And didn't propose but gave a ring...nm
Posted By: Bachfan on 2006-11-28
In Reply to: he picked Jen............. - no msg
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I do not even have to have a ring but
when my hubby and I married in Las Vegas in 2000 (I had been married before, he hadn't), I had to let him know the minister would ask for a ring and therefore on the way to get married he and I stop in a shop and got a simple gold band for me (I didn't want him to feel embarrased at not having anything when asked) and you know what, I would not take anything for the marriage I have. We have been married 7 years now and I adore him. If you love him enough to marry him, you could care less really about a ring to impress. That is what your post sounds like to me. So many important things about a marriage and a ring is not high up there.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
Yes he is - and he deserves a ring!
I am a New Englander and now very well liked right now as I was rooting for Peyton (hate greedy people - LOL)!
anyway - what a great game - glad I'm still alive after cheering for Peyton!
what do you think about choosing your own ring
My boyfriend who wants to eventually get married hates the fact that I want to choose my own ring. I also don't want a proposal like finding it in my baked potato or something. I'd like to be able to say this is the ring I want, buy it and when ready give it to me at a dinner with our parents or something like that. he is having a fit. and trying to make me feel like I'm nuts. Anything wrong with being able to choose your ring?
ring advice
My hubbie to be took me to a nice jeweler locally to have me sized (my finger that is) and I took the opportunity to talk to him about the rings that were displayed and why I like or disliked them. I like very simple (but elegant) jewelry. My hubbie listened and when my ring was presented to me I was shocked and elated as well as surprised. He had taken the info I had given him and had designed a ring for me that was practical yet gorgeous and I LOVED it.
So given him a litte guidance and let him do it his way you may be pleasantly surprised.
Note: I became pregnant with my first child and took my beautiful ring off and put it in my wallet and it somehow got lost. I still to this day weep whenever I think of my ring and he is working on replacing my ring and as much as I look forward to having a ring on my finger again however no ring will ever replace that ring in my heart or on my hand.
Give your hubbie a chance if you cann't trust him with picking out a ring can you trust him with your heart?????
Maybe get the ring stretched and
then coat the inside with clear nail polish.
Definitely Ring My Bell.....
it just goes on and on and on
Does this story ring true for you?
Talked to the mom of one of my daughter's friends on the way home from work yesterday. She told me her husband is going to federal prison for 8 years because he recieved some child porn via e-mail (didn't say who/where from) and reported the e-mails to his ISP. She says the ISP reported it to the FBI, and the FBI never tried to trace the e-mails back to the originator but arrested and prosecuted her husband for them being in his possession.
I've decided not to let my daughter go to their house again. The little girl is welcome at my house, but even if the story above is mostly true, what prompted him to be getting those type of e-mails and why is he even opening them? Would like to know if other moms agree or I am going overboard?
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
The ring is symbolic of a union.
If you can't even agree on who should pick out the ring, you may want to rethink your union with this gent. There are going to be so many issues that will arise in your marriage that will need you to come together and make a decision. It starts now though. Some food for thought. I would rethink the whole reason for wanting to "get the ring". I would not focus too much on who picks it out. You may want to see a marriage counselor beforehand to see if you two are the "right fit". It doesn't sound too good starting out a union in this manner. JMO. Good luck.
Some questions for you--it may ring a bell
Do you get headaches when this happens? How long do these sweats last for and how often do you get them? What's your BP normally?
I have a reason for asking, I promise.
Another possibility is ring worm. (nm)
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I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
Ginger Quince here..kinda has a ring to it!
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It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
A wedding ring doesn't matter. Either
the guy is true to his wife and family or not, wearing a ring does not make a difference.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
Does "thou shalt not kill" ring any bells?
God created marriage for sex to be a blessing that would bring people together and create families, not sex outside of marriage so that babies could be optional.
My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring
or any jewelry for that matter. He's allergic to gold and can't even wear a watch. I suppose he could wear silver, but to me it's no big deal. He will wear it on special occasions but his hands swell up. I also know some men who don't wear it when they're at work if they run machinery, ect where it could get caught and get their fingers ripped off.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
Thank you! I didn't realize they made computer glasses. Will make an appt. Spit didn't wor
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I didn't say her decor didn't sound great.
It's not ridiculous.
I would seriously doubt the Christianity of anyone who feels it is okay to celebrate Halloween. It is anti-God in every aspect.
You can only service 1 God and the folly of man and carnality is in direct conflict with holiness.
Thanks - I didn't realize they didn't like the smell of citrus
I have the feeling he doesnt have a UTI and he's trying to tell me something else, but I'll be taking him to the vets to be safe.
I gave my mom some too, and she
said it takes her less than half the time now to clean certain things with them, because you don't have to scrub as much to get it clean.
I would like to use the mop, but I am afraid it won't clean the ceramic tile as good as other mops. Where did you get yours? Do you clean ceramic with it?
Never gave up anything before, but
going to give up soda this year and maybe it will stick afterwards.
I gave up
about a quarter of the way through. It needed some paragraphs.
I liked the baked beans slithering out of the can though. Made me chuckle.
NO - she gave him 20 and he put in 30.
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My EX MIL gave me...
One year I was on weight watchers and doing really well - and for Christmas, my MIL bought me a big box of cookies and a box of chocolates!
Shows you how she felt about me, huh?
I disagree. I still have my class ring (class of 1985). It's tucked away in my jewelry...
box. My fingers are too fat to wear it now, but it has sentimental value. Mine was just a metal ring as well and it still looks great.
I gave my class ring to a boyfriend back in the day and it wore it on his pinky. Then he lost it on the beach at the local lake. We ended up breaking up not too long after that and I thought I would never see my ring again. Then one day I'm reading the local paper and there's an add that said "LORI -- did you lose your class ring at city lake? Call... and describe the ring." I called the number and described the ring and it was mine. Thankfully I had had my full name inscribed inside the band of my class ring! The guy that found it was this little old man who had a one of those metal detectors and he spent his retirement days scanning beaches, parks, etc for change and what other treasures he could find. I couldn't thank him enough! He wouldn't take any kind of reward for finding it.
Just thought I'd share my class ring story. I feel that class rings, class keys (Do they still do that?), and yearbooks are such an important part of the high school years, but that's just me.
I think you do know. He gave you the answer. sm
And you have to take that answer at face value. You've gone away with him for a weekend, so it seems like he's willing to take more than he's willing to give. If you don't want him to "shoplift the pootie", then listen to your security system.
He told you what he's thinking, and either you're ok with that, and you continue on. Or, you're not ok with it, and you have to move on.
What was the best gift you GAVE?
mine was the digital camera to DIL. She is very reserved, but actually started crying, and jumped up and gave me a HUGE, LONG, hard hug! I was shocked!! She had mentioned wanting one last year, but didn't tell us until a week before Christmas, and we already had our shopping done by then. She said we even bought the one she had picked out, and was planning on getting after the holidays, hoping it would be on sale. It is the Kodak one with the printer. I told son later, she took the award for the BEST reaction EVER to a gift!!! He laughed and agreed.
I'd have to say the most DISAPPOINTING reaction was one I expected. It was from SIL. The one I talked about on here, never gives me any feedback, is so exasperating. I had given her a Creative Memories Carry Case, filled with scrapbook making supplies to get started, and three scrapbooks to start with, one with refills. One was a gorgeous victorian one, one was plain navy blue, and the third was a purse sized one, I was thinking to put grandkid pics in. She opened it, and said nothing. I said I hope you like it, I know how creative you are, and how much you love to do crafts, etc., I thought you would create some AWESOME memories for the kids with these! She just said yeah, thanks. *sigh* BIL said he thought it was a great idea. I don't know. It was a letdown to me though, I was REALLY hoping she'd LOVE it!!
Thanks for the support for those who gave it.
I don't feel I need to answer "Jessie" anymore.
How about now I have a bad check they gave me
this morning. I would never try to put into my personal account and draw from that. Went directly to the bank to get $$$$ in hand. You are no longer able to find out if a company has the money to cover an amount by calling but there is a fraud line. I intend to open up another acct - I have an acct there also and really big place. If that check does not clear, then i talk with fraud division about that company. I am still in there swinging. I was told by a furniture salesman that I caused him to lose 3 customers yesterday when I was in there, told him good - my intentions.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
I say no, my mother-in-law once gave me (sm)
a used salad shooter for Christmas. I opened it and an old recipe she had been using fell out of the box. She also gives away used perfumes and lotions that she decides she doesn't like. I think it's very tacky. Sorry
You said something that immediately gave you away
you said fixin to- I know what that is because I am southern- we are always fixin to do something, right?
Who gave you this info.......
My daughter has several autistic and learning disabled children in her classroom, which is a regular classroom with 4 to 5 added children with learning disabilities. That comment is certainly out of place but where did you get the info from? If another adult, then you should talk with the principal.
I once gave my mother ...sm
one of those long wooden handles with about 3 body scrubbers attached. She used it as a back scratcher and thought it was wonderful. Found it at...almost hate to say it....Wal-mart.
you gave yourself your own answer
You need to move 50 miles and be with your family. I would start packing tonight.
As far as I am concerned, if the cable is off, there is no reason to stay....you are going to be okay!
Were you the one who just gave birth?
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I only gave you the suggestions I had gotten -
You notice I was laughing after the nana r hot and I was pointing my finger no after the 2 Hot that my 12 year old niece suggested.
gave birth later
I was 29 with the first and 38 with the second with no birth defects
Tell him his mother gave it to you! (just kidding) nm
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Mike Gallagher also gave them ...sm
an hour of his radio show if they stayed away from the Amish funerals in Lancaster. Kudos to him. I tuned in for a few minutes, but could not believe the garbage that was coming out of their mouths,
To the 2 posters who gave me info on WW ...
The Points system is the best. I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day.
Thanks for giving the information you did.
Like you, the strong medicine they gave just does not do
it at all. Oh, he also ordered an injection of cortisone today so who knows? I told him the hard stuff did not work and did not need anything for pain, wanted to find out what was causing my pain and after the trigger points told me definitely my problem. I have gone to a pain clinic close by before and would do that again, returning in 2 weeks to this particular clinic and by then should have started the water aerobics and will ask about the pain clinic. I told hubby tonight the pain there all the time, sometimes excrucating and other times just the all over the body pain like mine is today. Gosh, you would not wish this on your worst enemy, would you? Good luck to you also.
Thank you for those of you who gave valuable info!
I've lived in an apartment my entire adult life and had no idea that a fence would cost that much and all the tools/materials that are involved in building a fence! I got some great info from the majority of the people that responded and truly thank those people :)
I gave up a long time ago........sm
I gave up a long time ago trying to enlighten those not in the teaching profession what goes into this career. Most people who "poo poo", saying the pay is more than adequate, do not have a clue what goes into this profession. True, some teachers in much better communities have it pretty good and they will tell you they are perfectly content with their pay and time off; however, every teacher does not have that wonderful classroom, full of kids that learn and parents that support. Instead, they get the bottom of the barrel so to speak and it's darn hard, the frustration level is much higher, and they feel like they are fighting a losing battle some days, but they push on. They could find another job paying better, but most teachers that stick with it truly care for the kids and want to try to get that lightbulb to go off, somehow.
Called doctor at day 15 - she just gave me (sm)
a higher dose BCP
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