Anyone every seen a preacher do this
Posted By: church goer. on 2007-08-12
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I have attended a small church off and on for the past 10 years. I would say membership fluctuated from 5 to 30 then back down to 5 or 6 during those years. I had married outside of the church and an old pastor frown and I felt snubbed when I brought my new hubby and my kids to church, so I quit going. We got a new pastor and I started going again but he left and now we have a new pastor and this is the funny one. He called me up one time when he first got here saying that he was the new pastor and I was invited to attend church. I went once. I was going to go back but never did. I noticed a used car parked there for the longest with a for-sale sign on it. I thought that was odd. Then the next thing I know there was a big moving sign on the church lawn one weekend, then I noticed a for sale by owner sign that next week in front of the church. I called up one of the members and asked what was going on and he said yes, they never told anyone. He said the pastor’s mother was saying everything was tacky and it had to go. They just went in and started selling everything that wasn’t tied down without consulting any member. That $200 mirror we purchased last year, they said it wasn’t worth anything so that sold for $5. They did not believe anything in that church was worth anything and were selling it for cheap prices. However, they were putting a $1500 price tag on the pews. He said he called up sister Sue because they were trying to sale that baby crib that she let the church barrow. She paid $200 for it at JC Penny when her daughter had a baby. When she went in, she found that they had thrown all our songs we used to sing, song books all in the trash. Again, he never told a soul he was going to do any of this, he just did it. He moved church to his mother’s house. I have yet to receive a phone call from him saying “hay church has moved, this is where we are attending church now.” All that is attending church is he, his mother, his wife and their two children and our blind piano player from what Sister Sue told me. She also said that when she went in to get back her crib, the pastor nor his wife, nor his mother said one word to her. She told me she is attending church elsewhere in a town 30 minutes away. She introduced me to the pastor there and they all invited me to go which was nice but too far away.
What really concerns me is that dh thinks he might be a scammer. He has gotten our piano player, who is blind, believing that we are all immature and it is just a silly old building. I guess what I am saying is that he might try to take advantage of our good friend who is handicapped. Maybe he does have the church’s best interest in mind, but it just doesn’t appear that way since ran the few that were attending there off. He said he wants a younger crowd. The building was old, in need of repairs.
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What?? Who said anything about preacher's kids??
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I am a preacher's kid. I got spankings, plenty of them.
It did NOT make me sneaky behind my parent's backs. It made me realize that there were consequences for what I did and I knew exactly what those consequences would be. I, in turn, spanked my children. They were never beaten. They were never abused. They also behaved well in church, in school and social situations. Teachers and others told me how well behaved they were when I WASN'T around. They are now healthy, happy adults with whom I have great relationships. They do not resent having been spanked as children, just as I don't resent it with my parents either. 
Let me tell you what I did when my father died and I talked with the preacher about what I wanted...
…I told him no sugar coating. Told him not to say he was a good family man, he wasn’t. Told him he could say he was a very hard worker and had lots of friends - he did. Told him I did not expect the funeral to be used as a call to join the church. I hate that at funerals. The service was a good 1 and exactly what I wanted. When he asked about what I meant sugar coating, told him not to say things that were not true. Gosh, when I go probably will be silence.....
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