Any regrets leaving the Q?
Posted By: Unhappy Camper on 2007-08-08
In Reply to: podcasts are like radio shows that you can carry with you and listen to at any time. - former MQer now TTer
They're getting on my last nerve, but there are those that say that being an MT is pretty much the same everywhere. I hope not; I'm tired of having multiple different hospitals during each shift.
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No regrets to any of those.
Now ask me about regrets of letting my ass get as wide as it is or not getting braces when I was younger...or not becoming a pilot, or choosing the right Powerball numbers, or not being the inventor of the wheel....
regrets
I don't regret my first marriage or my 3 children through that marriage. They have brought me more joy than I ever imagined possible (I am blessed with great kids). I do regret that divorce though I had no control over it.
I do regret my 2nd marriage(a very short one) - and don't regret that divorce which I initiated. You live and learn I guess. I think at 49 I'm finally starting to get it right. 
not really regrets, but
I can see how much easier my life could have been had I chosen to get married a little later in life (I got married at 18), after having some independence first. I also think it could have been easier if I had chosen to have kids about 5 years or so later (waited nearly 5 years). Then again, I'm so glad all 3 of my kids have been sleeping through the night since I was about 29 years old. I don't know how those who have children later tolerate that part of it. I love my uninterrupted sleep.
Overall, though, I am blessed with 3 great kids and a husband of nearly 21 years. It has been very, very tough, but no regrets. :)
No Regrets At All
I didn't get married until I was 30 and had my last child (2nd) at 41. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. I'm very happy with my life,my husband and my daughters. It's sad that some people regret getting married and/or having children, although I don't know everyone's circumstances and I don't judge others because of that.
Regrets...
I guess I would say I regret my first marriage (I very young, we had 2 children, but he was a wife beater) but my kids would not be here if not for him...I regret my very short 2nd marriage (very nice guy, handsome, had a great job) he deserved someone better than me, he smothered me too much with love and I could not handle it...but then I would never have met husband # 3 who is wonderful, all that #2 was and more, but I am older and wiser now...this is it, no more husbands for me!
Regrets
Dum-Dum - What a wonderful philosophy! I'm struggling to get to that point myself. I went through two marriages/divorces with the same person - if anything, I regret taking so long to realize he simply cannot be the man I need - not won't, can't. I don't regret having my children, even though my youngest (the one I thought would be closest to me throughout life as she was in childhood) doesn't even acknowledge me now. I'm alone now - by choice - but I'm trying to have faith that doesn't necessarily have to be my situation for the rest of my life.
Absolutely no regrets! sm
My hubby and I have been married almost 20 years. We married when I was 20 and he 22. I look back now and think how young we were (our kids are 14 and 16)definitely no regrets there, but if either comes to me at the age of 20 saying they want to get married I will say No way in He!!. Not becuase mine is bad, actucally quite wonderful, but I now know the importance of getting an good education. I do regret not going to college.
Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
No regrets whatsoever..sm
only wish I could have had it done 5-6 years sooner!
No regrets, chalk all up to experience. :-) (nm)
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Add one more "no regrets" to your list
My fibroids started to grow when I got pregnant and six months after I gave birth they were still huge (about the same size as yours - my doc said my uterus was about 16-week size). I had my hysterectomy at 34 and it was one of the best things I've ever done, health-wise. I had horrible periods since high school. I remember my mom picking me up from school and having to pull over to the side of the road so I could throw up.
Good luck to you. The main advice I would give is make sure you rest the FULL time your doc recommends. My incision actually wasn't that painful until I tried to do too much and pulled a muscle in it. Yeeeeouch!
So rest, take care, and you should be fine!
My best friend really regrets her dentures
She got them at age 45 - finds they feel too big for her mouth - triggering her gag reflex constantly. She had difficulty learning to eat with them - so she takes them out and hides when she eats so nobody will see her, and has had to radically alter what she eats. She told me it was the worst mistake she ever made in her life.
My cousin, on the other hand, loves hers and wishes she would have got them years ago. She was in constant pain and now is not.
Whatever you decide - good luck!
A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
you do the leaving
My ex was the same way. After 17-1/2 years, I did the leaving. I know it is hard, but YOU CAN DO IT!! You and your kids will be better off in the long run. My oldest child wishes I would have left when he and his brother were still little. Don't let him keep abusing you - you are just as valuable as he is - don't forget it. Hope your cold/flu doesn't last too long. Will be thinking of you.
Leaving an ovary or not?
I had one at 35 and kept my ovaries, although now I wish they'd have taken them. Within an hour after surgery, I was up and around and ready to go home and had NO pain afterwards (this was vaginal). I felt better than I had in years and I think every woman who is beyond wanting children should have one. It gives you such a freedom from all the "mess" and such.
He refuses to do that. He says no way is he leaving (sm)
I have tried for so long to hold this marriage together for the sake of the children - but what am I teaching them if I continue to live in this situation? That it is okay for men to treat women badly? That you just let people treat you however they want? That spouses don't have to respect each other?
re: leaving pets
No I don't leave messages but we've done some camping this summer and my kitty gets very mad when we leave. When we walked in the door after being away for a few days she wouldn't stop meowing at me, like she was telling me off for leaving her..she wouldn't let me pick her up either! Anyone else's pets get mad when you leave?
If you are serious about leaving, you need a plan. SM
First, get some therapy for yourself to gain back some self confidence. Then make a plan. Find out how much a divorce attorney costs and start saving. If you are not being physically abused, try to stay in it as long as kids are young. Then make your escape.
Believe me, you are not the only one going through this. Are there any women's groups in your town you can join? You really need to vent. I know what that's like.
My DH is leaving in just a little bit for Atlanta
He is going on business for the weekend (we are in VA and have about 2in of snow now and more on the way) and he is taking my DD along for a little Father/daughter bonding. We have been following the weather and saw that it is in the 30s today and up to in the 50s tomorrow then back to 30s on Sat. with snow expected. My daughter is going crazy trying to decide what to pack. LOL
I don't regret leaving either...
Been gone since last August and couldn't ask for a better company to work for now. I owe MQ a lot as they did hire me right after I graduated my MT course and I did learn a lot while I was there, but having said that, I haven't looked back once since leaving.
If you are leaving for 3 weeks, take them to a kennel and sm
pay for daily care. They need more than food and water, they need attention and loving and daily petting, and exercise. Bless you for taking them on, but don't desert them now.
Rosie Leaving The View
Just watching The View. I know a lot of you wil be happy. Rosie just announced that she's leaving The View. I didn't catch exactly when she was leaving or why, but she did mention her children as a factor.
Leaving for New York tomorrow sm
with my family. Watch for us in the Today Show audience. I will be the one with the laptop so I won't fall behind in my work.  Just Kidding.
Running over a dog and leaving the scene?
Going on her merry way, shopping or whatever...?
Probably doesn't have animals; I agree.
She knew she was visiting and would be leaving (sm)
She just wanted to do a few things with her granddaughter before she left. If you had my in-laws you would understand invasive. You have to share your daughter. She is your child, but she is that woman's grandchild and she has rights too. She is sooo not asking too much. She sounds very humble and non-demanding. Try to be sweet to her. She won't live forever. Let her enjoy her granchild while she can.
sweats usually, unless I am not leaving the house and then PJs...
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I'm loving life since leaving MT.
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"I'm leaving my wife." I bought it once...never again. NM
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uhh...that should be "suggested leaving"...not counseling...nm
I'm leaving what little I have left in my 401K for now - sm
(what's left wouldn't do me any good, anyway), with the hope that someday it will gain back some of what it lost. THEN, even though I probably still won't have as much as was in it before, I'll most likely take it ALL out of the stock market forever, and invest in something concrete, such as land (which even if it can't be sold for a profit, can be lived-on). The stock market has become so volatile and flaky that it no longer makes any more sense to put your hard-earned retirement money into that than it does to blow it all on Lottery tickets or slot machines.
I heard just last week that she was leaving the show--sm
Why would she suddenly become a host if she could not work out an agreement with CBS? She said she would be back for various shows already set up, but that she was not going to be there day to day...did I miss something?
Party in SF as a send-off for friends leaving for Burning Man.
I'd love go myself, but can't afford it.....
I agree and leaving early not sore loser (sm)
I think that's just graceful, letting the winners have their day plus that had to really sting after the great season they had. But what a great game it was. Both teams should be proud they made it there.
I have been single again as long as I was married and there is not a day I don't regret leaving s
BUT it was still the right thing to do. I have been happier since and I am fine on my own, but it was extremely tough as he didn't pay child support and I could not find a way to make him (not for lack of trying though and a social worker whose job it was to collect his arrears kept telling me no, I didn't really need it!). Financially it was terrible, but the relief of his absence was enormous.
He was critical. He was always rude. My friends would only come to visit when he was on the road. The kids would pick up their messes, but he made more than they ever did, never helped and constantly criticized me for not being a perfect housekeeper like his mom...who didn't work, had a housekeeper and spent her days at the mall shopping. I had more kids than she did, worked always and ended up being too exhausted for him. He is a homophobic homosexual and going out on "mommy and daddy" dates was always humiliating because he spent the evening looking at other men's behinds.
I got out and suffice it to say, at quite a price financially and emotionally. I have not remarried, have only had one relationship in 15 years and feel too damaged to ever try again, but I am FREE from all of that.
My kids were pleased when he left and were all too anxious to help him to leave the house!
People leaving their McMansions and traveling West
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Spending a romantic weekend in Atlanta with hubby. Leaving at noon. Can't wait! nm
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