Am I only the one who sees it differently?
Posted By: s/m on 2008-07-08
In Reply to: Need to know if we're doing the right thing - sm - New York MT
I think your daughter has every right to be upset. You just took in a stranger (and let's face it, he's an adult) and took away your daughter's friend. Is this 18-yo working or still in high school? Did his parents ask you to house him or did he move in because he didn't want to go with his parents?
If this 18-yo is working and didn't go with his parents because he didn't want to live with them, then he should be adult-enough to stand on his own two feet. Your daughter comes first. At 16, I had girlfriends staying over almost every weekend. Why should she have to give up her "childhood" because of this stranger. Perhaps this 18-yo can visit his parents on the weekend, so your daughter can have her friends over.
As an aside, if this 18-yo continues to stay there, then you should sit both the 16-yo BF and the 18-yo down for a long talk. It's obvious his parents aren't doing their job and they've just left it to you. I think there's more to this story then we're getting here (and I don't mean that to be rude). It's very noble that you would take this 18-yo in, but you need to remember that your family comes first. Good luck to you!
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Well I see it differently (sm)
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That's not always possible if you are having to treat something acute, of course.
3 movie must sees...sm
The Great Debaters (Denzel Washington), Bucket List (Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson) and I Am Legend (Will Smith). I'd like to see your reviews.  Cat
The Boy Who Sees Through Sound
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I am so glad that someone sees this
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He probably sees his reflection and is
defending his territory from the "other" bird.
Love my feathered friends. What kind of woodpecker, do you know?
Obviously if you watched you would have thought differently
They weren't music videos they were real people. It was reality.
If you knew what the emails said, you may think differently...
this has gone on for a few years now, either she wants to know me or not. One thing is for certain, she sure isn't getting all my information without giving something back. If she wants to meet face to face that's fine with me and if not, that's fine too. While I have curiosity, I don't spend my time wallowing in what could have, should have or would have been. That chapter of my life has been closed for many, many years and frankly the curiosity fades more and more with time.
i know everyone parents differently but if mine
she most definitely is not upset that her daughter is missing--didn't even call the police!!! I think she had something to do with it even if she didn't outright kill her
Lucky and anyone who thinks differently
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I guess I have always looked at this a little differently.....sm
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with encopresis. He *insists* that we type poop, pooped, pooping, etc. I just love typing things like: "The patient has not pooped his pants since the last visit."
Makes me feel soooo professional.  (Not!)
Right?! It's like what the last thing a mouse sees.
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My sister sees a chiropractor and
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Very well put. I loved the movie and I'm sure anyone who sees
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Yes, probably the only person on here that sees hypocrisy
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And your post is exactly how people see things differently,
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like a cow, he does what the guy in front of him does; sees it in the media, thinks it's real
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Does that make sense if the doctor sees patients?
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I'm so confused! ha
Bezoar was used spelled differently in Buffy The Vampire Slayer
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Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t
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Intervention, Parking Wars, and Cheaters are our "must sees"
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Maybe I should have worded the topic differently, like Demand stricter laws for sex offenders...
I am sorry if the wording of the topic offended anyone. I was rushed but wanted to type up something to get the word out about what I had seen on the Oprah show, and that was the first thing I thought of. But the main goal of my post was to get people to demand harsher laws for sex offenders and to make the laws more uniform from state to state so they cannot "hide out" in states with more lenient laws.
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