Anyone been to a wedding on the beach in Hawaii? Need help w/ MOB dress.
Posted By: SM on 2007-01-05
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I have already posted this on another board, but I need all the suggestions I can get, and I appreciate any and all help.
My friend has asked me to help her shop for a mother of the bride dress. She really has no idea what she wants to look for, and she has done no looking on her own. We are going to go shopping not this weekend but next. The bride said for her to just pick out a simple dress. The wedding is mid March, on the beach, and they say the temperature is 70s-80s year round there (I wouldn't have known this myself LOL). I don't know the colors they are using yet, but I'm sure she does by this time.
What kind of style should we look for? MOB is 48 years old, slightly overweight but not terribly so, and relatively conservative. Any suggestions? Thanks! Y'all seem to have great taste.
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Red dress attendant at wedding
Just got back from vacation and saw the post about bride not wanting red dressed attendant at wedding. Getting past keeping the book part (some know about it, others do not, some agree, some do not) but I am talking the red thing. First of all, anyone wearing red is usually saying LOOK at me. The bride has every right in asking anyone in the wedding party NOT to wear red. This is her day- NOT anyone elses. It falls under the same thing as no one wearing white to the wedding- that is supposed to be reserved for the bride only. Wearing red would be about the same as wearing sequin dress and I guess also most do not know you should not wear black although I see women doing that also at weddings. I think the problem now days is most do not know manners - I recently saw the most outlandish dress for a funeral, bare arms, bare midriffs, very short skirts, capris and/or bermudas. Any request a bride makes for her wedding for her attendants SHOULD be followed to HER liking, not theirs. Any who disagree with this post really just do not know etiquette but should brush up on theirs - try reading Emily Post to begin with.
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You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
Hawaii.
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Hawaii
1st choice - Hawaii
2nd choice - anywhere on the ocean.
3rd choice - Vegas
Back to Hawaii! nm
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There are from Hawaii, going in October nm
I'm with you in Hawaii or maybe Malibu, CA. nm
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Did you live in Hawaii or vacation there?
Nothing short of a miracle would have to happen in order for me to ever see Hawaii--is it as beautiful as it looks on television? I just imagine it smelling like saltwater, orchids, moss, and Hawaiian Tropic suntan lotion. Lucky you to know what it's like! I'm jealous!
hawaii. Glazed or Powdered?
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My ex stepdad went to HS with Bette Midler in Hawaii. This is sm
the same guy who had minor roles on Hawaii 5-0. Very tall, athletic, and handsome fella. Horrible husband and stepdad. He tried to get married while STILL married to my mother! He was a creep!
I also have a cousin in HI who constantly skipped school to go boogieboarding and was constantly getting in trouble. This same cousin is a millionaire a few times over after getting sponsors, winning surfing contests, and now he has his own board - The Custon X Board. I heard he now is into making bodysuits for surfers and boogieboarders all over the world! We were so close growing up - and then lost contact.....
arizona, hawaii & eastern time zone area of Indiana
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Every year they change the rules in those bride books. At my daughter's wedding, which was semi-formal, but outside (????? is this congruent?????) the mother of the groom wore white! My one pet peeve is that the mothers not wear white too! However she is a tacky woman, so what should I have expected? She was given the color scheme and the bride's mother has first choice, was asked not to wear white or pants, but not only did she wear white, she wore pants! May I add that she looked ridiculous because she chose some hippie-dippie flowing cotton things that would have looked okay at a parade or a yard sale, with huge pantaloon legs and wore flip-flop like sandals. (Pain is still coursing through my body from this faux pas 12 years later). But, having done this before more than once I found that at Nordstrom's they have wonderful salespeople and great dresses and they will bring you things to the dressing room that suit you and your budget just tell them basically what you want and what you want to spend. Stay away from bridal stores, they try to sell you "bridesmaid dresses" and will ooh and ahh over you even if you look like a clown and most of the dresses show too much skin or have ruffles and bows attached in all the wrong spots if you are over 23. I took my daughter whom I trust to know me and what I like as well as what looks best on me. Good luck! Hope your new in-laws are more fun than mine! They are still tacky, but then I rarely see them!
Red dress or no dress.
Having a guest book attendant is popular in the South and is supposed to be an honour. Here is a website with some info but it does say coordinate color somewhat.
Given the circumstances, if she really felt uncomfortable with what you are wearing, I would keep it pleasant, it is after all her day and you might feel the same way if in her shoes. I myself would just explain to the bride (especially if you were asked to hold this position until the last minute)...
"I am honored that you have asked me to participate in your wedding, but since I was not expecting this, the red dress is the only one that I brought with me and I honestly cannot afford to purchase a new one right now. If you are still uncomfortable with me wearing this however, I would truly understand if you would like to choose someone else for the position."
That will leave the ball in her court. If she wants to offer to buy you one, so be it. The choice is strictly hers.
Wikipedia had some interesting info on the colors. Red for auscpiousness meaning luck or promising, and how white was originally for mourning and blue was the color associated with purity.
It should not matter to her as long as you don't outshine her. If anything guests will be talking "bad" about you not her, and in that case I wouldn't give a flip!
How about help her with a dress? sm
The dresses are extremely expensive and maybe if you could help financially with the dress of her choice, that would make her day the most memorable as well as beautiful pictures. She basically needs to feel like a queen.
You could pay for her to get manicure/pedicure, buy her jewelry, pay for picture setting at a photography studio, or school pics if someone else is not, pay for her to get her hair done or makeup done.
Ultimately, you cannot control the eating that day and activities unless you teamed up with her date and coordinated that with him to make sure he could afford a really nice place or pay for it for them.
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3. tea dress (mid calf) satin with a butterfly beading design, netting under the skirt, bow tie spaghetti straps.
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Really, what do they dress like, the Amish?
Or wear a burqa/burka? LOL
Complete with red dress...
Weddings have become such shows...it's ridiculous! I've been to 2 weddings in 2 weeks, neither one too showy, but just money spent on silly little things (no programs!) like bubbles to blow at the bride and groom, which no one was left by the time they left...candies with their names on them, etc. Boy, can't wait til my DD gets married! 
I'm drunk enough now to tell you that you may have my dress,
but you will never have my hat!!!!!
He didn't see me in it, but he saw my MOM in the dress.
I wore my mother's dress, and her wedding pictures were displayed in our house. So he saw the dress before we were married. I don't think that counts. :)
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Your dress code is not being followed apparently,
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I don't remember my dress size
being asked on any job applications. Are they supposed to be able to tell over the phone? Of all places to say this - around a bunch of people whose employers have, for the most part, never seen them!
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Jo got married and all we got was this bleep dress!
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The View. Dress or jeans?
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dress mani or pedi
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Why do some thin women dress
like hoes? I'd rather see the outline of a roll through an ill-fitting shirt than see some girl's entire butt crack. That's just NASTY.
Some Georgia schools have dress codes...sm
and they work with school uniform vendors to provide them really cheaply, around $7-8 for each shirt and each pair of pants or shirt.
My daughter goes to a school with a dress code and it's nice not having the "what is OK to wear to school" discussions in the morning. It also eliminates kids who come from poor families feeling inferior to other kids over their clothes.
RE: Help on mother of the groom dress - see message
I'm only 47 and don't want a "matronly" dress. Wedding is in 6 weeks and I need help. Any suggestions?
single digit dress-size here
oops, well I guess I failed - i have 2 children, although do have second generation middle class values.
A tea-length basic black dress?
What kind of company does your husband work for? Would that help in your decision? My opinion is you can't go wrong with black. Accessorize to make the dress "pop". Nicely of course. Congrats to your husband for his award.
If it were MY child, I'd buy her a pretty dress to wear
You bigots are appalling.
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
it was a blue dress firstly and Clinton lied
She's mad that you'll usurp her presence in your flashy red dress! LOL..put the
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My above-the-knee little sparkly black cocktail dress! - nm
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Not from CA, but what about a fancy sun dress and a sparkly wrap of some sort for the AC/night
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Will they all be barefoot or wearing flip flops? Would just go for a simple sun dress or sheath,
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Ewa Beach, HI
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Beach
Just keep a sharp eye on the children in the ocean with the boogie boards. The ocean current is strong. I found this out when we went to Myrtle Beach and my 10-year-old was on an inflatable raft. The current carried her rather far. It was a good thing my husband could swim. It happened so quickly but everything turned out all right.
beach - sm
Take the kids to Assateague Island, only a short way from Ocean City. There is a beach for day use and they might see the wild ponies keeping cool by the ocean. Just spent last week there.
On the beach...
in the cold wind. lol Poor planning for the time of year but I have beautiful pictures at sunset. :)
Ft. Lauderdale Beach, FL
  
Boynton Beach here! nm
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South Beach here.
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Definitely Navarre Beach, FL
The most gorgeous, and well-kept secret in FL. It is in the pan handle, about 35 miles W of Destin, and about 25 miles E of Pensacola Beach. All of these beaches are beautiful, white sands. Navarre is less traveled, and less busy. My husband and I went with my sis and fam last year, which is where he proposed to me, then this year on 07/07/07 we were married beachside. It is wonderful. I just keyed in Navarre Beach search, and many offers for condos came up. We stayed at the Inn at Summer Wind, a wonderful high-rise condo equipped with everything, If laying around on the beach and/or having coffee on your balcony overlooking the water is your cup o tea, this is the place for you! It is very relaxing. Then, you can cross the bridge back to mainland (Navarre is a small island), and go to the new Superwalmart, to specialty shops, or on down the road either way to frequent other beaches/restaurants, and there is an outlet mall down near Destin that was cool. Just an awesome place to to. We went in June in 06 and July 07, and the water and weather were perfect. In fact, 07/07/07 was the most pretty day down there this year!!! Good luck deciding, but in my exp. It was well worth it. July is the on-season, and we paid around $1300 for 6 nights in the condo, that slept 6 (king BR, bunk beds made in the wall (hubbies bed if he don't behave) and couch is a pullout. I think starting in mid Aug. or so it is about 1/2 that. I have to go in the summer, though, because of the kids and teacher hubby. Good luck again!! 
Does anyone know about Myrtle Beach, SC? SM
I don't mean for a vacation; I mean as far as living there. Any information will be most appreciated.
Thank you.
Pebble Beach
Is in Monterey, California.
Myrtle Beach
I would love to live there. . Good luck to you. . I think you are very brave. .
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