Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
Posted By: Yes!! on 2007-07-08
In Reply to: Oh my goodness-Red Flag - Are you kidding?? (sm) - No name
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
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I can totally relate to this post.
When I take the kids to the pool in the summer (at home full-time), I feel guilty that I'm not at home typing. It is totally ridiculous. I really do like my work and at 37, I am making an effort to try and get out with friends once in a while. We just moved to a new town and I've met some other Moms, so I've been doing some breakfast meets. We haven't found a church yet, but I think that's my next step to finding some social moments for myself. The kids keep me busy, but they are in school all day. 
I totally mis read your post. sorry
You are right. I was preaching to the converted.
Totally disagree with your post.
People can and do change, especially over a time span of 17 years. Your are being very narrow minded.
I would venture to say there is much power in forgiveness if he admitted the truth and showed remorse. Life isn't easy and it certainly isn't black or white.
That is a totally ridiculous post. This woman wants to see her son regardless. nm
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I agree totally this this post, though I have never been married,
and you should not have to disrupt their lives anymore than necessary by finding a new place to live, etc. Though from the sound of it, you dont like where you live and he does, but I would stay put like this poster suggests.
I totally agree. Not to minimize your post, but there are far worse
To keep at it would be overkill.
Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
AMEN SISTER!!!!
You would think that she cured AIDS by the way people are talking about her. I'm tired of it already. If she was not a celebrity, nobody would give a crap. I never wished bad upon her, but in my estimation, this is no great loss to humanity. I think we will all survive.
Amen, Sister!!
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Amen to that statement sister!!
I have never heard of anyone killing people on the highways just from being stoned!!
Now, don't be a bogart!! 
AMEN sister!! and do you know in the health dept there are signs all over saying sm
you don't have to be a citizen to apply for benefits? so we as taxpayers pay to support them to be here illegally, we feed them, we shelter them, we pay their bills, we have to pay extra because the company had to pay an employee extra who could speak their language, yet they are dropping the pay in fields like roofing, construction where they pool together and do this type of work for a little of nothing so the american legal person can't make a living off of it anymore.
Totally against the war
said it right from the start, told my husband the war was of no use, more and more that is being proven true, hate that young guys are being killed there day after day, the middle east never had as many bombings as they do on a day to day basis now, blood being shed all over the place, the house not wanting to give more money for a no win war, I lived through Viet Nam, no difference here, just different land. Mark my word, different president, the war will be a thing of the past and yet all these fine lives lost.
I am totally
terrified of the draft. I posted earlier about my son wanting to go to Africa next summer and me not really wanting to let him go. I guess you know what my answer would be to the above question so I guess I shouldn't say anything at all.
I was totally going to say
me too!
Oh, but what I've gained ...
(I'll think of something).
Totally think it is really none of your
business that they are working. You don't have any authority and your supervisor is the one to tell them NOT to work. If they have been told not to work and they are, that is between them and the employer.
totally.
My imagination is way too fertile. When someone tells me they are "trying to get pregnant" or they remember the moment their kids were conceived, it's exactly like showing me photos of the deed. Photos I'd way rather not see. ick.
I totally get what you are saying sm
and feel 100% the same way. If I had the means financially, I would help whomever and whenever, my hubby feels the same. However, to not respond to someone who is reaching out to you, I feel, is unforgivable. I would also like to say, give it some more time - you don't know what the situation is and I feel someone who has as big a heart as you obviously have, should hold it open just a little longer.
Totally agree. nm
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Totally agree with you!
Santa Claus was a wonderful time for me and my children. I did not suffer any ill effects from knowing the truth. This is a magical time for children. They believe in goblins, ghosts, the Easter Bunny, play friends that only they can see and talk with, fairies among lots of others. Why in the world would anyone want to deny a child the pleasure of thinking they are that important that this man in the red suit is coming especially to give them presents. It really made me feel special but I guess other parents want to cut some of the fun time from the child's life.How sad....
I totally agree with you, well said.
I find that others think since I work at home, they can interrupt me any time they want, I am expected to cover things while they are at work, etc. I want to be left alone during my work hours to do my work. I have worked in offices where you were not allowed to have personal calls during work hours, which is fairly common. I think I am going to disconnect my phone during my work hours. Sometimes I feel by working at home I don't get the same respect for my job than others in my home that work outside the home.
Totally inappropriate.
He sounds like he's good at his job and also at flirting. He is interested in getting to know you better? Why doesn't he just come out and say - hey baby, how about a roll in the hay? Keep us posted if you pursue this. I'd like to know how things go. Believe me, he knows he's good looking. Good Luck and be careful.
Oh, I totally agree with you there...sm
these are the kids my daughter deals with every day, but she understands at their age, they didn't ask for their circumstances. No child at age 8 or 9 should know anything about sex, using the B word, MF word, and other stuff. They can't write a sentence but they can tell her how to get more food stamps, how their older sister had another baby so she could get more money in her check....the stories go on and on. But the point we started out with was GI upset...they can't help being made take meds that make them physically sick.
I am totally out of debt -
house, cars, motorcyles, credit cards. Everything!
It feels great!
I totally agree with you...
Just a curious question. We are only as young (or old) as we feel, right! I am 37 and feel (most days) much, much younger...like I said before, it is a relative question...thanks for your reply! 
Totally agree. nm
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lol, totally NO CLUE..
I'm sure all the neighbors talk about that nut job around the corner who breastfed her very large baby at the ball park! C'mon now...can't even give the kid a juice box or something at baseball time? Something wrong with this picture. I seriously hope she's joking.
I totally agree with you. nm
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I totally agree (sm),
in fact, I should have eloped since I had recently moved and hadn't accumulated many new friends yet. The reception was really lame with the weird mix of people, some of whom I couldn't stand, but mom assured me they wouldn't come, and we were just doing the right thing.
Put on a syrupy sweet voice and tell your mother it is tempting to make this a social event for us, but this is really THEIR event. Let's do it their way since it only happens once. Let's not ruin their big day by arguing about it.
He would be totally crazy ...
If I kept him in for 2 to 3 months!! We have a large deck and in the one corner of it is a dog house and he has totally torn off the lattice in one whole section (to the dismay of my husband, to put it mildly) because he wants to be with my neighbors dogs.
If I cut this off, it will basically be the entire section of pad right in the middle of the paw which I think would take the brunt of his walking. It is on his back foot.
I totally agree and nothing to look at either
I can't believe all these people think he's so great. Yuck.
I totally agree-
it does make the award seem insignificant. They say they don't want any kids to feel 'left out.' Isn't that one of the main motivators to work harder? What about the child who truly earned the award? How does that child feel when the same award is given out indiscriminately so as not to hurt anyone's self esteem?
IMO self esteem comes from doing your best and feeling pride in yourself because of it- and if you are doing your best and improving you will not need some phony award to feel good about yourself, because you already will.
When these kids grow up they are going to be in the real world where they will be expected to perform to certain standards because that is what is expected from everyone. It seems like it is getting harder to find people who find satisfaction in doing a good job just for the sake of doing it. I wonder if there is any correlation here.
Totally agree-
I don't know why the parents would not have told their kids by now, but it is for them to do. It would be even more traumatic for the kids to hear it from someone else.
I was adopted and thank God I always knew I was. When I was too young to really understand they simply told me that I was special because they chose me. For years I pictured this baby store and my parents walking up and down the aisles shopping, LOL.
I totally agree with you!
I have grown sons, 26 and 18. I would never snoop in their e-mail. We have a great relationship and I do trust them. I am not saying that I have not or would not read their e-mail, but if I did, it was because I was looking at something on their computer which they would be aware of (or at least not care) and if an e-mail looked interesting I would read it and tell them. I think they would do the same with me and I also would not care. I think if you have a good relationship with your kids, that you know them pretty well and would know if you should worry or not. I truly believe that most parents, if they would just open their eyes, already know when there are problems. I get angry when I hear of someone who says "I had no clue" because I think that they do and just do not want to believe it. I think you are doing the right thing by trusting your kids. Keep it up!
Totally understand that one!
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Totally agree
I first noticed him on "Roseanne" and thought he was strange-looking and not at all attractive. My opinion hasn't changed over the years.
Don't like Brad Pitt, either. I don't go for the "pretty boys." Give me some depth of character. Looks are definitely secondary.
* Badonkadonk! * Totally LOL!!!!1 nm
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TOTALLY normal! (sm)
My kids are younger than yours, but I am the youngest of three. I have an older sister and older brother. My brother is the oldest and he is three years older than me. I can remember growing up and being picked on by my brother (and sister) and there were times when I felt like I truly hated him. I'm sure he felt the same about me at times. Now I love him dearly and I think he is one of the greatest men in my life. I'm sure it sounded horrible to you, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal.
Totally agree
This week in fact I was feeling down in the dumps, did some praying and went out to do something nice for someone else, it made a big difference!! Thanks for the post.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.
I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.
Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
I totally agree!
There are way too many gray areas on this. I absolutely detest child molesters and would never want one knowingly around my children. But the 18yo with a 15yo is completely different and should not be lumped into the same group and treated the same way.
I once worked in the children's services field and talked extensively with a professional who worked with sex offenders, and he told me that pedophiles can never be rehabilitated, and that they will always repeat the offense. There's a good case for locking them up for good, don't you think?
I totally agree with you ...
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Absolutely, totally, 100% against. There should be NO
legal age for drinking.
Totally agree
Yeah, that comment was not the smartest thing to say. Now she will probably fear the police for no good reason. Not a good move.
totally agree
Boy I couldn't have said it better myself. Good job. This is exactly what you need to do mom. It's hard to hear but this is the way to do it and then get counseling for yourself to help you deal with your feelings. Christian counseling if possible. Take care and God bless!
Totally uncalled for!
Just what exactly does "do you ever work, OR are you a transcriptionist" mean? Are you trying to imply that transcription is not real work just because most of us work from home??? If so, then think again! Most of us slave for hours every day in front of our computers typing report after report with very few breaks, trying to figure out what a doc is saying mid-yawn or with a mouth full of food. We all come on here to talk about things in our lives OTHER than that, and to bash someone for doing so is totally inappropriate, so go on the other board!
Totally accepted
I was totally accepted. My MIL is one of my best friends, even after the divorce. Still talk with the brothers and wifes although not as much as before but I still feel accepted but now because I am me and not his wife. So there are nice in-laws out there. Can also say that my family has always accepted spouses into the family, may not be our best friends but have always been accepted and treated well. My brother sure put this to the test with his six wives but we liked all of them and probably more than him. Still in contact with several as he had children and my mother when she was alive never lost contact with any of the grandchildren or even step-grandchildren when it came to birthdays, Christmas or whatever when there was a divorce. Anyway, there are good in-laws or ex in-laws out there. Patti
Totally accepted
My FIL was a better father to me than my own dad. My MIL said she learned more about her son's life from me than she ever did from him (that's true).
And after my MIL passed away, my FIL remarried a few years later, and I was fortunate enough to get another SUPER MIL who has been not only my friend but the best grandmother I could ever ask for to my son.
Am I lucky, or what? I feel very, very blessed.
I totally agree
I would have definitely been at the school in person or at the superintendent's office, wherever that may be. E-mails can be ignored, forgotten about, and sometimes never even read. A much more proactive approach would be an in person meeting with the school administration to get this taken care of so that nothing like it happens again.
Totally accepted
I was immediately accepted by everyone in his family, and they all loved me right off. His mother is constantly buying me things, even though I don't exactly like all of the things that she gets me!
Totally agree - sm
Good luck with your situation too. Kids can't pick their parents and every kid deserves to be loved.
I agree with you totally
It is not fair to the little girl to not go to school, but it sounds like the mother is lazy or beyond. It is always going to be unfair to children who have lazy or ignorant parents, but all others should not have to pay for it. I feel sorry for the little girl because she obviously has no one to love her enough to take care of her. So sad. I don't blame you for going to the School Board. I would be right there with you.
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