Anyone ever helped their child with a weight problem? (sm)
Posted By: Mom on 2007-07-10
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I have read up on this and don't want to make the problem worse by making it an issue, but would like to help him. I have as many healthy foods on hand as possible and try to feed him healthy things but apparently he eats too much of it. I mean, I know basically how people lose weight, but I am dealing with a child. He is starting to be made fun of and it is really hard for him. He's 10.
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I am only 5Ƈ". When I weight my desired weight (sm)
my face looks bad - drawn. I like myself best when I weigh about 140-150.
Here is what we do and it has really helped us to
We avoid comments like "You did ,,,,,," and "You made me,,,,". We use "Ifelt like ,,,,,,", "I understand that,,,,,," "I hear you say,,,,,". Try to keep accussatory statements out of it. Say how you understand the event to have happened and how it made you feel. Reiterate what you heard the other person to say/do and give that person a chance to agree or disagree.
I helped with the first car s/m
My son is 19 1/2 and I helped him with his first car. When he was 16, I contributed $700 towards it and he saved the rest, which was $1,700. He did this by saving for years, getting lawn jobs, etc. He also had to maintain good grades, sports, etc. He also had to get a part time job. I didn't care if it was one day a week, but he had to get something. I paid for his insurance until just this month. He just bought a new car, trading in his old one. He is now in college full time and working part time. He decided on his own that it was time for him to start paying for it, which is fine with me.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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My tax guy helped me with this info.
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things that have helped me -
I was going nuts - waking up 2-3 times a night - feeling horrible all day. Go back to basics -
Try to get a walk in - couple of hours at least before bed - 20-30 minutes if that is all you have.
Don't watch TV or be on the computer a couple of hours before bed - watching TV not as bad as computer.
Take magnesium 500-750 mg right as you lie down to go to sleep. Recommended by many MDs for women.
Watch your caffeine intake stop early afternoon if you have to for a while.
Hope this helps - I am sleeping much better now.
Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Only that helped me was New Balance
I switched from wearing mostly Birkenstocks to New Balance after a visit to the podiatrist. It probably depends a lot on your foot type, because for some people it seems Birks are better, but they weren't for me. I have New Balance of all types now. It's almost all I wear and I haven't had a bad flare of PF for about 6 years now.
He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
Thanks - your post helped
I know if the shoe is on the other foot I never take offense at anything anyone says. You said exactly what my BIL said to me "it's a natural part of life". I felt better after posting and reading some of the responses and also talking to my DH. But like you say, in the future its going to be sympathetic responses. As for myself, I do have a very different outlook on life/death. I view death as a rebirth into a new life. Of course I would never do anything to bring mine on sooner than my expected time, but when my time comes I will be ready to move on.
I think you accidentally helped me
I will just avoid the mall.
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
You're welcome!! Hope it helped some....sm
I am not expertised enough to use Turbo Tax myself. I do get everything really super ready for the CPA, and now I have MQ take an additional $50 every paycheck for additional taxes so that it covers some of what I have to pay privately for 4 private docs. 
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Back in the 80s my knowledge helped out some
I had all the symptoms that go with hypothyroidism, the intense itching, the never being able to get warm (with blankets over your head, etc.), went to my doctor and told him I wanted along with my physical exam to have test for thyroid as I thought had this. Went back, he forgot to order and so ordered that day, immediately referred to endo because my labs were off the chart, so to speak and lots of you know thyroid can lead to other problems, even death if left untreated. If I had not pushed this time, guess would be pushing up daisies now. For 2 family members I told others to ask for Megace (these people were skeletons and not eating) and because I knew it was appetite stimulant, I could tell them worth a try. Each gained their appetite and at least did not starve to death so after all these years I have learned a little!
Eat yogurt daily, helped me....nm
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Changing shoes helped me.
I had a touch of this years ago. I realized it was from one particular pair of shoes. It went away when I quit wearing them. Are you seeing a podiatrist?
Good. I really hope I helped.
It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say. It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable. Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together. Try and stay in that mindset. Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding. Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling. It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection. The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life.
I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum. That's silly. Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!
Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
What has helped my pain are fruit and vegetable capsules. sm
I have been taking them for 8 years or so ever since my pain started to get so bad I couldn't sleep (I know you know what I mean). I was working for a certified nutritionalist/chiropractor at the time. They have helped me so much that I continue to take them after all these years because I'm afraid not to. I did stop for a little while and tried another product (10 months or so) but the pain came back. Email me if you want to know more info. I am not a distributor so I'm not trying to sell them or anything, it is just what has been working for me.
Flax oil and taurine supplements helped me tremendously (sm)
Mine is now pretty much gone but any time I feel bad I start back on the flax oil (oil not capsules) and it helps tremendously. I hope you feel better soon!
Omega fatty acid supplements helped my son a lot (sm)
I just by the gummy supplements brand name Little Critters at Target. After a couple of weeks on them, my son himself, at the age of 9, recognized the difference in how he felt and he now reminds me when we run out, that I need to get him some more.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
weight
Buy less and tell him "this has to last until next Wednesday" or whatever. A calorie is a calorie, so eating "too much" is a habit you need to help him break.
Her weight has really come down
from around 13 or so to now 5 and I started her myself on kittie food (read it has more calories than cat food) and also an extra calorie boost that I got at Petsmart. The cat is feeding and drinking well but she is so skinny. The vet put her on additional med Friday saying possibly she was having organ failure- of course I know what that meant- hate to hear but my posting is I wondered if the sounding off just attention getting. I do not want in pain (I have enough of that for the both of us, ha!) but wondered if just wanting me to pick her up. Hard to do and type with just 1 hand!
weight
You GO Girl.....keep up the good work!! Don't let me catch you with a chocolate bar or something that is not on diet plan.......LOL....LOL....LOL...
You might try Weight Watchers sm
I know that it is an expense, but so worth it. You can eat regular food, but most importantly, there are group meetings with lots of support. You'll meet nice people of all ages with the same struggles, and the goals are not set too high at first. It sounds like you feel alone, and you're not. I found Weight Watchers to be helpful in that you can eat regular food and the instructors were really supportive. We'd laugh and then get serious about our quests. You may want to consider a counselor (not being mean here), but I hear your cry for help. Why not make an appoint with your primary care doctor just to express your concerns. You have the power (you are special ya' know)! 
My weight, unlike yours, has nothing to do with
the amount of attention I get from my husband, loads of that and I am overweight. He treats me like the love of his life. I would say to you maybe the body habitus you have really is not playing a part in the attention seeking you want. If I were thin, I really do not think my husband would be around. He told me no one wants a bone except a dog and they even try to hide theirs.....
well, i try to eat right. i need to lose some weight sm
so i do buy whole wheat stuff, bread, wraps, spaghetti. i buy low fat/fat free lunchmeats, 2% cheese. i don't buy cupcakes and cookies (or else i'd eat them!) i don't drink much milk, not that i don't like it, just don't drink it much. i drink more water than anything. i'll have about one diet dr. pepper a day. i love food, it's just trying to stay on a healthy track. my problem is i don't get enough exercise. i have a 5 y/o and an 8 y/o that keep me busy. but i do like to exercise.
Try Weight Watchers instead.
But how did she lose all that weight?
She was really heavy and saw her lately in my weekly rags and so thin now.
My furries weight
I was just at the vets office this morning with my big boy and took him for something else and the physician thought they would take the time to admonish me about his weight, telling me to change his diet, no wet food, only dry, smaller bit 2x a day. I tried to explain in a nice way I did not mind cutting back now but definitely did not want to change brands at this time because of the food recall. As she persisted, I got more hot under the collar, finally telling her it would be much easier for me to cut back on his food than to give him the wrong kind (mine is 1 that has never had a recall and feel safe with it right now) than it would for my cat to go into renal failure - you cannot put a cat on dialysis. I think she sorta got the point and lightened up. Ridiculous for her to suggest such a thing at this time with my explanation of why not wanting to change foods.
weight loss
The only tried and true method for weight loss is to burn more calories than you take in. For me, that means eating healthy (no junk) and lots of exercise. I jog every morning and work out at the gym 3-4 times a week with weights. If you build muscle, your metabolism increases even at rest. It gets so hard as we age and harder after each baby so consistency is really important. Good luck!
weight loss
 I am doing a diet called the Abs Diet. There is a book available for it. You eat 6 small meals per day, lots of fiber and wheat, turkey, almonds. It has toning exercises targeted mostly for your stomach demonstrated in the book. You weigh at the beginning, middle, and end of the plan - a 6 week plan. In the first 2 weeks I lost 4 inches off my waist and dropped almost a point off my BMI. I'm never hungry and because of the protein and healthy things I eat I don't crave junk food. Of course, you have to drink 8 glasses of water per day, and they recommend if you must drink sodas to only have 2 per day, that is diet soda. Go to www.absdiet.com to learn more about the plan. Good luck!!
so, how much weight have you lost? nm
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I have had some weight loss
It hasn't been like a big dramatic thing, but I'm down about 5-6 pounds. I'm sure part of that is that I have been watching my fat and calories, but I actually feel like I'm eating pretty well. I have been more active, too, getting out and walking every night, working in the yard, and it's been hot and humid here in Wisconsin so I'm sure I've sweated some off. You know, I don't know if it works, but I do know I would pay more than $50 every 4-6 weeks for a personal trainer or motivator, and I kind of use this as my personal trainer. I know that I should watch my fat, and I don't try to have a big cheesy pepperoni pizza and take Alli to make it all go away, because I know then I might have those nasty treatment effects. But for the last week and a half, it has kept me honest in my eating for the most part, and for me that's worth it. I need to drop about 40 pounds to get to my goal, and I'm shooting for February to do that by, so I'm going for the slow steady loss, hopefully Alli will help me get there.
weight problem
My son, who is now 27, has always had a weight problem. I tried absolutely everything and nothing worked. I tried Weight Watchers, which has children's meetings and this worked the best. Also contact local hospital, sometimes they have children weight loss programs.
Your weight problem may be due to your
I hope you feel better soon. Usually weight problems are psychological, and it sounds like you are under a lot of stress.
That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.
I can't touch roses myself.
I don't think you can be happy at any weight sm
I've never been skinny. I am a happy person. I would like to lose weight, but it isn't going to ruin my life if I'm never skinny. I have a good marriage, 2 beautiful children, a job I enjoy, hobbies I enjoy, ect.
I know a woman though who weighs maybe 100 pounds soaking wet with her pockets full of rocks and she is the biggest B I know. She is always grumpy and unhappy. She dislikes anyone who is very happy and thinks they are just pretending for others to see.... then again I know a woman who is nearly 300 pounds with the same attitude.
I don't think weight has anything to do with the happiness of the person, but rather the other things in life.
Weight loss
Good luck with your weight loss. I'm also trying to lose weight and am down 8 pounds. Do you know anyone who is in Weight Watchers? I couldn't afford to join, but my neighbor was a member and gave me all the pamphlets and I'm following the points system on my own. I also walk every night for about 30-45 minutes.
About Weight Watchers...(sm)
If you look hard enough, you can find the information to do "home-grown" Weight Watchers. Their point system is patented and therefore public information. Since you plug in little factoids about your food (calories, fat, and fiber) to come up with the points value and the number of points for your weight are available with a online search, it is possible to do this without the Weight Watchers meetings or online support. I did. I lost a buttload and kept it off. You can do it too. Now just jog/walk while you watch the TV and you're good to go--for free. I get all revved up to do exercise videos for about 3 days. I have wasted too much money on them. :)
Trying to lose weight
Has anyone tried Hoodia and does it work?
NO WEIGHT GAIN AFTER
When I had my TOTAL hysterectomy at age 30, my doctor told me that I should not use the excuse that I had a hysterectomy and gained weight. He said that was an excuse and if I gained weight, it certainly would not be because I had a hysterectomy. Well, I'm here to tell you (31 years later) I never gained "because" I had a hysterectomy. In fact, I never gained an ounce. Now, have thyroid problems and have LOST weight tremendously but not because of a hysterectomy or any other reason. Can't do the diet thing, because I don't have THAT kind of will power! Best of luck you to and all....
cat's weight loss
I've had cats for over 20 years. If you haven't had labs drawn, I strongly suggest it. We had to euthanize her (after spending at least $1K on subcu fluids, etc.), as her weight had gotten down to less than 4 pounds. If (when) I had to do it over, I wouldn't put another cat through all that, even though I have a fabulous vet. She had liver failure, and there's simply no cure for that. And there's really no way to know for sure about their pain level. Sadly, it's common when they get past 10 years old. But there are so many other cats out there who need loving homes.
I hope this helps. It's really heart-breaking. They ask for so little, yet give SO much in return!
I'm very sorry for your situation.
weight gain
I have gained a lot of weight since my daughter graduated from high school. . she was very active in school and in sports and I was active along with her. . now. not so much. . I still like to go out and be around people . . though not as much as I used to. . sometimes you have to just force yourself to do things. . I have also thought about some time in the future getting a job somewhere else just to be around people. .
weight gain
yes I have gained weight. And I have become unsocial. I have noticed I no longer want to get dressed anymore and when I go somewhere I cant wait to get back home and put on comfy clothes. I know other MTs who have the same problems.
I too have gained weight. . . sm
Only I have gained 50 pounds since July!
When you press on the skin (not the indendation from the chair), does it pop back up or stay indented? If it stays indented, it might be edema. I would go to the doctor though just to make sure everything is okay. I was suddenly having problems with swelling, and the doctor decided it was a medication I was taking that was causing the swelling.
I hope it isn't anything serious! Good luck!
I have gained weight .......
Well, I have... and my pants are tight. I just wanted those of you in the same boat to give me some sympathy! Congrats to those of you that have lost recently!! I have got to start eating better and moving. If Spring would "really" get here I would be outside alot more..good excuse anyway! I lost about 35 pounds last year and have gained about 15 back. I honestly am more concerned with the health aspect of carrying more weight around the middle than I am of looking better, although I will take that too. I have got to get motivated.
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