Anyone live or work in Manhattan recently? sm
Posted By: Me2 on 2007-12-21
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We live in NE and our son has just taken a sales job where part of his territory is Manhattan. He cannot afford to say no, and we have no clue as to the subway system, best way to get around, garages to park, places to go and to avoid. The company just said, "Have a good holiday, see you Jan. 2." The company is not even located in NY, just his "territory." We would like to help but feel totally lost. Any suggestions? We don't even have a clue as to how to take the subway system, how to pay, let alone which lines, etc. This is going to be a nightmare but we are trying to be positive for him, he has a family to support and mortgage to pay. You may e-mail me with some ideas. Money is tight as he's been looking for a job for a long time, things are rough. I can't get into what he'll be selling but the samples are very heavy to lug around NY city. I feel bad for him but he needs this job. Thanks for any clues on maps, etc. I am sure a Garmin would help but don't know a thing about them either or whether it would be stolen as it will not be built into his vehicle. Are the cheaper ones any good at all? He has enough heavy stuff to lug around. Thanks in advance.
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My husband work midnights until recently.
He would get home at 8 a.m. By then, I had been up and working for a few hours and was ready for a small break. We would talk while I ate breakfast. He would go to bed and I would continue with work. By the time, he got up around 4 or 5 p.m., I would be done working. We were able to spend time with the kids together and have dinner together before he went to work again. He has been on night shift at different times during our marriage, the last time for 4 years. We've never had any problems as far as my working. I just adjust my work time accordingly.
If your husband is sleeping days and your kids are in school, what type of problem are you having getting work done?
manhattan
Don't live there, but visit as often as possible. One of the best web sites we use to get around the city is hopstop.com. You put in your starting and end point, and it gives you walking/subway directions with images, subway lines, etc.
Don't worry, Mom. NYC isn't such a big bad city. My daughter plans on going to college there next year, and even she has learned her way around the subways, streets, just from our visits.
Lugging around a bunch of samples will probably be his biggest obstacle in the crowds.
That is way down in lower manhattan
If you are going to South St. Seaport and are staying in Midtown, you might want to plan other things in that area while you are there. If you like Latin food, there is a restaurant called Cabana at South Street Seaport. Reasonable for lunch but expensive for dinner. It is on second floor and overlooks harbor. Also the downtown alliance has a free shuttle that takes you around lower manhattan. you get on and off at various points. http://www.downtownny.com/gettingaround/?sid=19
That way you can do Staten Island Ferry, ground zero, Brooklyn bridge, etc., and not get lost walking around in lower manhattan. It is not laid out like a grid down there and gets very confusing.
My daughter plans on going to college in NYC so we go often. Have a great time. Don't be afraid of the subway. It is a great experience. Going back to NYC in August. Cannot wait.
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
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I was just recently .....
At the GYN, and had a PAP/HPV test and I was told it is actually the male who spreads HPV, and yes, males will be tested in the future as well. I was also told that the thing of the future will be the HPV test replacing the Pap smear. Interesting.
I had a friend who was recently
selling his house and buying another one who stored some things in a storage facility. He opted not to get the insurance on it. It got broken into and his things stolen. He thought it was an inside job since it happened not too long after he rented the place and no other units were broken into.
You sign a contract though usually when you get a rental unit. I bet you somewhere on that contract it stated they are not liable. That is why they have the insurance you can purchase. Kind of a different scenario. Plus, if they had stored them properly and then they were stolen, no, it wouldn’t be their fault at all. There are situations where some things are out of people’s hands. They acted negligently though.
Whether the husband should have made a better decision is really beyond the point. They both knew that storing them near the street could mean them getting stolen and they did it anyways, but they didn't put their quads there.
That is my point, yeah the husband should have made a better decision, without a doubt, but they completely had no regard for her property, but did for their own property. I think that is pretty crappy.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
I recently had a talk with my ex
I am the grandma, but I'm raising my granddaughter. Both parents have supervised visitation, but don't visit. My ex-husband, my GD's only grandfather, comes to get her every couple of months for a visit either alone with her or with his family. When this happens, she gets loaded down with presents. Even though there are other children in the family (although she is the youngest), none of the others are not treated equally. They all feel "so bad" for what has happened to my GD (granted it HAS been bad), but a special extended family dinner, huge bag of toys and candies for Valentine's Day was just too much for me. I asked him to please consider and talk to his family about these excesses. I reminded him that if he/they continued to treat her as "damaged," she will consider herself as being "damaged" and will always have a victim attitude and have the expectation that she should be treated differently. Once he thought about it from point of view, he understood better and things have cooled down. They still visit, but the gifts are fewer and not as over-the-top as before.
I think the same thing happens to children of divorces. The noncustodial family tries to over compensate for not being there as much as the custodial parent. I don't think your daughter needs to speak to the new "wife", but should try to have a reasonable and nonthreatening talk with her ex about always trying to think what is best for the child...not the adults. Every time I need to make a decision, I always ask myself "is this in her best interest." I've had to make some hard decisions, and this philosophy has made everything easier. Good luck.
I just recently saw her on a bunch of
with her new body, etc. So maybe instead of rehab, she went to a spa and got into shape, cause she does look great (at least on the magazine covers), but certainly desperately needs rehab and lots of therapy. She is a beautiful girl, can't say very talented, but it is a shame to see her so out of control and living so dangerously...
My dad passed away recently too
You say you think it is disrespectful to cremate and memorialize later.
Some things you should take into consideration. Did your cousin pass away far from home? My dad did. In fact, he was 1610 miles from home, on the road, with only my mother there with him. Options were limited.
Secondly, where is the family? All of us kids are on the west coast, my dad's family is in the mid west. As a matter of fact, my mom and dad had just sold their home here on the west coast and moved back to my dad's home town less than one month ago.
Third, who are you to decide what is the best for everyone? Our IMMEDIATE family has lost a father, husband, and grandfather. It is our choice and we are the ones who were informed of his wishes prior to his death, not our cousins, aunts, uncles, etc... How would you know?
I recently adopted a cat
from a rescue facility. She is a total sweetheart and so petite! I named her Tinkerbell. She shed like crazy at first but I think it was nerves because now a couple weeks later she has stopped shedding and seems to have settled in nicely, plays with my other cat (male) and loves my dog!
The only thing I've noticed is she is a bit gassy - not a lot but at times worse than others. My question is, is there something I can give her otc to help with her "problem"? 
Anyone have a mammogram recently?
I have to get one soon, but I am so afraid to do it. I'm 43 and it will be my first one. I know I should just do it, but I keep putting it off. Just the thought of those 2 glass (?) plates smashing down on the booberoos keeps me from going through wtih it.
Can anyone who has had one recently help me out....How bad does it hurt? How far down do they smash them? Within one inch? Two inches? or just enough to get a good view?
Had one recently, they're much better than they used to be!
I also have small boobage, and the more uncomfortable part is where the edges of the machine hit me during the strange contortions in order to get the boobage on the plate! The actual mammomash is more pressure than any pain, they only go far enough to get a good view and it's over pretty quickly.
One time I went they offered some sort of padding, which meant the plate wasn't quite as cold, but other than that no difference. The tech said that some women with sensitive breasts think they are awesome.
Just go! A couple minutes and it's done...and you really need this!
I recently learned that among those who are into -
New Age beliefs (which I'm not particularly), a personality type called "Indigo" exists. The 25 traits that make up an Indigo fit me and my authority-questioning ways to a T. It was quite a shock how exact the match was. Even more interesting was other people's descriptions of their lives, etc. as an Indigo. You might check that term out, cuz you just might be one, too!
According to the teachings of that group, Indigos often lead difficult lives because they spend much of them swimming against the current, but that they are ultimately the ones who will save the world.
Food for thought, when it comes to the differences between leaders, and followers!
I used to agree with you until recently. sm
We have had a few pits over the years and they were fine. DH brought one home from work recently that he bought for $200, 6-month old fully registered. We had 2 pigmy goats in their pen. Within 3 hours of him bringing this pit home, it attacked and killed one of our goats. My kiddos were trying to get it off the goat before I knew it, could have killed them but they don't understand the seriousness, they were only trying to save their pet. When I realized what was going on, DH and I both tried to get that dog away and neither one of us could until the goat was dead. DH took him and shot him. Fast forward about 2 months and now there is a wild pit I guess someone dropped off around here. I have seen it maybe twice. Killed my kiddos' kitten. Heard lots of commotion one night and went out to see the kitten in its mouth. Not the same pit but you could tell this dog was pit. DH wasn't here but we are trying to locate that dog and it will be disappear as well if I see it on my property again. They don't kill to eat, they kill just to kill. A few years ago, my BIL brought his pit to our family reunion. Had him on a chain and my DS at the time was maybe 6. He as petting him but had a bag of cheetos in his hands. The pit attacked him and almost ripped is ear off before we got him away and probably the only reason we got him away from the pit was because the pit was on a chain and saw it happen instantly. My kids will NEVER be allowed around any pit whatsoever. I say Amen to the representatives trying to pass this bill. I agree with them 100%. You never know when they will attack and I personally now believe it has nothing to do with how they were raised. It is in their genetics.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
Been going up and up for 2 years around here not just recently!
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I recently realized
that I cannot compare my family to my husbands. It's hard when you grow up with such different values focusing on basic things like the importance of family and relationships.
MIL was recently in the hospital with heart concerns and they just dropped her off and went home. This is the 3rd time her husband has done this. Atleast this time he called the children. It is beyond me why one of her 3 boys (or their spouses) did not make the 15 minute drive to go sit with her. I would have but I was working and figure if out of all those people no one else could make the effort, why should I turn my life upside-down to do it. I can't imagine anyone in my family doing that, even if it was something routine or scheduled. My sister is the one who told me to let it go.
We went recently and stayed almost
100% of the time on the resort. The employees there did take people out on tours and we went with the employees and also took a boat ride over to the island (can't remember the name), but it was also a tour. Don't know I would run around by myself anywhere.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
I have recently begun working out
I have recently begun working out. I am 32 years old and have never seriously worked out in my adult life. I was frightened of the gym but made the commitment.
I work with the trainer 2x per week for resistance and I do cardio 5-6 times a week. I also have made big changes in my diet in the last 3 weeks.
So, today, I got my measurements taken. I did not lose a pound (still at 167). My body fat has decreased 1.7% and I have lost 4.5 inches in my measurements.
I guess I just want to know if this is normal...I would have expected to see some change in the scale and I'm trying not to lose my motivation. Any input or ideas would be appreciated!!
We recently moved 200 miles away and
joined a church after being away from the church for several years. There are so many activities for couples and singles, or both, and not just church/religion related. We have dinners, baseball games, hayrides, dances, etc. and have made several friends in the few months we have been here. We get out more now than ever before. I don't know how old you are, and though I hate to admit it, we joined the seniors center also (you only have to be 50). They do all sorts of things - day trips, 1 and 2 week trips, dinners, plays, game nights, music... I just never thought I would be joining an old folks place, but it's fun and a lot of them are in the 50-60 range. Lots of singles and couples.
Question about my cat who recently had kittens.
She had kittens 7 weeks ago, and we gave them away at 6 weeks. They were eating kitten food, but still nursing just a little bit. Her nipples are really hard, almost feel like tumors, but not hot, red, or oozing. Is this normal? If so, how long should it last?
No. Recently. Besides she is African-American
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I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
I recently got mine undershirts - 7 and 9 - sm
but no way, I am not getting them a bra until something starts popping. Neither has a problem with it, and no girls in their classes are wearing bras. I'd be curious though and take a look at the girls in her class though.
Here is our Becky (recently adopted)
Becky loves to cuddle and loves to get her belly rubbed. She would rather be in your lap, but is content to lay at your feet if that's where you prefer her. Becky enjoys her toys and will even carry them around the house and toss them for herself. She knows commands like "sit" and "come", and she comes when called 100% of the time. If you lay on the floor with her while you watch TV and scratch her ears or stroke her fur, she will go right to sleep. Just be sure to have the remote handy so you can turn up the volume once the snoring starts. :)
My son is 15 and just recently became sexually active... SM
Some of you may remember my posting a few weeks back about him. Anyway, I just found out that he has been having sex with his girlfriend. And get this! She is the same age as him, but was by far not a virgin when they started going together. I have always, always, ALWAYS try to remain calm and encourage my son to talk to me no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. And let me tell you, I feel the same as you -- sick to my stomach. When I found out he was having sex, I felt like someone punched me in the gut! I raised him in church, taught him to wait for marriage for sex, that sex is best shared with someone you are in love with, sex should not be had casually. Didn't matter. Before I found out that he was sexually active, I had the "sex talk" with him again just to reiterate a few of the finer points and I talked about waiting for marriage or at the very least, love. He actually laughed at me and said "mom, I don't know anyone - boy or girl - that is waiting until they get married."
How I found out that my son was having sex was I was going through his room because I had reason to believe he was smoking pot. I found two joints and a box of condoms in one of his dresser drawers. Here's how I handled it. I confronted him with the pot and grounded his behind for a month. He also had to take a drug test which was negative (still baffles me, I guess I caught him before he tried it). With the condoms, I simply said "I'm going to give these back to you because I appreciate the fact that if you are having sex, you are at least being smart about it. Please don't do anything stupid."
I left it at that until I had another opening and then I told him how girls get pregnant sometimes on purpose, sometimes out of ignorance of birth controls. I've talked about STDs and HIV and how not only can unprotected sex will make him a father, a responsibility he is not near ready for, but it can also be an eventual death sentence. Every time we talk and I feel like I have an opening, I talk about safe sex and our moral and religious beliefs on sex.
I figure that is all I can do. I can't follow him around every day, on every date. And the truth is, I didn't wait until I was married. My mom said I would go to heck for having premarital sex and hellfire and eternal damnation didn't stop me from having sex.
The only advice I can give you is meet it head on. Don't act hysterical. Just approach straight-forward. She's having sex. It doesn't matter how you feel about it now. She's having it. Now your best course of action is to make sure she's smart and she protects herself. We live in a world where we have to balance our morality with practicality. It sucks, but that's the way it is.
Anyway, your not alone sister! Little comfort, I know.
Cool! My husband recently almost
had me convinced to take our two boys, ages 11 and 13, to see the Black Crowes, whom all four of us LOVE!! He had me up until he used the Mastercard priceless bit and I remembered about all our credit card debt      . . . LOL, I guess.
I have ADD and recently went back on to meds
My oldest child does as well.
I had a hard time medicating him until I found the right doc that listened to my son and how he felt and even asked for feedback from teachers and family.
We found a happy medium for him so that he could be himself and not feel drugged and be able to control his impulses as well as stay on task. Now at 21 his strong intelligent young man who no longer needs medication and makes his mommy so very proud of him.
Now on the other hand Mom now is back on medication because it seems with the big M looming on the horizon I need help to be able to stay on task and get my work done.
Don't rule anything out because its not what you want what is important is your child and how he feels. They have some new medicines out there now and Strattera is a good one that worked for my son however it didn't for me I take Adderall.
If I can be of help in any way feel free to contact me.
My son recently started Respirdal.
He's gained a pound a week since starting it, so we are really going to have to watch that. He's also started having auditory hallucinations, but we aren't sure if that is related to the medication or not. As far as evening him out, I think it is helping with the mood swings.
recently got an IPOD video - how do
I organize my music on it? I recently added Christmas music, and instead of taking it off, I wanted to put it in its own folder for next year. Does anyone know how to do that?
I was feeling sad recently, when I took my 2 babies
to have them bathed (cats). One I had bathed before and he is the most outgoing. His brother (they are 2) is a very shy guy and runs and hides from most except me. The person at the shop picked him from the way his mother would carry him and he went without a whimper. They were there getting bathed from 8 until after 5. I am thinking of bathing them myself next time- I mostly took them because they have dry skin but still came home with dander. I can do it myself- those boys love the water and try to jump in the bathtub so I will run some in there for them. I always heard cats did not like water?
Recently we did a non-stick linoleum and I
cannot believe how much it looks like tile. The installer put in down in 1 sheet and it looks great. Very easy to clean, although you can't see the dirt, and everyone thinks it's tile. I never would have picked this out in a million years but a few people told me to give it a try. I brought a piece home, placed it on my kitchen floor for a couple days and really liked it. We were going to put hardwood in our kitchen (as the rest of our house is hardwood), but I'm really happy with the non-stick linoleum. Good luck.
I recently received info
on ViaCord from registering at Babys R Us. I have heard of them before but not participated in such a thing myself. I'm sure they have information online or you could drop by any store and pick up a brochure. I have received it from other places too and this is the only one that I receive.
This is some advice I recently read
which would benefit me as well. In a nutshell:
Worry only about the things you CAN change, not the things you CAN'T. You'll never change your sisters so let it all go. Change the way YOU handle your life and move forward.
They did not tell her when it happened, they told her recently nm
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sounds like me! I recently stopped to gas up my car sm
and put the gas thingie in my gas tank and squeezed the handle, but no gas would come out...hmmm...I decided the reason for this was that this gas pump was broken and so got in my car and drove around to the other side. Again, put in the nozzle and squeezed the handle and....no gas! What the heck? I honestly stood there for 2 minutes trying to figure out the situation before I realized I had to push the button on the gas pump to select the grade of fuel...DUHHHH! I've only been driving for 30 years... Tee-hee!
I just recently got out of a similar situation
Although it had many other fatal flaws in it, one of them was the fact that the majority of the shoulders he cried on were either women he had once had relationships with or women who wanted to have relationships with him. These were the women that when we had a fight, he would call the second I was out the door. I hate to say that single men and single women can't be friends, this was always just something that made me uncomfortable. Maybe it was intuition, maybe it was just my own insecurity. He denied there was anything to it...just friends he said...in the past he said...until he ended up inviting one of them to a BBQ he and some friends were having (he needed someone to pick up some beer because it started before I could get there). Her chin hit the floor when I showed up and he swooped me up and planted one on me. After she attempted several well-aimed barbs my direction for a few hours in the afternoon, she finally could hold back no longer and unleashed her venom on him....telling him that she had assumed she was his date for the BBQ and wondering what I was doing there.
To a degree, I do believe him that he had no romantic interest in these women- they were ego strokers for when we were fighting to reaffirm his manhood. However, he also drank to excess, so I always worried just how much stroking his ego (and other things) might accept with active enticement. Of course, the BBQ wench was just one of many, and between his femmes and the unholy alliance/reliance he has with his drunk-azz cousin, after a year and a half I could take no more, grabbed up my dogs, and headed home to Normalville.
So congrads to your DD. While she may hurt now, believe me when I say that it would have gotten no better and ended up totally messing with her own self-esteem.
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
The AAMT recently gave an answer on this. That's why they came up with it. nm
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Just recently sold a ticket on Stubhub
I am seasoned ticket holder for the Fox Theater in Atlanta's Theater Under the Stars and one of the shows was Stomp. I sure did not want to see that so I sold a 2nd row seat from the stage that sold for $46.00 for $25.00. Not trying to make a profit, just did not want to use it.
Yes I have. I have talked to many people who recently arrived.
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Check into mystery shops. I have recently sm
signed up for some. There are legit ones out there. Although the pay isn't always great, every little bit can add up. Just NEVER pay a fee to sign up, those are not legit. The legit ones are free to sign up. Like I recently signed up to inspect Exxon gas stations. The pay is only $4 but it only takes maybe 5 mins max. You have to purchase at least $1 in fuel and up to $1 instore product, which both are reimbursed, and then the $4 pay. I found 15+ stores in the same location, etc. So basically I have myself assigned to do 40 stores, 20 each day x2 days. My profit will be $160 and although I am out money for gas and the purchases those will be reimbursed so I really will clear $160 in two days as I will be getting my gas to do the shops reimbursed.
Also, Wal-mart/Sam's hires door greeters and those food sample people who cook and demonstrate with free samples. A lot of those folks are close to your husband's age.
You're so right! I recently moved, and no longer
receive the San Francisco news on TV. Instead, I get the Sacramento News, which I don't like. So instead of watching TV, lots of times I just pull up my favorite SF news channels online, and watch it at whatever time I want to. It's great! You get it when it's breaking, and you can pick the stories you're interested in, instead of waiting through all the sports stuff, just to have a few words about the story you tuned in to hear get thrown in at the very end of the broadcast.
HOW did we ever live without the internet?
I bought something recently and it was sent by media mail and took 3 weeks. sm
Last year I bought some videos and they took about a month to get here, so give it a little more time if it was sent by media mail.
Seen movie lots and scene only recently deleted.
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I recently read not to pour the water from the carafe
into the reservoir or to wash the pot with soap or in the dishwasher because of the oils that build up from the coffee. Here is a link that explains it and ways to clean the coffee maker and carafe.
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