Anonymous question regarding abortion (sm)
Posted By: Anonymous1 on 2008-09-16
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With this being a major factor in the political arena right now I wanted to ask this:
For anyone who has ever had an abortion (and there are many of us), were/are you ok with it still or did you have a period of extreme guilt/anxiety over it? I had one and did not terribly regret it, other than a short grief period, until I actually had children. I went through about two years of horrible guilt and remorse. I am now pro-life. I feel an abortion kills an innocent child and causes emotional scars for the mother that will never go completely away. I feel that I am not deserving of complete happiness in my life, ever, because I denied my child the right to have a life and attempt to find happiness. I know my reasons at that time and I know I felt like it was something I had to do, but the fact is many of us had them to avoid the shame, embarassment and/or financial burden that we feared. We thought we couldn't give our child a decent life even if we had him/her. The thing is, for the small price of some embarassment/shame and inconvenience, we could have given a family without a child a chance to have a child to love and raise, we could have given that child an opportunity to grow and seek happiness, even with obstacles to overcome. Instead, many of us chose a more selfish route, convincing ourselves it was less selfish. Anyway, that's how I feel about it. How about you.
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"not face to face." I know it's not completely anonymous. I just mean that people say things in writing that they might not say in person.
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you'd bet your first born on an anonymous post
I think YOU might be ill and need a therapist. I'm not that poster but I think your response here is assumptive and presumptive and you *seem* so much smarter than this.....you cannot assume anything on a public board online....and you said YOU'D BET YOUR FIRST BORN on your thoughts about that poster.....I think you need to recheck your priorities...........
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I would make an anonymous call
Just say you are not sure if the information will be helpful, but it is just something you noticed. Of course in the case of a fire they will do an investigation, arson and such, and it is very rare for a house to burn to the ground and everything in it turn to ash before the fire gets put out. I think they could tell if it was empty or not. I used to type up forms for a college fire department, and they are very long and detail-oriented, nothing is left out. On the subject of home insurance, I myself am tired of paying higher premiums because of just this kind of thing. They won't get away with it if this is the case. People are so afraid to report anything illegal these days. I live in a cul-de-sac with the nosiest bunch of neighbors I have ever encountered, they know who did what and with whom at what time, but nobody seemed to know who stole my car right out of my driveway a few years ago. I guess I'm just tired of honesty NOT being the norm.
anonymous herpes survey - sm
How common do you think it is? I think it is very, very common. Statistics show it affects about 1 in 3 people. Do you know anyone who has it? (self included?)
I know a few people who have it.
If receiving anonymous help, prayers,
painting him out to be a monster, talking to parishioner or WHATEVER contributes in any way to get her one more step toward out, then she should try it all. Things are simply not as cut and dried in the world of abuse as you would like to think. You never know what turn of a phrase or sense of inspirational support (even if it is coming from strangers) is going to do the trick, so anybody looking from the outside in should try everything they know. Also, especially with kids involved, this is no time to throw caution to the wind in such a volatile and potentially violent or, God forbid, fatal situation.
maybe it's anonymous because the person knows you would say Not True.
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I used star77 to block anonymous
callers but it doesn't work for those who put the phone number on caller ID. It has really gotten bad in the last few weeks. I work nights and they start at 9 am and go on all day. I'm on the no call list but really would like to block all toll free numbers. Any one know how to do that? I have digital phone through Time Warner.
If she'd had an abortion you would never even know about it.
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By not having an abortion.
Like I said, it's not ideal, but so many people are so judgemental toward people who have kids young - at least they didn't take the easy way out and get an abortion. I am not a pro lifer, but I do respect people who are willing to step up and raise their kids no matter what age they are. I have friends who were forced to have abortions by their parents because they got pregnant young because the parents were so afraid of what people would think, and that's not right either.
I don't think their mom is going to win any mother-of-the year awards, but if she didn't accept Jamie Lynn's decision than she greatly reduces her chances of having a good relationship with the grandchild. Babies are a gift - even when they aren't born into the perfect suburban home. I'm not saying teen pregnancy is a good thing, but it happened, and now she has to make the best of a tough situation.
I'm against abortion, as well.
If you're referring to recognizing their civil union as a marriage, I am against it.
Can you do an anonymous call rejection on the cell? nm
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I doubt a guy would send an anonymous letter- sm
it is mostly likely a woman sending it, possibly the girl in question if there is a girlfriend. I would not blindly accept it as untrue but then again I would not let it wreak my marriage as it is quite possibly the work of some sick individual out to cause trouble. I do trust my DH, but he will never cheat as he is terrified of getting a STD and of getting someone pregnant as well, and I do keep him happy as well. But I would just be a bit more aware of things, if any red flags pop up, then maybe have him followed by a PI for a few days to see if there is anything to it. If they find nothing then I would not worry about it. One of my good friends had her DH followed, though she could not get any proof as he was pretty slick and suspected he was being followed which did not help, but he did give her crabs which is what led her to use a PI, he had some lame excuse as to how he got crabs too, really makes me wonder at how dumb men think women are. They divorced in the end of course and she (and the kids) are much happier today.
Anonymous was me....I had accidentally used the wrong name on my post...nm
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If abortion is murder ...
How do you treat a woman who has had an abortion? Do you treat her differently from a woman who strangled her newborn? Or a woman who killed the neighbor lady because she wanted the neighbor man for her own?
Write an anonymous letter. Type it up if you are that concerned, although I sm
am a big fan of minding my own business. You need to talk to her first instead of about her like this. Tell her your concerns. Be real and up front. Say, I don't respect you for this because you seem to be able to do such and such and I should turn you in. Don't be scared to do this. But if you are afraid, then write a letter since you say you know the insurance person and secretary.
Dang it, my posts keep automatically putting anonymous....sm
It is me though.
I agree with abortion being a choice.
should everyone see an ultrasound beforehand? I am for the choice to do as you choose. I believe in freedom as well, but there are people out there that believe abortion is murder. That is all I was stating above there. What I am saying is that there are circumstances like some named in this thread that shall we say "warrant" an abortion, but those "rules" would need to be up to the lawmaker. Are we only talking about teenage pregnancies or pregnancies after the age of 45? What type of pregnancies are we talking about that the mother should look at the ultrasound beforehand? There would be a lot of ifs, ands, and buts, for this to become a law, wouldn't some agree? That is all I was stating there. I think this may have been misinterpreted. Of course, I believe a woman has the right to choose in regards to her own healthcare whether it be an abortion, a hysterectomy, or to have a fracture fixated. All the same to me. Sorry if I have offended anyone, but that is how I feel.
I'm pro-choice. Abortion is not murder. SM
Abortions are performed very early on in pregnancy. I'm afraid to say this, but basically, it is a lump of tissue. Women have to right to form their own opinion, but the idea a person is aborting a roly-poly fully formed baby is a crock. This is propaganda devised by right-winged fundamentalists, many of whom happen to be men.
I do believe in practicing safe sex, so abortion will not be needed. That is the ideal, but we are all only human.
No, I never had an abortion. I had my daughter at age 25, after being married 5 years. My daughter was married at 30 and had her first child at 31. We are both Pro Choice.
What about Gay Rights and FOCA (abortion) then?
hmmmm?
We can legalize Gays and Abortion but prostitution, pot, marijuana etc. (much lesser evils) should be "prosecuted heavily", oh come on .... It's all about "feeling good". If gays 'feel good' with each other and teenage moms 'feel good' to abort then what's your issue with pot or marijuana users? Don't they have a right to feel good with all the economic benefits for government?
Whoever said abortion feels good? nm
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I agree..I would even, in this case, opt for abortion.....nm
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Get over it. Abortion is legal, and American women
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No matter what laws are made, if women want to get an abortion
then they will. I have a couple of abortions prior to a marriage and prior to my 2 children. I have never so called suffered because of my decision, in fact I was young and could not have taken care of any children. I do not regret this decision. Either legal or illegal, makes no difference in a woman making the decision to seak an abortion.
Don't you remember Ronald Reagan's stance on abortion? sm
It was "I'm PRO-CHOICE. If the unborn baby has a choice, I am PRO-CHOICE."
You are correct: The majority of people would NOT vote for abortion
But they WOULD vote FOR Reproductive Choice. Speaking of "activist judges" - how do you feel about the handful that installed a War Criminal in our Whitehouse?
Yes, but abortion would be only taking the budding tomatoe, not the whole plant.
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no, abortion is taking a HUMAN life with a soul.
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and the crime rate dropped 20 years after abortion was legalized
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