Anyone ever do you wrong and you got
Posted By: S/M on 2008-11-21
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so angry you can't get over it? I am stewing and no doubt making it much worse on myself, but it is hard to let it go. I went out of my way to be kind to this person on so many occasions only to be treated badly. Any advice?
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You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
Please don't take this the wrong way
but after reading your note and the way he is "flirting" - sounds like he's thinking below the belt. Unless that's what your're interested in also he could be trouble.
Um, wrong!!!
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what is wrong with you (OP)???
How in the WORLD is playing peek-a-boo with your child ICKY?? Wow, hope you aint a mom..........................
it is very sad, but you are wrong about these
horses being exploited. I have horses. I have been part of the horseracing business and my husband's life was spent riding racehorses. These are very well-taken care of animals, and by nature love to run. They generally work for minutes a day (except on race day) and then are pampered the rest of the time. There are exceptions, but these horses are very much loved by those that work with them. There was absolutely no monetary benefit to keeping Barbaro alive. They could have collected huge amounts of money through their insurance had they put him down right away. They could not breed this horse; Tb's cannot be AI'd. They tried to save this horse because they loved him and he had poured his heart out to run his best. Just yesterday after watching the Sunshine Millions races, i told my husband that they've tried long enough to save him, that it is time to put him down. I agree with that decision.
wrong -- MOST don't end up this way.
Many of these horses go to working ranches, competition of other kinds, like barrel racing, etc. There are also numerous organizations set up by the racing assocation and others to find them homes in the general population. If you really want to know where much of your packing plant horses come from, look at the BLM, wild mustangs. They sell here for $25. yup, even bred mares. So these people that have no heart, buy em and turn them around for a profit at the packing plants. BTW, a feed lot is generally a term for steers in a concentrated lot being fed-up for slaughter, and horses are used there to work the cows.
VERY wrong! What would
you think if you caught your husband in the same situation. It seems to have become an addiction. Stop now cold turkey. Read the 5 love languages book and see if you cannot reconnect with your hubbie or go get some marriage counseling.
Is this right or wrong?
I am a female in my early 40's and I have never been married and do not have children.
With every job I've had, some people feel the need to interrogate me about why I've never been married.
I never bring up the topic myself.
I usually answer, I've never found any one, maybe I will meet someone, etc.
I recently started a new job and have told co-workers when they ask if I've ever been married, I tell them I am divorced.
Now, I barely hear a peep about being single, whether these folks tell me they wish they were single or complain about their kids.
I just think it is rude to ask someone why they have never married. I would never ask someone why they married their spouse.
Is this right or wrong?
It's definitely wrong.
That you're so good in bed that limiting yourself to just one man would be a crime against humanity.
Then ask them, "Which one is YOUR husband, by the way?"
So everyone else was wrong, U only one to get it right? nm
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You are so wrong
As a former teacher, I'm appalled at your ignorance. Teachers start at salaries lower than truck drivers. Of course it varies from region to region, but generally it is about $28k to $29k. Some of these positions require a master's degree or a specialist degree, which is above the Bachelor's degree.
As far as the hours teachers work - they are really never off duty. They have papers to grade, meetings to attend, clubs to sponsors, committees to serve on, parents to phone, write, email, and and websites to update daily. Then, there are the workshops and/or college courses they have to attend to keep their credentials current.
Summer vacation? Who teaches summer school? Who works 1 or 2 jobs to supplement the lack of income for the 2 summer months, to keep up the student loan payments, take a college course or a workshop mandated by the school district or the state dept of education?
Then, there is the fact they aren't allowed to be human. If a teacher is seen drinking in public, smoking in public, or smacking their own child's bottom, they are bound to be pilloried by some self-righteous citizen.
You need to shadow a teacher for a week and then coime back and tell me how easy the job is and how well paid they are.
If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't have the teacher shortage we have.
Did I mention the number of teachers who are assaulted and permanently injured by their students every year? I'm waiting for 60 Minutes to do a story about that instead of the extremely rare but so publicized cases of teachers having sex with their students. Anyone else notice that it's the female teachers who get the publicity? I know a lot more male teachers having sex with their students - of both sex - than female teachers.
Nothing wrong with that-
it sounds like my friend who comes over to my house and hangs out with me and cleans my house for me. Sometimes I give her money when she needs it and I can afford it; Also she drives my other car and I pay the registration and insurance on it. She is unable to work and the amount of disability she gets is impossible to live on.
There's something wrong with her, all right! nm
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Nothing wrong at all with it sm
The Clydesdales live at Grants Farm in St. Louis, a wonderful place to take children. The Budweiser story is rich with American history between President Grant and one of the founders of Budweiser's daughters - we took our 12 and 7 year old on a tour of both Grant's Farm and the Budweiser factory. The horses are beautiful a part of American history dating back into the 1800s. I would guess this box is worth far more than the $20 you paid for it.
My 2 cents.
So what's wrong with that?
How about what everybody uses wrong - me and I.
And it is always her and I or my husband and I or my daughter and I, no matter what the context.
Are you going with Mary and I to the show? WRONG!
She gave a nice gift to my husband and I and the kids?
WRONG!
And everybody does it and it drives me crazy. The RULE is so simple, just drop the first person or reverse it in your head, and there's your answer.
Are you going with.....ME?
Are you going with....me and Mary?
You wouldn't say, Are you going with I? Nor, are you going with I and Mary?
Please, people!
Thank you :)
lol
No you were not wrong, and if it were me (sm)
you better believe I'd be touching his stuff, moving it around, whatever would tick him off the most. Childish? Sure is, but so was what he did.
I think you are 100% wrong on this
The stories we are hearing now are so out there. I was born in the 40s and never, ever heard such crap when I was growing up, young teenage, young adult and so forth and I have always stayed up with the news, etc.I was just complaining of the same this morning about what people are doing now, school teachers having sex with 10 year old, people throwing their lives away for ?? I can honestly say these things NEVER happened in the 50s, 60s, 70s like they are happening now. I have lived these years and remember well. I have been aorund the block and so glad I don’t have young children now. Asking or telling them to move would make no difference with the kind she is talking about. A lot of kids killing now just for you saying anything to them. I, myself, would have called the police and got them to intervene. Saying something only sets you up for something worse.
So what's wrong with being gay? - nm
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Yes, I'm wrong - UR right sm
I overheard a conversation at the butcher's about a weight loss product which was totally mispronounced and the conversation was truly disgusting about the person's side effects. My appetite was ruined. I didn't quite get the name. You are right, it is another product which name escapes me right now. I hear so many that I do get confused. I just wanted to check on these disgusting symptoms. Never mind, thanks!
only way to go wrong with B&B is if (sm)
the girl has perfume sensitivies. Achoo.
I must be doing something wrong...sm
The link seems to work fine in my e-mail, but cutting and pasting ya can't click on and get the recipes...Sorry  Cat
Wrong
My 16-year old son decided that he wanted to go and live with his older sister (who is 29) and she went along with it.....no one ever discussed this with me....just told me what THEY were going to do.....I'm thinking OK if that's what you want to do....fine with me.....So, when he was getting ready to leave....I told him to leave my house key....when I told my mom, she said that I was wrong in asking for my house key....she said that is "your child".....what my feeling is....if you don't leave here...you don't need a key to MY HOUSE......and I guess I have burned bridges somewhere because I just told her what I felt.....and also told her that "I am YOUR child...too, but I don't have a key to your house......DID I DO ANYTHING WRONG FOR ASKING FOR MY HOUSE KEY?????
Nothing wrong with it. You can
always re=issure it later if you deem the maturity and responsibility and/or need is there.
wrong
I did not kick him out.....
wrong
Nothing was ever discussed with me....I guess they did not feel the need to....but the point is....I am his MOTHER....and I have say so....but if this is the way they want to POP IT....they go for it....and she can afford for him to live with her and I don't have to pay anything.....she has a BS degree and Master's.....
wrong
I never said that he is not welcome into my home....what I'm trying to say is if he's not living here and he does not need a key....he is always to come home.....but home is not DO DROP IN......
wrong
Thank you sm.....I made this post to get feedback and I thank you for that......
wrong
And by the way....they were born on the same day March 5, 13 years apart.... does that mean BAD LUCK: 
Wrong
I guess a lot of people are misunderstanding my post....I am not UPSET....with my son or my daughter.....there was no arguing, cussing or fussing. My son a VERY, VERY GOOD, child. He makes A's and B's in school.....He participates in sports, basketball and football and plays in the band...percussion.....my daughter is in a position where she can provide more for him than I can.....UPSET because my mom made the comment that I was wrong in telling him to leave my house key....if you are not living here fulltime....I don't see any reason for you to have a KEY to MY HOUSE.....
wrong
I'm not trying to defend myself....I just asked one simple question.....if someone does not live in your house...whether it is daughter, son, mother, father, cousins whatever....I'm not saying that my son is a problem....Please read earlier posts.....now because I posted it seems like everyone is bashing me.....that is why I made another post saying I'm sorry....I respect the responses and everybody opinion....just trying to see what somebody on the outside thinks.....
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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DH is wrong, you are right! (sm)
There’s no better storage than that carton
Fresh eggs can be stored in the refrigerator for as long as five weeks. And yes, that egg carton that they’re packaged with is the best storage container for them. Avoid putting them on the egg holder on the fridge door. Not only would they get rattled whenever the door opens and closes, they also get exposed to temperature drops. They spoil quickly if they do. Just use them before that “Best before” date on the carton.
Eggshells are porous
Still, one of the reasons why you should keep them stored in the carton is because eggshells are porous. This means that the shells allow odors to penetrate the egg. Now you wouldn’t want the eggs to taste or smell like anything but good ol’ egg.
Store eggs in their original carton. The carton protects the eggs from absorbing flavors and odors
of other foods nearby like onions or cabbage.
Store eggs in their original carton. The carton protects the eggs from absorbing flavors and odors
of other foods nearby like onions or cabbage.
I might be wrong but
are not the hounds known for whining and sounding off?
No, you are wrong on this -
A lot of us made more 15 years ago than now. The pay goes down, not up in this profession.
I see nothing wrong with what you did.....
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you are mostly wrong.
Sure, any animal is prone to animal behavior. but SOME are much more so, and unpredictably so. The stats prove it. not to mention, that too often the people that want these kind of animals are irresponsible kinds of people (not all, but SOME), ie, drug users, gangsters, etc. You can learn a lot of things in an animal class or book, some are good, but reality does not bear out all that you say.
don't take this the wrong way, but...
What makes you think that just because they are fighting for our freedom that they are any less stupid than the average Joe 18-year-old? I was an army wife for quite a few years and believe me, 18-year-olds military personel are defninitely not smarter or more mature than any other 18-year-old civilian. And whether or not they lower the legal drinking age to 18 ot keep it at 21, a good majority of 18-year-olds will be drinking anyway, military or civilian. Personally I think the only alcohol should be used for cooking only, not drinking. JMO
Please do not take this the wrong way
I also suffer from horrible perimenopasual and now menopausal symptoms. I understand that posters are trying to help BUT you should check with your physician before taking anything. The suggestions for black cohosh, soy products/estroven, etc are okay for some but not all. I had a pulmonary embolism years ago and cannot take anything. Some of the natural/health care products still contain a certain amount of hormone replacements that can be fatal to some.
Don't get me wrong...
I love my hubs with all my heart. I would never re-marry and I know we would stay close friends and probably be neighbors if possible. He's been married before so I know how nasty divorces can get and hateful people who once loved can be towards each other BUT I can understand what you mean by truely love and cannot imagine your life without them. At the same token I look at cheating as a deliberate lie and never a mistake...yeah, in many aspects of life I am a plain and simple harda$$. There are just some things that are unexcusable in my book and this is one. I feel like morally the decision would be made for me. Despite love and feelings, he put my life in danger (STDs, a freak that goes psycho, etc. - you never know) and I won't put up with it for a second. JMO. I respect yours and would of any friends of ours who made the same.
I don't know whether it is right or wrong
I said what you thought and that might temporarily make you feel better. I don't know if it will change the situation or not or make FIL come to his senses, probably won't.
I think they are just added stressors right now. You don't need that. I think you should detatch, never expect anything from them. If H asks "where is my dad" just say I wrote, called, e-mailed what ever and he hasn't gotten back to me yet then change the subject. You need a support group, I think there is one for families of alcoholics like Alanon??? Whatever it is, I hope you find help even if it isn't from FIL or whatever he is supposed to be.
Wrong again
PLENTY of circumcisions are performed without anesthesia.
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Don't take this the wrong way
I was one of those single moms once. I was married, the man walked out...left for another woman. Took everything out of our bank accounts. Had to get help because I had no family. I think you have overgeneralized the situation. Not everyone is taking unfair advantage. Believe me, I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and was off within a few months. Still, not everyone on assistance is abusing it.
I know of the people you talk about. I see them every day. My current hubby is paying support for his daughter. The mom is on assistance and keeps having kids to keep from going back to work and has gotten away with it for 8 years. Hubby got mad finally and turned her in, with proof of what she was doing. Now she has to work like the rest of us and has used her lifetime max of benefits.
There are fraud hotlines to turn that stuff in. If it is obvious, turn it in if you can prove it. Otherwise, maybe you should get more facts first.
You are wrong...sm
She said numerous times she WORKED a full-time job. Do you not understand English or what? When you work a full-time job how can you be sitting at home doing nothing? She did not make enough money working that full-time job to pay everything and buy food. That is what food stamps are for. For people who are at the poverty level of income and can't do any better at the moment. Get off your high horse.
You are not wrong
Think of it like this. Why does he get to be a bad father, but you have to worry about being a bad daughter? He gets a special pass? You didn't do anything. He did!
What is wrong with just saying no and
being emphatic about it? It works everytime for me.
Sorry, but your wrong about that
I'm a quilter. I make beautiful pieces of art out of material. You make it sound like she would be destroying them, when in fact it would probably preserve them better. I love the idea of making a quilt and having something to wrap yourself in that was her sisters. If she wants to wear them then that's fine, but if she feels funny about it the best thing is to make a quilt. If I had my moms clothes (we were the same size) I would not be able to wear them because every time I did I would just feel creeped out. Also, if she wore these clothes and spilled something or an accident happened, maybe somebody else would spill something or torn, burned, whatever happens I think the thought of that would be too much to bear. But making them into a beautiful quilt is not "cutting them up". Its turning something her sister loved into something she herself can treasure and pass down to her children.
BTW - you don't know that her sister "obviously" wanted her to wear them.
To original poster. I would keep a couple items you really enjoy (like the jacket you mentioned you and she joked about and an outfit or two that you'd really like), but I would definitely make a quilt with the rest and like the other poster said, you can wrap yourself with a big hug from her. You might even have enough material to make a second quilt to give to your brother in law.
Your with the wrong guy
This guy may be the nicest man in the world, but the chemistry just isn't there. It isn't just the act, there should be things that this man does with a smile, a look, humor, etc, that turn you on!
I don't see anything wrong with it. Why
should they use their welfare money for drugs. Other things require urine drug tests to receive benefits, why not welfare?? Might save a little tax payer money.
Please don't take this the wrong way
but you can't expect them to take care of your children. That is your job. If you don't like the bus situation, take a break from work at that time and drive them to and from school yourself.
Going to meetings is never a bad idea and if you get vocal enough, maybe some good will come out of it but I still say the bus situation is yours to deal with, not theirs - especially when you're dealing with younger children.
Not taken the wrong way --
That's what I ended up doing -- driving them to school. It gives them an extra hour of sleep and keeps them away from the older kids. I guess I'm just curious if I'm out of sync and this is the norm.
Do other elementary schools start at the same time as their high schools? Do they bus their kids together? Do most schools give 2 weeks for Christmas and 1 week for spring break? Do most schools schedule a 2-hour delay once a month to allow the teachers planning time? Do the schools that run through June in the NE part of the country have A/C for the kids?
I think I'm going to start going to these meetings. Maybe they'll provide a little more insight as to why some of these changes. Thanks.
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