when they started going together. I have always, always, ALWAYS try to remain calm and encourage my son to talk to me no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. And let me tell you, I feel the same as you -- sick to my stomach. When I found out he was having sex, I felt like someone punched me in the gut! I raised him in church, taught him to wait for marriage for sex, that sex is best shared with someone you are in love with, sex should not be had casually. Didn't matter. Before I found out that he was sexually active, I had the "sex talk" with him again just to reiterate a few of the finer points and I talked about waiting for marriage or at the very least, love. He actually laughed at me and said "mom, I don't know anyone - boy or girl - that is waiting until they get married."
How I found out that my son was having sex was I was going through his room because I had reason to believe he was smoking pot. I found two joints and a box of condoms in one of his dresser drawers. Here's how I handled it. I confronted him with the pot and grounded his behind for a month. He also had to take a drug test which was negative (still baffles me, I guess I caught him before he tried it). With the condoms, I simply said "I'm going to give these back to you because I appreciate the fact that if you are having sex, you are at least being smart about it. Please don't do anything stupid."
I left it at that until I had another opening and then I told him how girls get pregnant sometimes on purpose, sometimes out of ignorance of birth controls. I've talked about STDs and HIV and how not only can unprotected sex will make him a father, a responsibility he is not near ready for, but it can also be an eventual death sentence. Every time we talk and I feel like I have an opening, I talk about safe sex and our moral and religious beliefs on sex.
I figure that is all I can do. I can't follow him around every day, on every date. And the truth is, I didn't wait until I was married. My mom said I would go to heck for having premarital sex and hellfire and eternal damnation didn't stop me from having sex.
The only advice I can give you is meet it head on. Don't act hysterical. Just approach straight-forward. She's having sex. It doesn't matter how you feel about it now. She's having it. Now your best course of action is to make sure she's smart and she protects herself. We live in a world where we have to balance our morality with practicality. It sucks, but that's the way it is.
Anyway, your not alone sister! Little comfort, I know.
Not trying to start a pity party, but today is the anniversary of my son's death, just very sad.
My son died 21 years ago today. I just really miss him. I honestly thought the pain would lessen over the years. On a happy note, today is my daughter's 20th birthday, and tomorrow is my son's 18th birthday. When they were little, I was busy taking care of them and planning their birthday party and that seemed to help with the grief and sadness. Now that they are older that has changed. This too shall pass. Thanks for "listening".
If you feel good, like how you look in and out of your clothes, and are active, be
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My husband is a runner and is very active in his track club.
He drives me a little crazy, because it's nothing for him to run 10-miles for a "simple" workout. But he does a lot with the club by setting up races, some of which benefit charities. And he's very good, by the way. He's finished well in national track meets. He's also the treasurer for our son's boy scout troop. I'm an assistant scoutmaster and do all of the outside stuff with the kids. Hubby HATES camping, hiking, backpacking. But that's the stuff for me! Our interests overlap in a few areas, but there have been times that we even take separate vacations. (Lots of people gasp at that.) But, occasionally, we can combine them. He's running in Maine next year, and I know that there is a river that passes in front of our hotel. I'm bringing my kayak! He can run all he wants! :)
Sorry to butt in on your conversation...
But, I have very severe muscle pain and twitching and have been very interested in trying biofeedback to try to relax the muscles when they cramp. Can you tell me how/where you learned this?
Thanks!
Count my butt in too!
I'm in Iowa and it's hard to find atheists who will come out of the closet here.
You are working your butt off...
so I don't see how you could possibly fit anymore working hours into your day. Financial gurus usually say cut back on something or sell something. Only you know if that is possible or not.
However, I would just say there is no shame in asking for help, be it counseling, medicaid, food stamps, like someone mentioned church or charities, food banks, etc. You are hardworking and having been paying into the system. Why not ask for help until you can get back on your feet?
Sending (((hugs))) and prayers for you and your family.
All I can say is stay on her butt as long
as you have to. I started smoking when I was 15 and I wish someone would have stopped me cause quitting was the hardest thing to do in my life! Honestly, smoking takes over a person's life and I read once that they compare cigarette addiction to being as strong as heroin addiction. I believe it.
By the way, she was probably just ripping off the filter to make the cigarette stronger. I remember trying that a couple of times.
So sorry to be such a big pain in the butt. I'm the gal lwho sm
lost 2 family members within 10 minutes of each other Monday night. I'm suffering from severe depression right now. Can't function. Called insurance to see what I could do about psychiatric help - they gave me 4 different numbers, and none of them can see me before May or June! Can you believe it? Even when I tell them about my suffering. It doesn't matter. haha Actually, it isn't even close to funny.
The only other option I have is my GYN doc. I don't have a family physician as he retired and I never looked for another one. So, I went through the phone book, called 2 FP docs and they can't see me either for a while. I need help right now, I believe. Would this warrant and ER visit, you think? It's embarrassing, but I can't function - I took my house phone to my son's baseball game on Tuesday thinking I grabbed my cell. I went out to lunch with a friend yesterday afternoon. Upon leaving the restaurant 2 HOURS LATER I could not find my keys. Told me friend, "Oh well, I guess I left them in the car! Hopefully I didn't lock them in there!" What happened next floored me and my friend. My car was still running! Not only did I leave the keys in the car, I DIDN'T EVEN TURN THE FRIGGIN THING OFF!!
I cried and cried. I have 2 small children at home and I am a little concerned. My husband is pretty much useless. He didn't even take a day off from work. It took him 30 minutes to get out of bed the night of that dreadful phone call. I'm pretty much sick of him too right now.
What would you do? Please help me.
The first and last ones are butt-ugly, but the black
It is not a tooma. (its a badonka donk butt)
sdf
you need to keep your butt muscles tight while sitting
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Warren Butt, MD is a very good proctologist
Working my butt off, all my docs went nuts -sm
have about 180 minutes of dictation to do.......interuptions galore over the weekend so hard to work! Hope to watch the game though, we will see, definitely watching half-time as I love Tom Petty and have since I was 12! (so 30 years). Cannot wait for that especially since not sure if I will go to see him on his upcoming tour as he is coming to my area on a Sunday and kids want to go too, but they would have school the next day and the show is about 90 minutes away from me. So not sure what I am going to do yet.
Well, butter my butt and call me a biscuit - sm
All this time I thought they were the same thing because at the roadside stand it said "cracklin pork", so I just thought it must be pork skins like I see in the store (and yes, they are with the potato chips). Guess this AL transplant has not even known there was a difference. Thanks for clearing that up. All I know is I cannot stand the sight or smell of either of them.
It is rude to ask someone if they are married. If they offer fine, if not, butt out. SM
Being married does not justify a person's worth, neither does having or not having kids. If you are happy, that is all that matters.
Don't feel bad, I had a 30 year miserable marriage and only stayed married for the sake of my daughter.
I'm in a ten year long relationship with a special man, but I will say, if anything happens to this relationship, there will not be another. Too much weird stuff out there.
excuse all the typo's very tired, working my butt - sm
of to try not to sink and it is really wearing me out.
Not to butt in but what's great about green bean casserole?
I made it once and it went in the garbage. It was horrible. Every year I tell hubby I'm going to try it again (jokingly of course) and he always says "The h--- you will!!!"
So much for that.
Sandra Bernhard, one of Madonna's good friends, and butt ugly, too?!! nm
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Pity Party going on here. Head cold, stuffed up ears, cough, whaa! whaa ! whaa!
I have been working 7 hours so far today and have managed to type about 700 lines. Spending more time with hands reaching for kleenex and/or sanitizer. I HATE a cold.
Okay, nuff said I will shut up and suffer in silence.
Have a good one.
You can ask if it is small
enough to do without anesthesia, and hopefully your dentist has a good idea of the cavity's size and can judge that for you. Without anesthesia there is some heat and pressure and I guess there was slight pain.
Some dentists are extremely good at giving the shots and it's not bad at all.
I'm sorry you have your first cavity. I was in my 20s myself. Just don't wait on getting it fixed and you'll just have a small filling that hopefully won't give you any problems for 20 years or more.
What about her 2 small children?
That is what really bugs me about her and her behavior. What kind of role model is this for her children?? Just irks me to death what she has been doing. I do not care that she has a nanny or someone watching those kids. Why did she have them????? if all she wanted to do was party and act like a spoiled brat?
For that small amount, can't you take
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We have a small one and really enjoy it.
I don't think the taste is affected at all.
Small prime rib
Go onto Food Network and see this recipe Prime Rib with Shoe String Fries with Cabrales Blue Cheese Dip by Bobby Flay. I followed the Prime Rib and it was wonderful. I did put some crushed garlic on the outside as well as the garlic pieces inside. Got more compliments from my guests.
Good luck
No it's not really. Small prey will set
off the prey drive in some dogs, and it's often a breed trait. But all dogs should be socialized to children. While cats should be kept inside IMO, the dogs shouldn't be running loose either, and the dogs are upsetting the balance that had previously existed. The parents obviously aren't set up to contain dogs. So the dog owner should offer to put up a fence that will contain her dogs (and those underground electrical fences won't work due to the cats being able to enter the area). If she can't do that or the parents don't want a fence, then she is very, very wrong to be dropping her dogs off at her parent's house. She's responsible for the dogs, not her parents.
Small Pleasures....
ok, let's have a positive poll for a new perspective here!
What little thing do you do that brightens your day, whether it's every day or just when you can? A favorite routine, a little touch of color at your desk, whatever.
Small world -
I actually grew up in the village of Catskill. I lived in Albany for a while, but am now near Rochester. Very cool.
Unfortunately the towers are too small
for the big cat and I just can't imagine building him a custom play tower. It would take up the whole living room!! I do have this thing that is like a pole with a bunch of arms sticking out with little balls tied to them. They love that.
Even if I started out small
do you think I would need all that legal stuff - licenses, health inspections? At first I was hoping to make money "under the table" so to speak. I don't want to be a large corporation because it would be just me baking so don't think I could handle that much.
Really small world.
I have friends who live in Cabot, one of whom I believe is the director of nurses at Children's.
a small umbrella
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I am in a small town between
Abilene and San Angelo called Ballinger. My husband has relatives in Abilene.
also being from a small town...
I would call and speak to the principal directly about what you heard. You can do this anonymous if you want, just don't use your phone as they very often have caller id now. I think it is up to the principal to decide if the comments of your child/friends have any merit. The principal should have ALL information and he/she should go from there. To me, my first and foremost priority would be my child. As for this child being falsely accused of something...well...maybe his parents should have taught him to be prepared to deal with the possible consequences of his actions. All kids make mistakes but sooner or later this individual will have to answer for his remarks and take responsibilty for himself - from my point of view, the sooner the better. I would definitely want to know if my child was speaking to others in this manner. I would not want to jump to conclusions but if your gut feelings say to keep your child home from school, do it. Missing a couple days from school is not the end of the world and I am certain he will not be the only one.
By small, I mean size 7 or under. I only wish I was.
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small town.
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In my small town
He was a city boy from 12 hours away living with a cousin for a while. I was a small town country girl. We met one night after I got off work and met up with my best friend to go "riding" around. He was with a friend of mine who was his cousin's girlfriend. We got into her car and rode around together. He was asking my friend about me that same night. He finally called about a month later after some misinformation that I was seeing someone and we've been together ever since. I was 16, he was 19. Married 12 years this year with the three best kids in the world!
Not everyone lives in small towns
I took the bus and T (subway in Boston) to high school and college, as did most kids. Try parking in Harvard Square, or anywhere in Boston for that matter.
When I moved out west to continue college in a city that did not have great public transport, I lived on campus for the first year without a car. After that I bought one for $1000, and insured it for $35/mo (this was in 1993).
My mom does not even have a DL, and did not have the money to pay my tuition, let alone get me a car for school, yet somehow we made it. Kids don't NEED cars in high school. There is always the big yellow bus if you live somewhere there is not public transportation. I was shocked to see how many high school kids were driving around in new SUVs and sports cars like Mustangs where I used to live in the South.
Since it is a small dog, assuming it's healthy,
it actually should not be hard to place. Do contact rescues in your area if you don't have a network of dog-loving people you really know well. Also vets' offices. See if they will put up signs. Sometimes when people lose a pet, they want to get a nice adult dog fast so they won't be alone.
I'm also in NC, and I know a woman who wants a small dog. She's in her 50s, either divored or widowed, needs a small, clean, adult dog that's already trained and won't cost her a fortune. Look for somebody like that.
So sad she has left a small baby as well. nm
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